Should Christians Have Non Christian Friends?

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Should believers have non-Christian friends? Can we be friends with those outside of the Body of Christ, the church? What does the Bible say about this?

Unequally Yoked

When Paul was writing to the church at Corinth, he was dealing with a very worldly church. The fact that they were living in one of the most sinful cities in the world did not help. We know that God does not want believers to date or to marry those outside of the faith. This is what is meant by being unequally yoked in marriage. This is part of the reason Paul wrote to “not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols” (2 Corinthians 14-16). When a believer willingly marries an unbeliever and knows that they should not do so the “two will become one flesh” (1 Corinthians 6:16c) and so it is like mixing water and oil. They will not ever mix and there will be constant friction in the marriage, as well as in child rearing. But what about being friends with non-believers? This may be what Paul referred to when he said that light and darkness do not mix.

Darkness and Light

It is clear that we should not be unequally yoked in marriage but what about in friendship? There is nothing in itself wrong with being friends with an unbeliever but if the Christian finds himself or herself being brought into places that do not reflect the believer’s life, then this friendship is not in their best interests. I have friends who are not Christians but I draw the line in going to certain places where a Christian should not go. I also hold to a certain standard in which movies I don’t see, in music I don’t listen to, and in conversations that I cannot in good conscience partake in. Again, Paul tells believers

" ... what fellowship has light with darkness?"

” … what fellowship has light with darkness?”

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty” (2 Corinthians 6:14-18).

When Paul uses the phrase “do not be unequally yoked” he may be referring to the Old Testament command to not yoke animals together that are clean and unclean like an ox and an donkey (Deuteronomy 22:10). One is clean but the other is not and this is an abomination to God. When these two are yoked together, they will work against each other. One will want to go one way while the other will pull another way. One will work harder than the other. If a believer is too closely tied to an unbeliever, the unbeliever can drag or pull the believer into areas that are not godly. God tells us to “come out from among them” because while we have to live in the world, we are not to be part of the world. In Revelation “a voice from heaven say(s): “‘Come out of her, my people,’ so that you will not share in her sins, so that you will not receive any of her plagues” (Revelation 18:4). Paul reiterates this by saying, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you” (2 Corinthians 6:17). The meaning of the word “sanctified” is to be set apart for holy use and we must be separate from the world while still living in the world. It is clear from the Bible that “bad company ruins good morals” (1 Corinthians 15:33).


We can not completely disassociate ourselves from the world and from those who are in the world. It is fine to be friends with non-believers to a point but our best friends should be those in the Body of Christ, the church. Being friends with the world is dangerous ground for the Christian as James wrote, “Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God” (James 4:4). We are told, “Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them” (1 John 2:15). This is not our Father’s world…we are pilgrims who are living in a temporary land that is not ours. The world that is to come in the Kingdom of Heaven is our future home. If we must be friends with non-Christians, let us exercise caution and draw a line in the sand. We can be their friends and use our friendships as a way to share the gospel both by our words and by the love that we show them but we cannot be too closely associated with them because light and darkness have no fellowship together. We are the children of the light and we must come out of the world even while we are living in it.

If you have not yet repented, confessed your sins to God, and placed your trust in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, then you are still living in darkness and there awaits you a certain fearful judgment that is beyond description. Today, if you will not harden your hearts anymore, you can receive eternal life in Jesus Christ by believing in Him and receive saving faith. The truth is that “now is the favorable time; behold, now is the day of salvation” (2 Corinthians 6:2) and so “Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as in the rebellion” (Hebrews 3:15). If you wait, it may be too late for no one has any guarantee that tomorrow may come (Proverbs 27:1).

Take a look at this related article:

Unequally Yoked?

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{ 55 comments… read them below or add one }

Jean-marc July 7, 2013 at 5:29 am

Thanks for this article may God bless


Jack Wellman July 7, 2013 at 2:09 pm

Thank you Jean-marc. I am thankful for encouragers like you my friend and to which I thank God for.


susie July 7, 2013 at 1:13 pm

“I draw the line in going to certain places where a Christian should not go. I also hold to a certain standard in which movies I don’t see, in music I don’t listen to, and in conversations that I cannot in good conscience partake in.”

Why would I want to be a christian when according to this article the main difference is what we must not, cannot do? I am a believer and growing up in this mindset caused me to fear non-christians as dangerous to be around. Today I am re-learning how to love everyone and not distance myself from the very ones who need to know the God that I know.


Jack Wellman July 7, 2013 at 2:10 pm

Thank you for your critique and comment. I will take it to heart.


Erik July 7, 2013 at 7:19 pm

I respectfully disagree with your analysis of this article.

This article is not about a bunch of rules in my opinion.

Personally, I don’t see what is wrong with the following statement: “I draw the line in going to certain places where a Christian should not go. I also hold to a certain standard in which movies I don’t see, in music I don’t listen to, and in conversations that I cannot in good conscience partake in.”

Either we are all in as followers of Christ or we are not. We do not make exceptions. There has to be differences in how we live our lives.

I have some long time non-Christian friends but I will not compromise my belief just because they are long time friends. It has nothing to do with fearing non-Christians. Hardly! But, if I immerse myself in the world the world will overcome me. I won’t see trash at the movie theater just to spend time with an unsaved friend. Nor, would I expect to hang out in a bar with unsaved friends just to try and be a light in a very dark place.

Just my two cents and I do not mean to come across as critical to your comments.


Jack Wellman July 7, 2013 at 7:27 pm

Thank you Erik. I had a friend invite me to his bachelor party and they began to bring out the nasty videos and I left. I also had a former boss who was a non-Christian friend of mine invite me and many in his staff (men only) to celebrate with him over the companies anniversary and sales record. They went to a place that had women strippers. The two above scenarios are what I mean when I say I draw the line at going to certain places. Is this legalism or is it avoiding sinful situations? Is this about “a bunch of rules?” Yes….rules, many of which, are made to not break. Just my two cents my friend. Do you see my point that I was trying to make Erik? Maybe I did a poor job of it though and anyway, I thank you sir for your comment. You are always welcome her.


Andrea Adedeji August 30, 2015 at 12:48 am

Jack, I totally agree with your comments. Nothing is wrong in keeping your friendship with your unsaved friends but some mean well and some don’t. In 2 Cor 5:17 says, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” It means that you change your whole concept about life. Why keep friends with revellers when we have to go and witness to them later and tell them about Jesus? Would they listen us if they sees us behaving the same manner as them? We have to use wisdom and changing your mindset doesn’t mean you are abandoning them, you are just showing them the love of God in you for them to follow


Jack Wellman August 30, 2015 at 8:28 am

Thank you so much my friend. You are so encouraging.

Nikita July 7, 2013 at 3:32 pm

Jack, as usual a masterpiece. I was just discussing this very topic with a friend the other day. You have now provided more insightful information on the topic. Thank you once again. God is always with you.


Jack Wellman July 7, 2013 at 6:18 pm

Hello Nikita. What an encouraging comment my friend but truly I can do nothing of myself and the true Master of this “masterpiece” is of course Jesus and not me. In any event, I still thank you so much.


Steven July 8, 2013 at 11:07 am

This is a great article, though not one of my favorites.

It is okay to have non Christian friends but you do have to draw a line and put your foot down on certain things. There is so much evil in this world and we don’t even notice it because we ourselves are evil. Look what happened to Lot and his daughters. You hang around sin too much and it will destroy all righteousness within you.

Try not to go out of your way for sin.


Nathan July 8, 2013 at 5:59 pm

Hi, Jack.

I think there are different ways to consider this. I personally feel bad for Christians who feel their faith is so fragile that they cannot mingle with non-Christians, for fear that they will be lead down the wrong path.

If we use Christ as our example, we would find our circle of friends to be much more diverse, considering his close circle of friends included tax collectors, prostitutes, lepers, and other unsavory characters of the time. He seemed to prefer these people, who were in such great need of His teaching and leadership and saving.

If we isolate ourselves from non-Christians, we miss out on many opportunities to minister to people who would not otherwise hear the Word. So many non-Christians have the perception of the church as being very judgemental and intimidating which, I believe, scares them away. Simply by being open about being a Christian AND being their friend is a ministry in itself that can lead to much more meaningful things.

Don’t get me wrong, I’d walk out of the room with the porn and the strippers as well, but the next day I would still be that person’s friend, and perhaps take the opportunity to talk to them about why I had to leave that room. Maybe that conversation would lead to more meaningful discussions that they would never have, had a Christian not remained their friend, despite their sins.

In all honesty, I feel that the moment we, as Christians, are unwilling to get our hands dirty, like Christ did, we lose our effectiveness as evangelists. We are called on to love EVERYONE, and part of loving someone is being their friend.


susie July 8, 2013 at 9:45 pm

I love how you explained this.


Jack Wellman July 8, 2013 at 10:28 pm

Thank you Nathan. I agree with your saying “as Christians, are unwilling to get our hands dirty, like Christ did, we lose our effectiveness as evangelists. We are called on to love EVERYONE, and part of loving someone is being their friend.” No where in this article did I differ from this and say that we should not have Christian friends or not love “EVERYONE” as you put in bold caps. I can see many have taken this article the wrong way and perhaps I did a poor job of writing it. I never said we should not have non-Christian friends anywhere in this article and that we should not love everyone so I am puzzled why you hated this so much. Thanks just the same.


Nathan July 9, 2013 at 8:17 am

Jack, perhaps it is I that did a poor job of explaining. I didn’t hate your article at all, I was just adding my thoughts. 🙂

No, you didn’t say that we should not have non-Christian friends, however with certain phrases such as “It is fine to be friends with non-believers to a point but our best friends should be those in the Body of Christ, the church.”, I think you need to be careful, because some will read that as “If you have to have non-Christian friends, well, that’s ok, but it’s better to have Christian friends”. It’s a slight variation, but one that could lead to people to avoid non-Christians altogether, thus eliminating their opportunities to share the Word with people who really need to hear it.

At any rate, I hope this clears things up. I think you are doing a wonderful job, and opening the opportunity for Christians to talk about real issues, which, in many ways, can lead to greater understanding of our faith than simply sitting back and listening to sermons. Keep up the good work!


Jack Wellman July 9, 2013 at 9:59 pm

Thank you Nathan. I apologize. I believe I overreacted and have no excuse for it. I am sorry. I had a bad day I believe on this article got hammered on our Facebook page when it was posted (still no excuse) and seriously I should have done a better job at saying what you said to well in your first comment. Again sir, I am sorry. Thank you for your patience Nathan.


Nathan July 10, 2013 at 8:12 am

No problem, Jack, we all have those days, and I would imagine that being as unyielding in the truth as you are, and the criticism that brings, you probably have more than most. The world is full of trolls, and it seems to be in vogue these days to bash Christians for their beliefs.

But not to worry, even Jesus lost his temper from time to time (the story of the merchants in the Temple comes to mind), so we can hardly expect to do better than Him! 🙂 I think that’s one of the most wonderful things about our Lord. As much as he showed (and continues to show) us the righteous path, He also showed His humanity, allowing us to be more accepting of our own. (Would love to see an article from you on that!)

Hang in there, Jack, and keep doing what you do. God is clearly behind your efforts here, so despite having some bad days, you can rest assured that they are worth it.

This was my first time visiting your site, and I look forward to more healthy discussion in the days to come.

Joseph Bleifus August 3, 2021 at 6:22 pm

I only want to take non-Christians as friends if they can be led to Christ. In my experience they all have hardened hearts and blind eyes.


Mick July 9, 2013 at 9:19 am

Hello Jack,
I read this article and the comments, then I reread it. The way I see it, what you have written is supported by scripture and is non-judgmental. I look back at a lot of the lost time in my life, literally and figuratively, and I realize what an effect my choice of “friends” had. From personal experience I can say compromising anything takes us to the edge of a slippery slope. There is a huge difference between a friend and an associate; are we “friends” because of common behaviors or because of common beliefs, or a combination of the two? What I take from this article is that we must always be aware of the effects relationships can have on our walk with the Lord as well as how our actions affect others. Great article!


Nikita July 9, 2013 at 5:55 pm

Mick, I couldn’t have put it better myself. I had the same understanding of the article as you did, and I have no doubt that those are the points Jack was trying to get across.

If a Christian has friends that he/she knows will never want to hear the word of our Lord, he/she must guard against being misled by such friends. Can this really be seen as ‘friendship’? Besides, it is unlikely that the majority of the morals and values of the Christian and non-Christian will be similar in such circumstances.

This does not mean that one cannot or shouldn’t have non-Christian friends. On the contrary: how else can one minister more effectively than to those who trust you and may even love you?

These are just my thoughts (right or wrong), and I have in no way put myself across as eloquently as Jack or Mick, but I hope it’s understandable.

God bless you both.

Yours in Christ,


Jack Wellman July 9, 2013 at 10:02 pm

Thank you Mick. I appreciate your words of encouragement so much my friend. I believe I could have added what Nathan stated so elequently and what you and Nikita both included. That is why I am so blessed to have such edifying readers who are full of the Holy Spirit as evidenced by their words. I thank God for you and NIkita too…and for Nathan, and yes, Kris too….oh yes, Jack H too. Thank you all.


Jack H July 9, 2013 at 3:10 pm

You heard our fellow Christian, Nathan here, your articles are wonderful, well-written and inspired by the Bible as USUAL! :DD Oh, and I happened to stumble upon a report about corruption. Not corruption just on a political scale, but on a judicial scale, media scale, and even a MEDICAL SCALE! I checked the rate of corruption for the countries provided. The rate here in Britain is 5%, but the rate in your country is 7%. So slightly more corrupt than here in Blighty. But the most corrupt country ever is Sierra Lione in Africa, with a rate in 84%!! Pastor Jack, I truly feel sorry for our fellow African Christians who have to put up with this rubbish. I try to obey the British Government’s laws wherever possible. But when they are going to allow same-sex marriage soon, I will NOT be up for the offer. Well, been nice sharing this with you, and I hope we meet each other in Heaven someday. Bye-bye!! Jack H


Jack Wellman July 9, 2013 at 10:05 pm

Hello Jack H. What a tragedy indeed. How sad that money had become more important that human beings. Think of this though…they will not lose their reward and these who are doing such things will not get away with anything but you are so right sir…we need to be praying for justice to come to those who are abusing their power in Sierra Lione in Africa and African Christians in general. Thanks for bringing this up. Please do come back again Jack H. May God richly bless you and praying for Jesus to come back soon to end all this abuse of power and corruption.


Derek Hill July 9, 2013 at 5:28 pm

Nice article Jack. I agree with you 100%. If unbelievers are bringing you to places you shouldn’t go, it is better to leave for sure. Blessings on youbrother! Another job well done friend!


Jack Wellman July 9, 2013 at 10:06 pm

Thanks Derek. You are always an encouarager Barnabas….no, Derek. I get you two mixed up! LOL


Robert July 10, 2013 at 7:07 am

Great article, Jack. Christians do not have to be ‘afraid’ of coming into contact with non-Christians, but it is also unwise to immerse ourselves in a God-less environment indiscriminately. “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals”” (I Corinthians 15:33 ESV). God bless you, brother.
Yours in Christ,


Jack Wellman July 10, 2013 at 12:54 pm

Thanks Robert. As always, your words are a Barnabas to me. Hope all is well with you brother.


Jennifer June 27, 2014 at 1:13 am

Pastor Jack, I’ve found you again! Amen! You’re article is well written and I get it! You are such an encouragement to me as I’ve been seeking out reading about Christian marriages and relationships. I’m grateful for your words of wisdom.


Jack Wellman June 27, 2014 at 7:28 am

Hello Jennifer. You sure know how to make a person’s day. Thank you so much for your kind words. I am glad to “hear” from you again too. May God richly bless your search for your subject matter and it sounds like a good one!


Beverly August 3, 2014 at 2:14 pm

First of all,
let’s define a friend , according to Merriam Webster – A friend is a person who you like and enjoy being with.

So if you are walking with God and enjoy spending time with God and you are a friend of God, how can you be friend with someone who does not have, know or love God.
What do you guys talk about.

Now you can have acquaintances, co-workers( you have lunch with) and so forth, you can go to a party you are invited to by an unbeliever, but beyond that, I don’t know what a believer and an unbeliever hanging out together will have to discuss.

We are a separated people, consecrated, we are princes and princesses of the most high God. How many Friends do Prince Harry and William have who are not royalty or who don’t think or act like royals. I can assure you, not very many if any at all.
We have to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. You don’t have to be somebody’s “friend” to be able to evangelize to them. Being friendly and being friends is something different.
I don’t know how to enjoy spending time with someone who believes in sex before marriage , or that gays were “born that way”, or that you shouldn’t “force” your believe system on others and that everyone should be free to do as they see fit as long as “it makes them happy”.

If you enjoy spending time with such people and you are a believer, I will tell you right now , that your mind has NOT yet been transformed.
Remember, you are the average of your five closest friends.


Maya January 12, 2019 at 11:46 pm

Do you actually believe that if you spend time with a non believer you never REALLY became a born again Christian with a renewed mind? That’s so loveless it hurts my heart. Where at all did you find that in scripture? Is your faith truly that fragile that you believe that? And to answer the other question about what there would be to discuss… you can discuss music, film, career interests, food, travel, school, family… etc. You can discuss a lot of things, and sure you will have different views on a lot, but that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about them. And with your analogy to the royals, I get the analogy, however it to me, seemed pretty judgment driven. Just because we love and know Jesus, does not make us better than any other human being on this planet… and people that don’t know Jesus aren’t like peasants or somerhing? The church has hurt so many people because of this thinking. No hate though.


Chris September 22, 2014 at 5:14 am

It is 6:00 a.m. I couldn’t sleep all night. I was thinking about how I have been hurt by so many friends and family members who do not know the true word of God or live by it and who share different or more sinful views about life.

These people I speak of are both Christians and non-Christians.

Sometimes I doubt myself and my beliefs when I have tried to accept someone with different values and views about God or religion. For example: if a non-believer calls me a name to deal with their anger towards me because they disagree with my views I allow myself to be scarred by that name rather then turning to my faith and praying to God to ask God to forgive this person who sinned or who enforced their differences upon me and to guide me to heal and forgive.

I feel to often I try to be friends with the world and accepting of all people. There is a consquence to this and I have emotionally paid high price. I try to use these moments to teach the word of God and to grow closer to God in what I have learned and experienced.

What I feel is I personally would like to close my circle of friends a bit smaller to be able to live the true word of God and Jesus without putting myself in harms way.

I don’t feel I need to close myself off to the world because that wouldn’t feel holy to me.

It just means I can’t allow myself to go into darkness with people in the world who don’t honour, value or share the same views and beliefs as Jack has eluded to. I will allow more room for light in my life and those honour the light.

Thanks Jack. Your teachings made sense to me. I will apply it to my daily life. I feel like I can fall asleep now and rest easier knowing its okay to grow closer to friends who lift you up, support you and share the word of God with you rather then always putting myself in harms way by trying to be friends to everyone of all values and thoughts about life.


Jack Wellman September 22, 2014 at 11:06 am

Chris, what a wonderfully inspiring testimony you have given here. Wow…I thank God for you and for your encouragement and covet such people like you in the church where I am the under-shepherd to the Great Shepherd. I am glad that God could use me to help a fellow heir in Christ. May God richly bless you my friend.


Chris September 22, 2014 at 7:07 pm

Hi Jack,

Thank you for your response and the kind words you wrote to me.

I wrote my message tired while lacking sleep. My grammar in my message was not very clear. I hope you were able to understand most of what I wrote. For example: I wrote the word elude but I meant allude.

Your teachings I reflected and prayed about today.

I have concluded when we share the light and the word of God and Jesus in a loving and healthy manner with others who live by the same light and word we can increase our relationship with God and Jesus I feel and we decrease our relationship to darkness living without the true word of God and Jesus.

Our values and the word of God and Jesus guide our lives instead of bad habits, accidental occurrences and negative emotions. We are able to take the highway and get exactly to where we are going to straight away when we know exactly who we are and what we believe.

These values can be inspiring to ourselves and to others.

The more we include others in our lives with the same values and shared beliefs the easier it is each to hold each other
accountable to living the good life with God and Jesus.

Should we get off the beaten track it is our friends with the same values and word of The Lord who can help guide us back to our values. These values teach us things like self respect and self esteem.

Our values and the word of God I feel if not exercised diminishes our values and relationship with God and Jesus.

Ourselves and our loved ones should therefore act in the best interest of our values to serve The Lord and his son and all of God’s children to continue exercising these values and make the values and word of God operational.

Part of my values is to love all of God’s children no matter their religion, race or values. So often I have turned off the highway (metaphor) to travel down a country road with twist and turns meeting all the colorful people God calls as his children. Some of these children don’t know values, were never taught values, were not guided by the good word of God to have good values that serve The Lord, all his children and our faith and therefore they live in darkness. This darkness is often foreign to me. Therefore I take it personally when someone’s actions hurt me because our values and beliefs are different and their actions are unkind.

In my opinion, this is not a moment to turn away from darkness it is a moment to allow the light of God and Jesus to shine through me and to give light to the person living in darkness and help them with a flashlight to find their way through the darkness.

When they see light at the end of the tunnel I may not have converted them to live better values or live by the word of God. I feel I may have strengthened there values slightly and given them hope for a brighter future.

Like Jesus who was often betrayed by his brothers and sisters if someone betrays me I can turn to God for strength and I can turn to my inner core friends who share the same values to help guide me and hopefully these experiences will strengthen my values and I will learn what I truly value and the word of God and Jesus.

I feel, God dimmers the light for us sometimes to understand our true values and relationship with God. It’s also an opportunity to help others living in darkness.

How we deal with darkness and those living in it, I feel is what matters.

As I said earlier today, I will close my inner circle of friends a bit smaller to allow my friendships with friends who share the same values and word of God, but I will continue to be friends with friends who don’t share the values to be a lighthouse when they are lost in the fog, to be a flashlight when they are lost in the dark, to be a nightlight when they feel around in the dark and to be street lamp when their thoughts of darkness wonder the streets.

I will not be afraid to grow closer to God when I help guide God’s children through darkness.

I will honour and value growing closer to my friends who are also the lighthouse, street lamps and night lights for those living in darkness. For together we can shine brighter and further and share our values and the word of God with those living in darkness.

My values will change and grow along with my relationship with God as I continue to be a beacon of light and wandering in darkness from time to time. I know I will try to strengthen my values and relationship with God by standing with my friends who are journeying the same path.

Thank you again Jack for your teachings. What I wrote above is what I reflected on today after thinking all night about how more people living in darkness without the word of God filled up my life more then people living in the light with the word of God.

This article helped facilitate my prayer and reflection today. Your teachings are valuable and I honour your word of God and teachings.

With gratitude and kindness Jack I wish you many blessings. You are a great word smither and messenger of God.

Peace be with you.


Jack Wellman September 23, 2014 at 9:54 am

Chris, it is such an encouragement to hear such testimonies and faithful witnesses to God. You are an encourager I can tell and must be a blessing to any church, family, or community and may God richly bless you for that Chris.


Chris September 23, 2014 at 10:16 am

Thanks Jack for your kind words again.

I look forward to reading more of your articles.

You will be in my prayers. God bless you, your family and the community where you are a pastor of. All the best to you.


Jack Wellman September 23, 2014 at 10:45 am

Chris, glory to God alone for He provides us with all wisdom to which I am eternally grateful. Thank you for your kind blessing indeed. You are so welcome.


Sandy September 24, 2014 at 6:40 am

Great article.


rocky August 12, 2015 at 4:12 am

i hear the message and i believe it..but what i want to know is that what if you already married a partner who finds happiness in unholy places? should you divorce them?


Jack Wellman August 12, 2015 at 8:36 am

Jesus said that except for adultery no one can divorce or have biblical grounds for divorce. That is not my opinion but what Jesus said. I am sorry I could not help you Rocky.


Danny February 9, 2016 at 4:42 am

Wow…everything has been explained,God bless you for the wonderful work!


Stacey W. June 4, 2016 at 7:33 pm

What about my family? I have family members who have anti-Christian beliefs and values. I feel I have nothing in common with any of them. What should Christians do when family members have the potential of dragging them down? I have a teenaged son, and sometimes I worry about the influence of certain family members may have on him. I have raised my son to have conservative Christian beliefs and a Biblical world view. I don’t want that tainted by family members who are unbelievers. I don’t know what to do. I can’t just eliminate all contact with family. right?


Jack Wellman June 4, 2016 at 8:08 pm

Thank you Stacey. Great point about having non-Christians family members. I should have addressed that one so I am sorry about that. No, you can’t eliminate the family influence but if you think of it biblically; The Father is the One Who draws us (John 6:44), the Son saves us (John 3:16) and the Spirit convicts and converts us so just trust God with this and keep praying for your son…but for the lost family members too. God will not lose one who Jesus died for (John 6:37, 39; John 10:28-29, Romans 8). You can trust the Lord of the Harvest.


Dhanashree December 13, 2016 at 1:38 am

Hello sir, Praise the lord. I read your article and all the above comments which all were very helpful to me to learn while I’m in the kind of situation which confuses me with the same. I still have a question that though we have faith in Christ and we follow the bible and if we sin, not by purpose but if we do, so will we not be accepted in the heaven? And the other question is that I’m a very friendly and a kind of person who gets mixed up with people and end up laughing on jokes and stuff.. so is it wrong to enjoy the company of non-christians??


Jack Wellman December 13, 2016 at 8:32 am

No one is sinless, even after they are saved. Talk to your pastor about this or have you already talked with your pastor about this and asked him this? We all still sin after we’re saved (1 John 1:8, 10) but we confess it and strive to stop sinning. If we are saved and as we would expect, we fall into sin, we confess it. God knows we still sin (Read Romans chapter 7). Its not wrong to be around non-Christians…this articles refers to being friends with non-Christians, at least close friends. It is not sin to be around non-Christians or we’d all be in a lot of trouble. We are still in the world but not of the world.


Bertski February 16, 2018 at 11:14 am

The Bible doesn’t address many things as 2000 years ago, especially among people who knew most ideas of God already knew things as common sense.
But our society is far from God, where it has even infected the churches. Which it’s important to realize that the Protestant Reformation could never had occurred if there wasn’t the original church that existed for centuries. As it goes back to the time of Abraham. Christ came to save those news that were lead astray or went astray.
Because of antagonism from ungodly people, some withdraw and become more prudish (?). Prudish isn’t the word, but the sourness and bitterness the heathen dishes out shows in their targets. So those that believe in God need to distance thenselves.
St. Paaul, I think, states we’re men of like passions. Which is why we should seperate ourselves from the heathen. Where the heathen like to live as they choose and desire to bring others into their dark pit. As they generally have suppressed or repressed guilt, sorrows, then say, well life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, though it does! But Satan has got into this and has created more stringent ideals than is realistic so as to dissuade others from engaging. Many false doctrines are taught, but few will acknowledge such. Which ancient Israel lived amongst one another and common sense knew a person had cause and effect behavior, which has gotten neglected in corrupted theology. Just because the Bible doesn’t address something doesn’t justify or condemn it, as common sense and understanding of concepts is necessary.
Which God being real but a spirit as far as I know and what is recorded has feelings as we do. Just think how you feel to be neglected, left out, ignored, etc. God has a response that’s more lenient than many people, especially those in relationships.
As worship, it’s very much like interaction, communication between a couple of such. Think how the spouse feels when they lose this. Worse, when one goes after another instead of the one they’re married to. God feels hurt too, which isn’t said directly in the Bible or other writings I’m aware of. But common sense tells you that, where thou shalt not have any other Gods’ besides me. Otherwords, profession in God is a contract. But things are more fun here or hard times come and its’ better over here than with God, well you or we deserted our first love.
Which the heathen hates a positive covenant with God, desiring to destroy it. Don’t go calling pagans and wiccans heathens, not yet, as many couldn’t find truth and the examples of God drove some away. Now some people don’t desire God!
There’s many things not known in clergy that is known by those who are around others in life to see cause and effect.
Which there’s things we’re to do that aren’t done, then things that shouldn’t be done, that are done. Which isn’t taught in churches. Not that I’ve heard anyway. So many are self willed, they’re take offense at humble correction where those that like to be the old wise man tell a bunch of bull which also discouraged true instruction.
But getting back on topic. We all have basic needs and desires. The faith is what is to teach us how to channel these desires. Even showing us how to correctly view one another. But I’m a society where do many twist and distort things to create confusion is another of Satans’ devices.
Which acceptance and approval is desired, it’s a news which go along to get along is another of Satans’ devices. But moral support and encouragement is also needed. Thus, separate yourselves from the world and don’t forsake the gathering of yourselves.
But, society accepts a watered down diluted practice. Which there’s behaviors that encourage and entice falling into sin, which we’re not to make provisions for. Because we’re of like passions, being human.
Then some with their absolutes and calling some things bad or evil without knowing preceding events that brought about certain affects is also a tool of Satan. But that’s because so many are so skillful at trying to make everything the same as in absolutes.
This those that truly desire God and willing to make the sacrifice and commitment unique to Gods’ covenant isn’t for everyone.
Just think. God lives his people do much, one person as Isaiah was taunted and hurt by bullying, emotional distress caused by mean little brats teasing him about being half which probably made him want to curl up and die, God sent bears out to tear them to pieces for offending one of his. Where God knows everyones’ thoughts and feelings. Yes, feelings, it’s clearly stated in the KJV. Now that’s a loving God. Which consider parents how they take the defensive if they’re children are wrongly or unjustly hurt by others. Or vice versa. We share basic feelings that God does too.
Sometimes God uses people in place of bears. Nature too.
People desiring God can relate and desire to understand.
But as Sodom & Gomorrah, only because of Abrahams’ petitioning of God did God spare Lots’ life. Which we know the am creepos with power who would send angelic impersonators then impose some foolish stigmas or conditions, more at burdens to act like a God, mental cases. Unless it were someone that knows that he’ll is about to reign down and there’s no time for something. But God would separate Lot from the wickedness, where the people loved violence. Where selfisness and other traits would be involved.
Again, people who’re mislead and realize they have faults aren’t in opposition to God, they simply acknowledge the fact that the dynamics that shapes them to a predisposition contrary to the ideal is reality. Some are and have became conscious of Satans’ strategies employed in other gatherings that are wrongly called churches. Some know more about right and wrong as interactions with others by experience of being wronged so much. Biblical academia doesn’t teach this, where 2000 years ago, common sense people knew this.
Maybe church needs to reconsider its’ positions. As a preacher once said, he believed a person learned more in Sunday school than in church service. True enough.
But Satan is a TEMPTER. He works through his people to tempt and entice, then he plays on ones’ natural desires and passions. He’s a destroyer. He’s the Father of Lies. Which when we compromise with the world, we lose truths. Which there’s been some so sick of society and its’ bullcrap, that they go to homesteading. Some go and form communities. Mother Earth News, Countryside, Backwoods Home are magazines good for both. There’s the Fellowship for Intentional Communities.
Which I’ll mention this. Church people were against the Industrial Revolution. Which is a topic itself. Where we’d have to weigh things.
But let’s consider false doctrines. Consider someone who blows their stack at harassment, constant taunting who are called revilers that captures several other behaviors too. But the person uses four letter words. Then a religious nut says, you’ll be judged byb every idle wordfrom your lips, as to judge that person who lost their cool. Obviously that have an evil God. What we know of God spoke of in the Bible who knows everyones thoughts and feelings, he’d probably judge a person as being severely hurt or irritated by the heathen. Even emotionally hurt. Now we’re to bridle out tongue. Which Satan is an accuser, where he used the religious to damn the innocent, who are merely pushed over the limit. Which it applies to anyone, not just those of faith. Oh, heathen, infidel, about the same thing. An 1828 Noah Webster dictionary & a PIC or old Geneva Bible would do good in Bible studies as just learning the true definition of words will change what many have been taught. All these churches that says here is Christ, oh here’s Christ over here, looking at an English metaphor part of the English language is probably more applicable in some doctrine, even prophesy.
Again, want an accurate image of God; Galatians 5:24 on. It’ll contrast with many peoples’ perception of God. Just like some are power oriented, control nuts eitheir themselves, those they’re around, which is a trait of Satan and is why he got the boot, kicked out of heaven. Where God is most powerful, but doesn’t throw his weight around. Unless spurred to. Or it’s necessary. This long suffering. Otherwise he puts up with lots of bull before he lowers the boom. Often using a guiding hand hoping to guide his people. But people mess on him and then take his name in themselves in vain. Where he’s no more their God than I’m King of England.
So can anyone see why we should seperate ourselves if possible?


James Henry August 24, 2018 at 7:42 am

I have supporters online wich mostly are probably unbelievers l, is it a sin to have supporters like that? this led me very concerned with scriptures James 4:4 and 1 John 2:15 , if it is and if it is really needed to leave them, it’s gonna be really hard leaving what i have achieved 🙁


Jack Wellman August 24, 2018 at 9:17 am

I don’t think it is a problem Mr. Henry to have unsaved friends, but when we start getting too close to them, we can start to become like they are or like the world is. What supporters do you mean? Political ones or just friends on Facebook or what sir? What was it that you achieved?


jane August 14, 2019 at 10:06 am

I thought I could cope with relationships with non believers. It has been made apparent to me that it is really very difficult – atheists cannot understand God or my beliefs and often unfortunately mock. The more polite try to understand. Some have even spoken about brainwashing (the swift reply is how can it be brainwashing if I want and voluntarily go to church????)

I have now given up on one of my closest relationships with an unbeliever because her life – and it all it stands for – to me is living hell.


Jack Wellman August 14, 2019 at 11:20 am

Thank you Jane.


Cathleen Vanasse September 20, 2019 at 6:45 am

I too have the same problem. I’ve been mocked to my face by someone I consider my friend. Everything from we close our businesses on Sunday to force our beliefs on other people to prayer is foolishness. She actually laughed out loud about people praying for her and being put on prayer lists because she recently had a stroke. She thinks it’s nonsense. I’m starting to think she uses me because of my good nature and helpfulness. I don’t like where this is going. I find it doubtful I am making any impact in her life except being there for her when she needs something done. Being used and abused by other people cannot be part of Christ’s ministry. I don’t see that anywhere in the Bible as our mission. I do see we should dust off our feet and move on if someone rejects the message. It’s pretty clear I need to take leave of this situation, probably should have a while ago. My fault.


Jeremy January 29, 2020 at 1:13 pm

So, that explains why my Christian friend started acting so shady and has had very little to do with me in the last few years since finding religion. Unlike him, I’ve never cheated on anyone, had a DUI, or discriminated against anyone because of their beliefs. This is a big reason that I am a Christian who doesn’t go to church. I don’t believe in judging.


Jack Wellman January 29, 2020 at 2:11 pm

You are already judging…judging the church and apparently, all churches. What about Heb 10:24-25? Does this command mean nothing to you? Aren’t believers to obey the Bible? Your “big” reason is not scriptural, therefore, you are diobeying the command to assemble together. There are no “lone ranger” Christians in the New Testament church. You are just making your friend an excuse to forsake the assembling. What about communion which you are commanded to take? Your reasons are invalid according to Scripture. You will have to give an account to the Head of the Church, Jesus Christ, not me or anyone else. Your “friend’s” reason won’t help you then.


Derek Brown September 2, 2021 at 6:44 pm

great informative read, has cleared up all which i sought. thank you! …. oh, that image of light and darkness.. the light spheres, do they represent angels?


Jack Wellman September 3, 2021 at 10:51 am

Not sure of what light spheres you are referring to Mr. Brown.


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