10 Good Christian Marriage Rules

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Here are ten good rules to help make your marriage stronger.

End the Day With a Clean Slate

The Bible says in Ephesians 4:26 to not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Make it a goal to clear the air with your spouse on a daily basis. Fortunately, most days there will not be a need to clean the slate. For those days where tensions are high make an agreement with one another that you will work out your differences before going to bed.

Not 50-50

The Bible says that it is a man’s responsibility to love (Ephesians 5:25) and it is a woman’s responsibility to submit (Ephesians 5:22). If the husband will commit to love then it makes it much easier for the wife to submit. If the wife will submit, the husband will have less trouble loving her. The beautiful thing about this is that God does not say, “a man should love his wife if she will submit.” Or, “a woman should submit to her husband if he loves her.” Each spouse’s responsibility is independent of what the other one does.

When a couple looks at marriage as a 50-50 agreement then they will always play off of how the other treats them. However, when they see the marriage as their sole responsibility, then they will have a much stronger and happier marriage.

Keep Personal Problems Personal

Don’t share your marriage problems with your co-workers. If you are seeing a marriage counselor then it is important to be open and honest. But when chatting with your friends at the water cooler or the hair salon, you need to guard your negative words about your spouse. Long after the problem is resolved your friends will remember. They weren’t part of the healing process and therefore they won’t know how to forget.

Live Within Your Means

One of the major causes of divorce is money problems. Live with the money you have. Even though you think that expensive gift (that you can’t afford) will help endear your spouse to you, it more often than not will drive a wedge of insecurity in your relationship.

Divorce is Not an Option

Never enter a marriage with the thought that you can get divorced if things don’t work out. Regardless of your interpretation of the biblical passages dealing with divorce, you should make it a personal commitment to your spouse and to God that you will not consider divorce as an option. Enter the marriage with the understanding that you are making a solemn vow before God to your spouse that you will stay together until death separates you.

Guard Your Heart

Protect your eyes, ears and mind. Men, you need to learn to look away when your eyes are drawn to other women in an inappropriate way. Ladies, you may hear sweeter words from your co-worker than you do from your own husband. Remember to whom you made a promise to love—even when times are difficult.

Forget the Past

Isn’t it amazing how, all of a sudden, you can remember things from the past that you thought were forgotten when an argument arises between you and your spouse? Forget the wrong that he or she has done to you in the past and focus on the present and future.

Compliment in Word and Action

The word “compliment” can mean a couple of different things. First it can mean to say nice things to one another. It can also mean to do something that helps the other to be stronger or look better in the eyes of others. Both senses of the word compliment are important in a marriage.

Love One Another

Make a decision to love one another even if your spouse does not deserve your love.

Put God First

Most people who want to protect their marriage will say that their spouse is more important than their job. Unfortunately, it seems that people who are in ministry (pastors, missionaries, etc.) will say that in a list of priorities their wife is sometimes at the top of the list and sometimes their ministry is. If you put God at the top of your priority list, He will show you where your emphasis should be at any given time. If God is truly first, then the other priorities will fall into place.

Do you have any good rules in your marriage? Share them with us in the comments!


The Holy Bible, King James Version


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Teng Lee Cabuang September 26, 2019 at 9:57 pm

I’m not a married person, but based on my observation about people around, especially couples that they don’t giving importance about marriage. there’s a misunderstanding that can easily cause of divorced.

Being a loving husband and submissive wife is the only way to make a relationship strong untill last, and most of all is a Christ-Centered Relationship. 🙂


Jack Wellman September 26, 2019 at 11:31 pm

What a wonderful comment Teng Lee. Thank you so much. You are so right and your comment is such a great blessing to all single people. May God richly bless you for that.


Ebenezer Sartiah October 16, 2020 at 2:55 am

Thank you for all those good advise regarding marriage. I have been married for 20 years now. My wife and I cherish each other. When I think of marriage, I think the scripture that says, “The Bible instructs us to forgive as the Lord forgave us: Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13, NIV). Christ wants us to understand how much it takes and what it means to forgive. In order for our marriage to be successful, we must learn how to forgive and never expect that it will be perfect but that some dark days will come. No matter what, forgive! Thank you for this opportunity.


John August 8, 2021 at 2:08 pm

If the Christian couple has the person who wants sex less needs to initiate sex. They need to do it often enough to please the other person. This will swing back and forth over time. This will eliminate anyone being called a pervert or slut or using porn to fulfill unmet needs. Use of Porn will inevitably cause to be called or feel like a pervert or slut. And then be accused of Sexual immorality. Since the Scripture say we not the abstain except for mutual consent-Withholding sex is sexual immorality. In The Old Testament God allowed to Jewish Man to marry a Slave woman. He had to free her without payment if the did not provide her with food, Clothing and Sex. If a Slave woman in ancient Israel must be given SEX, the maybe a married American Christian deserves the same.


Jack Wellman August 8, 2021 at 3:33 pm

Very well said sir. This makes good sense John. Thank you.


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