Why Does God Love Us? Do We Really Deserve It?

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Does God really love us?  Are we deserving of His love?  Why Does God Love Us?

Why God Loves Us

We are the apple of His eye, He rejoices over us

Does God Really Love Us? 

The Bible is full of Scriptures where God declares His love for us.  One of the most famous of all is John 3:16 where it says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”  What other Scriptures declare that God truly loves us in an unconditional way?

Zechariah 2:8b “for whoever touches you touches the apple of his eye.”

Zephaniah 3:17 “The LORD your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.”

Jeremiah 32:41 “I will rejoice in doing them good and will assuredly plant them in this land with all my heart and soul.”

Psalm 103:4 “who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion.”

Psalm 103:8 “The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.”

Psalm 103:13 “As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him.”

Psalm 103:17 “But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children.”

Just imagine what the Word of God says about those who belong to Him.  What tender love is revealed in His words.  We are the apple of His eye, He rejoices over us, He sings over us, He abounds in love over us, He has the compassion of a Father over us, He delights over us…and this love is from everlasting to everlasting.  What more solid proof can there be?  God can not lie and God tells us in dozens of Scriptures that He loves those whom he calls His own.

Are We Deserving of His Love? 

This is an easy one to answer.  No, we are not deserving of His love.  We are not worthy to be loved by Him.  We are most unlovable.  Even so, “God demonstrated His love for us in this: While we were still enemies, Christ died for us” (Rom 5:8).

During Jesus sacrifice at Calvary:  Peter denied Him, the Jews Crucified Him, Judas betrayed Him, the Council illegally tried Him, Pontius Pilate unjustly condemned Him.  What did Jesus do? He said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34).  When we were at our worst, Jesus was at His best.  When we least deserved grace, His grace was the absolute most.  While we had nothing to show Him to give us mercy, He took our nothing to show His mercy for us.

God gives us what we least deserve (called grace) and withholds what we do deserve (called mercy). We should be careful to ask God for justice because if He truly gave us justice, no one could stand.  If we think God should give us what we deserve, we would all utterly perish.  Jesus Christ got what He did not deserve so we could receive what we do not deserve.  This is what isn’t fair:  that we did not get what we deserved, while He got what He did not deserve.  Nowhere in the Bible does it say that life is fair.  If it was fair, then Jesus would not have died.  He was completely innocent and without sin….yet we were completely guilty and sinners.  Because it wasn’t fair to Jesus, we can be declared righteous by His atoning work on the cross.

The conclusion is that, no, we are not deserving, but our children make mistakes.  They disobey but we love them nonetheless.  Our love is not conditioned on their behavior. We may not like their behavior at times but we love our children and it is not a love that is conditional.  In a much greater way, God loves us despite our despicable, sinful nature.  That is love that is unconditional – not conditioned – even with our willful disobedience.

Why Does God Love us? 

We began with John 3:16 in answering the question of whether God really loves us.  We can also know for sure that He does by this same verse.  Imagine that you had only one child. You knew that you would have to have your son or daughter die to ensure that others would live.  These other people would treat your only child in an unusually cruel manner. They would torture them, spit on them, pull their hair out, beat them, whip them, scorn them, ridicule them, laugh at them, drive nails through their hands and feet, and let them die by an illegal trial, testified by false witnesses, and be completely innocent of ever having done anything at all.  Then you can only imagine – slightly – what the Father had to endure.

We know that Jesus suffered the most agonizing death of any human that has ever lived (historically speaking this is a fact).  We think of what Jesus went through but do we ever think of what this must have felt like to the Righteous Father in Heaven?  The Father sacrificed so very much too.  When Jesus agonized in the Garden of Gethsemane, it surely was because He had the knowledge that all the sins of humanity; past, present, and future, would be borne by Him. But there was also the agony knowing about the coming separation from the Father Whom He loved intensely.  This is why Jesus cried out at Calvary, “My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?”(Mark 15:34).  This was the first and only time that Jesus had been separated from the Father.  The Father had to look away because God is so holy that He can not even look at sin, and at that moment, Jesus was the sin offering for fallen humanity.

Jesus loves the Father and the Father loves Jesus but here is the love that God has for us.  In John 17:26, Christ says that “the love with which you have loved me may be in them, and I in them.”  Further, as Jesus prayed to the Father He acknowledged that “you loved them even as you loved me” (John 17:23).  Let those last two verses soak into your mind and meditate on them.  The Father loved them – and all believers Whom He chooses – just as the Father loved Jesus.  That means you if you are born-again by the Holy Spirit’s work.   God the Father loves us as much as He loves Jesus.  Knowing that Jesus and the Father are one, this means that Jesus also loves us as much as He loves the Father.  That may seem controversial but that is what John 17:23 and 17:26 says.  Read those Scriptures in almost any translation and that is what the original meaning is.  The words used for “even as” and “with which” means equal too.  That is how we can know for sure that God loves us.  Not only that, it shows just how much He loves us.  Why?  Why does God love the unlovable?  That is something that you will have to ask Him someday in eternity.  I have no answer to that.  It is enough to know that He does love us – with an everlasting love equal to that between the Father and the Son of God, Jesus Christ.  Wow.

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{ 22 comments… read them below or add one }

sipho Mtshali December 13, 2011 at 12:50 am

Thank you Pastor you always sending the right things on the right time I needed the love from above we really blessed thank you…….!


Jack December 13, 2011 at 3:03 pm

Sipho, thank you so much for your fine comment. I need to reassure my self at times that God’s love is unconditional. Like my love for my wife, children, and grandchildren, although far less that God’s perfect love. I now the Word of God is like a salve for the soul at times and refreshes the spirit. God bless you and thank you for visiting us and your uplifting and edifying comments. Your comments did the same as this verses did for me! Thank you. 🙂


jibyjose February 3, 2012 at 3:26 am

that is a good one. I liked it . Thank you for that.


Jack February 3, 2012 at 3:35 pm

jibyjose, thank you for your kind remarks and I do hope you will return again soon and grace us with such wonderful comments.


Deanna Lynn July 20, 2012 at 3:27 pm

This was the most intense reading I have ever read.
In amazingly loving detail about God our Father and Our Jesus Christ our Savior. In all my years being alive on this earth, I have never ever read about our Heavenly Father or even knew him in such way that this article took my breath away and really opened my insides!
This truly makes me hunger for him even more!
God bless you and your beautiful loving heart to share the beauty wonders of our creator!!! Wow


Jack Wellman July 20, 2012 at 9:19 pm

Deanna, thank you for your very kind words. I am so glad you enjoyed it. Isn’t our God an awesome God to love us who were unlovely…even so, loved us and died for us while we were still enemies of His and sinners. Please do come back to visit us again soon.


jemmytheo November 8, 2012 at 5:22 pm

May the almighty God bless u for this piece article. i pray that God will give me the heart to love others unconditionaly. Love, love love as the father loves us. Thanks again, pastor


Kath February 8, 2013 at 9:26 am

Thank you for this article. I’m a Catholic and your article really moved me to tears. I’m such a sinner and still He loves me so much… I still don’t know why He does but I’m just so grateful. Thanks very much, pastor !


Jack Wellman February 14, 2013 at 11:49 am

Amen Kath. I also thank you for your edifying words. I can never wrap my mind around such an infinite love that God has for us and died for us while we were still sinners and still His enemies.


venice van der ross February 14, 2013 at 11:05 am

Thank you, and bless you, for the time and effort. If it was’nt for people like you, people like me, would not have the answers we looking for. Also very useful in getting the right Bible verse, when needed when one is going through the motions.


Jack Wellman February 14, 2013 at 11:49 am

Thank you for your edifying words. I can never wrap my mind around such an infinite love that God has for us and died for us while we were still sinners and still His enemies.


Grace July 3, 2013 at 1:30 pm

Dear Pastor,
Thank you for those words of encouragement and re-assurance of the love that Jesus and the Father has for us. I hope that our lives would be something worthy of his death and that someday he can tell us as to why he chose to love us even though we are so undeserving. Thank you once again and God Bless You!


Jack Wellman July 3, 2013 at 1:48 pm

Grace, you words are like medicine to my soul. My answer to the question as to why God choose us…is “I don’t know.” Perhaps we will never know but you are right, none of us are deserving and this is why He is most deserving of our love, praise, and honor and to Him be all glory.


Daniel February 25, 2019 at 7:55 pm

I guess the struggle I have with this question is that I don’t feel like God’s love is something that should have to be deserved in the first place. No loving parent would tell their child “you don’t deserve my love” after their child has sinned against them, yet I hear that sentiment about God’s love from a lot of preachers.


Kainu Israel July 23, 2019 at 9:42 pm

Thank you so much for this, I was so disappointed by myself because I already promised not to do things against His will, and I broke my promise almost everyday, I’m ashamed by myself, even to the point why do I deserve His love. I sinned and yet His merciful loving God! He even answered my prayers even though I disappointed Him. I love you Lord God!


Truth Really Is August 23, 2019 at 5:00 am

If God really loved me which then i would’ve met the right good woman to settle down with to have a family, which i never did. Feminism is everywhere now unfortunately since God created these very evil man hating women that are all over the place which really explains why so many of us men are still single today, and i know friends that are single as well and feel the very same way like me. Most women in the old days sure weren’t like this at all. It was just too bad that many of us men weren’t born back then since most women were Real Ladies and very easy to meet. It was a real good thing that God created much better women years ago, unfortunately women really have changed today for the worst of all.


Jack Wellman August 23, 2019 at 10:08 am

Hello Friend. You said “If God really loved you” He would give you a woman. But Jesus died for you proving He loved you. If you only seek a woman and to please yourself and take it out on God, or blame God for your live, you need to repent of this. Blaming God for what He knows is best for you will do more harm than good, and being hard on the women living today is not fair. Men and women both have issues. Talk to your pastor. Ask if there’s a singles group at your church. If not, start one.


Daniel Cartwright October 11, 2019 at 1:25 am

Is love something that can or should be deserved? Asking, “do we deserve God’s love?” Seems like it might be the wrong question, as if real love ever could be earned or deserved. Maybe I’m wrong for thinking this way, but if I were to bring a child into this world, I would feel a certain obligation to love that child. If that child were to misbehave (as all children do), I wouldn’t say “this child doesn’t deserve my love anymore.” It seems to me like this question may simply be a category error.


Kim March 2, 2020 at 9:32 am

This moved me. I cried the whole way reading this. We don’t deserve His love. I am so undeserving and yet he loves me unconditionally. I will never understand why and I cannot wait to meet Him and ask.

I have subscribed to your posts (my first time doing such a thing).

Thank you!!


Jack Wellman March 2, 2020 at 9:50 am

Thank you for such encouragment Kim.


His Own May 9, 2021 at 11:27 pm

not deserving of God’s love? Wow!


Jack Wellman May 10, 2021 at 8:34 am

Not one human ever born was worthy…He makes us worthy thru Christ. Don’t you believe that “His Own?” I pray you do. As I wrote, it is enough to know that He does love us – with an everlasting love equal to that between the Father and the Son of God, Jesus Christ.


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