What Does the Bible Say About Same Sex Marriage? Is it Sin?

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What does the Bible say about same sex marriage?  Is it sin to marry someone of the same sex?  Does the Bible have Scripture about this subject and if so, is it out of date for our modern culture?

The Word of God Endures Forever

I have heard many liberal theologians say that the Bible is out of date and not relevant for today.  Recently I heard that 42% of seminary students did not believe the Word of God was without error.  Since it was written so many years ago, people argue that what was then sin is not sin today.  Are the liberal theologians correct to say that the Word of God is no longer pertinent to this day and age?  The Word of God actually talks about whether the Scriptures are constrained by times and cultures.  God has said that His Word abides forever and Jesus said that heaven and earth will pass away but [His] words will never pass away (Matt 24:35).

The Bible on Marriage

Let us rely on Scripture when we are defining marriage.  Neither should we depend upon human opinions, liberal theologians, sociologists, modern philosophies or on new state laws and constitutions. God’s law are a higher moral standard than that of mankind and even governments and states.  If we rely solely on Scripture, we will know the truth.  Since the Bible is the Word of God, we must believe what it says and we care not that it’s not popular because it’s more important to believe what God says than what humans think.  What is popular is not always the right thing and what is the right thing is not always popular, so let’s read the Word of God to see what He says about marriage, same sex marriage, and homosexual relationships.

When Jesus was speaking about marriage and grounds for divorce, He actually gave God’s definition of marriage saying, “But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate (Mark 10:6-9).  Jesus is quoting from the Book of Genesis, where the very first, God-ordained marriage originated, So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them (Gen 1:27).   Here we see that God not only performed the first marriage ceremony, He was the originator of marriage and it was – in the beginning – between a man and a woman.  God knew that it was not good for a man to be alone, so he made a woman for Adam.  In fact, God did not make man to be joined with men or women to be joined with women, but to be joined with someone of the opposite sex.  Even biology teaches us that it would be a little difficult to have and raise children if the marriage partners were of the same sex.  It would have been impossible to Be fruitful and increase in number, [and] fill the earth (Gen 1:28). Children receive better balance on how to be men and women when there are both a male and female in the home.  Same sex marriage may be fashionable today but that doesn’t make it right in God’s eyes.  He see’s it as sin as we will later see from the Scriptures.  Paul clarified that sex outside of marriage is wrong but indirectly said that sex should be between men and women.  He wrote that, “each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband (1 Cor 7:2).  There is no clearer definition of marriage in the New Testament than in I Corinthians chapter 7 and it is always between a man and a woman.

To be a pastor or a church official, one of the first qualifications was that he should be the husband of one wife, not another man, and so if someone is called into the ministry, they are literally not qualified if they have a marriage partner of the same sex or if they have more than one wife.  This is made clear in 1 Timothy.  A pastor has to be “a husband of one wife” (1 Tim 3:2).  This is repeated in Titus 1:6 and elsewhere.  Paul was very familiar with homosexuality in the culture that he lived in since he wrote two corrective letters to the Corinthians about this.  He could have made the exception to a man having another man or a man having more than one wife but he did not.  We see that Paul’s writings on this subject are no different from that taught in the Old Testament.

What Does The Bible Say About Same Sex Marriage

You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination“ (Lev 18:22).

The Bible on Same Sex Relationships

There is no room for error when we read the Scriptures in both the Old and the New Testament about men having sexual relationships with men and women with women.  There is no grey area at all.  Even the Old Testament said that this was an abomination to God as Moses wrote, You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination (Lev 18:22).   Just how serious did God take the sin of homosexuality?  In Leviticus 20:13 He says, “If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable.  They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.”  We realize that the same thing applies to women having sexual relationships with women, for God has no double standards.  Just as He is no respecter of persons, neither does He regard treating sin with a man any different from that of a woman.

In case you are thinking that this was the Old Covenant, think again, for the New Testament actually has more Scriptures condemning same sex relationships than the Old Testament does.  Paul wrote, “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God“ (1 Cor 6:9-10).  He continued in the Book of Romans, writing, “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error (Rom 1:26-27).

Paul instructed the young pastor Timothy about sins that were contrary to biblical doctrine, telling him that the law is not made for a righteous person, but for the lawless and insubordinate, for the ungodly and for sinners, for the unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, for fornicators, for sodomites, for kidnappers, for liars, for perjurers, and if there is any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine (1 Tim 1:9-10). Sodomites are referring to same sex partners and the association is easy to see when you read the story of Lot in Sodom which was destroyed by God for such abominations.

God’s Judgment on Same Sex Relationships and Marriage Partners

What is the final fate of such who disobey the Word of God and marry or have sexual relations with someone of the same sex?  It is not good to say the least, but this is not my opinion and it is not politically correct, but it is the Word of God.  In Revelation 21:8 it says, the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur.  This is the second death.” To make it crystal clear, Paul writes that this lake of fire is the final destiny of those who have same sex relations, “Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders (1 Cor 6:9). There are only two places that people will go after they die or at Christ’s return; to the Kingdom of Heaven or to the burning lake of fire.  There is only one or the other.  God does not care that His Word doesn’t seem relevant to this culture or that liberal theologians and the unbelievers feel that the Bible is out of date.  The fact is the word of the Lord stands forever (1 Pet 1:25) and David wrote, “Your word, O LORD, is eternal; it stands firm in the heavens (Psalm 119:89).

If you have struggled with homosexuality, you are certainly not alone.  God is ready to extend His mercy to you and His grace is freely offered.  It may be a titanic struggle, but many Christians have successfully come out of this lifestyle.  With God all things are possible.  Nothing is too hard for God and God will always provide a way out of your temptation.  Paul’s words give all who struggle with this some great hope, “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it (I Cor 10:13).  Here is a rock-solid promise of God.  He can make a way of escape.  He can send the Holy Spirit to give you the power to overcome this abominable sin.  God desires that none of these who struggle with this perish.  He says, The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance (2 Pet 3:9).  Believe Him.  With His help you can overcome the sin of homosexuality.  God can not lie (Titus 1:2) and His promises are surer than the sun rising tomorrow, but neither will He compromise on same sex marriage and the sin of homosexuality.  Where will you go to after you die?  The choice is up to you.

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MAY July 8, 2013 at 1:05 am

Thank you for this page. I solicit your prayers in that a family member of mine is now apart of this deception of lesbianism. My heart is torn in not knowing what to do or how. I know my voice will not be welcomed no matter how concerned I am in this decision. I feel like its a strong spirit of deception and trick of the enemy to discredit the works of our Lord and Savior. But I know the whole story, I read the Bible and believe it to be the Word of God and it is Truth.

I have so may concerns about my own blood daughter. She also knows the truth and believes the Word of God. It is taught to her on a daily basis and I thank God for our Church and teachings from our Pastor regarding this subject. It still does not make it easy for me as a mother trying to protect my daughter from her own family. I teach her to love her sister and pray for her. Is it wrong for me to say love her sister and hate what she do at the same time??? I know Jesus died for the sins of the whole world and His second coming is still to come. It is my desire to see all my family and others saved. This is my heart regardless of how I have been treated or talked about. It is not about me but all about Jesus. I don’t understand how anyone can be so confused. Then again, I once was lost but now I am found. It is by the grace of God.

Please pray for me and my family. May God bless you.


Jack Wellman July 9, 2013 at 9:26 pm

May, what a precious comment you made by asking “Is it wrong for me to say love her sister and hate what she do at the same time???”….no, you are exactly right. We love anyone who is still trapped in sin because the church is full of sinners but those sinners have decided to repent, confess their sins, and put their trust in Christ.

I love what you also said that we are to love the sinner and not the sin. What we should do is separate the sinner from their sin and love those who are practicing homosexuals and pray for their soul. I love your heart. You have it right. I have no hate except for my OWN sin and I can not cast stones at anyone but I can only write about what God says that homosexuality is sin and pray and witness to save as many as we are able. God can and He is the ONLY One who can change the human heart (Prov 21:1). I will join with you in this May. I thank God for you and your tender heart for sinners.


chris July 11, 2013 at 9:53 am

Hello Jack, I thank you so much for your article. it has confirmed my thoughts of how I feel about the Word of God and about liberal thinking of many Christians who are Born Again believers. I had a friend, who no longer is my friend because I don’t agree with this same topic on same sex marriage and fornication. He has justified by support the NOH8 Campaign because he feels it is about equality and human rights. He also compromises his faith by having a sexual relationships with gay men by saying that he has an addiction to sex, and openly sleeps with a woman who has 2 children. His Christian counselor told him that it was good that he had sex with this woman to help recover from his sex addiction to men. Yet, he teaches a bible study group, and misleads those in the group the truth. I have tried to be understanding with him, but after a while I lost patience with him and blew up and told him that I don’t want anything to do with him. I just pray that he sees the truth of God’s word and repents. I need prayer too, because there are times I have become hard heart when I think of him. Please don’t get me wrong, I do know that God loves all us sinners, and the Jesus died on that cross to redeem us from our sins. I don’t want to see him go to hell. You, are very right when you say we cannot know the heart, and only God can change a heart. I trust in the Lord will do a mighty work in his heart, and keep His word as holy and superior than what his friends, and the popularity of the world believes in.
Thank you for your time, in allowing me to share my thoughts and concerns. Your article is what I needed to read this morning.
God bless you and your ministry!


Jack Wellman July 11, 2013 at 11:51 am

Thank you so much Chris. What I hold to in hope and faith is that if God can even change the heart of a pagan king (Prov 21:1) then He can change anyone’s heart. What truly angers me is that many churches are now not only condoning (accepting) same-sex married couples in their church and even marrying them in their church, they are allowed to become full-fledged members. So many churches today are sacrificing truth on the altar of political correctness and in not wanting to offend anyone, they don’t preach sin, the need to repent, for confession and so on. They are preaching what Paul calls another gospel and they will have to give an account to Christ someday.

As for your friend, we can pray that God changes their heart and sees their need for repentance, to see homosexuality as sin and to see the need for a Savior. This Christian counselor is what Paul says are false ministers that appear as an angel of light. A pastors job is to comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable. It appears many churches are doing neither.


jacob July 13, 2013 at 10:23 am



CertainlyVeryTrue August 1, 2013 at 8:19 am

same sex marriage is certainly very wrong, and what morals are they telling our children today? marriage should always be between a man and a woman. i really do feel very bad for the children, since they are the ones that will always suffer.


Barbara September 11, 2013 at 2:20 am

Dear Mr. Jack,
I have a lot of trouble with this area of the Bible. I’ve known people that are obviously gay at a very young age, which definitely makes me think they are born this way. It’s hard to believe that a man it woman that is raised in a living Christian home would choose this lifestyle. I tell myself that the sin is when they act upon it. It’s just so confusing to me. I know what the Bible says about it, but it makes me have doubts. I have friends and family that are gay. There is something else that confuses me. How do we explain hermaphroditism? They are born that way. Someone close to me was born that way. If a person has both genitals, is he/she considered homosexual if he/she has sex. Also, what about transgenders? If two women are together and he has a sex change, does this then make them not a gay couple? I love the gay people in my life. 🙁 Please help me understand! Thank you!


Jack Wellman September 11, 2013 at 11:31 am

Thank you Barbara. I am with you on this. I too love gay people for Jesus told us to love all people but not the sin. There is no scientific evidence that people are born gay but even if they were, we are all born with a “sin-gene” and we are told to repent, come out of this world, to confess our sinfulness and put our trust in Christ and ask for His forgiveness.

As for hermaphroditism, God says that He created them male and female, not male with female tendencies and vice versa. That does not mean that sometimes a person is born with a hermaphroditism and that they are doomed to be judged by God as sinners. The fact is we are all sinners and in need of saving and needful for a Savior. That Savior of course is Jesus. We know that sometimes people have both sex organs but they can still be in the Kingdom and if the Bible says that homosexual behavior is sin, I can not say otherwise. If a person is transgender, they can still be saved. If a man has a sex change, I would ask why he did this? God says we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” and we are made in His own image.

I love gay people too…I love them enough to tell them, as I would anyone who is sinning and has not repented, to repent, confess their sins, and trust in Christ for He loves them too. So much so that He died for them. For more on if a person is born homosexual or not, please read this link to understand more about it and thank you for your questions and concerns. The church I pastor at I would welcome anyone…as long as they stop committing sexual immorality or adultery or any other sin that they refuse to repent of and see as acceptable to God for God never compromises on sin.



Country Girl September 14, 2013 at 9:41 am

I found this, because I have a 17 year old daughter says she’s gay. In my heart I don’t believe that, I feel TV-radio-Internet- is no good example to my daughter right nor any other child out there. 3 weeks Ago I was told about something by another parent about this decision. Last night my daughter made another poor decision. I am asking that God will help her and I am asking for prayers on this please. That God will shine light on her.
Thank you all who read this and prays for her heart.


Jack Wellman September 14, 2013 at 9:52 am

Hello “Country Girl.” You can count on my prayer. I do hope others will join me in praying for your daughter. I am thankful to God for such women of faith and godly mothers like you. Indeed, we will pray and God can change any heart He wills to do so and even that of a pagan king, his heart too can be changed by God (Prov 21:1).


Country Girl September 14, 2013 at 4:12 pm

Thank you I really need a friend to talk to so bad. This hurts I really appreciate your reply. I feel like I hit a dead end road with her. She made a comment that we r a team but I don’t feel close to my daughter anymore at all. I’m marking every bible verse above in her bible as we speak. Do u have access to my email to respond that way about help info for counseling?


Jack Wellman September 14, 2013 at 4:16 pm

Yes, please click on this link and be sure to carefully leave your email address accurately because sometimes many contact us but misspell their email address so I have no way of reaching them. Please click on this link and your email will be kept in strict confidence and will never, ever be shared with anyone. Click on this: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/contact/ and I will help you in any way possible.


phishing4men September 15, 2013 at 12:37 am



meli September 16, 2013 at 3:38 pm

Hello, i really need your advice. I am a great believer in god. I want to follow him and become a better person. I have been in a relationship with a women for two years. I love this women with all my heart i care for her deeply. We have decided we dont want to do anymore sexual acts because we feel terrible when we do that since were going to church and stuff. Were happy together. We support, we care, we help, and ww understand each other. And we plan to stay with each other for a long time. We dont do nothing sexual anymore and we want to follow god.


Jack Wellman September 16, 2013 at 8:38 pm

Thank you Meli for your comment. I am glad you came here. Are you female? It is okay to be close friends with another person of the same sex. I suppose that since you can here to this article that you both are female and have been intimate. Is that right? I am glad you have decided to stop having sex for sex within the same gender is clearly sin as are adultery and sex outside of marriage. This is what the Bible calls sexual immorality and those who do such things without repentance will not be entering the Kingdom of Heave unless they stop, repent, confess this sin and put their trust in God. I am also overjoyed you want to follow God and by doing so, you saw or felt that sexual relations were sin. Did I help you in any way or is there more to what is happening. What I mean by that is this…is there still cuddling, kissing, embracing, etc? I don’t know what to tell you until I know more. Thank you. I will help in any way that I can Meli. Just let me know a little bit more. Your email will remain private and not shared with anyone as we always keep these in strict confidence.


meli September 17, 2013 at 5:29 pm

Thank you for responding. 🙂 yes there is still hugging and kissing at times. For which we love each other very much. Our personalities match in so many ways. We support and understand each other so much. Our love is something amazing that i dont see anything wrong with loving a human being and that being is a girl. I dont know how to explain how much joy we feel when were together. But we have stopped having anything sexual. And we want to be close to god


Jack Wellman September 17, 2013 at 9:51 pm

Meli….I believe that when a woman and a woman have such an intimate relationship which includes hugging…I see no problem…but kissing…that is sin. You said “you don’t see anything wrong with loving a human being and that being is a girl” but it is not what you or I think but what God’s Word says. Do you agree? Which has biblical authority? What we believer, see, or feel or what God says? Of course God is always right.

Even thou there is no sex, it is still sin for you are making her your lover even without sex. Your love is something special you say. Well yes, but so was Eve’s love of the forbidden fruit…it looked beautiful to the eyes, it felt wonderful to the touch and tasted exquisite to the taste….but it was sin. If you don’t see anything wrong with that, then you may either trust in your own feelings more than God then.

Personalities of a husband and wife of different partners may also “match in so many ways” but that doesn’t justify that it is wrong. When human feelings or beliefs are the test of whether something is sin or not, then you are on dangerous ground and no homosexuals will ever inherit the kingdom of heaven unless they repent (turn around & stop), confess this sin, and trust in the Savior….who only THEN will forgive them. God will not forgive if we don’t repent. Sorry this seems harsh but the truth is not mine but God’s and God will hold me accountable if I try to say it’s okay or justify this. God help me but there it is.


meli September 18, 2013 at 10:02 am

Everytime i think about separating myself from her it really hurts its a pain that is killing me inside. I would miss her dearly. Its like telling me that i cant breathe or something.


Jack Wellman September 18, 2013 at 10:07 am

I know this must be hard Meli…but Jesus said that we are to deny ourselves and put the Kingdom of God first. Luke 14:26 “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.”

Does Jesus really mean that we should hate our parents, our siblings, and our children? What is He saying? Jesus was speaking to the crowd about discipleship. He was stressing the importance of putting God first above everyone, including family. Humans have a tendency to idolize their family or a person they are involved in, in a relationship, and so He was saying that anyone that would become Jesus’ disciple must count the cost and it is supremely high (Luke 14:27) and if a believer is to trust in Christ, they should renounce EVERYONE and everything for His sake, even family (Luke 14:27).

When Jesus was speaking to the crowd one man told him that his mother and brothers wanted to see Him but Jesus said “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother” (Matt 12:48-50). The point Jesus was making about hating our own family was that in comparison to Him, we must love Him above all everyone, and if need be, renounce them for His sake. Are you willing to do that for the sake of Jesus’? If not, then I would say you are putting your own interests or feelings above God.


meli September 18, 2013 at 1:38 pm

So what about if i decide to leave her, im still going to have feeling for her. And if i decide to be alone all my life is that a sin too?


Jack Wellman September 18, 2013 at 2:32 pm

Meli, Yes, you will have feeling for her but someone who has a feeling to still sin, called temptation, is not sinning. Jesus was tempted yet never sinned. If you decide to be alone all your life is not sin. The Bible never says that loneliness is sin but practicing sexual immorality is. I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you but you yourself said that you wanted to be close to God and God will not be close to those who refuse to repent or obey Him. I wish I could give you hope but God’s Word leaves no room for personal interpretation Meli.


meli September 18, 2013 at 3:23 pm

I cant do this by myself on my own will. Can god do something to separate us. If i ask him for help.


meli September 18, 2013 at 3:25 pm

I cant do this by myself on my own will. Can god do something to separate us? If i ask him for help because i dont think i can do this alone.


meli September 18, 2013 at 3:27 pm

I cant do this by myself i need his help. Can god help me can he do something to separate us?


Jack Wellman September 18, 2013 at 3:34 pm

God is a present help in our time of need or as Psalm 46:1 says “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” I am overjoyed you are going to try and overcome this and especially knowing that you can’t do it by yourself. I came out of an inhumanly impossible drug addiction and it was impossible in my own strength but God can and will help you over come this. Please talk to your pastor immediately and counsel with him.

You are right….and I knew this was impossible…we can’t do this in our own strength but God wants us to come to Him for only He is God and has the power for us to overcome sin. I beg others to join with me in praying for Meli in this….please pray with us for Meli’s sake and the sake of her eternal salvation thru Christ. We are all in this battle together and God, please, in Jesus’ name, send Meli the strong counsel, the power of the Holy Spirit, so that she may enter the Kingdom of Heaven. We love her and know you do more so.

Please help her in this great time of need. Perhaps God you can send the Holy Spirit to help Meli separate herself from this and from sin, like you did me in a strong way. We need your supernatural help Lord.


meli September 18, 2013 at 4:05 pm

Thank u


Jack Wellman September 18, 2013 at 4:14 pm

You’re welcome Meli….I do pray others will join with me in praying for you.


Ken September 19, 2013 at 1:55 pm

Meli, I will be praying for you. I commend you for taking this courageous step. God is the one who helped direct you in taking that first step AND He will lead you through this trying time. I know there are others who are praying for you as well.


The Truth October 21, 2013 at 11:01 pm

It is certainly bad enough with all the Gay Women that are out there that are making it very difficult for us Straight Men looking for a Decent Normal Woman Today.


Cat December 16, 2013 at 10:05 pm

Hi “The Truth”…It is not just men having issues. You know that there are more men than woman anyway, then when you subtract the the married, the non-Christian, and the Homosexual men, there is not much left. I have been divorced for over 10 yrs and have not had a date in over five. I get asked out but it is usually very young men/kids in their early 20’s, or if they are old enough to be interesting, they run when I tell them I am Christian and won’t go to their house for a movie when we have not even had a date yet! It is amazing but come on, when they want us to spend time at their place on a first date, what is on their mind is pretty apparent. They don’t have to spend much, so it is not that they can’t afford it. I would do something free, or even go to church togather…In fact, church is a good first date! It tells you a lot about a person!

Good Luck…Cat


Jack Wellman December 16, 2013 at 10:09 pm

Well said my sister in Christ. I love your advice…as always it is spot on and full of biblical wisdom. Thank you and let me say that I thank God for you my friend.


Kathryn December 14, 2013 at 8:59 pm

But can homosexuals be Christians? If homosexuality is just a sin (“just” a sin), and Christians struggle with habitual sins, is it possible for someone to be both a genuine, going-to-heaven Christian and a homosexual?


Jack Wellman December 15, 2013 at 3:01 pm

Hello Kathryn. My own or any human opinion about whether practicing homosexuals can go to heaven stands only on God’s Word, the Bible and not on human opinion. Homosexuals who have that temptation still but have repented of this and do not continue to practice it will go to heaven if they have repented and trusted in Christ. Here is what God, not me, says in His Word about whether homosexuals or thieves or liars or adulterers who refuse to repent and trust in Christ says:

Romans 1:26-28 “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. 28 And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper.”

First Corinthians 1:6-10 “Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God.”

First Timothy 1:9-11 “Understanding this that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted. homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted.”

What do you think Kathryn. We love all people for we are all sinners yet Jesus said that unless we all repent we will all likewise perish.


Anonymous April 28, 2014 at 7:12 pm

I’m going through puberty and am having trouble. Is it true your sexuality develops during puberty. It’s not that I like guys but is more of not being able to have a clear conscience. I’ve seen bad things that make me not feel the same. I’ve been attracted to girls all my life what is happening. I’m asking Jesus to forgive me and restore my natural attraction to girls. Just help please what is going on???


Jack Wellman April 28, 2014 at 8:34 pm

Hello Anonymous. Please know, as I am a father and grandfather, this is normal in every way. You will get thru this and all of us go through these things. Every time these sinful thoughts hit you, immediately say a prayer, even if it is only in your mind and silent, for God to cast these thoughts out and start to memorize some Scriptures. I know that once you get into the Word often, the Word often gets into you and Jesus conquered temptation by quoting Scripture back to the enemy.

Also, you need to talk to your pastor right away. Don’t delay. Have you spoken with him about this? If not, why not my friend? God will forgive you if you confess your sin to Him (1 John 1:9). Stay in the Bible. Read 1 John chapter 1 & 2 and also John chapters 6, 10, and 11.


Anonymous April 28, 2014 at 9:18 pm

So your saying it is the enemy and not a personal thing? I know how much God hates this that’s why I’m so determined to prevent it. Not only is it sinful it’s just plain weird. Did you have an experience with this during teen years?


Jack Wellman April 28, 2014 at 10:01 pm

Yes, because we know this is not from God since God tempts no man or woman and so it must be from the Enemy. No, I haven’t experienced this but I am familiar with some of my friends who did but a few overcame this by prayer, Bible study, and counsel but the fact that you know God hates this shows me that you have the Holy Spirit and want to overcome this. This is an great sign of God working in you friend. I will pray for you my friend. Don’t give up.


Anonymous April 28, 2014 at 10:05 pm

Sir my hope of life is for a God to give me a beautiful WIFE and beautiful kids. Eventually leading to my coming home to His Kingdom. Will God do this for me even though I’m struggling and having trouble what is normal and not normal during this time?


Jack Wellman April 29, 2014 at 8:41 am

My friend, I cannot tell you what God’s will is for your life but do know that we have something that might help you called “How to Find God’ Will for Your Life” at: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-find-gods-will-in-your-life/ If you seek Him and His kingdom and rightouesness above all, He said that you will be blessed (Matt 6:33). God blesses us all even when we struggle and we all struggle. The good news is at least your struggling, showing God that you seek to please Him and obey Him.


Anonymous April 29, 2014 at 5:25 pm

So is this just hormones and a natural time you go through at this age? What does God want me to do?


Jack Wellman April 29, 2014 at 8:29 pm

Talk to your pastor about this. Stay in the Bible, stay on your kneeds and talk to your pastor. Find an older male, Christian mentor.


Andrew May 16, 2014 at 12:14 am

Hello Jack. I don’t really know where to begin, but wanted to share my story. I consider myself a Christian. I am 28 and have been out since I was 16. I am by no means perfect, I am a sinner and in need of Jesus. I know that I love Jesus and am constantly trying to seek Him. To be very honest, I’m not quite sure on where I stand on the issue of homosexuality. I’ve heard both sides of the issue from progressive and conservative Christians, and both sides make convincing arguments. What I do know is that I have prayed for God to make me conform to His will. I don’t do drugs, party hard, or engage in promiscuous activity. My eyes light up when I see a handsome guy and my heart flutters for joy when I think of the possibility of being in a loving, caring relationship with a man. In contrast, I feel absolutely nothing when it comes to the opposite sex, besides friendship. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t interest me at all, no matter how much I pray and it actually exhausts me. It doesn’t feel right to me. Also, I’ve been told to be celibate, but that feels completely wrong also. Thank you for allowing me to share my story. I usually don’t post things on forums, but for some reason felt drawn to today. One thing I am absolutely sure of though is to continue to seek God.


Jack Wellman May 16, 2014 at 9:39 am

Andrew, this is actually very encouraging because I myself was a former drug dealer and addict and also loved alcohol and I still, even today, fight the urge to do drugs again, especially pot. The fact that you are battling is a sign that the Holy Spirit is working in you my friend. Do you know your name means “manly” or “masculine?” Don’t depend on what you feel about the opposite sex for God is delivering you and our sanctification takes a lifetime and you can read of Paul’s struggle with sin, even after his conversion in Romans 7. See it? I feel God may have drawn you to this site and this article for such a reason as to be encouraged. The fact that you know its wrong is a strong indication that God’s Spirit is convicting you because those in the world don’t care what they do, if it is sin or not, but you obviously do. Be encouraged. God is not done with me or with you yet and His love never fails and He never gives up on us!


Ish March 9, 2015 at 10:34 pm

I to have been an addict most of my youth and adult life but four years ago I decided to pick up the cross and follow Jesus. I am drug free and I to occasionally think oh my just one joint..but I know that it is not of The Lord. God tells us to dwell upon Him, to think of everything that is good and righteous and holy. When I feel myself being tempted in any sin I know that I can fight the good fight with Christ as my strength. I immediately shake off that feeling and truly dwell upon the Kingdom Of a god and get into His word and it will help to defeat the enemy every time. So I think whether our temptations are drugs, sex….or we know the list can go on and each person has different struggles, before that temptation can get a foot in the door..call out to Jesus, then pray and seek His face. He never fails. We can overcome in Christ who is our Rock. My husbands smokes and does drugs to this day and I have been clean four years and he so wants me to go back to my old self. Tries his best to entice me and the ridicules me almost daily. I have to say I have overcome this only by the blood of Jesus. Seek Him immediately even if its in your mind if you are not in a position to say His name out loud. Whisper His name if that’s all you can do …and sometimes we do have to literally “turn from” a circumstance of temptation and walk away if the temptation is in our face. Turn from literally and turn to Jesus. HE will NEVER leave you nor forsake you when you are trying to live Holy.


Jack Wellman March 10, 2015 at 3:38 pm

Praise God to your wonderful faith Ish. You have a strong faith in God obviously and I will pray for you too and you are so right, He will never leave us or forsake us even if all the world does. May God richly bless you and reward you for your strong faith in God Ish. Thank you for your wonderful testimony and comment too.


Ish March 10, 2015 at 8:50 pm

The reward of His presence within me is greater than any drug high I have ever had. This walk and complete turn about has a lot of people my husband calling me crazy, etc. my reply is YES I am crazy…crazy for JESUS. the joy that has filled my souls is worth everything that man uses to come against me. I CHOOSE Jesus. The void I felt for so many years is filled to the brim now. His word says seek me and you will find me if you search for me with your whole heart. I did just that and He truly came alive and showed up in a mighty way. I will NEVER go back. The more He fills my soul the more I want and it’s there for anyone…anyone that ask. God bless…I believe we will soon see our King. I am looking up for my redemption draweth nigh.

Yolanda Acevedo August 9, 2014 at 12:30 pm

Greetings Jack,
Blessings to you and yours. What an awesome article. What a great reminder to the church. My husband and I have a heavy burden in our hearts. We both know that the Bible teaches us that Jesus loves the sinner, but hates the sin. Our church has had an incredible influx of homosexuals come into the church, especially in our youth ministry not just as visitors, but becoming members of our church. We know from experience that as Christians we are to grow and mature in the Word and our walk, and that these changes do become evident in our lives. We are noticing as time goes by a year, two, three even four, that these dear ones continue to show traces and mannerisms of the lifestyle that held them enslaved and in bondage in their old way of living. My husband and I continue to reach out to them in love, encouraging them with the Word of God, but as a church, as the body of Christ, when do we intervene? When do we say “enough”? We have shared with them that as Christians we are to show fruits of a changed person and life. But as a church at what point do we take a stand and address these issues that continue unresolved?


Jack Wellman August 9, 2014 at 12:53 pm

Thank you so much Mrs. Acevedo. I apologize that this is so long….I love that you work with youth and you are right that this is not being addressed in the church. I would first talk with the pastor because Jesus did not condemn the woman caught in adultery but He also said “and from now on sin no more” (John 8:11) clearly showing that we all sin and can be forgiven but we must “go and sin no more!” How clear this is. I would go through Ephesians 5:1-11 which says “1Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.3But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 4Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.

5For of this you can be sure: NO immoral (immoral refers to sexual immorality), impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.a 6Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7Therefore do not be partners with them. 8For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9(for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10and find out what pleases the Lord. 11Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.” Paul said to “EXPOSE THEM” because anyone that does such things and does not repent from them will NOT be inheriting the Kingdom of Heaven.

Paul writes to the Galatians 5:16-21 “walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whateverc you want. 18But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. 19The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this WILL NOT INHERIT the kingdom of God.”
How clear this is. Those who continue to “live like this will NOT inherit the kingdom of God.” There is no wiggle room. It is black and white.

First John 3:7-10 is clear as John writes;
“Dear children, do not let anyone lead you astray. The one who does what is right is righteous, just as he is righteous. 8The one who DOES WHAT IS SINFUL IS OF THE DEVIL, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil’s work. 9No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God. 10This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: Anyone who does not do what is right is not God’s child, nor is anyone who does not love their brother and sister.”

I would use these at your next youth Bible study and we cannot rationalize these imperative commands away. If they continue in this lifestyle, then they are most certainly not saved. Talk to the pastor. I wish I was close to your church as I would come to speak to them, the church, and your pastor. We must flee temptation, how much more so should we not continue in sin. You must WARN them of the wrath of God that is coming upon them if the continue in this sexually immoral lifestyle for they won’t be in the kingdom but rather face the wrath of God (Rev 20:11-15) that will be terrifying. Jesus warned in Matt 7:21-23 that “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. 22“Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’ 23“And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; DEPART FROM ME, YOU WHO PRACTICE LAWLESSNESS.’’ Jesus didn’t say I didn’t know them well, I didn’t know them good enough but He will say that He NEVER knew them. Don’t back down. If your pastor doesn’t stop this after your warning then flee that church. As a pastor, we cannot allow unrepentant sexual immorality in it…I will not and I have to give an account to God!


Jack Wellman August 11, 2014 at 3:41 pm

Yolanda…you inspired me to give this sermon and perhaps it will reflect what God thinks about homosexuality and what the Bible teaches. It is NOT about what I think but what the Word of God says at this sermon I gave at this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRGqGAHM26o


Patricia December 30, 2014 at 10:03 pm

I need advise. I feel I know the answer but need to have it confirmed. Would it be a sin for a christian who knows that same sex marriage is a sin perform the wedding ceremony for her niece to another female. They know that I don’t agree with the lifestyle but that I love my niece. They have talked with a pastor, I don’t know who, and are happy and going through with the ceremony. I don’t know what they were told by him but they have been told by me that it is a sin to marry. Would I be commiting a sin by performing the ceremony?


Jack Wellman December 31, 2014 at 11:03 am

Thank you Patricia for your question about marrying a same-sex couple. If it is clearly sin in the Bible and those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom as we read in Galatians 5, Eph 5 (?) and in Revelation, it must be sin to marry a same-sex couple because God doesn’t recognize it and it is sin to live in such an arrangement so marrying a couple would be condoning this as acceptable. Sometimes making a right choice is not always popular just as making a popular choice is not always right.


Viewpoints With Questions January 2, 2015 at 3:21 pm

How can you justify that homosexuality is a sin, when some translations of the Bible doesn’t even include stuff like this? Have we become a society where you can do what you want and just pray to God and be forgiven? What about two male friends that did have a relationship but one got out and the other continued in the lifestyle? Wouldn’t God forgive them both when they ask Him to be forgiven? What about if two men where both raised in Christian households decided to be a couple and then later on realize that what they’re doing is wrong and they decide to still continue to be friends but talk about God only and ask for forgiveness, would they still be sinners? I’ve got a lot of questions I know but I’m just wondering, because people take one verse from the Bible and say: “Oh you must follow this command otherwise you’ll be condemned.” Whereas when you read the whole chapter or verses before and after a particular verse you’ll also see other warnings and rewards. So I’m just wondering who is right or wrong, the straight Christian with gay friends or the gay Christian with straight friends? Lots of questions, lots of viewpoints.


Jack Wellman January 2, 2015 at 7:43 pm

My friend, thank you for your question. It is not me who justifies calling homosexuality a sin. God’s Word does. Just because that word is not used doesn’t mean it’s not homosexuality. The word dinosaur is not in the Bible either even though we know that existed. We have to acknowledge that you don’t translate a word from Hebrew and Greek into the English if there is no English equivalent. So, using the term “homosexual” in the English Bible could not have occurred until after the word had entered the English vocabulary.

“In English the word homosexual was first used in 1892 in the English translation of Krafft-Ebing’s “Psychopathia sexualis” which was a reference work, in German, on sexual perversions. It first appeared in 1886 and was enormously popular, being reprinted about once a year!”(http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_year_did_homosexual_become_a_word) That would explain why the English term “homosexual” did not appear in the Bible until 1946. But, does the Bible teach against the concept of homosexuality? For that, let’s take a look at the English translations that use the term, and then we will examine the original language.

First Cor 6:9, says “Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.”

First Tim. 1:10 says “realizing the fact that law is not made for a righteous man, but for those who are lawless and rebellious, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers 10 and immoral men and homosexuals and kidnappers and liars and perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound teaching, 11 according to the glorious gospel of the blessed God, with which I have been entrusted.” In Each case, the Greek word used for ‘homosexual’ is ἀρσενοκοίτης, arsenokoites. Here is what it means according to Greek dictionaries: ἀρσενοκοίτης arsenokoítēs; gen. arsenokoítou, masc. noun, from ársēn (730), a male, and koítē (2845), a bed. A man who lies in bed with another male, a homosexual (1 Cor. 6:9; 1 Tim. 1:10 [cf. Lev. 18:22; Rom. 1:27]). Zodhiates, S. (2000). The complete word study dictionary : New Testament (electronic ed.). Chattanooga, TN: AMG Publishers.

So no matter what word you use, the original Greek word means “A man who lies in bed with another male” and the Bible is clear when using the language “lies in bed” meaning having sexual relations. Who is right? The “gay Christian or the straight Christian?” The Bible is right, forget what man says. This is sin, no matter what people say, just as those things listed in conjunction with homosexuality. Can a person claim to be a Christian and live in sin and go on sinning and believe they are saved? Read 1 John chapter 3. I pray this help. I am not justifying any condemnation of sin like homosexuality….God’s Word does, my opinion doesn’t matter.


Cat January 3, 2015 at 12:52 am

Once again Pastor…Great response…Viewpoints, If you still have questions go one page into the back comments…With the legalization of gay marriages in many states, we had a lot of confusion at the end of 2013 into 2014. Any questions you may still have will be addressed there by pastor and many others…I know it is confusing to many, esp those using newer translations of the Bible. There is even a gay bible written last year that has dilibrately removed all referance to homosexuality and even change the story of Sodem and Gommorah(I know my spelling is off on that but I don’t have a dictionary with all my stuff in storage). People are pressuring the churches to accept and many are because they have become so interested in the money that more members and tithing brings in than they are the truth. Sad thing is, those ministers have a special punishment in Hell awaiting for we are warned what happens to those who change the word of God! God Bless and Good Luck!


Jack Wellman January 3, 2015 at 10:17 am

Thanks Cat. I know that it seems harsh and some have even told me that I am sadistic but isn’t the cruelest thing to do is not warn them of God’s wrath to come on all those who are unrepentant, for all sins, not just homosexuality. We are warned to be involved in rescuing the perishing and the good news means nothing without warning them of the bad news that a person who refuses to repent and trust in Christ has judgment coming upon them…for all of their sins and again, not just homosexuality.


Gary W. Davis, Sr. April 24, 2015 at 11:36 pm

The purpose of a man and a woman getting married is to sanctify their joining together in holy matrimony which is a holy Christian Marriage.

Marriages of two homosexuals of the same gender is unholy and is a satanic mockery of a Christian Marriage. Homosexual marriages cannot be sanctified.

The Christian Church for conscience sake cannot participate in Homosexual Marriages which cannot be sanctified and still have God’s favor.

Has our American Leaders given over to Satanic Principles in their approval of the joining together of homosexuals in a unholy marriage? The answer is: “Yes”.

Let us pray: Our Father in Heaven, You know the needs of your people and I ask you to send a Great Revival to America soon. I pray that many will learn the truth of your righteousness and will except your son, Jesus Christ for their personal Savior before it is too late for them. In Jesus name, Amen.

For edifying God’s people with the truth and standing up for your Christian Principles and Freedoms share this post.

Wrote by: Gary W. Davis, Sr.
March 18, 2015
Time: 8:52
Leviticus 18:22. Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.

Jude 1:7. Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
8. Likewise also these filthy dreamers defile the flesh, despise dominion, and speak evil of dignities.

2 Chronicles 7:14. If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.


Ray June 8, 2015 at 8:25 pm

Hi. I appreciate your website. I found out recently that my son has married a man and is now involved in a divorce proceeding. He has assured me that he will never be involved with a woman and because I’ve told him that I was glad that his marriage didn’t work and that maybe now he would marry a woman, and asked him if he had aids because of the recent health department warning regarding sexually related diseases between men, I’ve been told that I’m ignorant and won’t have to worry about him ever talking to me again. He was raised in a Christian single parent household and has, as far as I can tell, been involved in homosexual activity all of his late teen and adult life. He is 36 years old. I have told some of my family (we are all Christians) but am hesitant to tell everyone because I am not sanctioning it (neither would they) and not proud at all to announce his “news”. I have mixed feelings between guilt, somehow wondering if something I did has caused this, and extreme shame and bewilderment. I can’t understand why he would go this way and why in the world he would think that somehow I should be the comforting mother, walking him through this when it’s clear to me that he needs to turn from his wicked ways, repent and seek God. Not regroup for the next man. Well, I could go on and on and on……it feels better just to express my thoughts. I have not responded to him when he said I wouldn’t have to worry about ever talking to him again. It’s kind of a relief not to have to deal with him at this point, I know God is still able to totally and completely deliver him and in the meantime, I intend to not let his poor choice of lifestyle ruin me or my family’s life. I am really trying to understand this.


Jack Wellman June 8, 2015 at 8:31 pm

Hello Ray. I am so sorry about the situation with your son. This must be very painful. You are not responsible for his choices as an adult. Please don’t blame yourself. I am sure you did the best job you knew how and it is better that your son has a Christian parent that cares for their soul than have no one who cares or condones it and will not pray for him. I will pray for him and that is all you can do. Only God’s Spirit can make someone see the need to repent and trust in the Savior. The Bible teaches that God grants repentance (2 Tim 2:5 I think it is). Just try to keep praying for Him and leave the results up to God for even a Saul (murdering Christians) because a Paul.


BigScott June 26, 2015 at 11:13 pm

My niece has chosen to be a lesbian and marry another women. She is a believer of Jesus Christ, but I question her sincerity, As a child I knew she was, now she is hard to get to talk about Jesus and I worry for her salvation. OSAS apply to her also?


Jack Wellman June 27, 2015 at 7:17 am

We show our friends, family members, and co-workers no love at all if we don’t tell them the truth about what God’s Word says about homosexuality. The greatest act of love we can display to those we know is to speak the truth and not sugar coat what God says. It is God’s Word, not ours, that is important. If you knew someone was driving down a dangerous mountain road and there was a curve coming up and the bridge was out, wouldn’t you care enough to tell them the truth, regardless of whether they were offended or not? Surely you wouldn’t want them to get hurt or die. Love and grace is truth and compassion and warning someone that the Word of God says “the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death” (Rev 21:8). That is the fate of not just the unrepentant sexually immoral but all unrepentant liars, murderers, idolaters, and sorcerers (Rev 20:12-15).

We show our friends, family members, and co-workers no love at all if we don’t tell them the truth about what God’s Word says about homosexuality. The greatest act of love we can display to those we know is to speak the truth and not sugar coat what God says. It is God’s Word, not ours, that is important. If you knew someone was driving down a dangerous mountain road and there was a curve coming up and the bridge was out, wouldn’t you care enough to tell them the truth, regardless of whether they were offended or not? Surely you wouldn’t want them to get hurt or die. Love and grace is truth and compassion and warning someone that the Word of God says “the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death” (Rev 21:8). That is the fate of not just the unrepentant sexually immoral but all unrepentant liars, murderers, idolaters, and sorcerers (Rev 20:12-15).

Ask her to read 1st John chapter 3 and see if she still thinks she is a Christian. This woman has deceived herself into believing she is a Christian but truly no Christian continues to live in sin and continues to practice sin. All you can do is pray for her and there her what I wrote above. We are told to take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret” (Eph 5:11-12) so we must not take part is these sinful practices but we are also told to “expose them” and I don’t mean to expose and shame them before others but to expose them to the light of the Word of God (Eph 5:12-13). Pray for them, love them, show them the grace of God, but you must also warn them of the coming wrath of God, not just on the sexually immoral, but on all who refuse to repent and turn away and forsake their sins and then place their trust completely in Christ (Dan 12:2; Rev 20:12-15). The greatest act of love is to warn them that practice sexual immorality of any kind and those who falsely teach that it is acceptable to God that unless they also repent, they will eternally perish (Luke 13:3, 5). Loving someone enough to risk rejection, scorn, ridicule, and persecution displays more grace and love than you might believe. Just look at what Christ endured for us so that He might save us through His love and grace because at one time “such were some of you. But you [and I] were washed, [we] were sanctified, [we] were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God” (1st Cor 6:11).


Mary August 13, 2015 at 9:03 am

Loved your article. I am struggling with a 21 year old daughter who has been in a dating relationship with men, but has a best friend, who she is extremely close to. They have kissed quite a bit, off and on for the last few months, and consider it just a friendship thing, and that this behavior is okay. I feel that “french kissing” with another female is sexually immoral, even though she claims there are no sexual feelings. How can I back that up biblically? She states that she’s not a lesbian, and that she likes men, but I, myself, would find kissing another female repulsive.


Jack Wellman August 13, 2015 at 9:19 am

I am sorry Mary about your daughter’s kissing of another woman. This is certainly sin. Would she be willing to go to the pastor and talk with him about? I think only one verse should be enough at this one says “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error” (Rom 1:26-27). It is not natural for women to kiss other women on the mouth, especially French kissing. Maybe you can copy and past this article and/or read this verse in Romans 1 to her and see what she says about it? Does your daughter even attend a church? How about her friend (the woman friend of hers)? I know that this is totally contrary to the natural order of things. I find it repulsive too and that you sense it is wrong is more evidence that this is wrong too. Maybe you should talk to your pastor to see what he says and if he could come and visit you and your daughter at your home. Does your daughter still live with you?


Nicey August 14, 2015 at 10:56 pm

Great study! Just one edit, scripture reference Psalms 199:89 should be 119:89.


Jack Wellman August 14, 2015 at 11:00 pm

Nice catch. Thank you my friend. This was corrected. And also, thank you for taking the trouble to comment.


Don't Know August 24, 2015 at 3:49 pm

I am in a same sex marriage, and have often wondered if we gave up sex, could we go to Heaven? We are both Christians. Although our attraction, love, and devotion to each other is genuine, I have often struggled with the issue of homosexuality and God. I don’t want her out of my life because at the very least, we are best friends. We have promised each other we will take care of the other one for as long as we live. Our relationship is better than most people’s (gay or straight). So I know I have a good thing with her. She knows I have wondered about this and have read books on it. I have prayed about it and have even prayed that God would use her to give up sex and have it seem to her as if it were her idea, simply because I think she’ll be more readily acceptable of the idea that way, rather than me just saying let’s stop that so we can go to Heaven. I feel that time is short to get things right with God now, and so I don’t want to be left still trying to figure things out while sitting in hell. Thanks.


Jack Wellman August 24, 2015 at 4:02 pm

Thank you for your question and honesty. I suggest you read 1st John chapter 3. We all sin and fall short of God’s glory but we are saved when we do what Jesus said “repent and believe” (Mark 1:15) so if there has never been any repentance, then there is likely no salvation. Gal 5:19-21 says “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Also 1 Corinthians 6:9 “Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men.”

There are dozens more too but as a final warning, in Rev 21:8 it says ” But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.” I know this is hard. My opinion is useless. God’s Word alone is truth. Those who practice such things as you are doing without repentance (meaning turning away from and forsaking your sins) and faith in Christ will not end well at all (Rev 20:12-15). I will pray God helps you do the right thing but 1st John 3:8 is clear “Whoever makes a practice of sinning is of the devil, for the devil has been sinning from the beginning” and further “No one born of God makes a practice of sinning, for God’s seed abides in him, and he cannot keep on sinning because he has been born of God. By this it is evident who are the children of God, and who are the children of the devil” (1st John 3:9-10).

Finally 1st John 3:6 says “No one who abides in him keeps on sinning; no one who keeps on sinning has either seen him or known him.” Pray about this…is it worth your eternity? I know you want to go to heave but “But nothing unclean will ever enter it [heaven], nor anyone who does what is detestable or false, but only those who are written in the Lamb’s book of life” (Rev 21:4). Indeed, time may be short. If Christ returns today, you are in big trouble or if you die unexpectedly.


Patty Morris September 4, 2015 at 7:14 am

Back in 1982 I went home for Christmas when I was pregnant with my son when my husband was in the U.S Army. While at my parent’s home, I woke up to the sound of my mother crying. I went and saw she was on her knees praying,and I asked why she was crying. A question and answer session began, my mother basically refusing to state the issue. She blurted out, “When I die, who will pray for my son?”
I was shocked. What has my brother done to cause such anquish in my mother?
I asked, did he get some girl pregnant?
She blurted out, “I WISH!!”
I just stared at my mom and it hit me. My brother is a homosexual, doomed to the 2nd death, to exist no more.
Both my parents are dead and I’m not even praying for my brother. I won’t have anything to do with him because of the way he has treated me in the past.


sarah September 20, 2015 at 11:48 am

I am looking for some help on a related issue. My husband has told me he is “struggling with his gender” (I did not know any of this before we married), he is not a church goer, and does not have christian friends/social circle, so the main advice that I find says “get him to talk with a christian mentor/elder etc , someone he trusts” it is not an option, at the moment.

let me just say that my heart crys out for him as he is going through some real soul searching, I love him but I also am aware that I am first accountable to God.

Anyway he constantly dresses as a woman at home and is concidering and exploring the possability of changing his sex. The bible says I should not divorce my husband, but I struggle as I feel I am being forced into a kind of pseudo homosexual relationship.

the bible clearly states “Haven’t you read that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?” So they are no longer two but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19:4-6).

but what if one person changes sex once married, where does this leave me? And if it is a reason for concern, at what point, does it move me from a sound christian marriage into something sinful? it is when he is just taking part in “some harmless dressing up” or once he gets surgery, or somewhere inbetween. really cannot find any sound biblical advice anywhere. I am so lost.


Jack Wellman September 20, 2015 at 1:01 pm

Hello Sarah. This is a very hard place to be. What did your own pastor say about this situation? Did you talk to him about it? If so, what did he say and if not, why not talk with him about it very soon. It appears for sure your husband is not saved. Reading 1st John chapter 3 makes this very clear. The only thing you can do is that this man be saved for only God can change the heart (Prov 21:1) but we can pray together about him. You and he are headed toward different eternities. Yours is indescribable (Rev 22) and his is horrible (Rev 20:12-15; 21:8) but if he leaves you and has this sex change, let’s wait until that happens but until then, (hopefully it doesn’t) pray for his eternal soul. He cannot help but be a child of the Devil until he believes in Christ which takes the Spirit of God. I know I’ve not been very helpful but yours is a hard place to be in.


Kameron May 8, 2016 at 2:13 am

The law of man is sinful and immoral, changing into distorted version of reality confusing children and telling them that it is OK to be gay and that sense there are God’s people, Christians, supporting it, it’s OK and you should give into sin.
But God’s law is holy, righteous, always moral and still, never changing, never giving sin acceptance to take residence into it.
It seems as though some Christians are confusing God’s law with man’s.
How do you be a Christian and support homosexuality when you know it is a sin you are supporting? You are supposed to be ashamed of it and try to walk away from it and not give into sin but apparently marrying into a sinful relationship is giving into the sin and acceptance of it the exact opposite of repentance we’ve been taught to do since Sunday school. Is gay marriage even acknowledged by God? ? I’m 13 and refuse to be lead by people, leaders who support sin. Leaders are fallible, God is not, I can only turn to God to help me throughout this sickness he is my only true spiritual father anyway. My friends call me homophobic but idc. Thank you sincerely for this page of truth someone finally understands my views on homosexuality.


Paul June 9, 2016 at 2:40 pm

Very obvious why there are many of us Good Straight Men still Single these days Unfortunately.


Aria August 9, 2016 at 9:24 pm

I’m a Lesbian and yet I try my hardest to pray, always go to church, listen to God, etc. and I always try not to sin and be the best human possible. I’ve read the Ten Commandments and it says nothing about homosexuality, will I still go to Hell? I don’t think I’m hurting anyone, which sin mostly is, but I don’t wanna go to Hell…


Jack Wellman August 10, 2016 at 9:07 am

Hello Aria. We all are sinners but we must stop sinning. Read 1 John chapter 3 to see why we can’t go on sinning and think we’re saved. If you don’t want to go to hell, come to God and confess your sins and repent of them (turn away from them) and put your trust in Christ. The Bible is clear about the fate of those who live in sexual immorality (Rev 21:8) and the Apostle Paul wrote “I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God” (Gal 5:21). Read 1 Cor 6 as we are all told to “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin[e] a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body” (1st Cor 6:18-20). All sin is against God so all sin does hurt others, including us foremost and no child of God continues to live in sin, otherwise they are not a child of God (1 John 3). Talk to your pastor about this and see why you need to be brought to repentance and faith in Christ.


Brassica January 3, 2017 at 10:35 pm

Hi jack.. When I was at a younger age, I always heard about loving someone with same sex is a sin. Unexpectedly, I met a friend who is a lesbian. She became my friend for 6 months until our relationship goes deeper. I never expected this but it happened. Now I’m trying to do something about this. How many times I tried to leave her but its not that easy to do. Every time I’m trying to go away from her, my heart feels too much pain maybe its because of all the love and care that I experienced when I’m with her. She is doing everything for me and she said that if i will leave her , everything is worthless. When shes praying, shes always asking GOD not to take me away her. This is something melting my heart. What should I do?


Brassica January 3, 2017 at 10:44 pm

What should I do to avoid the person I really love? She’s a woman and I as well. It’s very hard to leave the person who loved and cared for you. She is doing everything for me and what she’s always praying to GOD is not to take me away from her. This melts my heart.


Jack Wellman January 4, 2017 at 8:08 am

Hello Brassica. I can only tell you what the Bible teaches and as Rev 21:8 says, the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.” Please read 1 John chapter 3 to see who is and who is not really saved and here is more on those who practice certain sins will not be going to heaven: “http://www.openbible.info/topics/homosexuality


Jack Wellman January 4, 2017 at 8:19 am

Please re-read this article and the Scriptures to see that this lifestyle is not the life of those who have repented (turned away from and forsaken sin).


H Lee January 26, 2017 at 2:58 pm

Thank you for the thoughtful comments and your article on the issues of same sex marriage. I’ve seen many people simply stating that same sex marriage is wrong without much thought, but in the article you presented in a way that is more appealing by explaining what the Bible actually says about marriage.


Jack Wellman January 26, 2017 at 3:51 pm

Thank you for your kind words “H Lee.” Glory to God. It is His Word, not mine.


DocReits February 13, 2017 at 1:16 am

What a great article Pastor Jack! I appreciate the massive time replying and praying for these dear folks. I joined you and others in prayer as I read their stories.

I was reading through the epistle of Jude the other night and could not help thinking of the apostate Christian church in America and Europe which does not call out gay relations including gay marriage as sin. In fact the opposite, many of these Churches endorse gay marriage.

Listen especially to the following way Jude calls out the apostasy in the church itself. He makes it very clear the final destination of these members of the church(“Christians”) partaking in these fleshly “love” feasts sanctioned by the local church. He also gives a stern warning to those he is addressing(members of the church) for allowing such activities (Jude vs 3 and ff):

“3 Dear friends, I had been eagerly planning to write to you about the salvation we all share. But now I find that I must write about something else, urging you to defend the faith that God has entrusted once for all time to his holy people. 4 I say this because some ungodly people have wormed their way into your churches, saying that God’s marvelous grace allows us to live immoral lives. The condemnation of such people was recorded long ago, for they have denied our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ.

5 So I want to remind you, though you already know these things, that Jesus first rescued the nation of Israel from Egypt, but later he destroyed those who did not remain faithful. 6 And I remind you of the angels who did not stay within the limits of authority God gave them but left the place where they belonged. God has kept them securely chained in prisons of darkness, waiting for the great day of judgment. 7 And don’t forget Sodom and Gomorrah and their neighboring towns, which were filled with immorality and every kind of sexual perversion. Those cities were destroyed by fire and serve as a warning of the eternal fire of God’s judgment.

8 In the same way, these people—who claim authority from their dreams—live immoral lives, defy authority, and scoff at supernatural beings. 9 But even Michael, one of the mightiest of the angels, did not dare accuse the devil of blasphemy, but simply said, “The Lord rebuke you!” (This took place when Michael was arguing with the devil about Moses’ body.) 10 But these people scoff at things they do not understand. Like unthinking animals, they do whatever their instincts tell them, and so they bring about their own destruction. 11 What sorrow awaits them! For they follow in the footsteps of Cain, who killed his brother. Like Balaam, they deceive people for money. And like Korah, they perish in their rebellion.

12 When these people eat with you in your fellowship meals commemorating the Lord’s love, they are like dangerous reefs that can shipwreck you. They are like shameless shepherds who care only for themselves. They are like clouds blowing over the land without giving any rain. They are like trees in autumn that are doubly dead, for they bear no fruit and have been pulled up by the roots. 13 They are like wild waves of the sea, churning up the foam of their shameful deeds. They are like wandering stars, doomed forever to blackest darkness.

14 Enoch, who lived in the seventh generation after Adam, prophesied about these people. He said, “Listen! The Lord is coming with countless thousands of his holy ones 15 to execute judgment on the people of the world. He will convict every person of all the ungodly things they have done and for all the insults that ungodly sinners have spoken against him.”

16 These people are grumblers and complainers, living only to satisfy their desires. They brag loudly about themselves, and they flatter others to get what they want.

17 But you, my dear friends, must remember what the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ predicted. 18 They told you that in the last times there would be scoffers whose purpose in life is to satisfy their ungodly desires. 19 These people are the ones who are creating divisions among you. They follow their natural instincts because they do not have God’s Spirit in them.

20 But you, dear friends, must build each other up in your most holy faith, pray in the power of the Holy Spirit,21 and await the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ, who will bring you eternal life. In this way, you will keep yourselves safe in God’s love.

22 And you must show mercy to those whose faith is wavering. 23 Rescue others by snatching them from the flames of judgment. Show mercy to still others, but do so with great caution, hating the sins that contaminate their lives.

24 Now all glory to God, who is able to keep you from falling away and will bring you with great joy into his glorious presence without a single fault. 25 All glory to him who alone is God, our Savior through Jesus Christ our Lord. All glory, majesty, power, and authority are his before all time, and in the present, and beyond all time! Amen.”

I am well aware that we all sin, Christians and non-Christians alike. God commands that Christians turn from sin(repent) daily though. We are not to embrace sin as a lifestyle. Therefore being a “Gay Christian” is an oxymoron. God help the church to be as brave as you are Pastor Jack in bringing this sensitive topic forward.



A Nigerian Youth March 7, 2017 at 2:28 am

I am 23 years old guy. I was brought up in a vibrant Christian home. While growing up, I would watch movies and try playing out the female characters. I would dress and use my mum’s make up in secret. I out grew this when I was 13 but the reality was now I start gesticulating like a woman. I have the talent of singing, growing up (I was a soprano singer) I started listen to worldly music. When I got to the senior secondary level. I have mastered the feminine mannerism and it was now an addendum to my persona. My classmates teased me calling me a boy girl. The truth was at that time I did not let those world’s get to me. I was denied a prefect status because I was girlie. I was not moved. After secondary, I stayed at home for almost a year waiting to gain admission to a tertiary institution. I spent most of my leisure time watching pornography. Then, I started masturbating. At first, it started as an act to reassure myself of being a man. Even after getting into the University I continued in this sinful act. (at this point I had become an addict) In my third year, I visited my guardian and I was housed in their boy’s quarter. That night before going to bed, I watched pornography and masturbated. I woke up in the early homes of the morning, I realised I had a wet dream and this time there was something different. I recalled it was with a male figure. I repented and prayed. I went back to my addictive act some months later. Then, I re-dedicated my life to God on the 3rd of July 2015. Before the end of that year, I went back to my addictive way of masturbating to pornography.
By July 2016, while I writing my final project. I was watching a popular television series and I realized that I had an arousal when two male characters kissed. I was confused and afraid so prayed to go for forgiveness. I stopped masturbating for a month, I enrolled at a 40days Christian Recovery from Addiction Program. I had two or three same sex wet dreams. I watch some YouTube Christian videos on how we open certain spiritual door for the enemy to creep in. At that point, I made up up m min to stop masturbating (this was September 2016). Through October I did not experience this sexual dreams. The week I started thinking and thanking God, I had a dream again. I can tell my parents because they seem judgmental. Through December. It was peaceful.
At the crossover service, I prayed to God to uproot any seed of homosexuality in my life. I feel within me that he answered but on getting back home. I was my bed, I dozed off and I just felt something lie on me. I woke up, utter some word of prayer and slept. Since then, the dream have on and off. It’s just that this time, it’s more aggressive and twice now I had dream where I’m kissed. I am confused. I am still holding on and praying that he answers me.


Jack Wellman March 7, 2017 at 7:32 am

You are under spiritual attack I believe. The Enemy doesn’t want you to obey God but come back into the world of sin. Try praying and reading at least one chapter before bed. God is not finished with all of us….as we all fall short of His glory. Don’t give up my friend. I will pray for you and stay in the Word of God. Even try fasting and soak your minds in the Bible before you go to bed.


Etta Hughes November 18, 2017 at 9:24 am

I have a niece that is in this deceptive lifestyle that surrounds herself with people of the like. We have locked horns on this, I have shown her in the Word where this type of relationship is not of God. It had come to the point of her closing herself to what I was saying. I had to give her over to God and step back from the fellowship to tack a look at myself and this situation in its entirety, it truly hurt to let go of her, but if I hadn’t, the relationship could have been ruined. It was not easy for me to stomach, and still at this time, it is hard to stomach, especially since she informed us that they are getting married. It took me quite a while to come to the point of loving the sinner, but hating the sin. Our relationship is getting better, but, there is such a strong spirit of rebellion, she has said that she doesn’t care what people say, she is going to live her life and be happy. It hurts not only me, it hurts her parents, and her grandmothers, she insist on liberating herself on social media, hurting and embarrassing my family even more. I have given her to God and leave her in His hands to deal with, because she has such a strong rebellious spirit. I feel as though I have given her the truth, I have even prayed for her, I love her and don’t know how to reach her, can you please help me


Jack Wellman November 18, 2017 at 11:21 am

Hello Etta. You have done all you can. Only God can change the human heart (Prov 21:1) and only He can convict her of this sin and rebellion by His Spirit, so it doesn’t sound like she is saved so let’s pray for that….all you can do is love her, care for her, show her your love and support, and leave the rest to God. Is that what your pastor told you? Have you talked with him? Only God can reach her…and if we try to do this, we can only drive her further away from God and from you.


Unknown June 19, 2018 at 2:46 am

I am thinking I am bisexual but have not told anyone about my thoughts. My family is very religious and I don’t want to “disappoint” them. I want to go to heaven and be loved by my family still. I am very scared for what will come for my coming out.


Jack Wellman June 19, 2018 at 8:38 am

I would fear God more than your family. Your family cannot judge you and send you to a place of eternal separation from God and saved family members. If you want to go to heaven, don’t worry about disappointing family but repent of this and confess it to God because those who practice such things, the Bible says, will not be going to heaven (Gal 6:19-22 & elsewhere).


Kayla September 29, 2019 at 5:40 am

Here’s my question to all this..
You say that if you practice homosexuality that you can’t or shouldn’t be a member of the church but don’t people sin some kind of sin everyday? So nobody would be a member of the church..


Jack Wellman September 29, 2019 at 9:09 am

Should someone who is a thief become a church tresurer. Should someone who is living in adultery be counseling married couples? The Bible says and Jesus Himself gives us the model of church discipline (Matt 18:15-20). Yes, we all sin, but we are striving to overcome sin, but someone who refuses to repent of the sin (like homosexuality) will not inherit the Kingdom of God (1 Cor 6; Gal 5; Rev 21:8). We are to be holy as God as holy. Not perfect or sinless, but we will be sinning less over time. What is worse? Lying or committing adultery? If we sin we repent but whoever continues practicing sin is a slave of sin. Paul said we are to purge the church of those who refuse to repent like the man having sex with his mother-in-law. That’s what the Bible says. We cannot condone sin.


Grigor January 27, 2020 at 4:36 pm

I’m 20 years old i’m gay i mean i feel myself as gay as i remember me but i’ve never done it with a man not considering some touches and end, i just sometimes feel like how much i want a man but then repress me again and at times i hate God or start to argue with him i dont know really i feel so alone i pray and please pray for me to be changed or if he dont wanna change me to heterosexual so he can just switch my wish-to-men off.


Jack Wellman January 27, 2020 at 5:09 pm

Hello my friend. I will certainly judge no one but rather, I will pray for you my friend. The very fact that you came to this article about this subject must be the work of the Holy Spirit in convicting you of your sin, as He does us too. You are not alone. Others are reading this and I am sure, they will pray for you brother. God can change the human heart (Prov 21:1; 2 Cor 5:17) and will help us in all our struggles by Jesus’ strength (Phil 4:13), so that’s what I pray for you my friend Grigor. Don’t lose heart. God can save you.


RayanB September 29, 2021 at 10:29 am

Great article. This will surely help as I have been teaching young people in the church. Thanks.

To anyone who can read this, please help me pray that Christ will be evident in the lives of young people I’m teaching.


Jack Wellman September 29, 2021 at 11:44 am

Thank you for your comment. Amen to your praying for Christ’s evidence in the lives of the young people you are teaching. God bless you for your labor of love for His glory in teaching these children.


Jack Wellman March 10, 2015 at 8:54 pm

Your words bring me real joy Ish. Wow…I think I too would rather be crazy for Jesus than sane without Him. My family once told me when I trusted in Christ that I was brainwashed…I told them that my brain needed washing…but the blood of the Lamb! Praise God for your faith my friend. Come quickly Lord so I can meet Ish in person! I thank God for you Ish.


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