How Can I Find God? I Feel So Alone

by Robert Driskell · Print Print · Email Email

Many people think that God enjoys playing hide-and-seek.  They think that it is our job to conquer a bunch of obstacles as we search for God while, at the same time, God is dodging our attempt to connect with Him.  The Bible disagrees with this image of God and actually shows Him to be a loving Creator who has made it more likely than not for us to know Him and have a relationship with Him.  God makes Himself so accessible that the only reason a person does not know Him is if the person willfully rejects His gracious offer of salvation.  Let us look at His Word on this subject.

From The Beginning

From the very first sin that man committed against God, God demonstrated His love when He promised that He would provide a remedy for our sin. When their sin brought awareness of their nakedness to Adam and Eve, God provided a covering of animal skin so they could hide their shame.  Additionally, God promised (in a veiled way) that neither sin nor Satan would triumph over His plan for humanity (Genesis 3:15).  God has never left humanity completely alone; He has always provided a way by which we can be united with Him the way we were created to be.

Finding God

God wants to forgive and save those who would simply surrender their lives to Him

God Wants To Have a Relationship With Us

The entire Bible contains the record of God making a way for mankind to be reconciled to Him.  We have sinned, and we are sinners in need of salvation.  We cannot save ourselves; therefore, God loved us so much that He provided the way by sending His Son, Jesus Christ, to die on a cross for you and me.  Not only that, He also reaches out to us, so that we may realize our situation and know the cure for our sin that He has provided.

In the Old Testament, we read, “For thus says the Lord God: Behold, I, I myself will search for my sheep and will seek them out” (Ezekiel 34:11 ESV) and, “I will seek the lost, and I will bring back the strayed, and I will bind up the injured, and I will strengthen the weak, and the fat and the strong I will destroy. I will feed them in justice” (Ezekiel 34:16 ESV).

We also read, in the New Testament, these words of Jesus, “For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost” (Luke 19:10 ESV).  When Jesus was forecasting His death, He said, “And I, when I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all people to myself” (John 12:32 ESV).

The clear message of both the Old and New Testaments is that God is actively reaching out to people; He wants to forgive and save those who would simply surrender their lives to Him.  He is not hiding from us at all; rather He, “…desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth” (I Timothy 2:4 ESV).

God Seeks Us Out

Jesus told His disciples that the Holy Spirit would come to them after He had gone, and that the Holy Spirit would, “…convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment…” (John 16:8 ESV).  This tells us that the Holy Spirit is at work in the hearts and minds of the people in ‘the world’ (that’s everyone) to convince them of the truth of God and His Word.

This is further born out in the epistle to the Romans, chapter one, “For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse” (Romans 1:19-20 ESV).  God has made sure to place the clear evidence of His existence all around us, in every created thing, so that we cannot miss His glory and truth.  The very beauty of nature is a witness to the greatness, power, and nature of God.  He wants us to know Him.

As Christians, We Are Never Alone

The Bible tells us that, as followers of Jesus, we are never alone, “You, however, are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact the Spirit of God dwells in you. Anyone who does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to him” (Romans 8:9 ESV, See also Romans 8:11; I Corinthians 3:16, 6:19; II Corinthians 6:16; II Timothy 1:14).  When we repent of our sins and God forgives us, God’s Holy Spirit actually begins to reside in our hearts and minds.  We begin a union with God that fulfills us as God created us to be.  From the moment we are saved, God is no longer Someone who is ‘out there’; rather, His Holy Spirit begins to dwell inside of us, giving us hope, joy, peace, strength, guidance, and every other thing we need to live the fulfilled live we were designed, by God, to live.


Contrary to the false ideas that many have of God, He does not hide from those who seek to know Him.  As a matter of biblical fact, He has made it quite easy to find Him.  Jesus said that the Holy Spirit is at this very moment working in the hearts of men and women in ‘the world’ to draw them to Him.  The Bible tells us that God has designed creation so that it points to the truth of His existence, power, and nature.  Finally, we are assured of God’s personal presence in our lives when we repent of our sins and become followers of Jesus Christ.

God is right now in the process of seeking out sinners, convincing them of His truth, and leading them to the point where they either choose to follow Him or reject Him.  This is the most important choice we will ever make.  One leads us to an eternity of torment and the other leads to an eternity filled with the love of the all mighty Creator God.  One is a destiny of loneliness; the other is the fulfillment of what we were made to be…united with God, never to be alone

Take a look at this related post about making a decision to follow Christ today:

God Seems Distant: How Can I Connect With God

Resources – The Holy Bible, English Standard Version “Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.”

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DocReits October 5, 2013 at 12:45 am

Wow! I have rarely seen a more succinct and perfect explanation of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Thank you Robert for getting the grass down to where this cow can eat it…;-)



Robert October 7, 2013 at 7:13 am

Thank you DocReits,
I am encouraged to find out that my service to the Lord is having a positive effect for His glory. God bless you and keep you.
Yours in Christ,


Mr Anthony Cotton October 12, 2013 at 11:38 am

I took your advice on board,and what you said. I feel at peace for now. It`s not very good living by your self,and have anxiety state. I also get treatment off the doctor for Hypertension,and I take a 50 mg tablet this slows your heart down. I also take Allopurinol 300 MG tablet for Gout,and I have Arthritis of the lower spine,and I am addicted to Valium through no fault of my own. I am coming up to 65 yrs in December. I think thats about it. I can assure you Robert that I will never give up on God no matter how hard it gets. This is all knew to me, since the Holy Spirit dropped me off hear.
I was brought up a strict RC,and the things I have found out on this site is amazing. When you are a Catholic you more or less get the Pope rammed down your neck,and what he says goes. I am away from all that now,and I feel closer to God,Jesus,and the Holy Spirit through your teaching,and Jack`s. I don`t think a Catholic knows what a bible is.
I am still trying to find a layperson to help me. My social worker is trying to find someone. I don`t treat this site has a website it`s like going to church. I get the direction to go in,or the answer`I feel much better after I have been told things that I know come from You and Jack. It`s about over 2 yrs since I found this site. I was on two others before this,and all they tried to do was to see who was more clever than you.
Again Thanks Robert for your words of wisdom. God Bless.


Mr Anthony Cotton October 18, 2013 at 1:26 pm

How can I find God I feel so alone.
Since coming to this site about 3 years ago I did feel alone,and I was at the bottom of a very dark pit.
It was about 2 years that the Holy Spirit(It could have been no one else) came to me,and I could see everything that was wrong,and the words coming out of my mouth were very profound I was like a Pastor with the answers which I never evan heard of. I was on another website which some of them where just trying to get Browny Points,and I could see straight through them. I had enough,and left and the Holy Spirit dropped me off hear. The very big difference was that I found you got help without being ridiculed and that the people where very sincere in trying to help. While being on this sight I have learned more in those 2 yrs than in my entire life. I don`t think of it has a website it`s more like a church to me,and I have learnt things that no catholic priest has told me. I still havn`t found a religious group,because hear in the NE of England nobody is interested in religion any more. If you Robert or Jack were near by I would be at your church every week,and more. I have more or less repeated has the post above. God bless you Robert.


Michael October 24, 2013 at 11:28 am

Great article, thanks! A couple thoughts…

As you so well explained, even the notion of the thought “How Can I Find God?” is fundamentally flawed. We don’t find Him, He works IN us to bring us to Him (spiritually). The notion of “how can I find God?” results in a perspective that He’s “out there”, when he’s really found inside.

I think there’s an opportunity for us to use clearer words when talking about how people reject God, which may result in people more easily accepting and receiving Him in a truer spirit. Many people talk about “turning your back on God” or “turning away”, which obviously reinforces a notion that God is external to us. As we know, it’s really a heart and mind issue – along the lines of “closing our hearts to God” or “building a wall in our minds from God”. I think the words we use have tremendous power over our perceptions, and we should be deliberate about the analogies we use.


Robert October 24, 2013 at 1:34 pm

Hi Michael,
Thanks for reading and commenting. You are absolutely right about the careful use, and choice, of our words. If we simply took a bit longer to think before we spoke we could communicate so much better. Thanks for pointing that out. I find myself using phrases such as “resisting God” or “rejecting His lordship” or something along those lines. It makes it clear that such a person is actively in rebellion against a Holy God who is calling him or her to repent. Thanks again, Michael. God bless you.
Yours in Christ,


Luk December 23, 2013 at 5:02 pm

I like your article. I red it couple times but I have something to ask you but before that I want to tell yu something. About three years ago I came to a camp and one of the days they asked if anyone wants to stay and give their life’s tones us we all prayed for each other and then I came with some other people and I gave my life to Jesus but I never really repented I was still addicted to pornography. Couple months ago I got baptized but I never stopped watching pornography. So I have a question what do you think of my situation?


Robert December 24, 2013 at 5:26 pm

Hi Luk,
Thanks for reading and commenting. Habitual sin can have a strong hold on people. Pornography is one of the most difficult sins for a man to deal with. But, I have good news; God is bigger than any sin there is. And He loves us more than we can imagine.

I am always very careful when giving any kind of advice on this website, since I don’t really know you or the minute details of your situation I want to be very careful with what I say and how I say it.

Having said that, your comment (and question) raises a few points I’d like to address.

First, when we truly give our lives to Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit indwells us, strengthening us to be able to withstand temptation and to not sin (I Corinthians 10:13). However, we still must resist the temptation, which is our part. If you are still willfully sinning, it may be that you have never made Jesus the Lord of your life in the first place. Luk, the first thing you need to do is to fall on your knees before God and make sure that you have given your life to Him. In your heart, Jesus Christ (and your relationship with Him) must be the most important thing in your life.

Second, you need to distance yourself from pornography. If you have DVDs, VHS, etc., you need to destroy them. Don’t just throw them away, as they may fall into the hands of someone else and cause damage to them, DESTROY them. If you have cable channels that show pornography, you have to do something to avoid watching it. Find a trusted Christian friend, whom you trust, and confide in him. Notice I said ‘him’, it is not wise for a male and a female to intimately share this kind of struggle.

Luk, the meaning of ‘repentance’ is to turn away from your sin. If you say that you have repented but, in your heart, you don’t determine to truly turn from sin, this sin will continue to tempt you, and drag you down, until you truly set your heart on removing it from your life.

Luk, the Bible promises us that we do not have to be slaves to sin (Romans 6) if our hearts are truly given to God. God bless you, Luk. I will keep you in my prayers. Please let me know how it is going with you.

Yours in Christ,


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