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Amaka June 24, 2020 at 5:42 am

After one has repented from sexual sin, What are the right words to use to apologise to a past female sex partner and to make her understand that you are a repented soul now, also to encourage her to repent too

Jack Wellman June 24, 2020 at 8:56 am

I think just be honest and tell them you are so sorry and repented of this because it was sin and sorry for using that person…

Ifeoma June 29, 2020 at 5:42 am

Good morning . My partner and I have been fight lust for some months now and in the beginning of the relationship we handed it over to God and told him to guide us through this journey. Our relationship is 2 years and some months . Few days ago we got carried away and we had sex online( it’s a long distance relationship but we are both virgins hoping to get married). On Sunday I got a revelation from God that I need to run away from sin and choose God over and human or human desire . Luckily for me my partner got the same revelation and we are filled with regrets so I came to this platform to help teach us how to avoid sin and become closer to God and after learning I will encourage my partner to do same because he is will to do anything to make sure God is not angry with us . In the guide the last step said we should cut of from our sexual partner , I am thinking it through do you suggest that we break up?

Jack Wellman June 30, 2020 at 11:35 am

Dear Ifeoma,

As someone who has struggled with lust, I want you to know that you are not alone. (Romans 3:23) Also, you need to know that God loves you and is not seeking to condemn you. (Romans 8:1) He wants you and your partner to walk in the freedom of the Spirit–this is why He sent Jesus to die on the cross–so we don’t have to live in the pits of lustful desires. (John 8:36) Every step in the process above will assist you if you want to be free–including the last step.

What is it you really want? You want to be married one day to the one who loves you unconditionally as Christ? Then you want what God wants–to present yourself as holy, pure, and godly to the one God wants for you (who is also living a holy, pure and godly life). I pray this prayer often: “God, I only want what You want for me.” God changes us from the inside out when it comes to lust. We make the step of obedience to His word and He enables us through the Holy Spirit to overcome our weaknesses. (Galatians 5:16)
I wish I could tell you it’s easy–it’s not–it’s a daily process of submitting to the Spirit and denying the flesh. (Matthew 26:41) However, if you do this–you will find yourself truly free and whole to be the person God is calling you to be for His purposes. This is most and more fulfilling than anything else you could desire.

God bless…Crystal

Chinwe July 21, 2020 at 1:34 am

Good morning sir sir, what do I do I met this guy in singles group organized by my church, we got dating and he was serious about settling down with me, but along the line we got carried away and sinned against God, we funicated…… What we do to restory relationship with God, as this is the second time it is happening in this relationship

Jack Wellman July 21, 2020 at 9:08 am

I would avoid being alone with this guy for now until you can date in public or with another couple. Please speak to your pastor or a godly woman in your church. This is sin, as you know. I would speak with this guy too that you cannot continue fornicating until you are married. If he shows no interest in marriage, avoid this man.

Lisha October 7, 2020 at 11:42 pm

I have been in a sinful relationship for over a year. I’ve made the decision to never look back recently. I also have been having alot of health problems and I feel so lost. I honestly would love to go back in time and do things differently, but I can’t. I know that I have disappointed God but I need Him and feel like He may not take me back.
I’m struggling so much with ending things with that person as well. I still think of him, it’s very irrational and I dislike it so much. Please pray for me. I am facing physical as well as spiritual despair. Will God ever forgive me and allow His favor to be upon me?

Jack Wellman October 8, 2020 at 10:02 am

I will pray for you but Lisha, call your pastor and speak with him. We need one another and especially in your case (Heb 10:24-25). Will God forgive you? Of course. If you have been born again and repented of your sins, yes.

Crystal McDowell October 17, 2020 at 9:01 am

Dearest Lisha…many of us believers have been where you are–the struggle of pulling out of a sinful relationship. God completely forgives and loves you. You have a everything you need in our Lord Jesus Christ. I’d encourage you to pray for a godly woman mentor to walk you through the difficult days. Also, hold your head up high…there is now therefore no condemnation to those in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1) and if you confess your sins, God is faithful to forgive you and cleanse you of all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). You are most certainly beloved of God–never ever ever forget this–nothing can separate you from the love of Your Heavenly Father sis (Romans 8:38-39). Hang tough…God’s got you. Plus I pray for your physical healing as well.

Jack November 5, 2020 at 8:50 am

I don’t believe this article is. 100% correct. It doesn’t need to be considered a sin just because you are not married. The Bible says (numerous times) that love is above all sins. If you stop loving someone and/or walk away (if you really love someone) because you are committing a sin, you really have missed the whole point of the Bible. Jesus said: Love your lord and love other humans. It’s repeated a hundred times in the script: LOVE DEFEATS ALL SIN! Please remove this hideous article and stop misleading people!

Jack Wellman November 5, 2020 at 9:16 am

No Jack. Love does not take away sins or excuse sins because those who practice such things (like sexual immorality, which is any sex with anyone outside of marriage, as per the Word of God in: 1 Cor 6:9; Gal 5:21; Rom 1:32, etc. ) will not be in the kingdom. Any sex outside of marriage between a man and a woman is sin according to the Bible and those who practice such things will not inherit the Kingdom of God. That’s not my opinion, but the truth from Scripture. Please do not mislead people with this heresy as you are leading people into error and hell fire and you are responsible for that. Repent of your heresy today sir.

James December 27, 2020 at 6:53 pm

I’m currently living with my fiancé. We lived together while dating, then got engaged. We’ve sinned sexually several times over the last 6 years of our relationship. I want to marry her, but don’t want to live in sin or anger the LORD. What should we do?

Jack Wellman December 27, 2020 at 7:31 pm

I would marry now and not wait. To not marry and continue to live in sin like this will bring God’s judgment in this world and the world to come. Please do this now and move out right away so you stop living together as God will not bless this relationship as it is now. Please call your pastor and schedule an appointment with him.

Emmanuel January 4, 2021 at 2:45 am

I read the article, comments and replies and it encouraged me.
This is my own and i need help.

I met her 3 months ago and we loved each other instantly. There was a still peace in our hearts that convinced us we were meant to be so we got dating. At the beginning we held our hands and went on our knees and submitted the relationship to God. A few weeks later she will come and see me and some times sleep over. Then i can’t explain what happened but we sinned, and again, and again. After each of this act, i will feel bad and apologize to her and also God but it will happen again. We love each other so much and we see a beautiful future together but not in this sinful state. Our both families know and agree to our relationship but i don’t want to loose her because of this sin. Aside this sin, we have no problem and she’s a believer too. Please help me.

Jack Wellman January 4, 2021 at 9:34 am

I would move out immediately and not be living in sin any longer. Those who practice such things (as sexual immorality) will not inherit the kingdom, so please read 1 John as there is no assurance given to anyone who lives in sin and needs help, but they have to move out and that will be step one for help. Stop the sleep-overs. Please call your pastor today. This cannot continue. True believers do not live in sexual immorality. The truth is, neither of you may be saved for believers do not so such things as a general practice. Get married or stay out of that house where there might be more sex between unmarried people.

Kerri on mowatt January 6, 2021 at 3:07 am

I have been Baptist for almost 2years now and I met a young man and we fell in love with each so we started to date we carried away and I’m worried because I have sin against my god and we are trying to control our feelings and it is hard wat should we do

Jack Wellman January 6, 2021 at 10:13 am

No believer continues to live in sin (Read 1 John) so something must change. Call your pastor and seek counsel as we need one another more today than ever (Heb 10:24-25). God will not bless this relationship right now. Paul states in Gal 5 that ” I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Please seek counsel. Stop this sexual immorality and only then may God bless this relationship.

Emma January 25, 2021 at 9:38 am

Sir, I have repented of my sexual sins and have cut ties with my girlfriend but I don’t seem to understand how to make the confession you claim for the cleansing according to the scripture. Is it by confessing to God or to my pastor?

Jack Wellman January 25, 2021 at 9:41 am

I would go to God and confess it to Him and you will surely be forgiven.

David February 8, 2021 at 12:08 am

Thanks for this. My search for true forgiveness and freedom brought me to this platform. I want to ask this: how can I bee free from the consequences of past immoral actions including ladies who have committed abortions because of me. I feel I am facing the consequences of these shameful acts now. I have repented. Am I still facing the consequences or is it my mind?

Jack Wellman February 8, 2021 at 9:43 am

We may have consequences for our sin but God will forgive us (1 John 1:9). I believe now it is in your mind for God forgives what we confess.

Reuel February 22, 2021 at 12:03 am

Sir, I vowed not to have sex before marriage. But along the line, I met this Christian sister who was struggling with sexual sins. So, I drew closer to help her, but at last she forced me to sleep with her. Now I’m emotionally challenged, though I have sought for forgiveness from God. What should I do again?

Jack Wellman February 22, 2021 at 9:37 am

No one should force you into sex. You made the choice so now you can repent of this and determine not to sin again. God will forgive you for sure my friend Reuel. Talk to your pastor about this. Here’s what the Bible teaches:

1 Timothy 5:17-18 ESV
Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching. For the Scripture says, “You shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain,” and, “The laborer deserves his wages.”

Galatians 6:6
One who is taught the word must share all good things with the one who teaches.

1 Corinthians 9:14
In the same way, the Lord commanded that those who proclaim the gospel should get their living by the gospel.

Don’t you think you should profit from work? The pastor is not proffitng from the church but surviving.

Marky February 25, 2021 at 2:36 am

I have sinned against God by commiting sexual act with someone. We got drunk and things follow. I abstained sex for 8 years and this happened. I’m scared what If God can’t forgive me anymore and punish me with a STD like HIV. I’m scared and anxious right now.

Jack Wellman February 25, 2021 at 9:20 am

I would talk with your church pastor about this. God will forgive this sin but you need to speak with a man of God to get this settled to see if you are truly saved or not.

Miriam April 3, 2021 at 6:33 pm

This is so helpful.Kindly can I know how someone can get intouch with the author

Chon April 17, 2021 at 12:41 am

I’m facing problem from lust. I try to get over from my life but cannot. It have become part of my life and every time I fall, knowing that its sin.

Jack Wellman April 17, 2021 at 10:40 am

Hello Chon. I will pray for you my friend. Call your pastor. Talk to him. Here’s more on overcoming lust: https://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/advice-for-christians-struggling-with-lust/

Joy April 30, 2021 at 10:28 am

I am currently in my boyfriend’s house and we’ve been having sex. I love God and it’s my will to live up to His standards. I want to leave but don’t just know how to. The more I get up to leave, the more i stay back. I have cried to God to find me, i am His lost sheep and I can’t get up either. It’s like a weakness. I need help

Jack Wellman April 30, 2021 at 12:26 pm

Hello Joy. Please call your pastor and seek counsel. Have your church pray for you as an unspoken needs as we need this more than ever (Heb 10:24-25) but you must do what Jesus said to do. If your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out, meaning take as drastic of measures as necessary to leave this sexually immoral relationship. You are in Satan’s hands now. Move to a friends. Find a church shelter or family member. You need help but you must be willing to take extreme measures, for the Bible tells us all who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. Please repent today because if Jesus were to come today, you know your fate. I will pray for you but YOU must take action today, while it’s still called today (2 Cor 6:2).

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