How Should I Pray? A Biblical Analysis

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Does it sometimes seem like your prayers stop at the ceiling? Praying is hard enough without knowing exactly how to do it. How is a Christian supposed to pray? Are there ways to make our prayers more effective?

What is Prayer?

Praying is simply talking to God as a child would to their father.  Rather than thinking of prayer as changing God’s mind it is really about changing us.  It is about making our will conform to the will of the Father.

Who Do We Pray to?

Jesus gave us not only the model of prayer in what is considered the Lord’s Prayer but He also showed us Who to pray to.  Jesus said that we are to pray to the Father but in Jesus’ name as He is the Mediator for us.  Jesus’ name gives us access to the Holy of Holies at the Throne of God.  The disciples asked Jesus how to pray and He began the instruction with Our Father in heaven (Matt 6:9).  In John 16:23-27 Jesus says,At that time you won’t need to ask me for anything. I tell you the truth, you will ask the Father directly, and he will grant your request because you use my name. You haven’t done this before. Ask, using my name, and you will receive, and you will have abundant joy. I have spoken of these matters in figures of speech, but soon I will stop speaking figuratively and will tell you plainly all about the Father.  Then you will ask in my name. I’m not saying I will ask the Father on your behalf, for the Father himself loves you dearly because you love me and believe that I came from God.”  It is clear that we must pray directly to God the Father.  This is repeated several times elsewhere by Jesus; that is Jesus’ direct instructions to His believers.

In Whose Name do we Pray?

We are told by Jesus Himself to pray to the Father and to ask the Father for our needs but we must ask in His name because only Jesus gives us access to God the Father.  Why?  Because as our High Priest, He gave His life for us and by His sacrifice, He is now our Mediator in heaven before the Father.  Prayers will not reach the Father unless you pray through the name above all names: Jesus Christ.  There are dozens of Scriptures where Jesus tells us that we must pray to the Father using His name but we also see that the apostles used His name, well after Christ‘s Ascension.

John 15:16You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you.”

John 13:13-14I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.”

Acts 3:6 “Peter said, “Silver or gold I do not have, but what I do have I give you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, walk.”

Even exorcisms of demons were performed in Jesus’ name as in Paul’s example in Acts 16:18, She kept this up for many days. Finally Paul became so annoyed that he turned around and said to the spirit, ‘In the name of Jesus Christ I command you to come out of her!’ At that moment the spirit left her.

How are we to Pray?

Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, Supplications

So now we know we are to pray to the Father and to pray in Jesus’ name.  But how do we pray?  I love the acronym ACTS as a model of how to remember to pray.  ACTS stands for:

Adoration of God’s Holy Name and His holiness, His goodness, His omnipotence, His sovereignty.  The Lord’s Prayers says “Hallowed be your name.”  Hallowed is an old English word that means His name is to be sanctified, set apart, holy, honored, revered, and greatly respected.

Confession of sin, guilt, falling short of God’s holiness.  To confess our sins means that we agree with God about our falling short of the mark.  Sin means we miss the mark and we fall short of His holiness.  We confess our sins and even those unknown sins that we may have inadvertently committed.  Sins of omission and sins of commission are included.

Thanksgiving.  To give thanks to God is actually pleasing to Him and is the very will of God.  In 1 Thessalonians 5:18 it says we are to “give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”  It says to give thanks in all circumstances because giving thanks is God’s will.  We thank Him for our blessings, our trials, and “always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ” (Eph 5:20).

Supplications or requests for others.  I like to use JOY for praying.  First, praying for Jesus to be glorified, then praying for Others, and lastly praying for Yourself.  If you read the Lord’s Prayer and even Nehemiah’s prayer (Neh 1:5-11) they first glorify God and praise Him, then a confession of guilt or sin is made, which is followed by thanksgiving to Him for all He has done, and only after all of this are requests or supplications made to God.

Praying Back the Scriptures

When you feel like your prayers are dry as dust, try this.  Pray back the Word of God to Him.  God loves it when we pray back His own words to Him.  A great example is Nehemiah’s prayer (Neh 1) and Psalm 51.  Listen to David’s contrite, humble prayer which God heard and answered in Psalm 51, parts of which include,Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight; so you are right in your verdict and justified when you judge. Wash me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.”

Notice several things here.  David confessed his sins because if we have any sins for which we have not repented, God may not be attentive or may not answer our prayers.  Before David began to pray he asked for forgiveness and to be cleansed from his unrighteousness.

There are also several prayers in many of Paul’s letters. Many of his letters begin with and/or end with prayer.  Paul never asked for physical needs but always for God to be glorified and he always prayed for the members of the churches he planted.  Paul prioritized prayer in a way that the gospel would be proclaimed and the churches would grow in grace and knowledge.  One thing that appears absent from Paul’s prayers are prayers for himself.  The only exception is that he would have an open door to preach the gospel more boldly.  Paul prayed for God’s will to be done just like Jesus did prior to Calvary.


We see that we need to pray to God the Father, to pray in Jesus’ name and we see how we are to pray: In Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, and Supplication.  The Bible is full of wonderful prayers especially the Book of Psalms is full of prayers that you can pray back to God.  And finally, we need to make sure we are not regarding sin before we come to the Throne of Heaven and to also pray for God’s will above our own. His will is clearly to receive thanksgiving from us and to glorify His Son’s name, Jesus Christ.  That is how we should pray.  My prayer is for anyone who is not saved to place their trust in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior and have saving faith in His ability.  Jesus’ will for you is to give you eternal life.

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Mabel September 5, 2012 at 8:39 am

Well done my friend! 🙂


Jack Wellman September 5, 2012 at 4:31 pm

Thank you Mabel for your kind words. Please visit us again soon.


Robert Driskell September 5, 2012 at 8:06 pm

A wonderful article on an often neglected, but incredibly important, aspect of the Christian’s life. Great job, brother.
Yours in Christ,


Jack Wellman September 5, 2012 at 8:25 pm

THanks brother….I need to use the JOY acronym more to put others first…and not make it a “me-centered prayer” but a He centered one. I have been praying for you too brother.


Derek Hill September 5, 2012 at 8:15 pm

This was an inspiring article Jack. Thank you for this. I am forever grateful to our Father in heaven. He is worthy to be praised and I know that I don’t always pray with thanksgiving. Thank you for a great reminder. I will definitely keep thanksgiving on my heart when approaching His throne in prayer.


Jack Wellman September 5, 2012 at 8:27 pm

Amen Derek. He is most worthy. He is an awesome God and the word “awesome” should be copyrighten to God alone for the word means “worth praise.” Thanks brother. Thanksgiving is the only freewill offering in the Bible and since its not obligatory in the Old Testament, I think it was most precious to God.


Dianne September 6, 2012 at 7:24 am

To God be the glory! I am very revived and going back to God with a revived spirit of prayer because i haven’t being seeing results of my prayers and my prayer life was very WEAK! Thank u very much and keep letting God use u in this way. Yours in Christ,Dianne. South Africa


Jack Wellman September 6, 2012 at 5:47 pm

Thank you so much Dianne. I know that when I pray I get spiritual attacks and interference from the Enemy and I still feel weak in my prayers at times. When I least feel like praying, are the times that I most need to. God bless you there Dianne in South Africa.


Steven September 7, 2012 at 1:22 am

Why did Jesus in Luke say in The Lord’s prayer to “lead us not into temptation” when we are told in James that God does not tempt us with evil, we only tempt ourselves.


Jack Wellman September 7, 2012 at 6:06 pm

Thank you Steven for the question. I believe that it is a prayer that is better worded, God, do not allow us to go into areas where temptation might overcome us.

Matthew Henry says, “Having prayed that the guilt of sin may be removed, we pray, as it is fit, that we may never return again to folly, that we may not be tempted to it. It is not as if God tempted any to sin; but, “Lord, do not let Satan loose upon us; chain up that roaring lion, for he is subtle and spiteful; Lord, do not leave us to ourselves (Ps 19:13), for we are very weak; Lord, do not lay stumbling-blocks and snares before us, nor put us into circumstances that may be an occasion of falling.” Temptations are to be prayed against, both because of the discomfort and trouble of them, and because of the danger we are in of being overcome by them, and the guilt and grief that then follow.”

Using biblical hermeneutics, it could be to bring us not in to sore trial. PEIRASMON, which may be here rendered sore trial, comes from PEIRW, to pierce through, as with a spear, or spit, used so by some of the best Greek writers. Several of the primitive fathers understood it something in this way; and have therefore added quam ferre non possimus, “which we cannotbear.” The word not only implies violent assaults from Satan, butalso sorely afflictive circumstances, none of which we have, as yet, grace or fortitude sufficient to bear. Bring us not in, or lead us not in. This is a mere Hebraism: God is said to do a thing which he only permits or suffers to be done.

Does this make this verse make more sense now Steven?


Steven September 9, 2012 at 12:11 am

Yes Jack, it makes a lot more sense. Thank you for clarifying that for me. You are a powerhouse of scripture knowledge.


Tapiwa Munyuki September 13, 2012 at 7:52 am

The truth is prayer is all about talking the word and praying in the spirit and God speaking to you prophetically. Prayer gets more deeper when you are always listen to God at all times and communing with the Holy-Spirit.


Bongani Ndwandwe September 14, 2012 at 12:18 am

Thank you very much for this articles, there are things that we tend to overlook but they are very important in our spiritual life. Thank God He sent Jesus, His only Son to this world. He taught us how to live and many other things like this one of how to pray.

I love to encourage you brother Jack to continue the good work, I happened to find this website when I was looking for a Christian advice regarding marriage because some of my female friends were having problems in their marriage, one had already seperated. I always seek the Bible answers in every situations and topic. This article is helping me in my spiritual life as it becomes a tendency sometimes that I earnestly seek God when things are getting tough in life and relax & chill when the road is smooth. God is good.

Thank you and the team very much for this website, it is informative. May the Almighty of Israel bless you abundantly.


Joy Abwin November 27, 2012 at 10:30 am

Oh My God. Thank you for this wonderful article Pastor Jack Wellman. I had just finished my night prayer and as usual asked God to teach me how to pray. Little did i know that was surely gona answer the moment i turned my computer on.
This has been an eye opener and a wonderful experience, i feel revived and spirit filled as i write i can now prayer for as long as i have breath. Dint have that concept whatsoever(ACTS) Am so happy read these powerful and instructive readings and hope to pass onto God’s children.
Joy from Uganda.


Jack Wellman November 27, 2012 at 5:28 pm

Hello Joy and thank you so much and greetings to you and God bless you in Uganda. Awesome to have you here. I love your comment. You are such an encouragement. May God richly bless you and your prayers my friend.


Joy Abwin November 28, 2012 at 7:45 am

Your Welcome Pastor Jack Wellman and God bless you more. This article speaks to billions of christian’s who are or even worse than me in prayer. A wonderful article on an often neglected, but incredibly important, aspect of the Christian’s life. Am already beginning to experience the weight and impact of my prayers in my life. I was soo excited when i read your article i had to print it out and give handouts to my collegeus. And all of them thanked me for sure but i told them to thank God instead.

Have a blessed day.
Joy from Uganda.


Sheila of Philippines December 25, 2012 at 7:15 pm

Greetings Ptr. Jack. Im greatly blessed of reading your article. As christians we should be reminded of the ACTS prayer pattern. Because we have the tendency to pray for ourselves, our needs more than glorifying our God. Thank you im revived and excited to share this article to our prayer meeting group. To God be the glory!

In His Grip,
Sheila of Philippines


Jack Wellman December 25, 2012 at 7:21 pm

Hello Sheila and greetings to you from the States to you fellow Christians in the Philippines. I love your comment and you got it! Yes, we need to be praying for others first and put ourselves last and one most important thing you said that many Christians overlook in prayer. That is that God is glorified above all things. He must increase, we must decrease. Amen to your words. You show such godly wisdom and your Bible study group is blessed to have a woman of such strong faith as you!


Sheila of Philippines December 25, 2012 at 7:39 pm

More of You (God) and less of me. All praises and thanksgiving to God! Salamat.


ZENZO DHLIWAYO January 24, 2013 at 6:23 am

Thanks so much for such a spiritual reviving article,its apetising.Praise God.


Samella February 11, 2013 at 3:36 pm

Thank you Pastor Jack for such a wonderfur blessing bible prayer study. I did’nt know how important is to pray accordingly, Wow you made my prayers to be very sufficiate and meaningful to my life. Now I know my duties of prayer and why prayer is important to me and my family, friends and cholleges as well my church, prayer partners and the nation. May I ask you pastor, How do I differenciate my prayer (peer-to-peer) betweem me and my God, and the prayer in a congregation. How do I apply ACTS

Thank you pastor you blessed me, and stay blessed


Jack Wellman February 11, 2013 at 4:50 pm

I would simply say “we” in the congregational prayer and “me” or “I” in the prayers between you and God. A great example of a corporate prayer is the prayer Nehemiah gave about revival in Neh. 1:5-11. I like to read prayers of the Bible when I pray before my sermons and I love Psalm 51, Nehemiah 1:5-11 but there are so many prayers that can be used. God loves it when we pray back the Psalms to Him because we know they are inspired when we may not be.

Take note of Nehemian’s prayer (Neh 1:5-11) that he first glorified God and praised Him, then a confession of guilt or sin is made, which is followed by thanksgiving to Him for all He has done, and only after all of this are requests or supplications made to God. This follows the A.C.T.S. acrostic. For example, see how I can use Nehemiah’s prayer for corporate, or a congregational prayer;

O Lord God of heaven, the great and awesome God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love [you] and keep [your] commandments, let your ear be attentive and your eyes open [to us], to hear the prayer of your servants that I now pray before you…for [your] people [in this church] your servants, confessing the [our] sins of [your church], which we have sinned against you. Even [me] and [those here] have sinned….

Check this against the first portion of Nehemiah’s prayer and see how I put the “we” and “me” and “us” into it to make it our own and relevant to the church and Christians today. Hope this helps sir.

Notice how you can change it to customize it to your own church and also to the “me” or “I”.


Samella February 12, 2013 at 12:25 am

Thank you Pastor Jack so much. Many Almighty God bless you and protect you and your family.


andrew peterson May 9, 2013 at 10:24 pm

Pastor Wells,
Thanks for the fast response, I agree with you 100%. I pray that the people who listen to to your sermons and read your comments understand what a God fearing man you are.
Bro Andrew or (pete), pete short for Peterson.
Again thanks and may God bless.


Jack Wellman May 10, 2013 at 12:48 pm

Thank you so much my good friend and brother in Christ. I believe prayer is becoming more and more important for the days are becoming increasingly evil. I appreciate godly men of faith like you as prayer warriors.


William Overstreet August 5, 2013 at 9:23 pm

Jack, I know you are a verry busy man. Simply put I am going through a termoil with some family problems. Please if you would be so kind to pray for me. I just read your article on how to pray and for the first time in my 57 years it makes since.
Thank you.


Jack Wellman August 5, 2013 at 9:25 pm

God forbid that I should ever be too busy to pray for a fellow saint and so indeed I will….count on that. God can do all things and when we pray the strong name of Jesus, He is glorified….that is what I will do Mr. Overstreet. Please know that I care my brother.


Kris August 28, 2014 at 11:35 am

Thank you Jack….very clear and encouraging post!


Jack Wellman August 28, 2014 at 3:16 pm

Thank you Kris. It is very clear to me that you are such an encouragement and it was great to hear from you again.


Tamanda Sylvie July 3, 2015 at 6:11 am

This morning when i woke up i felt in my spirit the need to pray. it kept coming to me pray, so i ask my friend to get ready for prayers and we did pray. i am soo grateful to have inspired me to use Nehemiah’s prayer pattern and also to have directed me to this website. i sooo much want to draw close to my God. i try everyday to be a good christian though a fall as many times as i try. thanks you much pastor Jack for your inspirational , soul searching and reviving words. i feel truly blessed through them and i print them to not only read but share with my siblings, neighbors and friends, i pray that the mighty God we serve may touch us all in a special way. God bless you abundantly


Jack Wellman July 3, 2015 at 9:24 am

You are very encouraging my friend. Thank you for your edifying words.


Amayo Precious ivie December 10, 2018 at 1:44 pm

I relly appreciate this
May God almighty continues to uplift you in his will in the mighty name of Jesus


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