What Does the Bible Say About Same Sex Marriage? Is it Sin?

by Jack Wellman on May 14, 2012 · Print Print · Email Email

What does the Bible say about same sex marriage?  Is it sin to marry someone of the same sex?  Does the Bible have Scripture about this subject and if so, is it out of date for our modern culture?

The Word of God Endures Forever

I have heard many liberal theologians say that the Bible is out of date and not relevant for today.  Recently I heard that 42% of seminary students did not believe the Word of God was without error.  Since it was written so many years ago, people argue that what was then sin is not sin today.  Are the liberal theologians correct to say that the Word of God is no longer pertinent to this day and age?  The Word of God actually talks about whether the Scriptures are constrained by times and cultures.  God has said that His Word abides forever and Jesus said that heaven and earth will pass away but [His] words will never pass away (Matt 24:35).

The Bible on Marriage

Let us rely on Scripture when we are defining marriage.  Neither should we depend upon human opinions, liberal theologians, sociologists, modern philosophies or on new state laws and constitutions. God’s law are a higher moral standard than that of mankind and even governments and states.  If we rely solely on Scripture, we will know the truth.  Since the Bible is the Word of God, we must believe what it says and we care not that it’s not popular because it’s more important to believe what God says than what humans think.  What is popular is not always the right thing and what is the right thing is not always popular, so let’s read the Word of God to see what He says about marriage, same sex marriage, and homosexual relationships.

When Jesus was speaking about marriage and grounds for divorce, He actually gave God’s definition of marriage saying, “But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate (Mark 10:6-9).  Jesus is quoting from the Book of Genesis, where the very first, God-ordained marriage originated, So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them (Gen 1:27).   Here we see that God not only performed the first marriage ceremony, He was the originator of marriage and it was – in the beginning – between a man and a woman.  God knew that it was not good for a man to be alone, so he made a woman for Adam.  In fact, God did not make man to be joined with men or women to be joined with women, but to be joined with someone of the opposite sex.  Even biology teaches us that it would be a little difficult to have and raise children if the marriage partners were of the same sex.  It would have been impossible to Be fruitful and increase in number, [and] fill the earth (Gen 1:28). Children receive better balance on how to be men and women when there are both a male and female in the home.  Same sex marriage may be fashionable today but that doesn’t make it right in God’s eyes.  He see’s it as sin as we will later see from the Scriptures.  Paul clarified that sex outside of marriage is wrong but indirectly said that sex should be between men and women.  He wrote that, “each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband (1 Cor 7:2).  There is no clearer definition of marriage in the New Testament than in I Corinthians chapter 7 and it is always between a man and a woman.

To be a pastor or a church official, one of the first qualifications was that he should be the husband of one wife, not another man, and so if someone is called into the ministry, they are literally not qualified if they have a marriage partner of the same sex or if they have more than one wife.  This is made clear in 1 Timothy.  A pastor has to be “a husband of one wife” (1 Tim 3:2).  This is repeated in Titus 1:6 and elsewhere.  Paul was very familiar with homosexuality in the culture that he lived in since he wrote two corrective letters to the Corinthians about this.  He could have made the exception to a man having another man or a man having more than one wife but he did not.  We see that Paul’s writings on this subject are no different from that taught in the Old Testament.

What Does The Bible Say About Same Sex Marriage

You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination“ (Lev 18:22).

The Bible on Same Sex Relationships

There is no room for error when we read the Scriptures in both the Old and the New Testament about men having sexual relationships with men and women with women.  There is no grey area at all.  Even the Old Testament said that this was an abomination to God as Moses wrote, You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination (Lev 18:22).   Just how serious did God take the sin of homosexuality?  In Leviticus 20:13 He says, “If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable.  They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.”  We realize that the same thing applies to women having sexual relationships with women, for God has no double standards.  Just as He is no respecter of persons, neither does He regard treating sin with a man any different from that of a woman.

In case you are thinking that this was the Old Covenant, think again, for the New Testament actually has more Scriptures condemning same sex relationships than the Old Testament does.  Paul wrote, “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God“ (1 Cor 6:9-10).  He continued in the Book of Romans, writing, “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error (Rom 1:26-27).

Paul instructed the young pastor Timothy about sins that were contrary to biblical doctrine, telling him that the law is not made for a righteous person, but for the lawless and insubordinate, for the ungodly and for sinners, for the unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, for fornicators, for sodomites, for kidnappers, for liars, for perjurers, and if there is any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine (1 Tim 1:9-10). Sodomites are referring to same sex partners and the association is easy to see when you read the story of Lot in Sodom which was destroyed by God for such abominations.

God’s Judgment on Same Sex Relationships and Marriage Partners

What is the final fate of such who disobey the Word of God and marry or have sexual relations with someone of the same sex?  It is not good to say the least, but this is not my opinion and it is not politically correct, but it is the Word of God.  In Revelation 21:8 it says, the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur.  This is the second death.” To make it crystal clear, Paul writes that this lake of fire is the final destiny of those who have same sex relations, “Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders (1 Cor 6:9). There are only two places that people will go after they die or at Christ’s return; to the Kingdom of Heaven or to the burning lake of fire.  There is only one or the other.  God does not care that His Word doesn’t seem relevant to this culture or that liberal theologians and the unbelievers feel that the Bible is out of date.  The fact is the word of the Lord stands forever (1 Pet 1:25) and David wrote, “Your word, O LORD, is eternal; it stands firm in the heavens (Psalm 199:89).

If you have struggled with homosexuality, you are certainly not alone.  God is ready to extend His mercy to you and His grace is freely offered.  It may be a titanic struggle, but many Christians have successfully come out of this lifestyle.  With God all things are possible.  Nothing is too hard for God and God will always provide a way out of your temptation.  Paul’s words give all who struggle with this some great hope, “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it (I Cor 10:13).  Here is a rock-solid promise of God.  He can make a way of escape.  He can send the Holy Spirit to give you the power to overcome this abominable sin.  God desires that none of these who struggle with this perish.  He says, The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance (2 Pet 3:9).  Believe Him.  With His help you can overcome the sin of homosexuality.  God can not lie (Titus 1:2) and His promises are surer than the sun rising tomorrow, but neither will He compromise on same sex marriage and the sin of homosexuality.  Where will you go to after you die?  The choice is up to you.

Related Articles:

Resources:
New International Version Bible (NIV)
THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide



Share this post:  |  |  |  | Twitter

{ 211 comments… read them below or add one }

MAY July 8, 2013 at 1:05 am

Thank you for this page. I solicit your prayers in that a family member of mine is now apart of this deception of lesbianism. My heart is torn in not knowing what to do or how. I know my voice will not be welcomed no matter how concerned I am in this decision. I feel like its a strong spirit of deception and trick of the enemy to discredit the works of our Lord and Savior. But I know the whole story, I read the Bible and believe it to be the Word of God and it is Truth.

I have so may concerns about my own blood daughter. She also knows the truth and believes the Word of God. It is taught to her on a daily basis and I thank God for our Church and teachings from our Pastor regarding this subject. It still does not make it easy for me as a mother trying to protect my daughter from her own family. I teach her to love her sister and pray for her. Is it wrong for me to say love her sister and hate what she do at the same time??? I know Jesus died for the sins of the whole world and His second coming is still to come. It is my desire to see all my family and others saved. This is my heart regardless of how I have been treated or talked about. It is not about me but all about Jesus. I don’t understand how anyone can be so confused. Then again, I once was lost but now I am found. It is by the grace of God.

Please pray for me and my family. May God bless you.

Reply

Jack Wellman July 9, 2013 at 9:26 pm

May, what a precious comment you made by asking “Is it wrong for me to say love her sister and hate what she do at the same time???”….no, you are exactly right. We love anyone who is still trapped in sin because the church is full of sinners but those sinners have decided to repent, confess their sins, and put their trust in Christ.

I love what you also said that we are to love the sinner and not the sin. What we should do is separate the sinner from their sin and love those who are practicing homosexuals and pray for their soul. I love your heart. You have it right. I have no hate except for my OWN sin and I can not cast stones at anyone but I can only write about what God says that homosexuality is sin and pray and witness to save as many as we are able. God can and He is the ONLY One who can change the human heart (Prov 21:1). I will join with you in this May. I thank God for you and your tender heart for sinners.

Reply

chris July 11, 2013 at 9:53 am

Hello Jack, I thank you so much for your article. it has confirmed my thoughts of how I feel about the Word of God and about liberal thinking of many Christians who are Born Again believers. I had a friend, who no longer is my friend because I don’t agree with this same topic on same sex marriage and fornication. He has justified by support the NOH8 Campaign because he feels it is about equality and human rights. He also compromises his faith by having a sexual relationships with gay men by saying that he has an addiction to sex, and openly sleeps with a woman who has 2 children. His Christian counselor told him that it was good that he had sex with this woman to help recover from his sex addiction to men. Yet, he teaches a bible study group, and misleads those in the group the truth. I have tried to be understanding with him, but after a while I lost patience with him and blew up and told him that I don’t want anything to do with him. I just pray that he sees the truth of God’s word and repents. I need prayer too, because there are times I have become hard heart when I think of him. Please don’t get me wrong, I do know that God loves all us sinners, and the Jesus died on that cross to redeem us from our sins. I don’t want to see him go to hell. You, are very right when you say we cannot know the heart, and only God can change a heart. I trust in the Lord will do a mighty work in his heart, and keep His word as holy and superior than what his friends, and the popularity of the world believes in.
Thank you for your time, in allowing me to share my thoughts and concerns. Your article is what I needed to read this morning.
God bless you and your ministry!

Reply

Jack Wellman July 11, 2013 at 11:51 am

Thank you so much Chris. What I hold to in hope and faith is that if God can even change the heart of a pagan king (Prov 21:1) then He can change anyone’s heart. What truly angers me is that many churches are now not only condoning (accepting) same-sex married couples in their church and even marrying them in their church, they are allowed to become full-fledged members. So many churches today are sacrificing truth on the altar of political correctness and in not wanting to offend anyone, they don’t preach sin, the need to repent, for confession and so on. They are preaching what Paul calls another gospel and they will have to give an account to Christ someday.

As for your friend, we can pray that God changes their heart and sees their need for repentance, to see homosexuality as sin and to see the need for a Savior. This Christian counselor is what Paul says are false ministers that appear as an angel of light. A pastors job is to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable. It appears many churches are doing neither.

Reply

jacob July 13, 2013 at 10:23 am

thanks

Reply

CertainlyVeryTrue August 1, 2013 at 8:19 am

same sex marriage is certainly very wrong, and what morals are they telling our children today? marriage should always be between a man and a woman. i really do feel very bad for the children, since they are the ones that will always suffer.

Reply

Barbara September 11, 2013 at 2:20 am

Dear Mr. Jack,
I have a lot of trouble with this area of the Bible. I’ve known people that are obviously gay at a very young age, which definitely makes me think they are born this way. It’s hard to believe that a man it woman that is raised in a living Christian home would choose this lifestyle. I tell myself that the sin is when they act upon it. It’s just so confusing to me. I know what the Bible says about it, but it makes me have doubts. I have friends and family that are gay. There is something else that confuses me. How do we explain hermaphroditism? They are born that way. Someone close to me was born that way. If a person has both genitals, is he/she considered homosexual if he/she has sex. Also, what about transgenders? If two women are together and he has a sex change, does this then make them not a gay couple? I love the gay people in my life. :( Please help me understand! Thank you!

Reply

Jack Wellman September 11, 2013 at 11:31 am

Thank you Barbara. I am with you on this. I too love gay people for Jesus told us to love all people but not the sin. There is no scientific evidence that people are born gay but even if they were, we are all born with a “sin-gene” and we are told to repent, come out of this world, to confess our sinfulness and put our trust in Christ and ask for His forgiveness.

As for hermaphroditism, God says that He created them male and female, not male with female tendencies and vice versa. That does not mean that sometimes a person is born with a hermaphroditism and that they are doomed to be judged by God as sinners. The fact is we are all sinners and in need of saving and needful for a Savior. That Savior of course is Jesus. We know that sometimes people have both sex organs but they can still be in the Kingdom and if the Bible says that homosexual behavior is sin, I can not say otherwise. If a person is transgender, they can still be saved. If a man has a sex change, I would ask why he did this? God says we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” and we are made in His own image.

I love gay people too…I love them enough to tell them, as I would anyone who is sinning and has not repented, to repent, confess their sins, and trust in Christ for He loves them too. So much so that He died for them. For more on if a person is born homosexual or not, please read this link to understand more about it and thank you for your questions and concerns. The church I pastor at I would welcome anyone…as long as they stop committing sexual immorality or adultery or any other sin that they refuse to repent of and see as acceptable to God for God never compromises on sin.

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/can-a-person-be-born-a-homosexual-a-bible-study/

Reply

Country Girl September 14, 2013 at 9:41 am

I found this, because I have a 17 year old daughter says she’s gay. In my heart I don’t believe that, I feel TV-radio-Internet- is no good example to my daughter right nor any other child out there. 3 weeks Ago I was told about something by another parent about this decision. Last night my daughter made another poor decision. I am asking that God will help her and I am asking for prayers on this please. That God will shine light on her.
Thank you all who read this and prays for her heart.

Reply

Jack Wellman September 14, 2013 at 9:52 am

Hello “Country Girl.” You can count on my prayer. I do hope others will join me in praying for your daughter. I am thankful to God for such women of faith and godly mothers like you. Indeed, we will pray and God can change any heart He wills to do so and even that of a pagan king, his heart too can be changed by God (Prov 21:1).

Reply

Country Girl September 14, 2013 at 4:12 pm

Thank you I really need a friend to talk to so bad. This hurts I really appreciate your reply. I feel like I hit a dead end road with her. She made a comment that we r a team but I don’t feel close to my daughter anymore at all. I’m marking every bible verse above in her bible as we speak. Do u have access to my email to respond that way about help info for counseling?

Reply

Jack Wellman September 14, 2013 at 4:16 pm

Yes, please click on this link and be sure to carefully leave your email address accurately because sometimes many contact us but misspell their email address so I have no way of reaching them. Please click on this link and your email will be kept in strict confidence and will never, ever be shared with anyone. Click on this: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/contact/ and I will help you in any way possible.

Reply

phishing4men September 15, 2013 at 12:37 am

Yes

Reply

meli September 16, 2013 at 3:38 pm

Hello, i really need your advice. I am a great believer in god. I want to follow him and become a better person. I have been in a relationship with a women for two years. I love this women with all my heart i care for her deeply. We have decided we dont want to do anymore sexual acts because we feel terrible when we do that since were going to church and stuff. Were happy together. We support, we care, we help, and ww understand each other. And we plan to stay with each other for a long time. We dont do nothing sexual anymore and we want to follow god.

Reply

Jack Wellman September 16, 2013 at 8:38 pm

Thank you Meli for your comment. I am glad you came here. Are you female? It is okay to be close friends with another person of the same sex. I suppose that since you can here to this article that you both are female and have been intimate. Is that right? I am glad you have decided to stop having sex for sex within the same gender is clearly sin as are adultery and sex outside of marriage. This is what the Bible calls sexual immorality and those who do such things without repentance will not be entering the Kingdom of Heave unless they stop, repent, confess this sin and put their trust in God. I am also overjoyed you want to follow God and by doing so, you saw or felt that sexual relations were sin. Did I help you in any way or is there more to what is happening. What I mean by that is this…is there still cuddling, kissing, embracing, etc? I don’t know what to tell you until I know more. Thank you. I will help in any way that I can Meli. Just let me know a little bit more. Your email will remain private and not shared with anyone as we always keep these in strict confidence.

Reply

meli September 17, 2013 at 5:29 pm

Thank you for responding. :) yes there is still hugging and kissing at times. For which we love each other very much. Our personalities match in so many ways. We support and understand each other so much. Our love is something amazing that i dont see anything wrong with loving a human being and that being is a girl. I dont know how to explain how much joy we feel when were together. But we have stopped having anything sexual. And we want to be close to god

Reply

Jack Wellman September 17, 2013 at 9:51 pm

Meli….I believe that when a woman and a woman have such an intimate relationship which includes hugging…I see no problem…but kissing…that is sin. You said “you don’t see anything wrong with loving a human being and that being is a girl” but it is not what you or I think but what God’s Word says. Do you agree? Which has biblical authority? What we believer, see, or feel or what God says? Of course God is always right.

Even thou there is no sex, it is still sin for you are making her your lover even without sex. Your love is something special you say. Well yes, but so was Eve’s love of the forbidden fruit…it looked beautiful to the eyes, it felt wonderful to the touch and tasted exquisite to the taste….but it was sin. If you don’t see anything wrong with that, then you may either trust in your own feelings more than God then.

Personalities of a husband and wife of different partners may also “match in so many ways” but that doesn’t justify that it is wrong. When human feelings or beliefs are the test of whether something is sin or not, then you are on dangerous ground and no homosexuals will ever inherit the kingdom of heaven unless they repent (turn around & stop), confess this sin, and trust in the Savior….who only THEN will forgive them. God will not forgive if we don’t repent. Sorry this seems harsh but the truth is not mine but God’s and God will hold me accountable if I try to say it’s okay or justify this. God help me but there it is.

Reply

meli September 18, 2013 at 10:02 am

Everytime i think about separating myself from her it really hurts its a pain that is killing me inside. I would miss her dearly. Its like telling me that i cant breathe or something.

Reply

Jack Wellman September 18, 2013 at 10:07 am

I know this must be hard Meli…but Jesus said that we are to deny ourselves and put the Kingdom of God first. Luke 14:26 “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.”

Does Jesus really mean that we should hate our parents, our siblings, and our children? What is He saying? Jesus was speaking to the crowd about discipleship. He was stressing the importance of putting God first above everyone, including family. Humans have a tendency to idolize their family or a person they are involved in, in a relationship, and so He was saying that anyone that would become Jesus’ disciple must count the cost and it is supremely high (Luke 14:27) and if a believer is to trust in Christ, they should renounce EVERYONE and everything for His sake, even family (Luke 14:27).

When Jesus was speaking to the crowd one man told him that his mother and brothers wanted to see Him but Jesus said “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother” (Matt 12:48-50). The point Jesus was making about hating our own family was that in comparison to Him, we must love Him above all everyone, and if need be, renounce them for His sake. Are you willing to do that for the sake of Jesus’? If not, then I would say you are putting your own interests or feelings above God.

Reply

meli September 18, 2013 at 1:38 pm

So what about if i decide to leave her, im still going to have feeling for her. And if i decide to be alone all my life is that a sin too?

Reply

Jack Wellman September 18, 2013 at 2:32 pm

Meli, Yes, you will have feeling for her but someone who has a feeling to still sin, called temptation, is not sinning. Jesus was tempted yet never sinned. If you decide to be alone all your life is not sin. The Bible never says that loneliness is sin but practicing sexual immorality is. I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you but you yourself said that you wanted to be close to God and God will not be close to those who refuse to repent or obey Him. I wish I could give you hope but God’s Word leaves no room for personal interpretation Meli.

Reply

meli September 18, 2013 at 3:23 pm

I cant do this by myself on my own will. Can god do something to separate us. If i ask him for help.

Reply

meli September 18, 2013 at 3:25 pm

I cant do this by myself on my own will. Can god do something to separate us? If i ask him for help because i dont think i can do this alone.

Reply

meli September 18, 2013 at 3:27 pm

I cant do this by myself i need his help. Can god help me can he do something to separate us?

Reply

Jack Wellman September 18, 2013 at 3:34 pm

God is a present help in our time of need or as Psalm 46:1 says “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” I am overjoyed you are going to try and overcome this and especially knowing that you can’t do it by yourself. I came out of an inhumanly impossible drug addiction and it was impossible in my own strength but God can and will help you over come this. Please talk to your pastor immediately and counsel with him.

You are right….and I knew this was impossible…we can’t do this in our own strength but God wants us to come to Him for only He is God and has the power for us to overcome sin. I beg others to join with me in praying for Meli in this….please pray with us for Meli’s sake and the sake of her eternal salvation thru Christ. We are all in this battle together and God, please, in Jesus’ name, send Meli the strong counsel, the power of the Holy Spirit, so that she may enter the Kingdom of Heaven. We love her and know you do more so.

Please help her in this great time of need. Perhaps God you can send the Holy Spirit to help Meli separate herself from this and from sin, like you did me in a strong way. We need your supernatural help Lord.

Reply

meli September 18, 2013 at 4:05 pm

Thank u

Reply

Jack Wellman September 18, 2013 at 4:14 pm

You’re welcome Meli….I do pray others will join with me in praying for you.

Reply

Ken September 19, 2013 at 1:55 pm

Meli, I will be praying for you. I commend you for taking this courageous step. God is the one who helped direct you in taking that first step AND He will lead you through this trying time. I know there are others who are praying for you as well.

Reply

The Truth October 21, 2013 at 11:01 pm

It is certainly bad enough with all the Gay Women that are out there that are making it very difficult for us Straight Men looking for a Decent Normal Woman Today.

Reply

Cat December 16, 2013 at 10:05 pm

Hi “The Truth”…It is not just men having issues. You know that there are more men than woman anyway, then when you subtract the the married, the non-Christian, and the Homosexual men, there is not much left. I have been divorced for over 10 yrs and have not had a date in over five. I get asked out but it is usually very young men/kids in their early 20′s, or if they are old enough to be interesting, they run when I tell them I am Christian and won’t go to their house for a movie when we have not even had a date yet! It is amazing but come on, when they want us to spend time at their place on a first date, what is on their mind is pretty apparent. They don’t have to spend much, so it is not that they can’t afford it. I would do something free, or even go to church togather…In fact, church is a good first date! It tells you a lot about a person!

Good Luck…Cat

Reply

Jack Wellman December 16, 2013 at 10:09 pm

Well said my sister in Christ. I love your advice…as always it is spot on and full of biblical wisdom. Thank you and let me say that I thank God for you my friend.

Reply

Kathryn December 14, 2013 at 8:59 pm

But can homosexuals be Christians? If homosexuality is just a sin (“just” a sin), and Christians struggle with habitual sins, is it possible for someone to be both a genuine, going-to-heaven Christian and a homosexual?

Reply

Jack Wellman December 15, 2013 at 3:01 pm

Hello Kathryn. My own or any human opinion about whether practicing homosexuals can go to heaven stands only on God’s Word, the Bible and not on human opinion. Homosexuals who have that temptation still but have repented of this and do not continue to practice it will go to heaven if they have repented and trusted in Christ. Here is what God, not me, says in His Word about whether homosexuals or thieves or liars or adulterers who refuse to repent and trust in Christ says:

Romans 1:26-28 “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. 28 And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper.”

First Corinthians 1:6-10 “Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God.”

First Timothy 1:9-11 “Understanding this that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted. homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted.”

What do you think Kathryn. We love all people for we are all sinners yet Jesus said that unless we all repent we will all likewise perish.

Reply

Anonymous April 28, 2014 at 7:12 pm

HELP HELP HELP HELP!!!
I’m going through puberty and am having trouble. Is it true your sexuality develops during puberty. It’s not that I like guys but is more of not being able to have a clear conscience. I’ve seen bad things that make me not feel the same. I’ve been attracted to girls all my life what is happening. I’m asking Jesus to forgive me and restore my natural attraction to girls. Just help please what is going on???

Reply

Jack Wellman April 28, 2014 at 8:34 pm

Hello Anonymous. Please know, as I am a father and grandfather, this is normal in every way. You will get thru this and all of us go through these things. Every time these sinful thoughts hit you, immediately say a prayer, even if it is only in your mind and silent, for God to cast these thoughts out and start to memorize some Scriptures. I know that once you get into the Word often, the Word often gets into you and Jesus conquered temptation by quoting Scripture back to the enemy.

Also, you need to talk to your pastor right away. Don’t delay. Have you spoken with him about this? If not, why not my friend? God will forgive you if you confess your sin to Him (1 John 1:9). Stay in the Bible. Read 1 John chapter 1 & 2 and also John chapters 6, 10, and 11.

Reply

Anonymous April 28, 2014 at 9:18 pm

So your saying it is the enemy and not a personal thing? I know how much God hates this that’s why I’m so determined to prevent it. Not only is it sinful it’s just plain weird. Did you have an experience with this during teen years?

Reply

Jack Wellman April 28, 2014 at 10:01 pm

Yes, because we know this is not from God since God tempts no man or woman and so it must be from the Enemy. No, I haven’t experienced this but I am familiar with some of my friends who did but a few overcame this by prayer, Bible study, and counsel but the fact that you know God hates this shows me that you have the Holy Spirit and want to overcome this. This is an great sign of God working in you friend. I will pray for you my friend. Don’t give up.

Reply

Anonymous April 28, 2014 at 10:05 pm

Sir my hope of life is for a God to give me a beautiful WIFE and beautiful kids. Eventually leading to my coming home to His Kingdom. Will God do this for me even though I’m struggling and having trouble what is normal and not normal during this time?

Reply

Jack Wellman April 29, 2014 at 8:41 am

My friend, I cannot tell you what God’s will is for your life but do know that we have something that might help you called “How to Find God’ Will for Your Life” at: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-find-gods-will-in-your-life/ If you seek Him and His kingdom and rightouesness above all, He said that you will be blessed (Matt 6:33). God blesses us all even when we struggle and we all struggle. The good news is at least your struggling, showing God that you seek to please Him and obey Him.

Reply

Anonymous April 29, 2014 at 5:25 pm

So is this just hormones and a natural time you go through at this age? What does God want me to do?

Reply

Jack Wellman April 29, 2014 at 8:29 pm

Talk to your pastor about this. Stay in the Bible, stay on your kneeds and talk to your pastor. Find an older male, Christian mentor.

Reply

Andrew May 16, 2014 at 12:14 am

Hello Jack. I don’t really know where to begin, but wanted to share my story. I consider myself a Christian. I am 28 and have been out since I was 16. I am by no means perfect, I am a sinner and in need of Jesus. I know that I love Jesus and am constantly trying to seek Him. To be very honest, I’m not quite sure on where I stand on the issue of homosexuality. I’ve heard both sides of the issue from progressive and conservative Christians, and both sides make convincing arguments. What I do know is that I have prayed for God to make me conform to His will. I don’t do drugs, party hard, or engage in promiscuous activity. My eyes light up when I see a handsome guy and my heart flutters for joy when I think of the possibility of being in a loving, caring relationship with a man. In contrast, I feel absolutely nothing when it comes to the opposite sex, besides friendship. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t interest me at all, no matter how much I pray and it actually exhausts me. It doesn’t feel right to me. Also, I’ve been told to be celibate, but that feels completely wrong also. Thank you for allowing me to share my story. I usually don’t post things on forums, but for some reason felt drawn to today. One thing I am absolutely sure of though is to continue to seek God.

Reply

Jack Wellman May 16, 2014 at 9:39 am

Andrew, this is actually very encouraging because I myself was a former drug dealer and addict and also loved alcohol and I still, even today, fight the urge to do drugs again, especially pot. The fact that you are battling is a sign that the Holy Spirit is working in you my friend. Do you know your name means “manly” or “masculine?” Don’t depend on what you feel about the opposite sex for God is delivering you and our sanctification takes a lifetime and you can read of Paul’s struggle with sin, even after his conversion in Romans 7. See it? I feel God may have drawn you to this site and this article for such a reason as to be encouraged. The fact that you know its wrong is a strong indication that God’s Spirit is convicting you because those in the world don’t care what they do, if it is sin or not, but you obviously do. Be encouraged. God is not done with me or with you yet and His love never fails and He never gives up on us!

Reply

Leave a Comment

Powered by sweet Captcha





Previous post:

Next post: