Unequally Yoked? Meaning, Scriptures and Lesson

by Jack Wellman on May 8, 2013 · Print Print · Email Email

What does the Bible mean by saying we are not to be unequally yoked?  What do the Scriptures say this means and why are we commanded to not be unequally yoked.

The Yoke

What is a yoke?  A yoke is an implement that is used to harness animals together to pull a load or a plow.  The yoke is a familiar and useful tool to agrarian (farming) societies.  This device is used to join a pair of animals, like oxen, to work together, simultaneously.  They can be used to pull out tree trunks, move boulders, pull logs, to plow fields, or pull a loaded cart.  The yoke is often used in the Bible to express the symbolism of having two that are similar in capacity so that they can both work together.  Jesus referred to a yoke once when He told His followers to, Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30).  When we are walking with Christ and are in Christ, we can share the load of our life with Him and the walk, although not easy, will be more bearable.

Unequally Yoke

A yoke is an implement that is used to harness animals together to pull a load or a plow.

A yoke is an implement that is used to harness animals together to pull a load or a plow.

What did Paul mean when he said to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14)?  Does he mean with friends or with those we are dating or considering marriage with?  I believe it is all of these that Paul was addressing but he may be emphasizing marriage in these texts.  In the context we can see that Paul was writing about unbelievers (including friends), those we might consider dating, and those whom we might want to marry.  When we read the entire context of 2 Corinthians chapter six, I believe we can see the answer clearly as with any Scriptures.  Context is always important.  As a rule, I do not like to read just one verse and quote it without reading the entire chapter and possibly the entire book.  So let’s see what Paul was talking about in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18:

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial, Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?  What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?  For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” Therefore, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” And, “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”

In verses 14-16 Paul contrasts light and darkness and righteousness with wickedness.  These have nothing in common.  Jesus said thatYou are the light of the world (Matthew 5:16) but men loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil (John 3:19a).  No one who believes in Christ should stay in darkness (John 12:46c).

Also consider, What harmony is there between Christ and Belial (2 Corinthians 6:15)? The answer is there is no agreement between the two!  Belial is a symbol of a demon or the Devil himself. Belial also means someone who is self-sufficient, truly independent, and has no master.  It is no wonder that Belial is a Hebrew adjective meaning “worthless.”  We must not be self-sufficient but worship and depend upon our Master…that is Jesus Christ.  These two are diametrically opposed and opposites of each other.

We are told that we are the temple of God because God the Holy Spirit dwells in us, therefore there is no place for idols. God must be first and foremost in our lives (Matthew 6:33) but this would be difficult if we marry or have as best friends those who do not believe in God.

Just as God told Israel, Come out from them and be separate (Isaiah 52:11) so we too must be separate from unbelievers in close friendships and in marriage (which includes dating non-believers).  God is our Father (2 Corinthians 6:18) but the unbelievers have Satan as their father (John 8:44).  I know that sounds harsh, but those are not my words, rather,  that is Jesus speaking.

Unequal Yokes

Imagine you see a farmer getting ready to plow his or her field.  They hook up a powerful ox to one side and on the other side, they hook up a tiny little Chihuahua.  Which side is going to work the hardest?  Will they plow together in an equal fashion?  Can they walk along and carry the load on an equal basis?  Of course not!  One will likely be dragged along and impede the progress of the other.  One may pull to the left and one may pull to the right.  The one that is the primary worker will be pulling more than their fair share.  The ox will strain because the Chihuahua will want to run away or go the other direction.  They can not work together because they are unequally yoked together.  They will have little success and the work will either not get done or it will be exponentially more difficult.  It is not fair to the Chihuahua or to the ox.  This will simply not work.  They will eventually have to be unyoked.  For some that are unequally yoked, this means divorce.  How tragic and how unnecessary; it could have been prevented.

The same principle applies to dating or considering an unbeliever as a marriage partner.  Their morals will not be the same, they may have differing principles in child rearing, their television or movie taste will be not be the same, their language, work ethic, just about everything will be different.  They will struggle at almost ever thing they do.  God commands Christians to not marry unbelievers because it is in their best interests.  No marriage is always better than a bad marriage, especially since marriage is intended to last until “death do us part.”  Don’t be fooled by thinking that you can convert them after you marry them because it is God who draws people to Christ (John 6:44).  Just because they say they believe in God does not mean they believe in Jesus Christ as their Lord for He is Lord of all or He is not Lord at all.  Even the Devil and his demons believe in God but that doesn’t make them Christians (James 2:19).  You will know them by their fruit (Matthew 7:16, 20) and not by what they say.  Time will tell.  Jesus meant this when He said, A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit (Matthew 7:18) and Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit (Matthew 7:17).

Equally Yoked

When Jesus said toTake my yoke upon you,” there is the idea that we can put our heavy loads on His shoulders (which is where the yoke goes on the team of oxen).  We must be walking along side of Christ to have the yoke be useful to us. If we walk ahead of Christ, the load will be on us…if we walk behind, we will get no help with our heavy burdens…but if we walk with Christ, we have access to Christ and we can have Him share the load.  That is how we can find rest for [our] souls” for His “yoke is easy and His burden is light.”  The same principle applies to those who marry believers.  They walk together in agreement.  They can share life’s heavy loads together forTwo are better than one, because they have a good return for their work (Ecclesiastes 4:9) andIf one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up (Ecclesiastes4:10)!  Amos 3:3 puts it this way, Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?

Being married to believers is like a three-fold cord because, one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:12).  Two are able to stand stronger than one against the Enemy but when Christ is in the marriage, it becomes a strong “cord of three strands” which is “not quickly broken.”  The idea is that when Christ is at the center of the marriage, the two become stronger because of Christ’s presence and His strength.

I have married many couples who were both believers and I have married couples who were non-believers but I refuse to marry couples where one is a believer and the other is a non-believer.  Believe me when I say this that I am trying to spare them much grief and heartache and perhaps prevent a needless divorce.

If You’re Married to an Unbeliever

What happens if you are presently married to an unbeliever?  My own opinion is worthless compared to what the Bible teaches.  Paul wrote that If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.  For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband (1 Corinthians 7:12-14).  It is crystal clear that Paul says not to divorce someone if they are not a believer because you may be an agent used by God to bring that person to saving faith.  Paul concludes this thought by writing that such a person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them (1 Corinthians 7:17).

Conclusion

There is no doubt that a Christian should not date, become engaged, or marry an unbeliever.  They will have trouble in their marriage to be sure, they will be unequally yoked throughout their lives, they will have many disagreements, they will struggle over ethical and moral decisions, they will differ in their child rearing philosophies, but above all God commands believers to “not be yoked together with unbelievers “ because “what fellowship can light have with darkness?“   It is for our own good and God always knows what best for us…more so than we do for He is God and we are not.

Read more about a model for the Christian marriage here:

Cord of Three Strands

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Robert May 8, 2013 at 3:14 pm

Great article Jack,
So much heartache is caused by people joining up who are unequally yoked; whether in marriage, business, or whatever. Sooner or later, their differing worldviews will cause problems. Thanks again for this insight.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Jack Wellman May 8, 2013 at 4:38 pm

I thanks Robert. I agree…it is for thier best interest to truly be married to believers if you are one and not married to unbelievers if you are one, because I personallly, on many marriage articles, have such grief they deal with. Thanks so much for the encouragement.

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Al May 9, 2013 at 8:39 am

I believe and have accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and savior. The thing is I have a girlfriend who is not a Christian; she believes in God, but does not believe in Christ as her savior, and I dont know if she ever will. We met each other before I became a Christian. I have always believed but havent always been a follower of Christ.

I pray and hope for her to turn to Jesus. But maybe I should leave her, though it’s going to be hard. I just hope she’ll understand.

Thanks for the article.. it arrived at the right time. God bless you

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Jack Wellman May 9, 2013 at 9:33 am

Thank you Al for your comment. This must be painful my friend. I am assuming you started to date your girlfriend before you became a Christian? I am glad that you found out though about how God feels and what His Word says for no marriage is better than a bad one and being married to an unbeliever can bring such heartache and division and if there will be children, the parents need to be on the same page.

I too hope she understands but she will not likely do so. This might be a great opportunity to sit down with her and go over these verses and tell her that you’re first love is always going to be God and that He comes first. You can also pray for her to come to know Jesus Christ.

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Al May 9, 2013 at 10:52 am

Thank you Jack. Yes we started to date before I became a Christian. She has actually said she will understand if I leave her, but it will still be quite painful of course. I surely will pray for to come to know Jesus.

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Al May 9, 2013 at 10:53 am

For her*

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Alicia May 17, 2013 at 4:32 am

Jack,

I’ve been reading your articles for a few hours now and have enjoyed all that I’ve read. I decided to search for this topic on your site, since I am a believer married to an unbeliever. It is amazing how true the scripture is on this topic. It is definitely difficult having different beliefs and views. I didn’t realize how “unbelieving” my husband was until after we were married, and it’s been bothering me. I pray about it, and I mention God/Jesus to him every once in a while, but it seems as if he’s even angry at God and has even applied that we were like His “toys.” I don’t know what happened in his life to feel like that. With completely different moral views, it will be a challenge. I recently told him that it is my duty and purpose to make Jesus a part of our children’s lives (they’re both under 4). I haven’t been to a church in a very long time, and thankfully he is respectful of my want to find a good church for myself and my children. However, he doesn’t understand me not wanting my child to play certain video games or watch certain shows and he is obviously annoyed with me at times, even somewhat angry. I’ve warned him of what is going to happen in the future, so hopefully when he sees these things, he will remember what I’ve said and see that it is all so real (persecution, rapture, mark of the beast, antichrist, etc). However, at the moment he has definitely been fooled, as he thinks it’s ridiculous to think RFID chips would be anything bad, and if a bunch of people disappear (rapture) he’d think it was aliens. Satan sure is a good deceiver! I just want to thank you for writing this article for people that are seeking answers on this subject. I will continue to pray for my husband, and will be patiently hoping for God to show him the light and love he offers.

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Jack Wellman May 17, 2013 at 12:05 pm

Thank you Alicia. You are right to see prayer as the only true source of change for your husband for Satan is a deceiver for sure but I pray others will join us in praying for your husband to repent and see his need for a Savior in Jesus Christ and trust in Him.

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kayode May 21, 2013 at 2:57 am

Thank you for this article,as you wrote it there that a non believer also believe in God but not jesus,i want you to emphasis on this sentence because am dating a muslim girl,that doesn’t believe in jesus but believe in God.and use to confuse me that we are serving thesame God.
Please,is this true that christian and muslim worshiping thesame God?

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Jack Wellman May 21, 2013 at 10:20 am

Hello Kayode and thank you for your question. As painful as this is, you must not be dating a girl that doesn’t believe in Jesus for through Jesus alone is there salvation (Acts 4:12, Acts 16:30-31, John 3:16-18, John 6:44). There is no other way to God and to heaven than thru Jesus alone.

Let me say this as a warning to you and to this girl who “believes” in God. James 2:19 says “You believe that God is one; you do well. Even the demons believe—and shudder!” but of course they are not Christians. The Muslims do NOT worship the same God and Allah is not God but a false God which we are commanded to not worship which is given in the First Commandment. If you are a Christian, you are commanded to not be unequally yoked and must cut off this relationship or God will not be pleased. You must seek first and above all things, the Kingdom and His righteousness (Matt 6:33).

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Laurence September 3, 2013 at 6:09 am

This is such a very interesting Article and Topic to talk about. I had loved a non believer once. I believe in Jesus Christ.Unfortunately, she does not. I am keep putting in my mind that God has a purpose why I met that person- and that is to show to that person the gospel of God and to tell that Jesus Christ is our only way to be save. I even thought to myself, that God, maybe, used me as an instrument so that I could introduce Jesus Christ to that person. Many have commented that it is better to leave that person (the non believers). I am wondered why they are giving up that easily for the person they love. Introducing Jesus Christ may be hard to accept for someone. But Since I really love that person, as much as I wanted that person to have salvation, I will do my best (though I know that it will not be a big deal to that person) to introduce to her the greatness of God. I think God will be please more if there is a one person in this planet that you had change from non believer to a believer. I think that is the main purpose why God introduce that person to my life- to test if your love could defy some ethical standards, and if that kind of barrier could detain you from loving him/her.or to test if that kind of relationship you have is worth having or not. I also belived that Love knows no boudary. I think I will just pray that I could turn that person into a believer, if not in this planet, perhaps in another lifetime.

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Jack Wellman September 3, 2013 at 12:55 pm

Thank you Laurence for your comment. I agree that we can pray for a person who is not saved but God alone decides who is saved (Eph 1,2) and so God is the one who brings people to Christ (John 6:44). I am sorry you do not agree to 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 and Paul’s, and God’s teachings. We can not change anyone on this or any other planet but God can (Prov 21:1). God is pleased when we obey Him ((2 Corinthians 6:15).

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Anita Hampton January 9, 2014 at 1:58 am

Good Morning

Im a 51 year old female-Not married and dont have children.My Mom was my best friend she passed away suddenly in 2012-She left me a legacy-Taste Nita taste and see how good God is.She really loved the Lord and because of this scripture i have become more dependent on Jesus.However -I think im impatient-What i pray for never materialises.I want to stop smoking cigarettes,I need a scipture that i can turn to -to overcome this habit.I really would like my nountain of debt to dissappear-And i would really like a partner.Im not sure -But Jesus is listening to me i think.Please assist me with scriptures.Also.Your article on unqually yoked.I loved it .Thank You.However can 1 pray that the mind and heart be equally yoked to the Holy Spirit.That they become 1?

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Jack Wellman January 9, 2014 at 5:50 pm

Hello Anita. I am sorry for such heartache my friend. I love your comment about being equally yoked with the Holy Spirt. Wow…that’s a great way to say it. Brilliant and thank you so much. Let me instead of one or two Scriptures, direct you to an article that may give you help with the smoking addiction at this link: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-can-i-overcome-addiction-and-sin-in-my-life/ I pray it helps and keep that battle going for if you are wanting to overcome this, this is a great sign that the Holy Spirit is working in you Anita. Keep battling…seek His supernatural power and you can do it by God’s strength.

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Anita Hampton January 10, 2014 at 3:54 am

Good Afternoon Jack

Thank you so much for the feedback.I printed the article and have a weekend to read it and be encouraged by it.
Ive learnt that in all things i must trust the Lord.But there comes a time when im so desparate to hear another voice someone that answers me immediately-I miss having conversations.Almost always-I hear people say how God has blessed them-And it pains me no end that there blessings is over and above anything that i can possibly imagine.So i am being hesitant and i dare say reluctant to step out grasp Jesus hand and say lead me Lord-Here am i.Its almost a case of better the devil you know than the devil you dont know-No disrespect intended-And this bothers me no end.For that reason i questioned whether my heart and my can be equally yoked to that of the Holy Spirit.Natuarally my comment didnt come from me.That must have been the holy spirit.So i cant understand why it is that im struggling to let go-Knowing how Good God has been to me.It seems to me -That im waiting on the Lord(silently and doing nothing-im just waiting)While the Holy Spirit is waiting on ME-So im not sure whos waiting on whom and why is that anyone is waiting and not doing!!I need to break some kind of strong hold thats on or over my life-That whatever it is thats holding me back needs to be revealed and severed.But i dont know what it is yet i can feel it sometimes.

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Anita Hampton January 10, 2014 at 4:06 am

Hi

1 of the questions i have is :What is the Holy Spirits Yoke.I never understood that.The analogy of cattle being yoked together to plogh a farmand that they should be of the same species,makes sense to me.But the scripture Mathew 11 vs 30- Says: For my yoke is easy but my burden is light.I dont understand what Jesus MEANS BY HIS YOKE AND HIS BURDEN BEING LIGHT.A friend of mine asked me to explain this scripture and i didnt convince myself.

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Jack Wellman January 10, 2014 at 8:57 am

Jesus was not really saying that being a disciple of His would be easy but to make that decision to believe in and trust in Him is easy. Also, a yoke was usually held or the burden shared by two oxen and so if Jesus is asking you to take on His yoke, He is saying that it better to have Him take some of the load off during our trials and sorrows than to go it alone. It is easy to do this because we must bring our heavy burdens to Him and lay them at His feet and plead for His aid to should the weight. Does this make sense Anita? Thank you for such a great question.

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Ella April 1, 2014 at 11:58 pm

Thank you for the article. I was having my daily devotions and came upon this verse and it seems as if the Lord is warning me not to be yoked with unbelievers. This verse, however does not apply to marriage in my situation now. I have bestfriends who are, technically speaking, unbelievers because they are not really followers of Christ so therefore they are not Christians. They believe in God but like you said thats not the same with being truly a Christian.

I know what the Lord is saying. I understand it but i think there is just something in me thats not letting the message to directly go through in me. I am now questioning that “Lord what do you really mean by yoke?” (That is how i reached here since i looked it up, praying for the Holy Spirit to lead me to an answer). After reading the article, I asked “how then am i suppose to influence these close friends of mine if I wouldn’t really go and meet with them?”

Last night my bestfriends are inviting me to meet and bond with them today at one of my bestfriends’ house but there’s something in me that was having second thoughts about the invitation and now that I am having my daily devotions (MPCWA), I received this warning. I am not sure now if the Lord is telling me not to go or just warning me to be careful when I am aroun them since if I desire to be a light in their lives, I also need to be their in their life.

I really appreciate the article you made. Praying for you Mr. Jack, may God bless you more and use your abilities more for His greater glory.

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Jack Wellman April 2, 2014 at 9:14 am

Thank you Ella for your comment and honesty. I do hope you will keep the relationship open for the sake of those who are not yet saved but you already have a good understanding about what this article was saying. Well said. I pray you are salt and light to a dead, decaying, and dark world for the glory of God.

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Fefe April 15, 2014 at 7:03 pm

Hi. I just want to say thank you for putting this article out there. I’m a believer married to an unbeliever and it’s one of the hardest thing a person has to go through. The best way I can explain my marriage is I feel like I’m alone all of the time. I’ve always been a believer but strayed away for a while during my early twenties, which was when we got married. Later after God called me back and I got a clearer understanding of His word, I realized that my husband and I were unequally yoked and that was the reason for all of our hardship in the marriage. It just seemed like everything I was for he was against and vice versa. He was even upset about me re-dedicating my life to the Lord. Eventually, it seemed like there was no more support, affection, respect, or trust left in the marriage. I know that the way our marriage is will potentially affect my salvation and I’m afraid of that. Even though I know Paul says that you shouldn’t divorce an unbelieving spouse I feel like that’s my only option. I have tried everything and he doesn’t want to compromise a little. He even told me that he would never “be into church” the way I am. I’m not sharing my experience to scare anyone from marriage, but I feel like this is a good example of what happens when we go outside of God’s plan.

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Jack Wellman April 16, 2014 at 11:33 am

Hello Fefe and thank you for your comment. Let me say that this may affect your salvation but not take it away. As I normally first of all recommend, I would ask God to send the Holy Spirit to him to convict him of his sin and if he is not saved, then to repent and trust in Christ since God is the evangelist and He alone can change a heart (Prov 21:1) and please remember that He even changed Saul (a murderer) to Paul a love of God and perhaps the most powerful missionary ever. I so appreciate what you have told me and the readers and perhaps your mistake will keep others from making the same mistake. I will be praying and please talk to your local pastor too to see what he says and don’t delay.

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Genesis May 1, 2014 at 7:54 pm

i recently have a guy who likes me and he is an unbeliever and he asked me to prom and i said yes bu we are going as friends. I am starting to like him but i know i shouldn’t be dating an unbeliever so i shouldn’t date him. I asked god about it and when i thought of no dating him it felt like a “no” like god is telling me too date him and i am confused cause i thought we are not suppose to date nonbelievers

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Jack Wellman May 1, 2014 at 8:04 pm

Genesis you should speak to your pastor about this. Since you have already committed to go the prom, you can’t change that but something you said troubled me. You wrote “I asked god about it and when i thought of no dating him it felt like a “no” like god is telling me too date him.” God does speak to us but it is through His Word and not Him telling you something that is different from what’s in the Bible. Anytime you feel God is telling you something and it doesn’t agree with the Bible, then it is not from God but perhaps your own desires and inward wishes. The Bible is clear…do not date unbelievers for being unequally yoked with them will take you to places and positions and things you can compromise your faith with. How do you know God is telling you to date him? What was it that made you feel God spoke to you about this? God does not speak to us except by and through His written Word, the Bible. Please don’t date this man for it is sin to do so. You cannot ever trust what you think God is telling you but you can always trust what God tells you through the written Word.

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Genesis May 1, 2014 at 8:08 pm

your right it is not from God if i doesn’t agree with his word, it is of the devil trying to get me to sin even more by being with him. I should go by what the word says and not what i think. It is hard for me too do but i know that God will get me through this. Also if the Bible says i can’t then i can’t, for the sake of protecting me and my future. No mater how much it hurts God’s grace will be there for me.

Thank You Jack

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Jack Wellman May 1, 2014 at 8:17 pm

Thank you Genesis…I would be lost about God’s will without His Word. At times I struggle like you…and if fact, all believers, if they are honest, would tell you as much. Yes, it does hurt at times but you can always have peace of mind that you obeyed God and that God will bless you for that and you are saving yourself for a godly man someday who will be one of your greatest joys. I too have trouble knowing if its in God’s will or in my will and then I have the only way to know at my fingertips…the Holy Bible. Hope your prom goes well my friend and may God richly bless you and enjoy that night for these are once in a lifetime memories. When I had my prom, they were only in black and white and not color (just kidding, my prom was long ago!)> :-)

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kim August 23, 2014 at 6:27 am

Thanks for the article, I have just ended a friendship based on being unequally yoked. A person my seem that they believe, but are not. Make that a question when you are learning about friends or considering dating. Ask do you believe in Jesus? The enemy deceives with the statement I believe in God. There are many gods, there is 1 true God. It is better to be alone than be in bondage.

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Jack Wellman August 23, 2014 at 8:30 am

Kim, thank you so much. I love your humility and passionate desire to obey God, no matter way. Amen to your comment that the enemy is a deceiver. I am so glad you added your powerful testimony.

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Rachel August 26, 2014 at 9:48 pm

So there’s this guy that I started to talk to and we became friends on Facebook and I told him that I’m a Christian and he said that that was fine that he wouldn’t judge me or anything. We are really starting to like each other so I told him that he could come to church with me just as friends. He said that it would be hard for him to think of me as just a friend because I’m so pretty. So we’re going to see a movie tomorrow but we aren’t actually in a relationship. I just want to meet him and see what he’s like. Any advice?

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Jack Wellman August 27, 2014 at 8:11 am

Hello Rachel. Please take this serious. This man says that your are pretty and that it would be hard for him to think of you just as a friend. The fact is that married couples become best friends first and then end up in marriage. He doesn’t think of you as a friend but as pretty? Advice? Do not date those who are not believers. Please re-read this article. To date him just to see what he’s like is asking for trouble. Talk to your pastor about this and he should tell you the same thing. As Paul warned, and note I said that he warned, and not suggested and so this is a biblical command “2 Corinthians 6:14-18:

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial, Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” Therefore, “Come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” And, “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”

If you continue to do this despite biblical advice and counseling, you are headed for and asking for trouble. Please don’t do this.

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Robert August 27, 2014 at 9:22 am

Hi Rachel,
I concur with my friend, Jack Wellman, in that this is a very serious matter you are considering. Jack is absolutely right in sounding a warning here. Basically, with his statement, “…that it would be hard for him to think of [you] as just a friend because [you’re] so pretty”, this guy is probably letting you know that he is going to want more from you (physically) than just a friendship.
His statement about “not judging you” is troubling also. What does that even mean? To me, and this is just my read on all this, that simply sounds like a smart aleck reply to a Christian from a non-Christian. Everything about this guy sends up red flags. He does not sound like a Christian at all, and he sounds like he wants more from you than a Godly woman should be willing to give.
I hope you’ll pray and make the decision God wants you to make. We’ll be praying for you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Jack Wellman August 27, 2014 at 11:44 am

Amen Robert…I am glad you elaborated much better on this “not judging you” and you are absolutely right brother. I feel that he is in this for more than friendship and to have someone as a girlfriend that is pretty. Well said sir. Please Rachel, take these warnings very seriously. If you get into this relationship Rachel, and it seems you already have since you have a date coming at the movies. Talk to your pastor. He will tell you likely the same thing. Don’t go on this date. The temptation could lead to serious sin.

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Rachel August 27, 2014 at 2:52 pm

Thank you for your advice! I have actually been thinking about it a lot and I think I’m going to tell him that I’ve changed my mind and that I feel uncomfortable about going on a date with him.

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Jack Wellman August 27, 2014 at 5:26 pm

Rachel, what a great relief this is to Robert and me. I thank God that we could help for we are bound to the Word of God for my opinion, like Oprah Winfrew’s, is nothing you can hang your hat on but the Word of God cannot be broken. Thank you Rachel.

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jhen November 3, 2014 at 8:10 pm

hello sir, why do we need not to be yoke with the unbelievers?..
are we talking about the people or the work of satan in their life?.. we are all humans but the difference is we are believers and the others are not,,, yet those who ARE unbelievers are under satans control… so we can be yoke with unbelievers but do not be yoke with what satan had put on them.
???? they are not our enemy. its satan.. so how can we deal with them?.. kindly nswer pls. tnx..

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Jack Wellman November 3, 2014 at 8:31 pm

Thank you Jhen for your comment. Please re-read this article sir. I never said that unbelievers are our enemies or that we should not ever associate or be friends with them. If you read the article you will see that I am talking about marrying an unbeliever. No Christian should marry a non-believer and that is what this article is about. Yes, Satan is our enemy and not people. I agree and I never said that in this article. Thank you so much for your comment.

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