How to Overcome an Addiction to Pornography? Help For Struggling Christians

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Believe it or not, even Christians are struggling with pornography.  Pastors are not immune either.  Women are increasingly becoming addicted to pornography at an alarming rate.  What can be done to overcome such a stronghold? What weapons can we employ to fight this mind-numbing addiction?

The Internet and Pornography

With the coming of the Internet, its popularity has been soaring, but so too has been a scourge of the worst kind; pornography.  Everyday, there are new porn websites that go up.  Just how systemic is the problem of Internet pornography?  According to the very reliable statistics of Family Safe Media (

Every second – 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography
Every second – 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines
Every 39 minutes – a new pornographic video is being created in the United States

Another alarming fact is that over 42% of all Internet users are connecting to pornography on over 4.2 million pornographic websites.  Governments are helpless in shutting these down because for every one that is shut down there are 20 more that take its place.  If there was a disease with such an alarming growth rate and the problem was so widespread among the world’s population, this would be on every network television station in every nation of the world. In reality, it is worse than any disease epidemic because we are powerless to stop it and there is no inoculation against it.

The High Cost of Pornography

Not only is pornography wrecking marriages and single men and women’s lives, it is also ruining them financially.  How?  Every second – $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography. That is over $180,000 every hour.  This adds up to well over four million dollars every single day.   Worldwide, the total cost is over $97 billion dollars annually.   These are dollars that feed the sin of pornography and enables it to churn out more garbage of the mind.  It’s like feeding a dragon that is devouring millions of people through their minds. This is truly one of the biggest revenue makers in the world; bigger than Amazon, Microsoft, Google, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple, EarthLink, and Netflix combined!  This is money taken out of the mouth of family’s bank accounts, money taken out of business revenues, out of world revenues, and literally, money out of the mouth’s of children.

Christian Help For Overcoming Pornography Addiction

A web filter is a great way to screen out potential Internet websites that contain pornography.

Christians Are Not Immune

Sadly, 47% of all Christians say that they have major problems with pornography.  Even among the discipleship group of the Promise Keepers, 53% of these men viewed pornography in the last week!  An April 6th, 2007 CNN poll revealed that over 70% of Christian men and over 20% of Christian women are already addicted to some sort of Internet pornography.  In the year 2000, Christianity Today completed a shocking survey that revealed 33% of the clergy (pastors and priests) admitted that they had visited a sexually explicit Internet website in the past week.   Fifty-three percent of the clergy had visited pornographic websites several times in the past year.   In a survey of pastors by the National Coalition in Seattle, a full 98% had been exposed to porn while 43% intentionally accessed a sexually explicit website.

We can see from all of the above statistics that this is a true epidemic and it is growing at an alarming rate and it is not just a problem for those outside of the church.  Given the fact that Jesus said that “that anyone who looks at a woman [or a man if a woman is looking] lustfully has already committed adultery with her [or him] in his [or her] heart. (Matt 5:28).  Pornography is still sexual sin, even if the physical act is not involved.

Overcoming Pornography Addiction

Now that the problem of pornography has been identified and that it’s not just a problem with the guy next door, we can turn to solutions for those who know someone or who are themselves addicted to this sin of the mind.  One of the pastors that I know of and who is a close friend of mine has had a lifetime battle with pornography.  Not only that, this godly man has had problems with looking at women with lust in his heart.  Mind you that he is happily married and has a wonderful family.  He has confided in me privately and asked me to pray for him so one way to help is to ask someone that you know well and trust completely to pray for you or to pray for someone that you know has a pornography addiction.  Out of the 6 close pastor friends that I have, 3 of them have regular problems with pornography.  All of these men need accountability partners and all but one of them has one.   One of these men confides in me and contacts me when he is struggling with this.  We often hold each other up in prayer for different things but there are more solutions available besides prayer for the person battling the addiction of pornography.

Strategies for Overcoming Pornography Addiction

A web filter is a great way to screen out potential Internet websites that contain pornography.  And one of my friends has let me set the password and I have promised him that I would not reveal it to him no matter what he tells me.  I have to customarily add some websites to his “safe” list so that he can browse certain sites that are non-pornographic because the web filter is highly word sensitive to websites and sometimes blocks even harmless websites due to unknown images.  This is a small price to pay though for having the protection that he so desperately needs.  In some extreme cases, I have recommended that the Internet be accessible only in the living room where his family is.  My daughter has a computer but it’s in the living room so that we can easily monitor it when she is on it. Her primary use of it is for homework but of course she is allowed to spend some free time browsing for things that she enjoys reading about.

Jesus once said that if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell (Matt 5:30).  Jesus did not mean this literally as He was speaking in hyperbole.  The principle is that if a person has tried everything and just can not stop browsing the Internet for pornography websites, they should just take out the Internet.  This sounds drastic but when problems are so devastating, the measures should be severe if necessary.  Another solution would be to have a password protected computer and the pornography addict can only access the computer in the living room when family is present.  There are also so highly effective Internet Filters available on the market.  One of the best and least expensive is from the website and non-profit organization, Family Fellowship (

Confess Your Sins

The Bible tells us that we are to confess our sins to one another.  James 5:16 has two things that are very important for all Christians…who by the way are also all sinners!  It says, “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.“ James says two things here:  Confess your sins to one another and then pray for each other so that “you may be healed.“   It seems that confessing to other believers and then praying for one another is conditional for us to ”be healed.“  Even though I am a pastor, I continue to confess to my church when and where I fall short and before I became their pastor, I told them every single thing that I did before I was ordained.  I thought, surely they would not want me after I confessed my past history.   I told them and I am telling you that I was a drug addict, a drug dealer, a thief, and I ended up in prison.  After I told the church that this is what I did several years ago, they actually felt better about me becoming their pastor, much to my surprise.  And for me, it was like the weight of the world was lifted off of my shoulders.   I felt free…I felt joyful and indeed, there is something joyous about being completely transparent in front of others.  They also let their guards down and everyone feels all the better after we confess to one another our faults and sins.  Ironically, God often uses the disqualified so that He may be glorified.

The pornography addict needs to take the first step that the drug addicts or alcoholic must take.  Admit that they are addicted.  Friends and family must realize that the addict will often lie just to be able to access the Internet just as drug addict or alcoholic lies to drink or take drugs.  They will make all kinds of excuses but there must be a zero-tolerance policy established if the addict is to recover.  They first have to tell someone or there will be no hope of ever overcoming this stronghold of the mind.  You can surround your self with friends who will pray for you, even if it’s an “unspoken need” but until you admit this addiction to someone, you will have precious little chance to overcome it.  That is the first thing that they will tell you at an AA meeting.  Step one:  Admit it.   Prayer and support from others is vital if the porn addict ever hopes to recover.  We can not overcome by ourselves but by prayer and the Bible teaches that we can do all things through Christ Who will strengthen us (Philippians 4:13).

Other ways are to spend less time alone, change your routines, and identify triggers that make you want to go to the Internet to browse pornography.  Also realize what was said earlier…that pornography is a sexual sin, even if the physical act is not involved, and if you are married, it is the same thing as committing adultery to God (Matt 5:28) and we all know how God feels about that.  How would your spouse feel about it?

There are also Christian or faith-based pornography support groups in many cities.  Even those that are not faith-based can be very helpful.  There is actually some comfort taken in the fact that there are a lot of others who are battling this same addiction.  Will power and avoidance can sometimes make it worse.  You need people to surround you who have a similar addiction and prayer warriors from a faith-based group or your church.  And there is something that is freeing when you tell others about this addiction.  You might be surprised about how good it feels to actually confess this to someone and they might surprise you too by telling you that they also struggle with this addiction.  Don’t keep it a secret.  Get it out and let others know.  Who cares if you are embarrassed…isn’t it worth it to try to escape from this deadly disease of the mind?

Don’t spend a lot of time alone on the Internet and resist the urge to get up in the middle of the night when everyone’s asleep. When you get this urge, call your accountability partner, wake your spouse, call a friend, read your Bible, look at yourself in the mirror or just fall on your knees and ask God for help.  Other strategies are just go outside and go for a walk, ride your bike, go to the gym, do some gardening, look at family photos, take a shower…anything!   Pray and then pray some more.  Above all, make sure that you get a password protected Internet Filter and give it to a friend that you know will not betray you and give you the password.  There is hope for those who want to overcome their addiction to pornography.

Please, if you are a porn addict, get help, tell others, pray, confess your sin, get a filter, and ask Jesus for His power.  He will not forsake you and not leave you alone.  Have faith in God for Him to deliver you.  He is a Strong Tower for those who are weak and He will keep you strong to the end, so that you will be blameless on the day of our Lord Jesus Christ” (I Cor 1:8).  This is so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ (Phil 1:8).  Then you, “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus (Phil 1:6).

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Brandon French July 6, 2015 at 12:50 am

I’ve been struggling with this for awhile now (this spawned since before I was saved [as I hope I still am] and it hasn’t gone away since. There have been those times where I fought it back for an extended period of time, but it just keeps coming back) and I have tried everything; mimicking Jesus when he quoted scripture to fight the temptation, asking HIM to solve it for me, etc etc… I’m at a loss and I’m very worried about my salvation… Please help 🙁 God bless.


Jack Wellman July 6, 2015 at 8:30 am

Thank you Mr. French. I would re-read the article because there is where you’ll find the steps to help you overcome this stronghold of the mind. The good news is that you want to break this cycle of sin, confession and repentance, and the truth is what you said….you can not. You must rely on God’s power to overcome this. Have you spoken with your pastor? What did he say? That would be a strong suggestion to begin with. There are also great Christian based programs. You can also find an accountability partner.

Also, have you followed the steps in this article? That is to cut off the Internet, get rid of the DVD player if necessary for what is the cost of that compared with your soul. On more about how to overcome this addiction, I suggest you check out this Scripture-filled article again and begin to follow the step by step process on how to do it contained in this article and also talk to your pastor about it, embarrassing as that might be…it is worth everything for you to humble yourself and do these things. You can know you will not go to hell for certain.


glenn basile July 22, 2015 at 1:03 pm

i will do it and i pray that god almighty will helpme amen and god blessu


gary meadows August 17, 2015 at 7:17 pm

I as Mr French said have had a problem with porn for along time.I can beat it for a while as much as a year. Then the temptation gets the best of me again. My wife knows as well as my children and maybe others I’m not sure. I have talked to my pastor but he didn’t follow through with his promise. My wife and I had a serious talk about it last night. I have finally came to the realization that it is a serious problem and sin. I’ve asked for forgiveness so many times that I feel God doesn’t hear any more. My church attendance has fallen off some to because I feel like i don’t belong there.


Jack Wellman August 17, 2015 at 9:38 pm

I am so sorry Mr. Meadows. This is a terribly difficult stronghold that has many in its grip. What do you mean, your pastor didn’t follow thru with his promise. What was his promise? Message me at and privately message me his phone number and I will call him. That is a pastors duty to help the church members. Don’t stop going to church though as that will make you more likely to dive into pornography. Have you followed the steps in this article? Have you tried them? This takes serious effort if you are to overcome this.


Allen August 19, 2015 at 9:08 pm

Gary, don’t give up! Just because we stumble once in a while doesn’t mean God loves us any less. He is on your side! You already proved that you can repent from this by going a year overcoming it. That really encourages me. But we have to rely upon Jesus, and he wants to help us with this. He was a man too and experienced every temptation that we have, yet did not sin. Recently I found this passage in Ephesians: “put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.” (Eph 4:22-24) This is God’s view of us through Christ and Jesus has promised to never leave us or forsake us.

It is time for all of us men to stand up against what is going on in our culture. We need to humbly strive to be holy and not condone any kind of sexual immorality in our lives or approve of such in the church: fornication, unbiblical divorce, adulterous affairs, pornography, lust, covetousness, and homosexuality. Galatians 5:16 – 26 exhorts us to live by the Spirit or we will gratify the flesh.

But I want to encourage you about the hope that lives within you. We have the power to turn away through our relationship with Jesus and we have the grace to come to Him for restoration if we stumble. I have stumbled many times but He has always restored me. My conscience really beats me up sometimes but I find grace and compassion in Christ when I am humble and honest before Him. I get in trouble when I let my mind stray away from Him to entertain the evil desires in my heart. But He already knows what is inside us and loves us in spite of it. And always remember that forgiveness through Christ is a bottomless well.

I will pray for you my brother. I think you are in a good place, realizing the seriousness of the sin, and there is much hope for you if you will turn to Jesus. God help us all.


Sapphire September 2, 2015 at 2:57 pm

I am addicted to porn. I don’t know what to do. I’m a pastor’s daughter and I feel terrible because I know that this addiction is keeping me from reaching my full capacity in serving Jesus. People have always considered me as a “good girl” but it’s not the case. The bible says it is a sin to even let people think that but what can I do? I have been fighting against porn for 5 years. I’m only 14 so I started very little. Well, I first learnt about kissing in the typical disney movies(Cinderella; the Little Mermaid..) so I used to imagine people I knew doing that. Then I started playing with my private parts. I knew what I was doing was wrong but I kept doing it anyway. I always asked God forgive me but I really didn’t care. Then the Lord convicted me and I asked to be prayed for. I thought I really changed and I told my parents all about the problem. I stopped watching porn for 1 month then I went back to it. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I’m being left out of God’s plan,but I can’t stop. Please help me!!!


Jack Wellman September 2, 2015 at 4:50 pm

I am so sorry for this terrible stronghold Sapphire. What is your source for watching porn? Is it DVD’s or the Internet or what? You must rid yourself of this source, whatever it is. Also, find an accountability partner. Install an Internet filter that is password protected that you don’t know the password too. You cannot overcome this by yourself. Re-read this article and then seek a trusted mentor, an older Christian woman you can trust and call her every few days to tell her how your last few days went. Follow these steps and even fast about it. God can give you victory but you need the power of His Spirit and an accountability partner. I can’t help you beyond that but will pray for you.


samuel December 16, 2015 at 7:14 pm

Hi, I have a very similar issue with the girl above. im 19, my mum is the pastor of my church so im afraid to tell her because of the shame (she might not look at me the same as a mum), there are a few brothers at church I could tell but I dont really want to have a porn discussion with my mum if possible. its awkward having a mum as a pastor who lives with you, she’s always seen me as a “good boy”. I really want to have victory and overcome this sin and get on with what God has planned for me, is it possible to do this by only telling my brothers at church or attending an external Christian addict group, or is this less effective or not at all? please pray for me.


Jack Wellman December 16, 2015 at 9:26 pm

Samuel, I would seek a group to meet with. This is a hard thing to overcome but don’t give up. Find other men who might have the same problem and start your own study groups. If you mum asks why, tell her you are studying how to live a holier life.


Bill January 15, 2016 at 12:16 pm

For as long as I can remember this has been part of my life. It has ruined marriages and relationships. It has pushed away my children and family and still I continued to struggle with it. I have tried on my own to battle my addiction without Gods help or any one else. Recently my wife walked in on my looking at porn and even though she didn’t see exactly what I was doing, she knew by my behavior that I had again let her down and disrespected her. A huge fight ensued, I broke my laptop and left the house for a few days. I know now in my heart that it was at that time that God finally answered my prayers and brought her into that room at that exact moment to say ENOUGH!
I have since joined “Celebrate Recovery” and thought this website found some peace and solace in the Bible. I told a friend of mine is in the process of becoming a minister that until I get right with God, nothing in my life will change. I know why I am what I am. I have many issues and pain in my life but I know I am not alone. There is help out there for me and with a good support group I will get this demon out of my life.


Kefi January 17, 2016 at 5:01 am

I’m suffering from porn too
Am 18 and having a bf who likes to talk about sex alot n I told him I don’t like it but deep down I liked it and I wanna stop masturbation and watching porn.
Am still a virgin tho but my lustful desire is pushing me to have sex.
My bf is a christian and drums and sings at church and I get surprised when he tells me he wanna have sex.actually I love him and dnt wanna break up with him neither do I wanna have sex

But I wanna live a holy life.I can’t even tell any one am a porn addict because they see me to. Be a good girl

My parents are church missionaries and I got no close one to tell
Please help me out


Jack Wellman January 17, 2016 at 8:19 am

Hello Kefi. Stay a virgin. Don’t have sex outside of marriage for no one who does such things will be in the kingdom. This boyfriend that’s pushing you to have sex should not even be in a church band for sex outside of marriage and him pushing you shows that this man only wants what he can get and lust is purely selfish. This boyfriend who loves to talk about sex is trying to drag you down into perhaps the greatest sin there is. Tell him that and avoid him. You cannot let this boyfriend keep tempting you.


Kefi January 17, 2016 at 5:09 am

I’m 18 and a masturbator and a porn addict
Am dating a Christian guy suffering from the same people n we planning to have sex
Am a virgin and I promised God I wanna wait on sex till the right time

Feeling bad to tell my parents CX they are strict Christians n I don’t have any one to tell
I wanna know if its wrong to date.I need a serious help


HeatherL February 9, 2016 at 10:06 pm

Do you have someone in your church that you can trust to talk to about this?


Jack Wellman February 10, 2016 at 8:34 am

We do have a deaconess, who is a trusted, godly lady that I have known for years. I do think it is wise that a woman speaks with another woman about this.


David March 26, 2016 at 4:33 pm

I’m a porn addict for 7 years, I’m 21 now. I started off on very light porn but have moved to heavier stuff over the years. I am a Christian. I became one when I was 14, I was at that stage already hooked on porn. I only truly started taking my Christian life seriously these past three years. I then became very convicted of my sin to the point of depression and anxiety. I know I should stop looking at porn but I just can’t. I can’t tell my parents because if I do they will never see me the same way again. I also have no friends in college(it’s an art college so all the people in it are very bad influences) and feel very lonely and lost. I constantly am repenting of my sin to God and asking for His help, I do try to trust Him but I just don’t know how I can escape this. I seriously need help I have tried everything. I’m sorry if this all sounds very depressing and heavy but I am not exaggerating at all. I am truly at the bottom of the barrell seeing no way out of this. do you have any advice?


Jack Wellman March 26, 2016 at 4:40 pm

Hello David. I know of one man who fought this for decades (still does) but he finally said “I give up God. I surrender” and then his desire for it started to fade. He became sick to his stomach when he was exposed to it. God changed his heart. I will pray that for you brother. Otherwise, follow these steps given about the Internet filter/password, and find a mentor or accountability partner that you must call at least 2 times a week. Don’t give up. The very fact you hate it is a sign the Spirit is working in you sir.


Aaron Allred July 18, 2016 at 7:15 pm

I to, as many others, is addicted to this stuff. A times, i feel i have no hope. Other times, i feel like i can get through this, and that God will help me. I know he wants and will help me, but i cant seem to be constant in faith towards him. I really want to get through this so bad, and i hate this sin so much, but its like i just keep coming back to it. I have told 1 person, and he is praying strongly for me. Also, i want to tell my friend, but i feel like he would think differently about me. Which, i guess he should, seeing as how i am different on the inside. Thank you this article though, i think it will really help, in overcoming this awful sin.


Jack Wellman July 18, 2016 at 8:13 pm

Please know that God will not give up on His own children. I will pray for you sir. We need one another. Thank you Mr. Allred.


samuel muriuki July 28, 2016 at 1:04 pm

Hello my name is Samuel aged 23 years, ever since I was introduced to porn nine years ago by a friend I haven’t been able to overcome it. Every time I get online my mind runs to porn. This thing really puts me down because I sometimes try and overcome it for like a month then I just find myself back to it again. I’ve prayed but this has really gotten ahold of me. I don’t know what to do. Even now as am writing this I was just watching porn just a few minutes ago. Please I need help I don’t want to continue like this. It’s too much


Jack Wellman July 29, 2016 at 10:35 am

I will pray for you sir. I would talk with your pastor about this today and seek his godly counsel. Please follow the steps in this article and follow all the steps, including finding a trusted Christian friend as an accountability partner.


Jack Holst August 1, 2016 at 12:14 pm

I have been struggling with this for about 3 years and I know I need to tell my parents about it now. Please pray for Gods strength on my life and the strength to tell my parents and confess.


Jack Holst August 1, 2016 at 12:17 pm

Please pray for me for God to give me the strength to resist temptation and confess to my parents. Thanks and God Bless


kenny August 16, 2016 at 2:05 am

i am 15 and started watching porn at 13. i want to stop. i reall do cause i know its destroying me,


Jack Wellman August 16, 2016 at 8:26 am

Kenny. Did you read the article. Use the steps given and follow them. Talk to your parents and pastor. You cannot overcome this without God’s help but there is also help in godly counsel. If you are desperate to overcome this, you will have to humble yourself and ask for help.


Lou August 29, 2016 at 2:51 am


thanks a lot for this article I really need this so badly. I am 24 year old woman I am single and never been into sex. I was 13 years old I accidentally looked at my cousins CD’s about X-rated film. from then on I started viewing it. and I know my body react to it. I could not explain why I felt that way. Watching it continually will lead me to do something that isn’t right to satisfy my body ‘s want. that is completely not pleasing to God. I abused my body. I am not a believer yet when this things happen, so when I already have relationship with God I Stopped immediately. but I got into this activity again after a year of my conversion. I felt guilty every single day. and now I am 24 I have disciple and I am so troubled about this. I cannot share it to my leader because I am afraid. I am not so close to her but I respect her as my leader. I don’t want to impart my wicked spirit to my disciple. please help me . Thanks


Jack Wellman August 29, 2016 at 8:28 am

Hello Lou. James tells us to confess our faults (or sins) to one another and unless you humble yourself and tell someone, preferably a trust Christian woman, you will be living with guilt. You said you’re not a believer? If you haven’t repented and trusted in Christ, then you will not be able to overcome this. You need God’s Spirit to overcome sin and we can’t do anything without Christ (John 15:5). Please follow the steps in this article but you must trust in Christ to be saved and have God’s help in overcoming this.


Bred September 2, 2016 at 6:30 pm

Hello everyone, sorry for my bad English.

Im almost 18 years old, since the age of 13/14 i started watching this stuff, iv stopped a lot of times for 1,2 weeks sometimes even a full month, but the tempation catches me.

Im sick of this, i really cant stop it , my mother is a the pastor of the church, i really cant tell her, this will really change a thinking about me (african ) i really need prayers and support, there is really nobody i can talk about it with, if somebody is willing to talk with me or help me , feel free to contact me, i just dont know what to do, i really want and need to seek the Lord way more than how im doing, but this porn thing brings me back, i really want to leave a godly life , iv been a Christian for my all life , just really started to seek God , but i need more from him.

Pls help!!


Anonymous (Male) October 18, 2016 at 4:31 pm

Hi, I’m sure you already know why I’m here, and the problem that I have. But it really goes deeper than the surface for me, see, I’ve been a Christian as long as my memory serves, and I’ve was saved at a young age. At that young age, I was not innocent of sin, but I was very near ignorant of it. I, in that moment accepted God and his son Jesus, and asked him to enter my heart and recreate me. That is all I remember of that day, it was quite a while back. I fear, however, that I might have not been saved on that day. Perhaps I was fooling myself all these years, after all, John speaks of how we cannot be in the light if we walk in darkness. I was more sinless and innocent then than I am even now, I don’t feel that I allowed him to change me as he should. Why? Well, this. I have no control over myself by any means, I read my Bible day and night looking for answers, and all that I hear is that voice saying I never was saved, now I cannot be. This is my sin, it is lust. I truly hate what I have done, the sin that even a believer could not resist. I tried for so long to fight myself, my mind and body alike. So much that I lost focus on my faith, I still pray to God to forgive me but am I safe from myself? Am I really saved, or did I condemn myself when I gave in to my desires for a thousandth time? I am really lost right now. Anyone’s input would be great, but please treat me as I am, weak and broken from my past sin. I really feel like the merciful God who forgives, has given up on me, greatest of sinners. And that my salvation was never set in stone, and that I lost myself and my soul when I gave in to sin those many times. Even though I have repented, am I just too late, too sinful, to weak to even receive forgiveness?


Jack Wellman October 18, 2016 at 4:37 pm

My friend, you need the community of believers to surround you with prayer (even un-named prayer) and find a mentor who can help you and be your accountability partner. Talk with your pastor today. He will keep this confidential but you can’t do this alone. It is never too late if someone thinks its too late. I will pray for you my friend.


Andrew D December 7, 2016 at 7:12 pm

I can relate to all ur saying, pls reply to me brother, and we can have a talk. God bless


Seth October 22, 2016 at 5:12 pm

I’m Seth. I’m someone who has delayed in marrying though I have praying hard for God to bring me a wife. Some years ago I used to watch porn on DVDs and on the internet. I was praying with fasting to overcome this terrible sin, and sometimes I will dream of dogs chasing me until one day I dreamt that I have been lifted up above the dogs. And since then that strong addiction lost its grip on me. However, because marriage has delayed in my life, from time to time the porn thing raises it’s ugly head again, because of loneliness and frustration, and I feel very guilty. But I still believe it’s power has been broken over me. Please pray with me that The Lord settles me in marriage very soon. I know marriage is not the solution to porn but I think living with a godly wife will help me overcome it completely.


Jack Wellman October 22, 2016 at 6:46 pm

I will pray for you Seth. There is strength in community. You’re not alone in this struggle.


Mr. Ivey November 9, 2016 at 10:45 pm

I’m addicted to porn and I’m 15. I know it’s really bad and I don’t want to do it. But then there is a feeling that comes and I can’t resist it. The rest is pretty obvious from there on… I guess I need help with overcoming the feeling that comes? Help me! I really don’t want to do this. Also, I like a girl and I am not proud of this addiction of mine. I think she likes me too but I’m afraid to do anything about it because I know I’m in sin rn and I don’t want to do porn ever. I want to fix this problem of mine before I ask her out. I really believe I can fix this but I also feel like God is starting to get upset with me how I always fall. I have broken away for as much as a few months but the problem always comes back. I want out. Permanently. Someone please help. Btw I have a friend I told recently


Maria November 25, 2016 at 7:08 pm

I am a female struggling with pornography. Ive always been really against porn, and when my husband was battling it, i felt so hurt and betrayed. However, he now refuses to ever have sex, he wont talk about it, wont see a counselor, wont go to the doctor. Ive been stuck struggling with my own desires for him as God intended for husband and wife and it falls on deaf ears, though he says he loves me. Now im finding every few months i cave to the desire to look at porn, and i hate myself


Jack Wellman November 25, 2016 at 8:58 pm

hello Maria. I am so sorry you and your husband consider going to counseling together. Maybe you can at least ask the church members to pray for you for an “unspoken need.” Is your husband still addicted to pornography? You are in a hard place. Have you ever trusted in Christ? Have you ever repented and believed in Him? Has your husband? I am just trying to figure out how best to help you.


Dave November 25, 2016 at 9:33 pm

Hi Pastor Wellman,
I appreciate your article and your endeavor to help others with sexual sin. I am also a Pastor and have a ministry to help believers overcome this besetting sin. I have an online class soon to be launched, a new book on the subject, and offer helpful resources to struggling people. My website is if you are interested in knowing more about the ministry to perhaps recommend to others. By the number of comments to your article, it is clear you have resonated with many others.
God bless you.


Jack Wellman November 25, 2016 at 9:57 pm

Thank you Pastor. I appreciate the resource. I hope others can find here there sir.


eddie chong November 28, 2016 at 12:08 am

*The trouble with Porn and watching it is in the fact that it corrupts the mind and while watching , one is most likely to masturbate and during the process, one is most likely to scan the field of friends one knows and focuses on that person as the object of the lust. This, as the scripture noted is just as bad as doing the real thing.*


Andres December 3, 2016 at 11:12 pm

Halo Pastor,
My name is Andres. I’m struggling with this sin over 6 years until now, I knew that wasn’t easy but I fell again in the same sin like porn and masturbate. I already being prayed by my mentor. But when I did that sin again, I feel shame to tell my mentor. How can I free from this sin? This is terribly stealing my peace. When I was planning to pray I can’t concentrate with God, I was thinking another thing. I don’t know why but It’s just so annoying


Jack Wellman December 4, 2016 at 7:56 am

Hello Andres. I would re-read the article because there is where you’ll find the steps to help you overcome this stronghold of the mind. The good news is that you want to break this cycle of sin, confession and repentance, and the truth is what you said….you can not. You must rely on God’s power to overcome this. Have you spoken with your pastor? What did he say? That would be a strong suggestion to begin with. There are also great Christian based programs. You can also find an accountability partner.

Also, have you followed the steps in this article? That is to cut off the Internet, get rid of the DVD player if necessary for what is the cost of that compared with your soul. On more about how to overcome this addiction, I suggest you check out this Scripture-filled article again and begin to follow the step by step process on how to do it contained in this article and also talk to your pastor about it, embarrassing as that might be…it is worth everything for you to humble yourself and do these things. You can know you will not go to hell for certain


Andrew D December 7, 2016 at 7:07 pm

37No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,k neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

My dear brother in Christ, I can relate to what ur saying, cus i have been thru it also. I wanna answer all ur questions, the voice telling u ur not saved, is satan the liar and deciever, its not from God. And yes its obvious u have been saved, and NO u cant lose ur salvation, the price was paid in full by Christ, u are not under law anymore, u are under His grace. thats the beauty of Gods love and grace, u are forever secured in His arms.

If u wanna talk some more, just reply to this message bro. I have learned alot in my 6 years as a born again christian, and I can relate to everything ur saying. I pray and hope u will talk.
God bless u, He loves u brother He died for us.


Andrew D December 7, 2016 at 7:21 pm

I can answer all ur questions bro and I really wanna help u, because i have been thru the same thing. pls hit me back and reply. so we can have a good talk and settle this matter. I understand what ur going thru.

ur brother in christ Andrew


Andrew D December 7, 2016 at 7:29 pm

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. 28 I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand. 29 My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than allc ; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand. 30 I and the Father are one.”


Kehinde December 14, 2016 at 6:31 pm

I struggle with porn monthly. Its like a crazy stuff in my system that I can’t seem to get out. I get highly infused to watch it especially after my monthly circle. I discover I can’t sleep and I av migraine. So I turned to porn to relieve me in order to sleep but I am tired of this. I av confessed it. Even spoken to my pastor about it but it is still un controllable. Sometime I feel as if there is no hope for me


Jack Wellman December 14, 2016 at 7:45 pm

Try to get rid of your porn. Is it in videos or magazines? burn it? Jesus said that we must take drastic action to rid ourselves of these sins. I will pray for you but find an accountability partner, find a filter and password protect your Internet…or follow the steps in this article my brother.


Jane January 3, 2017 at 12:31 am

Hi, Im 23 years old. I am a Catholic. I grew up with my brothers. They like to watching pornography and they don’t care if I was there or not (when I was a kid). So, I become addicted to pornography as well. Nobody knows about this. I’ve been trying to stop because it is so disgusting and I feel embarrassed about myself. So, one day I decided to confess it to the priest. I was so scared but I did it. He pray for me and told me to read the THEOLOGY OF THE BODY Honestly, its work ! and im so happy ! Sharing my story so that It could help others too. Pray & confession is very important. I know it wasn’t easy to confess our sins but believe me you will feel very fine and free after that. Before confession I pray rosary so that I will have strength to confess it. Don’t worry God is so merciful !


Worthless July 3, 2017 at 10:40 am

I am the wife of a man addicted to pornography. This has been devastating for our relationship. I know now that he did not stop 16 years ago after marriage counseling. He promised. His addiction has destroyed trust, my self-esteem, and my peace. The man I saved my self for wants to be with these fantasy woman. He says it has nothing to do with me , that he loves me, wants to be married to me but at the same time is drawn to these women. I can’t compete with them. When I’m not with my husband I wonder is he dreaming about them, when I am with my husband and he touches me, I think is he fantasizing that he is with one of them? The heartache is indescribable. According to some of the literature I have read, I am supposed to ask him daily how he is doing. I understand but do you know how it stabs me in my heart to first wonder if he is telling me the truth and secondly to hear he is struggling to not be with them? I don’t think that I will ever be enough. I can’t sleep in my bedroom anymore because that is one of the places he was with these fantasy ladies. I am learning how to truly forgive and i truly want to forgive but it is had when i have to do it constantly since repentance is a hourly/daily struggle. I dont want to be a fool. I just feel like I have no value or worth but I must put on a happy face and be his cheerleader.


Jack Wellman July 3, 2017 at 11:03 am

Hello my friend. You are not worthless. This man doesn’t sound saved at all because no believer lives in sin and continues to practice it without repenting (1 John 3) so all you can do is pray for this man to be converted and love him, even if he doesn’t deserve it as Christ died for us while still His enemies and being wicked and ungodly (Rom 5:6-10) which we didn’t deserve. Can you call your pastor and seek counseling. This man is committing adultery in his heart and has the wrath of God on him if he doesn’t repent or Jesus returns today we know his fate is sealed. Let’s pray about this and ask your church to pray for “unspoken needs” as we’re commanded to do (Heb 10:24-25).


Truth July 4, 2017 at 9:30 am

Read the first few paragraph, high cost of pornography is Money???
It is Eternal Flame! Perish !!!
Read your bible and Do not use your own wisdom!

Even knowing it is SIN and hell is the consequences, it is very hard to not keep falling into the old sin…

Yet, listening preachers who teaches with their Own wisdom will not help anything and just make it worse.

Also Churches are teaching CHRISTIANS to be happy, not to be FREE.

LISTEN / watch, John Ramirez online.

Again, eventhoguh we know we have to fight every single second, it is very difficult to win the war.

Read your bible everyday! Be diligent on your quiet time with Gid praying. Every day even few times a day!

Thats what I found it help big time.


Jack Wellman July 4, 2017 at 9:51 am

Hello “truth” You are putting words in the author’s mouth. What was said is that pornography is big business to those who market it. It is a HUGE money maker. That’s what was said. It is true. I do read my Bible and not using my own wisdom as it is Bible-based. My friend, you are judgmental as you just said, “Churches are teaching Christians to be happy.” It may be true for some but not for all. Listening to preachers is what the Bible commands us to do. “big time” help comes with accountability partners, Bible study, counseling, and for some fasting. That’s what really helps big time and following the steps in trying to overcome this evil. Please don’t make sweeping generalizations about all churches as you have done since all generalizations are not fair to the whole.


Mr. Flummer July 4, 2017 at 5:38 pm

I’m just started having a problem with it I thought I beat it a few years back and i guess I haven’t. I’ve read the entire article and the accountability pattern makes the most sense but I’m too scared to ask anyone and I don’t have many friends. Is there anything else I could do


Jack Wellman July 4, 2017 at 6:22 pm

If you never humble yourself enough to ask for help it is pride and you must humble yourself to at least one other person. Is there not one person in your whole church you can trust? I would also speak with your pastor about that, and as one, I know he will keep it confidential, and you can start getting help. If you don’t, you will always be in this situation. The Bible teaches that we need one another more and more as Jesus’ coming nears (Heb 10:24-25). Re-read this article and follow the steps my friend. We are also told to confess our faults before one another, and this might be a time to do just that….with at least one person in your church. If you have no friends, make friends, as the Proverbs say, a friend that makes himself friend, will himself have friends. Invite someone to lunch after church. Go for coffee after Bible study Wednesday night…


John July 9, 2017 at 5:45 pm

Good day ptr Jack! I am a son of a pastor, but Im also a porn addict. I’ve been struggling to overcome this addiction for about 8 years but I just can’t.. Ive tried to put up measures to prevent me from accessing the porn sites (cutting off the internet connection, setting passwords, etc.) but still I still return to watching porn. I have fervently praying to God for help and sometimes I can stop watching for about a month but then again, I started to watch it again. To be honest, I can’t tell it to my parents, to my friends, to my church mates, to everyone I know because they will never see me the same way again. So I decided to SEEK HELP FROM YOU whom I didn’t personally know but a brother in Christ. I dont have an accountability partner or someone I can open up this problem thats why I decided to seek help from you! PLS PRAY FOR ME so that I can be of use in the work of Christ. It is really my desire to help in building His church but it seems this sin is a hindrance to my service to God.


Jack Wellman July 9, 2017 at 8:14 pm

You have my prayers brother. You are more of a target than most people since your father is a pastor. I know from experience, and yes my brother, my prayers are for you…even as I write this. Just think about going 1 hour porn-free and declaring “Victory!” one hour at a time. Don’t look to the whole week or whole day or even a whole hour…perhaps 10 minutes and when you feel that urge, drop to your knees and pray…and get in the Word. At some point John, you must tell someone else that you know and trust won’t share it with anyone. Don’t you have that one friend you can do that with? If not, you need to find one by being a friend. I cannot be an accountability partner over the Internet. You need a voice and a face to report to as you follow these steps…if not, it is always going to be a perennial and persistent sin. I can pray, you can pray, but you need someone to call you or you call daily if necessary, and that’s how it is slowly broken. Fasting helps too for some.


Paul August 4, 2017 at 12:58 pm


I am a christian of 28 and struggling with porn for 15 years.

need help


Jack Wellman August 4, 2017 at 1:03 pm

By all means you have our prayers sir. Please follow the steps in this article. Find a Christian male accountability partner, and so on. What I recommend as well as doing these (some drastic) steps is to sit under good Bible teaching/preaching, just as I do, but also, Sunday school and Bible study just like I do, but please call your pastor and tell him and ask your church to pray for you as we are commanded to do (James 5:14) even if it’s unspoken need, as we need one another (Heb 10:24-25) and seek to do what Jesus commands us to do (Matt 25:34-39) as we do it to Him (Matt 25:40) or we do nothing for Him (Matt 25:41- and that’s not good (Matt 7:21-23). You cannot overcome this in isolation.


michelle August 16, 2017 at 5:58 pm

Hi. I struggle with pornography addiction and have for many years. It’s very difficult being female with this addiction. There are no groups for women only with this addiction in my area and I live in a large city. I hate that I am driven to use p/m and can’t stop. I hate myself and wonder how God could love me.


Jack Wellman August 16, 2017 at 6:39 pm

Hello Michelle. I would find that one trusted CHristian woman/friend who will help you day to day with this struggle. There are things you can do (i.e. Internet filter password protected, as lined out in this article) but God doesn’t hate you…If you have repented and trusted in Christ, God loves you and loved you enough to send His Son to die for you! You have to reach out and seek help. If there are no woman groups for this in your area, start one! God may use you to help other women in this struggle, as they help you and help one another.


Susann August 21, 2017 at 8:52 am

I didn’t even realise how addicted I was until, recently, I have tried most ways to stop but it doesn’t work, porn floods my thinking, I am so sad, I feel so dirty and like an hypocrite, Its so frustrating , I am really in need of someone to talk to, pls I won’t mind getting your email so I can talk to you about my struggles, I am a Christian lady and I plan on starting a family soon, I can’t even tell my partner, it would hurt him so badly, I don’t want to put such burden on him, I just want to stop and move out of this episode in my life, I know God loves me and he cares, but I’m in such a dark place right now I can’t really see the love, I’m sorry if I’m talking like this, it just really hurts, I want to serve God with all my heart but this porn keeps on separating me from him. I just feel terrible. Please talk to me.


Jack Wellman August 21, 2017 at 10:01 am

Hello Susan. So glad you posted this but you are not alone in this struggle. If your partner doesn’t know about this and find out after you are married, it could backfire on you. Maybe he can help you overcome this by being your accountability partner. We are all sinners but we can’t do anything by ourselves (John 15:5) and only thru Christ can we do anything (Phil 4:13), so you need help. please ask your church to pray for you as an “unspoken needs” as we need one another more and more in this present evil world (Heb 10:24-25), and it is unwise for a man to counsel over pornography with a woman (you can see why I hope). Perhaps the pastor’s wife can help you as she too will keep things confidential, but if you don’t reach out for help, you will always struggle. Please follow the steps given in this article and find a female Christian mentor you can trust in your church. This is ne reason we all need one another.


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