Unequally Yoked? Meaning, Scriptures and Lesson

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What does the Bible mean by saying we are not to be unequally yoked?  What do the Scriptures say this means and why are we commanded to not be unequally yoked.

The Yoke

What is a yoke?  A yoke is an implement that is used to harness animals together to pull a load or a plow.  The yoke is a familiar and useful tool to agrarian (farming) societies.  This device is used to join a pair of animals, like oxen, to work together, simultaneously.  They can be used to pull out tree trunks, move boulders, pull logs, to plow fields, or pull a loaded cart.  The yoke is often used in the Bible to express the symbolism of having two that are similar in capacity so that they can both work together.  Jesus referred to a yoke once when He told His followers to, Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30).  When we are walking with Christ and are in Christ, we can share the load of our life with Him and the walk, although not easy, will be more bearable.

Unequally Yoke

A yoke is an implement that is used to harness animals together to pull a load or a plow.

A yoke is an implement that is used to harness animals together to pull a load or a plow.

What did Paul mean when he said to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14)?  Does he mean with friends or with those we are dating or considering marriage with?  I believe it is all of these that Paul was addressing but he may be emphasizing marriage in these texts.  In the context we can see that Paul was writing about unbelievers (including friends), those we might consider dating, and those whom we might want to marry.  When we read the entire context of 2 Corinthians chapter six, I believe we can see the answer clearly as with any Scriptures.  Context is always important.  As a rule, I do not like to read just one verse and quote it without reading the entire chapter and possibly the entire book.  So let’s see what Paul was talking about in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18:

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial, Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?  What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?  For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” Therefore, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” And, “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”

In verses 14-16 Paul contrasts light and darkness and righteousness with wickedness.  These have nothing in common.  Jesus said thatYou are the light of the world (Matthew 5:16) but men loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil (John 3:19a).  No one who believes in Christ should stay in darkness (John 12:46c).

Also consider, What harmony is there between Christ and Belial (2 Corinthians 6:15)? The answer is there is no agreement between the two!  Belial is a symbol of a demon or the Devil himself. Belial also means someone who is self-sufficient, truly independent, and has no master.  It is no wonder that Belial is a Hebrew adjective meaning “worthless.”  We must not be self-sufficient but worship and depend upon our Master…that is Jesus Christ.  These two are diametrically opposed and opposites of each other.

We are told that we are the temple of God because God the Holy Spirit dwells in us, therefore there is no place for idols. God must be first and foremost in our lives (Matthew 6:33) but this would be difficult if we marry or have as best friends those who do not believe in God.

Just as God told Israel, Come out from them and be separate (Isaiah 52:11) so we too must be separate from unbelievers in close friendships and in marriage (which includes dating non-believers).  God is our Father (2 Corinthians 6:18) but the unbelievers have Satan as their father (John 8:44).  I know that sounds harsh, but those are not my words, rather,  that is Jesus speaking.

Unequal Yokes

Imagine you see a farmer getting ready to plow his or her field.  They hook up a powerful ox to one side and on the other side, they hook up a tiny little Chihuahua.  Which side is going to work the hardest?  Will they plow together in an equal fashion?  Can they walk along and carry the load on an equal basis?  Of course not!  One will likely be dragged along and impede the progress of the other.  One may pull to the left and one may pull to the right.  The one that is the primary worker will be pulling more than their fair share.  The ox will strain because the Chihuahua will want to run away or go the other direction.  They can not work together because they are unequally yoked together.  They will have little success and the work will either not get done or it will be exponentially more difficult.  It is not fair to the Chihuahua or to the ox.  This will simply not work.  They will eventually have to be unyoked.  For some that are unequally yoked, this means divorce.  How tragic and how unnecessary; it could have been prevented.

The same principle applies to dating or considering an unbeliever as a marriage partner.  Their morals will not be the same, they may have differing principles in child rearing, their television or movie taste will be not be the same, their language, work ethic, just about everything will be different.  They will struggle at almost ever thing they do.  God commands Christians to not marry unbelievers because it is in their best interests.  No marriage is always better than a bad marriage, especially since marriage is intended to last until “death do us part.”  Don’t be fooled by thinking that you can convert them after you marry them because it is God who draws people to Christ (John 6:44).  Just because they say they believe in God does not mean they believe in Jesus Christ as their Lord for He is Lord of all or He is not Lord at all.  Even the Devil and his demons believe in God but that doesn’t make them Christians (James 2:19).  You will know them by their fruit (Matthew 7:16, 20) and not by what they say.  Time will tell.  Jesus meant this when He said, A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit (Matthew 7:18) and Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit (Matthew 7:17).

Equally Yoked

When Jesus said toTake my yoke upon you,” there is the idea that we can put our heavy loads on His shoulders (which is where the yoke goes on the team of oxen).  We must be walking along side of Christ to have the yoke be useful to us. If we walk ahead of Christ, the load will be on us…if we walk behind, we will get no help with our heavy burdens…but if we walk with Christ, we have access to Christ and we can have Him share the load.  That is how we can find rest for [our] souls” for His “yoke is easy and His burden is light.”  The same principle applies to those who marry believers.  They walk together in agreement.  They can share life’s heavy loads together forTwo are better than one, because they have a good return for their work (Ecclesiastes 4:9) andIf one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up (Ecclesiastes4:10)!  Amos 3:3 puts it this way, Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?

Being married to believers is like a three-fold cord because, one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:12).  Two are able to stand stronger than one against the Enemy but when Christ is in the marriage, it becomes a strong “cord of three strands” which is “not quickly broken.”  The idea is that when Christ is at the center of the marriage, the two become stronger because of Christ’s presence and His strength.

I have married many couples who were both believers and I have married couples who were non-believers but I refuse to marry couples where one is a believer and the other is a non-believer.  Believe me when I say this that I am trying to spare them much grief and heartache and perhaps prevent a needless divorce.

If You’re Married to an Unbeliever

What happens if you are presently married to an unbeliever?  My own opinion is worthless compared to what the Bible teaches.  Paul wrote that If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.  For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband (1 Corinthians 7:12-14).  It is crystal clear that Paul says not to divorce someone if they are not a believer because you may be an agent used by God to bring that person to saving faith.  Paul concludes this thought by writing that such a person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them (1 Corinthians 7:17).


There is no doubt that a Christian should not date, become engaged, or marry an unbeliever.  They will have trouble in their marriage to be sure, they will be unequally yoked throughout their lives, they will have many disagreements, they will struggle over ethical and moral decisions, they will differ in their child rearing philosophies, but above all God commands believers to “not be yoked together with unbelievers “ because “what fellowship can light have with darkness?“   It is for our own good and God always knows what best for us…more so than we do for He is God and we are not.

Read more about a model for the Christian marriage here:

Cord of Three Strands

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Robert May 8, 2013 at 3:14 pm

Great article Jack,
So much heartache is caused by people joining up who are unequally yoked; whether in marriage, business, or whatever. Sooner or later, their differing worldviews will cause problems. Thanks again for this insight.
Yours in Christ,


Jack Wellman May 8, 2013 at 4:38 pm

I thanks Robert. I agree…it is for thier best interest to truly be married to believers if you are one and not married to unbelievers if you are one, because I personallly, on many marriage articles, have such grief they deal with. Thanks so much for the encouragement.


Al May 9, 2013 at 8:39 am

I believe and have accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and savior. The thing is I have a girlfriend who is not a Christian; she believes in God, but does not believe in Christ as her savior, and I dont know if she ever will. We met each other before I became a Christian. I have always believed but havent always been a follower of Christ.

I pray and hope for her to turn to Jesus. But maybe I should leave her, though it’s going to be hard. I just hope she’ll understand.

Thanks for the article.. it arrived at the right time. God bless you


Jack Wellman May 9, 2013 at 9:33 am

Thank you Al for your comment. This must be painful my friend. I am assuming you started to date your girlfriend before you became a Christian? I am glad that you found out though about how God feels and what His Word says for no marriage is better than a bad one and being married to an unbeliever can bring such heartache and division and if there will be children, the parents need to be on the same page.

I too hope she understands but she will not likely do so. This might be a great opportunity to sit down with her and go over these verses and tell her that you’re first love is always going to be God and that He comes first. You can also pray for her to come to know Jesus Christ.


Al May 9, 2013 at 10:52 am

Thank you Jack. Yes we started to date before I became a Christian. She has actually said she will understand if I leave her, but it will still be quite painful of course. I surely will pray for to come to know Jesus.


Al May 9, 2013 at 10:53 am

For her*


Alicia May 17, 2013 at 4:32 am


I’ve been reading your articles for a few hours now and have enjoyed all that I’ve read. I decided to search for this topic on your site, since I am a believer married to an unbeliever. It is amazing how true the scripture is on this topic. It is definitely difficult having different beliefs and views. I didn’t realize how “unbelieving” my husband was until after we were married, and it’s been bothering me. I pray about it, and I mention God/Jesus to him every once in a while, but it seems as if he’s even angry at God and has even applied that we were like His “toys.” I don’t know what happened in his life to feel like that. With completely different moral views, it will be a challenge. I recently told him that it is my duty and purpose to make Jesus a part of our children’s lives (they’re both under 4). I haven’t been to a church in a very long time, and thankfully he is respectful of my want to find a good church for myself and my children. However, he doesn’t understand me not wanting my child to play certain video games or watch certain shows and he is obviously annoyed with me at times, even somewhat angry. I’ve warned him of what is going to happen in the future, so hopefully when he sees these things, he will remember what I’ve said and see that it is all so real (persecution, rapture, mark of the beast, antichrist, etc). However, at the moment he has definitely been fooled, as he thinks it’s ridiculous to think RFID chips would be anything bad, and if a bunch of people disappear (rapture) he’d think it was aliens. Satan sure is a good deceiver! I just want to thank you for writing this article for people that are seeking answers on this subject. I will continue to pray for my husband, and will be patiently hoping for God to show him the light and love he offers.


Jack Wellman May 17, 2013 at 12:05 pm

Thank you Alicia. You are right to see prayer as the only true source of change for your husband for Satan is a deceiver for sure but I pray others will join us in praying for your husband to repent and see his need for a Savior in Jesus Christ and trust in Him.


kayode May 21, 2013 at 2:57 am

Thank you for this article,as you wrote it there that a non believer also believe in God but not jesus,i want you to emphasis on this sentence because am dating a muslim girl,that doesn’t believe in jesus but believe in God.and use to confuse me that we are serving thesame God.
Please,is this true that christian and muslim worshiping thesame God?


Jack Wellman May 21, 2013 at 10:20 am

Hello Kayode and thank you for your question. As painful as this is, you must not be dating a girl that doesn’t believe in Jesus for through Jesus alone is there salvation (Acts 4:12, Acts 16:30-31, John 3:16-18, John 6:44). There is no other way to God and to heaven than thru Jesus alone.

Let me say this as a warning to you and to this girl who “believes” in God. James 2:19 says “You believe that God is one; you do well. Even the demons believe—and shudder!” but of course they are not Christians. The Muslims do NOT worship the same God and Allah is not God but a false God which we are commanded to not worship which is given in the First Commandment. If you are a Christian, you are commanded to not be unequally yoked and must cut off this relationship or God will not be pleased. You must seek first and above all things, the Kingdom and His righteousness (Matt 6:33).


Laurence September 3, 2013 at 6:09 am

This is such a very interesting Article and Topic to talk about. I had loved a non believer once. I believe in Jesus Christ.Unfortunately, she does not. I am keep putting in my mind that God has a purpose why I met that person- and that is to show to that person the gospel of God and to tell that Jesus Christ is our only way to be save. I even thought to myself, that God, maybe, used me as an instrument so that I could introduce Jesus Christ to that person. Many have commented that it is better to leave that person (the non believers). I am wondered why they are giving up that easily for the person they love. Introducing Jesus Christ may be hard to accept for someone. But Since I really love that person, as much as I wanted that person to have salvation, I will do my best (though I know that it will not be a big deal to that person) to introduce to her the greatness of God. I think God will be please more if there is a one person in this planet that you had change from non believer to a believer. I think that is the main purpose why God introduce that person to my life- to test if your love could defy some ethical standards, and if that kind of barrier could detain you from loving him/her.or to test if that kind of relationship you have is worth having or not. I also belived that Love knows no boudary. I think I will just pray that I could turn that person into a believer, if not in this planet, perhaps in another lifetime.


Jack Wellman September 3, 2013 at 12:55 pm

Thank you Laurence for your comment. I agree that we can pray for a person who is not saved but God alone decides who is saved (Eph 1,2) and so God is the one who brings people to Christ (John 6:44). I am sorry you do not agree to 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 and Paul’s, and God’s teachings. We can not change anyone on this or any other planet but God can (Prov 21:1). God is pleased when we obey Him ((2 Corinthians 6:15).


Anita Hampton January 9, 2014 at 1:58 am

Good Morning

Im a 51 year old female-Not married and dont have children.My Mom was my best friend she passed away suddenly in 2012-She left me a legacy-Taste Nita taste and see how good God is.She really loved the Lord and because of this scripture i have become more dependent on Jesus.However -I think im impatient-What i pray for never materialises.I want to stop smoking cigarettes,I need a scipture that i can turn to -to overcome this habit.I really would like my nountain of debt to dissappear-And i would really like a partner.Im not sure -But Jesus is listening to me i think.Please assist me with scriptures.Also.Your article on unqually yoked.I loved it .Thank You.However can 1 pray that the mind and heart be equally yoked to the Holy Spirit.That they become 1?


Jack Wellman January 9, 2014 at 5:50 pm

Hello Anita. I am sorry for such heartache my friend. I love your comment about being equally yoked with the Holy Spirt. Wow…that’s a great way to say it. Brilliant and thank you so much. Let me instead of one or two Scriptures, direct you to an article that may give you help with the smoking addiction at this link: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-can-i-overcome-addiction-and-sin-in-my-life/ I pray it helps and keep that battle going for if you are wanting to overcome this, this is a great sign that the Holy Spirit is working in you Anita. Keep battling…seek His supernatural power and you can do it by God’s strength.


Anita Hampton January 10, 2014 at 3:54 am

Good Afternoon Jack

Thank you so much for the feedback.I printed the article and have a weekend to read it and be encouraged by it.
Ive learnt that in all things i must trust the Lord.But there comes a time when im so desparate to hear another voice someone that answers me immediately-I miss having conversations.Almost always-I hear people say how God has blessed them-And it pains me no end that there blessings is over and above anything that i can possibly imagine.So i am being hesitant and i dare say reluctant to step out grasp Jesus hand and say lead me Lord-Here am i.Its almost a case of better the devil you know than the devil you dont know-No disrespect intended-And this bothers me no end.For that reason i questioned whether my heart and my can be equally yoked to that of the Holy Spirit.Natuarally my comment didnt come from me.That must have been the holy spirit.So i cant understand why it is that im struggling to let go-Knowing how Good God has been to me.It seems to me -That im waiting on the Lord(silently and doing nothing-im just waiting)While the Holy Spirit is waiting on ME-So im not sure whos waiting on whom and why is that anyone is waiting and not doing!!I need to break some kind of strong hold thats on or over my life-That whatever it is thats holding me back needs to be revealed and severed.But i dont know what it is yet i can feel it sometimes.


Anita Hampton January 10, 2014 at 4:06 am


1 of the questions i have is :What is the Holy Spirits Yoke.I never understood that.The analogy of cattle being yoked together to plogh a farmand that they should be of the same species,makes sense to me.But the scripture Mathew 11 vs 30- Says: For my yoke is easy but my burden is light.I dont understand what Jesus MEANS BY HIS YOKE AND HIS BURDEN BEING LIGHT.A friend of mine asked me to explain this scripture and i didnt convince myself.


Jack Wellman January 10, 2014 at 8:57 am

Jesus was not really saying that being a disciple of His would be easy but to make that decision to believe in and trust in Him is easy. Also, a yoke was usually held or the burden shared by two oxen and so if Jesus is asking you to take on His yoke, He is saying that it better to have Him take some of the load off during our trials and sorrows than to go it alone. It is easy to do this because we must bring our heavy burdens to Him and lay them at His feet and plead for His aid to should the weight. Does this make sense Anita? Thank you for such a great question.


Ella April 1, 2014 at 11:58 pm

Thank you for the article. I was having my daily devotions and came upon this verse and it seems as if the Lord is warning me not to be yoked with unbelievers. This verse, however does not apply to marriage in my situation now. I have bestfriends who are, technically speaking, unbelievers because they are not really followers of Christ so therefore they are not Christians. They believe in God but like you said thats not the same with being truly a Christian.

I know what the Lord is saying. I understand it but i think there is just something in me thats not letting the message to directly go through in me. I am now questioning that “Lord what do you really mean by yoke?” (That is how i reached here since i looked it up, praying for the Holy Spirit to lead me to an answer). After reading the article, I asked “how then am i suppose to influence these close friends of mine if I wouldn’t really go and meet with them?”

Last night my bestfriends are inviting me to meet and bond with them today at one of my bestfriends’ house but there’s something in me that was having second thoughts about the invitation and now that I am having my daily devotions (MPCWA), I received this warning. I am not sure now if the Lord is telling me not to go or just warning me to be careful when I am aroun them since if I desire to be a light in their lives, I also need to be their in their life.

I really appreciate the article you made. Praying for you Mr. Jack, may God bless you more and use your abilities more for His greater glory.


Jack Wellman April 2, 2014 at 9:14 am

Thank you Ella for your comment and honesty. I do hope you will keep the relationship open for the sake of those who are not yet saved but you already have a good understanding about what this article was saying. Well said. I pray you are salt and light to a dead, decaying, and dark world for the glory of God.


Fefe April 15, 2014 at 7:03 pm

Hi. I just want to say thank you for putting this article out there. I’m a believer married to an unbeliever and it’s one of the hardest thing a person has to go through. The best way I can explain my marriage is I feel like I’m alone all of the time. I’ve always been a believer but strayed away for a while during my early twenties, which was when we got married. Later after God called me back and I got a clearer understanding of His word, I realized that my husband and I were unequally yoked and that was the reason for all of our hardship in the marriage. It just seemed like everything I was for he was against and vice versa. He was even upset about me re-dedicating my life to the Lord. Eventually, it seemed like there was no more support, affection, respect, or trust left in the marriage. I know that the way our marriage is will potentially affect my salvation and I’m afraid of that. Even though I know Paul says that you shouldn’t divorce an unbelieving spouse I feel like that’s my only option. I have tried everything and he doesn’t want to compromise a little. He even told me that he would never “be into church” the way I am. I’m not sharing my experience to scare anyone from marriage, but I feel like this is a good example of what happens when we go outside of God’s plan.


Jack Wellman April 16, 2014 at 11:33 am

Hello Fefe and thank you for your comment. Let me say that this may affect your salvation but not take it away. As I normally first of all recommend, I would ask God to send the Holy Spirit to him to convict him of his sin and if he is not saved, then to repent and trust in Christ since God is the evangelist and He alone can change a heart (Prov 21:1) and please remember that He even changed Saul (a murderer) to Paul a love of God and perhaps the most powerful missionary ever. I so appreciate what you have told me and the readers and perhaps your mistake will keep others from making the same mistake. I will be praying and please talk to your local pastor too to see what he says and don’t delay.


Genesis May 1, 2014 at 7:54 pm

i recently have a guy who likes me and he is an unbeliever and he asked me to prom and i said yes bu we are going as friends. I am starting to like him but i know i shouldn’t be dating an unbeliever so i shouldn’t date him. I asked god about it and when i thought of no dating him it felt like a “no” like god is telling me too date him and i am confused cause i thought we are not suppose to date nonbelievers


Jack Wellman May 1, 2014 at 8:04 pm

Genesis you should speak to your pastor about this. Since you have already committed to go the prom, you can’t change that but something you said troubled me. You wrote “I asked god about it and when i thought of no dating him it felt like a “no” like god is telling me too date him.” God does speak to us but it is through His Word and not Him telling you something that is different from what’s in the Bible. Anytime you feel God is telling you something and it doesn’t agree with the Bible, then it is not from God but perhaps your own desires and inward wishes. The Bible is clear…do not date unbelievers for being unequally yoked with them will take you to places and positions and things you can compromise your faith with. How do you know God is telling you to date him? What was it that made you feel God spoke to you about this? God does not speak to us except by and through His written Word, the Bible. Please don’t date this man for it is sin to do so. You cannot ever trust what you think God is telling you but you can always trust what God tells you through the written Word.


Genesis May 1, 2014 at 8:08 pm

your right it is not from God if i doesn’t agree with his word, it is of the devil trying to get me to sin even more by being with him. I should go by what the word says and not what i think. It is hard for me too do but i know that God will get me through this. Also if the Bible says i can’t then i can’t, for the sake of protecting me and my future. No mater how much it hurts God’s grace will be there for me.

Thank You Jack


Jack Wellman May 1, 2014 at 8:17 pm

Thank you Genesis…I would be lost about God’s will without His Word. At times I struggle like you…and if fact, all believers, if they are honest, would tell you as much. Yes, it does hurt at times but you can always have peace of mind that you obeyed God and that God will bless you for that and you are saving yourself for a godly man someday who will be one of your greatest joys. I too have trouble knowing if its in God’s will or in my will and then I have the only way to know at my fingertips…the Holy Bible. Hope your prom goes well my friend and may God richly bless you and enjoy that night for these are once in a lifetime memories. When I had my prom, they were only in black and white and not color (just kidding, my prom was long ago!)> 🙂


kim August 23, 2014 at 6:27 am

Thanks for the article, I have just ended a friendship based on being unequally yoked. A person my seem that they believe, but are not. Make that a question when you are learning about friends or considering dating. Ask do you believe in Jesus? The enemy deceives with the statement I believe in God. There are many gods, there is 1 true God. It is better to be alone than be in bondage.


Jack Wellman August 23, 2014 at 8:30 am

Kim, thank you so much. I love your humility and passionate desire to obey God, no matter way. Amen to your comment that the enemy is a deceiver. I am so glad you added your powerful testimony.


Rachel August 26, 2014 at 9:48 pm

So there’s this guy that I started to talk to and we became friends on Facebook and I told him that I’m a Christian and he said that that was fine that he wouldn’t judge me or anything. We are really starting to like each other so I told him that he could come to church with me just as friends. He said that it would be hard for him to think of me as just a friend because I’m so pretty. So we’re going to see a movie tomorrow but we aren’t actually in a relationship. I just want to meet him and see what he’s like. Any advice?


Jack Wellman August 27, 2014 at 8:11 am

Hello Rachel. Please take this serious. This man says that your are pretty and that it would be hard for him to think of you just as a friend. The fact is that married couples become best friends first and then end up in marriage. He doesn’t think of you as a friend but as pretty? Advice? Do not date those who are not believers. Please re-read this article. To date him just to see what he’s like is asking for trouble. Talk to your pastor about this and he should tell you the same thing. As Paul warned, and note I said that he warned, and not suggested and so this is a biblical command “2 Corinthians 6:14-18:

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial, Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” Therefore, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” And, “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”

If you continue to do this despite biblical advice and counseling, you are headed for and asking for trouble. Please don’t do this.


Robert August 27, 2014 at 9:22 am

Hi Rachel,
I concur with my friend, Jack Wellman, in that this is a very serious matter you are considering. Jack is absolutely right in sounding a warning here. Basically, with his statement, “…that it would be hard for him to think of [you] as just a friend because [you’re] so pretty”, this guy is probably letting you know that he is going to want more from you (physically) than just a friendship.
His statement about “not judging you” is troubling also. What does that even mean? To me, and this is just my read on all this, that simply sounds like a smart aleck reply to a Christian from a non-Christian. Everything about this guy sends up red flags. He does not sound like a Christian at all, and he sounds like he wants more from you than a Godly woman should be willing to give.
I hope you’ll pray and make the decision God wants you to make. We’ll be praying for you.
Yours in Christ,


Jack Wellman August 27, 2014 at 11:44 am

Amen Robert…I am glad you elaborated much better on this “not judging you” and you are absolutely right brother. I feel that he is in this for more than friendship and to have someone as a girlfriend that is pretty. Well said sir. Please Rachel, take these warnings very seriously. If you get into this relationship Rachel, and it seems you already have since you have a date coming at the movies. Talk to your pastor. He will tell you likely the same thing. Don’t go on this date. The temptation could lead to serious sin.


Rachel August 27, 2014 at 2:52 pm

Thank you for your advice! I have actually been thinking about it a lot and I think I’m going to tell him that I’ve changed my mind and that I feel uncomfortable about going on a date with him.


Jack Wellman August 27, 2014 at 5:26 pm

Rachel, what a great relief this is to Robert and me. I thank God that we could help for we are bound to the Word of God for my opinion, like Oprah Winfrew’s, is nothing you can hang your hat on but the Word of God cannot be broken. Thank you Rachel.


jhen November 3, 2014 at 8:10 pm

hello sir, why do we need not to be yoke with the unbelievers?..
are we talking about the people or the work of satan in their life?.. we are all humans but the difference is we are believers and the others are not,,, yet those who ARE unbelievers are under satans control… so we can be yoke with unbelievers but do not be yoke with what satan had put on them.
???? they are not our enemy. its satan.. so how can we deal with them?.. kindly nswer pls. tnx..


Jack Wellman November 3, 2014 at 8:31 pm

Thank you Jhen for your comment. Please re-read this article sir. I never said that unbelievers are our enemies or that we should not ever associate or be friends with them. If you read the article you will see that I am talking about marrying an unbeliever. No Christian should marry a non-believer and that is what this article is about. Yes, Satan is our enemy and not people. I agree and I never said that in this article. Thank you so much for your comment.


Niccole January 29, 2015 at 10:04 am

I came across this website while running a search on “equally/unequally yoked”, a term that for some reason kept popping in my head. In my case I have recently had to end a friendship of many years because we were too different, and walking completely separate paths. I do believe that believers need to watch who they spend their time with. It’s not that unbelievers are evil, but that there are huge differences in moral beliefs and ways of life. In my case, the unbeliever began to personally attack me for reasons I could not understand. When I choose to follow God, there were by default things I chose not to do any longer. I chose to study the Bible and get a higher education, my friend chose to drink and be perspicuous. I choose to spend time in church and with people who also know the lord so that I can strengthen my understanding and be around those equally yoked, my friend wants to gossip, talk bad about my new friends and make fun of how I spend my time. There is no good reason for me to continue that friendship. I believe god wants us to be around others that share our beliefs. That is not to say we should never speak to those that do not believe but we must guard ourselves because the devil is sneaky and likes to used loved ones in order to gain a foothold into our lives.


Obi February 3, 2015 at 5:37 am

Thanks a lot for this article. I am a believer and married to a believer, but lots of things happen around us in our society where we need to interact or work together with unbelievers.

How can one really handle this around the office, in business places and even in schools (with our kids)? Or is being unequally yoked particular to marriage?



Jack Wellman February 3, 2015 at 8:28 am

Thank you Obi…if you read the context of these verses, you can see that Paul is writing about being yoked in marriage together but for those in the world not saved, pray for them and witness to those around you that they might be saved.


F4 September 6, 2019 at 12:08 pm

Would you point out the verses that indicate he’s referring to marriage only? I’ve read it before and I haven’t seen that myself. Perhaps I have missed something in my readings?


Kay June 23, 2015 at 6:40 am


I am a believer and a believe that God is always true to His words and above all, sovereign. I find the lesson and comments here very insightful. Would just like to know if a marriage of a believer and a none believer has completely no hope? is this kind of marriage just bound to fail? I have brothers who are believers and dated none believers. Eventually they got married in a Christian wedding as their partners were willing to submit to them as their husbands-to-be. Their wives started to constantly attend church with them, attend Bible studies and now share the same faith. They have honored the Gospel even from the beginning of their marriage and in raising their family. This is the same with my friend who is now a pastor and serves the Lord with his wife. I can’t help but only see this as God’s grace. Please enlighten me further.

Thank you very much.



Jack Wellman June 23, 2015 at 7:52 am

Thank you Kay for your question. Yes, there is always hope because Peter and Paul both mention that by the way the believer lives they can show Christ and perhaps win them to belief in him but for ever marriage where one believer marries and unbeliever and it works out well, I have counseled hundreds where it has ended in disaster. God says clearly we are not to be unequally yoked and to disobey this is asking for trouble because it is disobeying God. That is grace yes, but God command us to not be yoked or joined together with unbelievers and exceptions may occur but these are rare and why would you want to go against what God teaches in His Word?


mari cable July 8, 2015 at 10:34 pm

I would like to say that with a heavy heart sadly, there are many unequally yoked IN ‘christian marriages’ suffering. Truth and untruth cannot live together. Too many men pose as one thing and dont obey God in their relationship. Even after counsel they refuse to change and follow God in the whole counsel of His word. Projecting an image is more important to them than right relationship. They dont take responsibility to own up and do the hard work of humility and repentance. This kind of change is part of the sanctification process we undergo when we are true to the Lordship of Jesus. They may apologize but never bear fruit in keeping with repentance. If they are true they will want to allay the fears of hidden sin and destructiveness regarding those they say they love, using God’s resources to transform problems; growing, maturing, honoring, cherishing, healing. Too many demand trust and entitlement without integrity or giving way to humility and love. Those who think they are always ok, cannot internalize grace. Even Jesus did not demand trust. John 10:37,38. “If I am not doing the works of my Father then do not believe me.” We must everyone and everyday follow Psalm 139: 23,24. ” Search me O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” This verse should be dwelt upon more than John 3: 16, as we need to hear it, and do it, more than once! The church has not been a true witness to the reality of what we are called to , too often. And so, I think why our families and people and our country are in such a sorry state! I only rest in Gods word “A wife should not leave her husband, but if she does…” He knows the need does arise and cares for women as no one else. What do you think?


Jack Wellman July 9, 2015 at 9:26 am

Thank you Mari. I have seen so much heartbreak in these situations when unequally yoked couples wed and try to justify their actions by “I can save them after I marry them ” and such comments as these when actually God commands us not do marry unbelievers and the result is often tragic and they are legally bound to an unbelieving spouse. There may not be any harder situation to find oneself than to marry someone who is not a believer. I am not sure of your question about “What do you think?” Could you be more specific on what you are asking. It is probably my dullness of understanding your question so please forgive me for that.


Daniel Henkel July 25, 2015 at 2:44 pm

I have been married to a Mormon for 19 years;together for 21 since we dated in high school before I became a believer. I found Christ just before we got married but was so young both in life and faith that I didn’t think it would matter. In fact, I believed that God would change her; so very certain was I. We were married at age 17 a month after we became pregnant with our first child. I was still so attached to the world that sex outside of marriage was normal to me. I a fledgling believer and she a rebellious Mormon had love and nothing else mattered. During our first year of marriage I became as the term states “on fire for Christ” and she strengthened her faith in Mormonism. We argued constantly during that first year. I found myself praying in the only place I could be by myself in prayer (the bathroom). I was crying out to God saying, “what am I going to do! My wife will die and go to hell and take our child with her should he follow her beliefs!” I heard what I believed to be God’s voice in my head tell me, “You’re not going to do anything, you’re getting in my way. Stop it.” I took this as a message to stop using the Bible to cut my wife’s faith (and my wife in the process) to pieces. So I walked out of that prayer session and told her I wasn’t going to try to change her anymore but that I was going to trust in God. I’ve been living under the hope that God will change her since then. Here we are, together 21 years and four children later and she is still solid in her faith. Regarding our children, we started off fighting until a compromise was made; we had decided that we would take our kids to my church for an hour and then to her church for an hour, and that we’d share our own views of God and Christ with them so that they can decide for themselves one day. Our oldest is 18 and not attached to either faith fully but sometimes seems to lean towards Christ. He is not really attending church unless we force him most of the time. Our younger three go as we direct. I use to believe that God would give me beauty for my ashes and change my wife but I am seeing that my original fears are coming to pass. I am loosing faith and am in despair. It’s been so long and I think I’ve only made it this far because I’ve always believed that God would change my wife. I have realized though that He never actually said He would change her. That I have been living on a false hope. I told her yesterday that I am without hope, depressed, full of anxiety, and that I don’t want to be unequally yoked anymore. I am defeated. I am broken. All I want to do is to disappear. She says she loves me and doesn’t want me to go but I feel so alone and have been feeling this way for a long time. I’ve tried to tell her over the years but every time we’ve argued and I’ve fallen back on what I thought was the voice of the Lord all those years ago. I am without hope and despair of life at times. Not suicidal but am desperate to go Home.


Jack Wellman July 25, 2015 at 6:16 pm

I am speechless and these are hard situations in which to know what to counsel someone, even after many years at the pastorate. Doesn’t the Mormon faith teach wives to be in submission to their husbands which is in the Bible? All you can do, since you don’t have any biblical grounds for divorce, is keep loving her as Christ loves the church. The Bible teaches men to love their wives as Christ loved the church but this is no answer for you, I am sure. What has your own pastor said about this? Have you spoken to him? All I can do it point to you Jesus’ words in Matt 6:33 and Luke 14:26. I am sorry I have not been able to help you.


Michelle July 29, 2015 at 4:37 am


Thank you for this article. I’m greatful that I saw this article of yours. I slightly understand what God wants me to do upon reading your article.(I think so) because ive been struggling and i’m a little bit confused about my situation right now. I just want a confirmation. And i believed that God lead me in this site to clear my mind about my situation. I’m a believer since i was a child. I believed Christ in all my life. but I have a boyfriend dor 7 years who is a roman catholic. I met him when im in college. My relationship with the Lord in past few years are not that good. But now, ive decided to follow His word, to seek Him, to obey his word and to serve Him with all my heart. Then last month ive had a decision to separate from my boyfriend since he is unbeliever, but i love him that i couldnt leave him like that. and i realized that in our 7 years of relationship, I never share the word of the Lord to him. I feel guilty about that. then i started to share the Lord to my boyfriend and he believes it. but sometimes he has a lot of questions about the differences between the roman catholic and born again Christian. But in that situation, i continually inviting him to our gatherings and services at church. Now, i dont know if im doing the right thing, i dont know if im pleasing God with this. because i dont know what really is his motive. I’m thinking maybe he just accept the Lord just to save our relationship or he truly believe and want to accept Christ as his personal savior. I’m confused right now. because he kept asking me that is it not okay if were still dating then at the same time he is learning about Christ? please give me a verse or a thought what do i have to do. Do i need to leave him and he must continue to learn more about Christ all by himself before we date again or its okay that were dating and at the same time im guiding him to know more about the Lord. i want to keep his and my motives pure. please comment. i dont know what to do. i just want to please the Lord. I want to follow him. i want to go deeper to him. please. Thank you and God bless you more!


Jack Wellman July 29, 2015 at 8:23 am

I would speak with your pastor or priest about this. This boyfriend may not really be saved or born again (John 3:3, 7) plus he may not like the Catholic faith. You might want to stay friends but not date for the time being. Since you really want to please the Lord be careful, seek counseling, and don’t date those who you know are not saved for sure.


Michelle July 30, 2015 at 9:05 am

Thanks a lot. I know that I must obey the Lord first before anything else. I’m just a little bit confused. because I opened this to my spiritual leaders at our church last month. Some of them saying that since i already violated the word of the Lord in 2 corinthians 6:14, its better that i should continue inviting him at our church (since my boyfriend said that he already accepted Christ as his Lord and savior.) even were still together. to see if he truly accept the Lord Jesus. and to see if he’s growing for the Lord and then i’ll decide later if whether to separate from him or not. they said that I must see first by his fruits.

And then some of my leaders says that i need to separate from him, as in now. and as in no need to explain why. i must obey the Lord right away. because it is written in 2 corinthians 6:17 that “therefore come out from them and be separate says the Lord.” and also in some verse in the bible said that God alone decides who is saved. and so God is the one who brings people to Christ. not me. And also there is no written in the bible that God is using us as a guide or instrument for them to know Christ. (i think in terms of in a relationship) And they say that the word of the Lord does not depend on the situation of a person. We must obey and do on what is written.

so now im a little bit confused of what i’m really going to do. My boyfriend kept saying that he accepted the Lord Jesus with all his heart, he truly wants to learn about the Lord and he already considered himself as a believer/born again christian. and now he’s asking me that is it okay if were not separating cause he wants me to be his guide to be able to know the Lord deeper. I just always say that he needs to focus to God, not to be able to save our relationship. and we need to keep our motives pure..

Im always praying for the Lord to help me on this. I just want the Lord to be pleased. I think I need to talk to my pastor (actually my dad is also a pastor but i dont know why im not telling my situation to him.) and also I should pray for him (for my bf), whatever the Lord wants us to do, it must be done for His glory. I’m really sorry if my statements are too confusing and a little bit long. I just want you to know the whole story. Thanks again for your time. I really appreciate your comments and suggestions. God bless you Pastor Jack!


Jack Wellman July 30, 2015 at 9:15 am

Thank you Michelle. There is no Bible verse anywhere that says we accept Jesus. I would talk with your dad, yes. I would give this boyfriend time to show he really is saved. I think you show great wisdom in your decision to take your time in this. May God show you the path He wills for your life.


gary September 3, 2015 at 8:34 am

There are several things that I, as a Christian, do not understand about this. I would not be writing about this if it did not happen to a member of my family. I can send you an email to you tell the whole story. But yoking with an unbeliever and stating it will not work is kind of like judging a person without understanding why the person became an unbeliever. Perhaps that person lost his in faith due to a trust issue, in the same line as a person looses trust in one church and moves on. Also, take mission work. Many Christians go to countries that do not believe in Christ, partner (yoke) with them and say if we can convert one than it was well worth it. The example of the ox and what I hear is donkey. Both have similar features, head,tail,legs,body. The only thing is this, the ox is stronger than the donkey and that will not change. The ox won’t get weaker but the donkey will get stronger over time. The Christian won’t get weaker but the unbeliever may get stronger over time and follow the Christian. One last thing, the statement…. They will have trouble in their marriage to be sure, they will be unequally yoked throughout their lives, they will have many disagreements they will struggle over ethical and moral decisions, they will differ in their child rearing philosophies….how do you know that for a fact? Many unbelievers have integrity both ethical and moral and does it not say in Proverbs 11-3 and 28-6 integrity is very important and John 7-24 about judging? I hope you can answer or give me thoughts about this. I am a Christian and been for over 60yrs. You can even call me…I will email my phone number. Thanks, Gary Smith


Bianca October 17, 2015 at 2:10 pm

Dear Sir,
I have a friend who will soon get engaged to a catholic boy. We used to be close friends and shared our joy as believers some years back while going to the same Church. Even though she is aware of the scriptures she has still decided to go ahead with him. He has made it quite clear he doesn’t want to come to the believer church but has agreed that the children will be believers. I am not too close to her and do not want to interfere much. But I can’t sit and watch something wrong happen. What should I do?


Jack Wellman October 18, 2015 at 2:00 pm

Thank you Bianca. You asked a great question; what should you do? I am glad you care enough about your friend to see trouble potentially coming. When people of two different religions marry, they can sometimes manage to live peaceably together. She goes to her church and he to his. However, the difference in religious views are never resolved. It remains a point of contention between the couple. It hinders them from fully becoming one. Then children come along. What was once a quiet stalemate in this man’s having no problem with them going to the believer church and not the Catholic church later becomes an explosive situation. Which church will the child attend? What if he changed his mind? Now he wants them Catholic and she want’s them in the Protestant church. In what religion will they be trained? Sadly, children of these marriages more often than not reject all religion when they grow up. They see the mother and father do nothing but fight over religion and then conclude that religion — all religion — is the problem.

The idea that there is just one special person whom God wants you to marry is a myth. God never said that. It biblical days there were people whose partner was chosen for them and whom they married having never met them before the day of their wedding. It didn’t happen in every case, but it did happen. Yet these people still managed to have a happy marriage. The reason was that both were committed to making the marriage work, no matter what obstacles were in their path.

There isn’t just one right person for you in this world. Imagine if that were true. Out of 6 billion people currently living it would take you thousands of years on average to find the right one! The truth is that there are thousands of woman whom you could happily marry. You simply need to find the one with whom you are willing to spend effort making her happy, while she is willing to spend effort making you happy. You need someone you respect and whom you basically agree regarding issues that are important in your life. The rest can be resolved. But if you are starting out with unresolved issues, then it would be a tragic mistake to marry such a person.

That is why we date before marriage. To find out about the other person. To see if we basically agree about life and where we want to head in life. It is not a tragedy when a couple finds out after dating for a while that they are not a match. It is a tragedy if they marry anyway. Sure, it hurts to break up with someone who you like, but with whom you cannot come to a full agreement. But an unhappy marriage hurts worse and having no biblical grounds to divorce and being “stuck” for life can be terribly regretful.

Can this relationship work? Possibly, but only if both of they resolve their differences ahead of time. Have they had premarital counseling?


Bianca October 18, 2015 at 4:01 pm

Your reply means so much to me. I am so grateful.
They have not yet started the process and they are planning on an engagement party in december this year. marriage is about 1 year from now. So no they haven’t got any premarital counseling . and even if they do in the near future it will mostly be done in the catholic church.


Edna Ingram May 16, 2016 at 11:25 am

Great article, Jack. Our son is a preacher in the church and he also will not marry a Christian to a non-Christian. He says he can not do for someone what it would be wrong for him to do. So proud of him and proud of your article. Thank you for all you do.


Fern August 21, 2016 at 3:02 am

Hi Jack,

If you are interested in someone who is a non-believer but has seen the truth of Christ and wants to willingly come into the same faith, how should one proceed? The Bible does say to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, and it also says that we should move and act in love of Christ as He did, for Christ says that He came to call the sinners not righteous to repentance and He opened up His arms to the Gentiles that willingly wanted to be saved.
Any advice would be appreciated
God bless you


Jack Wellman August 21, 2016 at 8:21 pm

Hello Fern. Yes, Jesus came to call the sinners but He called them to repent and believe (Mark 1:15) and repent means turn away from sins. We should act in love but we should act according to God’s Word and it says we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. The Bible is crystal clear on this point. Please re-read the many verses that show this is commanded by God. You will either want to marry a non-believer more and thus, do what you want, rather than love God first which is proven by your obedience to His Word (1 John chapter 3). He opened salvation up to Gentiles but those Gentiles believed in Christ and turned from their sins (repented) and turned to God. An unsaved spouse may not want you to bring your children to church or want you to be reading the Bible or he may watch R-rated movies, and such. God said to not be unequally yoked and it’s in our best interests to do so, otherwise, you are not obeying what God’s Word said. Talk to your pastor about this and see what he says. My advice is useless; God’s Word is truth.


Leslie Conklin September 3, 2016 at 1:35 pm

I am in the same exact situation with my bf. I am currently going through it right now. I love him so much and hope he will be saved but Jesus should and must be first. I repented of loving him more and now the Lord is changing me to see him as less important. Surrender your rela to Jesus our Lord like I did. He will help you.


Dean September 10, 2016 at 10:02 am

Hello my name is Dean McLeod and I am a Christian first and foremost and I have accepted Jesus Christ as my lord and saver. I am a seventh-day adventist dating a pentecostal. We have been together for nine months now and we know that at some point something has to give in regards to are difference. We are more focus on the relationship that we have with God and he is at the centre of our lives but religion is a factor the stands in are way. We support each other in everything that we do. We are both believer and both Christian but different Religion but are we unequally yoked? Does one of us have to convert? Can this work if we don’t convert? Love does and can conquer all but is love the answer to are situation


Jack Wellman September 10, 2016 at 11:01 am

Hello Dean. I can see trouble when it comes to having children if you do marry. where will the children attend? will you both go to the same church? Is your girlfriend willing to go where you attend now? If not, I see huge problems. Love conquers all but that verse doesn’t refer to dating someone of a different faith. I see all sorts of red flags in this.


Dean September 10, 2016 at 3:22 pm

I sent what you are seeing, my next question is what would you suggest in my situation?


Dean September 13, 2016 at 5:50 am

I see what you are saying, my next question would be what plan of action should we take?


Jack Wellman September 13, 2016 at 8:02 am

I would sit down and counsel with your pastor about this and don’t proceed any further until she and you meet with him and then you can both meet with her priest.


Nita October 22, 2016 at 11:01 am

Hello Jack Wellman:

Thank you for this article, message and collection of Scriptures about ” Unequally Yoked”. I appreciate the words expressed in this article to address my current situation of being unequally yoked. I was in a relationship with a man that stated that he believed in GOD, but has his own “spiritual beliefs”, such as Taoism, Buddhism, Rastafarian beliefs, meditation, praying to his ancestors, and stating that all religions serve the same God in their own similar and unique ways. I was a backslider when he and I met and his thoughts seemed convincing, however I knew and still know that YESHUA MESHIACH is the only way to salvation and eternal life. We had heated discussions about our beliefs and then didn’t want to upset each other, so I compromised. After coming back to CHRIST and really repented of my sins, I re-dedicated my life back to THE MESSIAH!!! HALLELUJAH!!! The main problem is that sins will always bring forth consequences, whether in CHRIST or not. I am to have his children by next year. I feel ashamed, broken, hurt, and a terrible mother because I thought that it could be possible to be unequally yoked because GOD loves marriage, but a house divided cannot stand. He asked me to marry him, but I cannot. He still wants to keep his beliefs and I feel that my hypocrisy couldn’t bring him to Christ. He says that he doesn’t mind me teaching the children about the Christian faith and want s me to be happy, but I won’t be happy knowing that he doesn’t want THE MESSIAH!!! I am living a repentant life – turning away from my past sins; however being pregnant with his children, what should I do??? I know that my enjoyment of sin brought on this misery for me now, however I still want to live holy and only for GOD. Children are blessings, yet they want the love of their father and mother. Any disunity among them can affect a child’s upbringing. I experienced this within my own family and had to learn to love and forgive them, as well as come to the WAY, The TRUTH and The LIFE for myself. I want my children to do the same and for the guy that I loved. I need sound, GODLY advice in what to do. I don’t want the children to live in a house divided and I know that the guy will want to be in his children’s lives, but he doesn’t want to change. What should I do? Thank you.


Jack Wellman October 22, 2016 at 11:08 am

Thank you Nita. Have you talked with your pastor about this? If so, what did he say, and if not, why not? I would speak with him immediately, even if over the phone. You never said if you are married or not. That makes a huge difference in what you can do. If you are living together without being married, you know this is wrong. So, are you married? Can you answer me that Nita and we’ll go from there. Okay? I’ll see what I can do to help.


Ingar M Strachan October 28, 2016 at 10:16 pm

what if we are both are Christians and he is still not transformed? this is a problem. He does not put God first, everything and all his effort and time is into school. he dont read study or meditate on God’s Word, maybe read today’s scripture. the problem is we are not aligned, i feel like i’m an alien or something when dealing with him, like i have several heads or somthing or just speaking another language.


Ingar M Strachan October 28, 2016 at 10:22 pm

i wanted to add, he think engaging in Yugioh is ok watching movies with cursing excessive killing. I’m not into those things. I’m a new creature in Christ Jesus.


Philomena December 14, 2016 at 1:50 am

Dear Jack,
My family and myself have converted from Catholics to believers and have been baptised. I have given my life to Jesus Christ completely. I help unbelievers to know the truth and pray for them daily. Satan has been bringing a lot of obstacles and trouble in my life due to this. Now my son is in love with a Mormon girl (from 3 generations) and I am completely devastated. I didn’t know of this relationship. I don’t want him to go on with this relationship while the rest of the family thinks that we can bring her to Christ. I don’t think this will ever work as her parents are firm mormons and she has been ingrained since birth. She claims she stopped going to her church, but am not sure if this is the truth. I don’t want him to be yoked with her as I have researched their dangerous cult and how hard it is to come out of it. I don’t want him to lose his salvation and I am worried about his future. After all my efforts to save my family, I am so hurt and depressed about this. Please keep him in your prayers. I want him to keep God first place and end this relationship,which he is not willing. But I am trusting my Victorious God to do this.


Jack Wellman December 14, 2016 at 8:28 am

Hello Philomena. Your son cannot lose his salvation because we cannot earn our salvation and therefore, we cannot lose it but as for your son, he is marrying this girl and not their parents. If the woman has claimed she has left her church, then you must believer her. You don’t want to risk losing your relationship with your son. Do you go to church? Does your son? If so, why not all go together to your church? Where does your son attend church at? Will be praying for you and your son.


Aruni December 22, 2016 at 6:28 pm

Can you elaborate a little bit more why those verses in 2Cor 6 are talking about marriage when nowhere in the chapter is marriage talked about? I’m not saying it’s wrong to make an application to marriage, but how did you come to the conclusion that it’s talking about marriage?


Jack Wellman December 22, 2016 at 7:15 pm

Thank you Aruni. It is not just talking about marriage, but it’s about a relationship and an intimate one like dating would be. Christians cannot be mixed with those in the world, therefore marrying someone who is not saved goes against what Paul taught in 2nd Cor 6:14-18. It means we are not to be unequally joined together with non-believers, in dating relationships or marital. What I wrote was “Does he mean with friends or with those we are dating or considering marriage with? I believe it is all of these that Paul was addressing but he may be emphasizing marriage in these texts.” so it’s dating and marriage that I say…not just marriage. Does that help Aruni?


Aruni December 23, 2016 at 2:14 pm

Thank you for the answer. Yes, it helps. As a follow up question, what would you say to Christians who live in areas/countries where the ratio male/female of saved believers is very uneven (one way or another) that either men cannot find Christian women, or the other way around? Are these believers condemned to stay single for the rest of their lives? Are they deprived of being parents and having children just because they live in a place where they can’t find a Christian mate? Is it better for them to burn in lust or marry an unbeliever? It’s not a matter of desire, it’s a matter of availability. This is a reality for many Christians in various areas around the world. What would you say to them?


Gilles Lamoureux December 29, 2016 at 2:33 pm

I dated a woman who I still believe is a Christian but was acting immorally when I first met her, as I was. I then became a Christian, of my own free will and after breaking up and coming back together we married. After many years of marriage she rejected me, having lied and deceived me into leaving. We were evidently equally yoked. As I grew, I could not agree on her morality, television watching and other matters. We have been separated divorced now for 15 years, and I do believe she is a professing Christian, but in many areas still far short of the mark in her behaviors and opinions. It was like we were never equally yoked as Christians. I have also seen women, and men, who are not professing Christians, who live by higher standards. So, I find the unequally yoked admonition very confusing. Evidently maturity plays a part. What’s your opinion on this.


Jack Wellman December 29, 2016 at 2:51 pm

Yes, maturity is importance, but obedience is the most important of all. I believe you were deceived by this woman, and I can’t imagine how much this hurt. As for the unequally yoked admonition, it is more of a command as Paul says we are not to be yoked together or joined together with those who are not saved…and still living in darkness. You were not at fault for marrying this woman who may be a false convert, so you have not gone against this command at all. Is that what you mean sir? Thank you so much for your question Mr. Lamoureux.


Aruni January 3, 2017 at 7:03 am

No answer for this?


Jack Wellman January 3, 2017 at 8:48 am

Which question did I not answer Aruni? Can you tell me? I have responded.


Aruni January 3, 2017 at 2:53 pm

This question did not receive an answer:

As a follow up question, what would you say to Christians who live in areas/countries where the ratio male/female of saved believers is very uneven (one way or another) that either men cannot find Christian women, or the other way around? Are these believers condemned to stay single for the rest of their lives? Are they deprived of being parents and having children just because they live in a place where they can’t find a Christian mate? Is it better for them to burn in lust or marry an unbeliever? It’s not a matter of desire, it’s a matter of availability. This is a reality for many Christians in various areas around the world. What would you say to them?


Jack Wellman January 3, 2017 at 3:00 pm

Paul says that he wishes that they stay as he is. There are no specific commands that “condemn other to be single” but what can we do if they live in a place where there are no Christian mates available? It is better neither to burn with lust or marry an unbeliever. This isn’t an “either/or” as both are wrong. That is no choice my friend. What can I say to them? Just what the Bible says…we must seek Christ and the kingdom first (Matt 6:33). What would you suggest my friend? Some in the Old Testament were told not to marry. What would you suggest that is biblical?


Jack Wellman January 3, 2017 at 3:00 pm

What question can you tell me was not answered? Can you ask it again?


Melissa St John January 3, 2017 at 9:24 pm

Today I read an article on a church pastors page citing 8 things a former lesbian has to say to Christians.
I’ll skip the other 7. This one confuses me coming from a pastor: to befriend and fellowship with non believers so they accept Christ because of our Christian influence.
The pastor goes on to say, per the former lesbian, we shouldn’t talk about salvation right away, we should get to know them, ask questions about their lifestyle and God.
I was taught the opposite, ‘to tell the good news of Christ and if it’s not receive shake the dust off your feet, Mark 6:11.
In today’s society that sounds pretty intolerant to unbelievers yet it’s very difficult to maintain relationships with people who have opposing beliefs. The pastor from the article supports the former lesbian suggestion that we should take up relationships with non believers as part of sharing the gospel.
So, my question is which is right: to tell the gospel and leave the results to God or take up relationships with unbelievers so our faith influences them to come to Christ.
Thank you.


Jack Wellman January 3, 2017 at 10:25 pm

Thank you Melissa. I think I am with you that we should offer the gospel and tell them, like Jesus did, to repent and believe (Mark 1:15). What if we’re trying to develop a relationship with them and take the time to get to know them before sharing the gospel but what if they move, or die, or Christ returns, or… I think you said it perfectly where you commented ” tell the gospel and leave the results to God.” Amen. I agree. We can’t save anyone anyway. It is God Who saves but He does use us as a means to save some. I don’t see even one example in the New Testament where they used relationship building first. Great question Melissa. I think I agree with you. Speak the Word, Trust God, leave the results up to Him. For you, it takes a woman of God with the Word of God and the Spirit of God to make the children of God for the glory of God. It’s all about God.


Aruni January 6, 2017 at 3:35 pm

Quote: “Paul says that he wishes that they stay as he is.”

Yes, but wishing is different from reality. I wish that too, but most people don’t have that gift.

Quote: “There are no specific commands that “condemn other to be single” but what can we do if they live in a place where there are no Christian mates available?”

Exactly my point. There are no specific commands, but your interpretation of 2 Cor 6 (which does not talk about marriage) makes it a command.

Quote: “It is better neither to burn with lust or marry an unbeliever. This isn’t an “either/or” as both are wrong. That is no choice my friend. What can I say to them? Just what the Bible says…we must seek Christ and the kingdom first (Matt 6:33). ”

So, seeking Christ and the kingdom first, gets rid of all sexual desires, desiring to get married and have children! Right? Easy for a married person to talk that way!

Quote: “What would you suggest my friend? Some in the Old Testament were told not to marry. What would you suggest that is biblical?”

Yes, in the OT, but we live in the New Testament now. I don’t know what to suggest, that’s why I’m asking. What I am afraid of is that this type of teaching may lead some (in the category of people I was talking about) to end up in a greater sin, much like what happened with Catholic priests who were forbidden to marry.

I am being asked for advice in this area from Christians to want to do the right thing, but the reality of where they live just doesn’t help them find a Christian mate. They want to marry and they want to have children.

You say they can just ignore those feelings and thoughts, they say they can’t. All of this comes from this interpretation of 2 Cor 6. Is there a way this could be the wrong interpretation? If God would take away their desire to get married, than why doesn’t it happen? Is God to blame in this case or our interpretation of one verse? This has serious consequences in the lives of people, and I am faced with these type of questions daily, that’s why I ask.


Jack Wellman January 6, 2017 at 3:46 pm

I thank you for your response my friend. I agree, we cannot ignore those feelings, but we cannot ignore the higher, moral law of God which supersedes all things human. We have no right to blame God for anything and all Scripture is God-breathed, so it cannot be wrong, because God cannot be wrong. Yes, it does have serious consequences for anyone who sins will choose to suffer, but thankfully, we can be forgiven (1 John 1:9) but it must not be a lifestyle of sin or no one can claim to have any assurance in their own salvation (1 John chapter 3). I am glad you are being asked for advice and all the advice I can give them is to abstain from sexual immorality and other such sins, like I must do. The best advice is not ours but God’s and what His Word says. He has the final say, right?


Johno January 6, 2017 at 8:08 pm

Hello Jack,

I’ve also been thinking about what Paul says in 2 Corinthians where he says not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers. A troubled relationship because both people have very distinctly different outlooks on life is one interpretation. But is there any other scriptures that suggest in anyway that if you yoke with someone then you’ll become blended with them in a spiritual sense? Could it make you become more similar to each other, for example you beginning to lose your faith but they start to believe or maybe you both had differing political views to begin with but over time they start becoming more similar. As I say I’m looking at it from a spiritual perspective.

I’m sorry if you’ve already answered this question at some point above but I haven’t read through all the replies because there is rather a lot of them. Thanks for any feedback.


Jack Wellman January 7, 2017 at 9:04 am

Thank you my friend for your question. I think you bring up an excellent point. Unbelievers and having a close relationship with them can draw us away from God. I believe you are exactly right. This is a great question that you yourself have answered. Well done. I agree.


Aruni January 7, 2017 at 1:39 pm

I agree, we cannot blame God or His word. I’m just not sure that the interpretation and conclusion you have put forth in this article about 2 Cor 6 extends to marriage. That’s my only dilemma.

This seems to be enforced by what you are referring to as “sexual immorality”! I never mentioned sexual immorality, I was talking about marriage. Marriage is honorable before God. If you are saying that unless two Christians get married, any other marriage (between a man and a woman) is sexual immorality, I really don’t know where in the Bible you get that from.

Again, I would be very cautious not to inject the word marriage where it doesn’t appear in the Bible and end up with commandments of men instead of God.


Jack Wellman January 7, 2017 at 1:43 pm

I believe it if is a close relationship like that where it approaches sexual immorality, marriage or not, single or married, 2 Cor 6 still applies. We are not to have a close, intimate, personal relationship with those who are outside in the world. Light has nothing to do with darkness, yet we still are in the world, but not of the world. Why would 2 Cor 6 apply to singles to not be unequally yoked but it doesn’t also apply to those considering marriage? This verse is only good for singles?


Angel January 19, 2017 at 11:13 pm

Hi I hope your situation has significantly improved.. we are created in love not punishment, I believe Gods voice would be loving and ministering and encouraging to you. Satan does not want us to bring our petitions to God in difficult times! Keep doing it and worship Him day and Night and use the situation always as Opportunity for Prayer (Watch War Room) – active in Prayer not Passive..

What point is Hope for things not Hoped for and Believed in.. believe in Possibilities!

At least your wife believes in Jesus its just the rest of the belief needs tweaking as they give more attention to Joseph Smith, Prophets, and Status, Hierachy and “Works” – Striving – Baptizing for the dead etc.

Of course the Devil doesn’t want you to get in his way.
He loves misleading people.
Robbing people.

I know a person who is also Mormon and seems unhappy yet works so hard doing so many things she has to do be saved.. she seems resentful, judging and tired all the time and I don’t feel the Love of Christ in her at All.. it feels like a Religion Ticking Boxes People Pleasing Environment bound to.

Jesus says his yoke is easy and burden is light.

He will direct our paths.

Gods grace is enough his arm is never too short.

Start making declarations from the Lords promises of course Hear Gods guidance first being lead by the spirit and not reading the bible like a book.

Be around encouraging Christians that are filled with the Holy Spirit prioritizing Jesus and Holy Spirit into conversations and life groups.. its easy to just get into worldly fleshly chatter.

Pray over your children the Lords Armour (Ephesians 6)

Meditate on the Lords Prayer.

The enemy is always trying to stop me from being active in Faith.

Its just we musn’t force things either (unforced rhythms of grace)

We can be the Light and the Way by Influence even by a healthy distance and healthy boundaries..

Know who we are In Christ – Greater is He in me than He in the World.
He is for me not against me.
Son and Daughters of the Most High God.

Praise be raised.
Complain remain.
Praise be Raised lift it up! Be free! Edify in His word! His promises! Claim ! Reclaim !

ONLY GOD HAS THE KEYS TO LIFE AND DEATH TO HEAVEN AND HELL. I pray continually for the salvation of family members in this battled world – but I choose to follow Jesus and not pleasers of “Them”…….. which I’ve had to have boundaries in order to be in Sync with Gods spirit and not yoked with theirs.. and from a Distance I have seen a positive SHIFT!! In their lives.. they will always find a way to meet their needs through demands.. I thought I had to keep working hard to save them and talk over them with lectures.

Gods told me otherwise.

Healthy boundaries from evil ways.. but one must have a heart of Jesus.





So Im not to be like Aaron in the old testament who partnered with Moses.. as Aaron eventually lost his cool with the people and told them off which God never told him to do, how does that role model Gods love?

How will people come to Christ through “unapproachable, impatience, anger, bitterness, punishment?”

They will only come by seeing the Example of Christ as Approachable.


Benjamin Johnson February 18, 2017 at 12:47 pm

I think this is a very interesting topic. I understand what the bible verses are saying regarding being around unbelievers, although God was a great example of one who spent time, on occasions, with unbelievers in order to show his love for all people and how they can receive salvation through him.

I am a Christian and i was born in to a Christian family.

Several of my friends are unbelievers. Mostly agnostic. I have grown so much in my faith by being challenged by them and I believe that their knowledge of God has grown because of conversations we’ve had. This could potentially bring them closer to God and, if nothing else, create greater understanding of God for them. When people better understand each other a religions and beliefs, there is much less of a chance of hatred occurring between the two parties. Most racism and discrimination is caused throufh limited understanding.

I agree that when believers marry each other that they will produce good fruit, but I’ve seen a lot of Christian couples produce a lot of bad fruit as well. A lot of Christians are know are hypocritical and judgmental because unbelievers don’t believe what they believe. Showing hatred or disdain towards unbelievers isn’t going to help God’s cause.

I don’t think it’s good to create an ‘us and them’ mentality.

My sister has married an “unbeliever” who encourages her to pursue her faith and her faith has grown stronger through their relationship. They both complement each other and have similar values which she acknowledges as Christian values and which he acknowledges as logical and considerate values.

Some things written in this article and some of the advice about discontinuing relationships because of differing beliefs makes me feel a bit uncomfortable to be honest.


Jack Wellman February 18, 2017 at 1:15 pm

Hello Mr. Johnson and thank you for your comments. I know this must make many people uncomfortable, but that’s because the Word of God is the basis for this article and the Word cuts like a knife and everything is laid bare before God by His Word (Heb 4:12-13), but it cuts in order to heal, not to hurt. God’s Word says living together and marrying an unbeliever is sin. That’s not a grey area. It’s clearly sin or not sin. It’s not so much “us vs them” but not to be unequally yoked (which means “joined together”) with unbelievers. Some Christians do show hatred and are judgmental and hypocrites, but so is the world. There are no Christians in our church like that, so you can’t say that Christians are like that…you can say “some” but not make a sweeping judgment on them because you are accusing them of doing just what you are doing and that is judging them. If people marry unbelievers, they are sinning, but still may have a relatively good marriage, but God’s Word says not to do that and that’s His Word, not my opinion, and on it I stand.


DAVID February 23, 2017 at 9:41 pm


I understand 1 Corinthians 7 & 2 Corinthians 6-7
about staying with your unbelieving spouse and also not being unequally yoked together with unbelievers but I have a question.

IF a couple of lost sinners got married and years later one became born again and on fire for the Lord & the other went into paganism roman catholism there is obviously a problem as far as doctrine differences, they each believe differently and only one is really Christian since you cannot Believe on JESUS plus anything else, and we are not saved by any or our own personal works but only the finished work that JESUS already did, and rose again.

But back to my question, if the born again believer was already married previously and finds him or herself now miserably married to someone drifting to a totally different gospel what should he or she do? and also in regards to intimacy? Is the Catholic considered an unbeliever since they do not solely believe on finish work of JESUS CHRIST? Also what about intamcy, if one prays to saints and does all of the rituals and you are spiritually joined to Christ then what should you do? Should we just follow 1 Corinthian 7?

I am very confused since I never here of stories of a couple already being married and then years later one comes to Christ.

Normally the topic is do I marry an unbeliever or do I marry someone in a different faith..

Thank you for any help,

God Bless.


Jack Wellman February 24, 2017 at 11:36 am

Hello David. Many people marry and believe they are marrying a CHristian, and yes, this is hard when they fall away or weren’t really saved in the first place, so if there was not adultery, then you are still bound to them but some Catholics just like some protestants are not saved but are false converts, but I know Catholics who believe in Jesus and have trusted in Him and that’s what is called, saving faith, which is a gift (Eph 2:8-9). As for 1 Cor 7, Paul’s conclusion says it all “whatever condition each was called, there let him remain with God” (1st Cor 7:24). Not all Catholics pray to Mary or are caught up in the works…so some Catholics are saved…but they don’t fully understand yet about works. 1st Cor 7 is about unbeliever’s leaving believing spouses, but I don’t think this means they are free to remarry. Is that what you thought or have been taught about 1 Cor 7?


Brad Fulton April 4, 2017 at 10:30 am

I’m of the Baptist faith and have placed my faith in Jesus Christ and His finished work on the cross. I’m dating a wonderful Lady that is of the Catholic faith who also claims Christ as her savior and Lord. No matter what we discuss about the Gospel (Death Burial, and Resurrection) we both agree! However, I’m having a very difficult time continuing with this relationship because neither one of us will turn from of particular faith. This lady wants to continue, and believes we can share our faith together, and says she will be with me in my faith and by my side, but will also find time for her Catholic faith as well.
My confusion here, is that she is a beautiful woman inside and out, strongly cares for me, and has been a beautiful lady for me, and we agree on the Gospel (placing our faith in Christ!) It’s the Catholic / Baptist I’m having a time with. She’s not though.

Please share your thoughts?


Jack Wellman April 4, 2017 at 7:34 pm

Hello Mr. Fulton. The Bible asks, “Can two walk together and not agree?” I can see strong problems with where will the children attend or which days will the family observe, or….etc. If she says its fine for you and the children, if or when you have any, can go to your church and she’s fine with that, then I see no real issue, but sometimes people change their minds, and sometimes it’s after they get married. It’s not Catholic verses Baptists but not having a house that is divided.


Jacob Israel May 22, 2017 at 5:33 am

Jack, you said: “Don’t be fooled by thinking that you can convert them after you marry them because it is God who draws people to Christ (John 6:44)”

God draws people and He sometimes uses people to draw others. I know of many cases of Christians who married unbelievers and later the spouse converted. Whether God directly intervenes in the matter or whether He intervenes through the believer, nonetheless in many cases the unbeliever is saved. And Paul and Peter also agree. So your statement is incorrect. Much has got to do with the believer’s own walk with God, prayer and faith.

As for 2 Corinthians 6:14 speaking about marriage, this is another misconception. It is not speaking about whether a believer and a non-believer can get married, it is speaking about idolatry and that one must not participate in the religious and other sinful activities of unbelievers. The issue of marriage to non-believers is already settled in 1 Cor 7:14: If a non- believer is married to a believer and he or she wishes to remain, there must be no divorce.

Now you will say that this only applies to a case where two non-believers married and one later became a believer. But this is nowhere mentioned in the scriptures. This would be your assumption only, you will not find any scripture that says this.

1 Cor 7:14 implies that marriage to an unbeliever is not a sin.

It can never be sinful to enter into a lawful relationship – and Paul in 1 Cor 7:14 says it is lawful for the couple to remain together. It is not a sin. God would not ask you to continue insomething He hates, i.e live in sin. Whereas in the case of adultery, it is a sin, and the only way to repent of the sin would be to break off the relationship.

It is not a sin to marry an unbeliever. It is a sin to participate in their religious and other sinful activities. Remember, marriage is honourable in all.


Jack Wellman May 22, 2017 at 9:12 am

It IS sin to marry an unbeliever, as the Bible says light and darkness to not mix and we are not to be unequally yoked with non-believers. What do you not understand about that command from the Bible? I would ask you to study and read and not use one example as a benchmark. God’s Word is true…our experiences are not to be used to guide us, God’s Word is. It is not assumption because the Scriptures are clear. You either obey or not…and if you tell others its okay, then you are being a stumbling block for them. Please repent of this.


GerardC July 27, 2017 at 2:14 pm

JACK Wellman It IS sin to marry an unbeliever,

How dare you judge a man to be a sinner! Your bigoted arrogance is frightening. Which of the 10 Commandments state that to marry a non-believer is a sin?

The Holy Spirit moves both Christians and Non-Christians as God chooses. Was not Paul an anti-Christ avenger?

The Gospels are guides and advice to Christian living, yet society is overwhelmed with divorced Christian couples; EXPLAIN THAT!


Jack Wellman July 27, 2017 at 2:49 pm

Hello Gerard C. Thank you for your comment. I agree with you. It is sin for a believer to marry an unbeliever, and that’s just what this article said my friend. I am not judging them. It is God’s Word that says this is so, and I am not anyone’s judge, but Paul taught that we should not be yoked together with unbelievers, obviously meaning marriage and close, intimate relationships. It is God’s Word that says this. Why is the Christian divorce rate so bad? Why are non-Christian divorce rates so high? Many are not keeping their commitments, just as many in the world do. We cannot let “society” be our guide. It must be the Word of God; not me, not you, not human opinion. It is on that which I stand. Your comment is very harsh to me, calling me a bigot. Are you a believer? If so, I suggest you read the Book of 1st John. Thank you.


Jacob Israel May 22, 2017 at 12:33 pm

I am so glad when my comments are not accepted by false teachers such as yourself because it merely confirms to me that you have no answer and that you are not even confident of your own false teaching.


Jack Wellman May 22, 2017 at 2:38 pm

Mr. Israel. You are entitled to your own opinion about me sir, but you are not entitled to your own truth. I don’t care if you insult me. That’s fine, but I see you trust what you believe more than what God says in His Word. I will pray for you sir.


Jacob Israel May 24, 2017 at 9:46 am

Jack, that’s alright, Christ was a stumbling block too- for the Jews and the Gentiles. Thank you for finally publishing my comments. Was it because I also placed them on a website where you could not remove them?

At least my benchmark refers specifically to marriage, whereas yours does not even mention it. Since you rightly consider 1 Corinthians 7 to be a benchmark, please address and obey it:

What part of 1 Corinthians 7:14-18 do you not understand?

Here the believer is to remain with the unbeliever if the unbeliever chooses to remain. Paul -and I, say so, under the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

But you say this is a sin.

2 Corinthians 6:17 says ‘Be ye separate, come out from them and touch no unclean thing…’

Therefore Paul cannot be talking about marriage between a believer and an unbeliever here because he would be contradicting what he said earlier in 1 Corinthians 7:14, which implies that it is not a sin for a believer to enter into marriage with an unbeliever. As I said before, it can never be a sin to enter into a lawful relationship, and Paul says it is lawful. Paul knew that his statement implied this, and if he did not mean it to imply this then he would have stated so HERE in the same letter, not a few months after the event.

But in 2 Corinthians 6:14 Paul is talking about idolatry, and becoming involved in the religious practices and other sinful acts of unbelievers.The Christian is yoked to Christ. The unequal yoke is established when the Christian adopts and follows the practices of the unbeliever. We are to remain in Christ. If the unbeliever does not prevent the believer from following his or her belief, they may be married. The institution of marriage is honourable, and unbeliever’s marriages are recognised by God. In the case of the marriage of a believer and an unbeliever, the unbeliever may also be saved as a result of being married to the believer. This is true, is it not? Therefore repent of your false teaching.


Jack Wellman May 24, 2017 at 10:05 am

You are in such confusion brother. 1 Corinthians 7:14-18 is about couples that are already married to an unbeliever, not a person marrying an unsaved person. Context is king and you are ripping Scripture out of context as this is about the godly example of one spouse having an effect, perhaps even leading them to faith in Christ. It has nothing to do with marrying or dating of Christians with non-believes. Living with someone who is not a your spouse or marrying an unbeliever is sin, so what part of sin don’t you understand. It is not okay for a believer to marry or date an unbeliever. The Bible teaches this and that settles it.


Jalyn March 11, 2018 at 3:18 pm

Will I go to hell for dating a non believer? He is agnostic & I’m a strong believer in Christ. He even goes to church with me & reads the Bible. I pray for him so much to know God. I always pray that’s God will remove the veil from his eyes so he can come to know Jesus. I don’t want him to go to hell. & I don’t wanna go to hell for being with him either. I feel so bad bc I have known God since I was little bit backslid when we were first together & now I have chosen to fully submit myself to God & I’m trying to be a light to him.


Jack Wellman March 11, 2018 at 3:42 pm

Hello Jalyn. Whoever God brings to repentance and then trust in Jesus Christ has no worry about hell, but dating and eventually marrying an agnostic (a non-believer) is sin, so you are doing what God forbids and He will not bless this relationship. Only God can change the human heart (Prov 21:1), and you can pray for him to repent and believe, but you will fall into sinful patterns because he has no Holy Spirit to convict him of sin, and a person who continually suppresses the Holy Spirit can quench it, and go to far, can silence Him in a person’s heart. What has your pastor said about this relationship? I would speak with him because oil and water do not mix. It will bring either heartache or a bad marriage, or an unexpected pregnancy because the Bible teachers bad company corrupts a person’s morale.


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