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Bryan February 11, 2018 at 4:31 pm

Hello, I’m a recovering porn addict, I’m 41 years old and have struggled with porn since my late teens, and for me it wasn’t just porn but I was addicted to sex, but because of porn, it distorted my view of sex, I’m divorced, and my marriage was a casualty of porn and sex addiction, because I watched it a lot, and we allowed it to warp our marriage, we got into the swinging lifestyle swapping partners with other couples, and had an open relationship where we’d have sex with others outside of our marriage. It got to a point where it drove a wedge between us and destroyed our marriage. I’m in a new relationship and it’s something God is helping me through. This morning while I was in church, I felt God speaking to me that he wants me to start a ministry to help those affected by porn and sex addiction. I’d ask for prayer and support as I en-devour to get started in this…and pray for me that as I’m still recovering that God gives me the strength to avoid the temptation to look at that garbage.

Bruce Davis July 3, 2018 at 11:20 pm

I really do not consider myself an addict. I got into pornography because I could not get sex from my wife. I knew I wouldn’t have to try hard to get it outside the marriage but I refused to cross that line. I rationalized viewing porn to be acceptable in my situation.
I saw attractive women many attractive women in the public and on TV. I dwelled on some images in my mind and that led me to porn. I stopped and started back 3 times but the last time my wife caught me when she looked at her youtube. (each of us has each other google accounts on our phones so it’s mixed.)
She pointed out how hurt and betrayed my action caused her. She even talked to our Pastor about it. He gave me a book to sever the activity. It helped. I have not Looked at it since. Problem is I do feel the urge to at times. Singing gospel music or simply listening to it turns me away from the desire to search for porn on the net. The desire still returns. I read Proverbs chapter 5 and get emboldened to look at porn! I have no sex life though I am married. I say to my self ” I have no cistern to drink of my own.” It makes me angry for I know of willing coworkers whom I have explained the covenant of marriage in order to make my position clear. I’ve said I must be crazy to punish myself. I deserve nothing yet God has blessed me with much! Eternal life being something no amount of suffering in this short life could be traded for.
Even so, my flesh still desires it.

Martin Jr August 15, 2018 at 1:15 am

Wow. Bryan I love the testimony and change. I have learnt something from it. One thing for sure is that God will not fail you in His works simply follow the advise from Jack and allow the Holy Spirit to use you. Amen…

Emmanuel February 5, 2019 at 8:23 pm

Uncle,
How’d you resist from this addiction coz I really need help.

Joseph February 24, 2018 at 10:22 am

I need prayers to stop this porn addiction. It is ruining my family and my relationship.

Ques March 21, 2018 at 3:26 am

Gotcha bro…prayers going up now. Take every escape route that God provides

Daniel March 23, 2018 at 4:29 pm

Hi I am a porn addict. I really need help. I confessed it once at a fellowship session, we were about 7 of us. However, I am still struggling with this sin and am really stuck. I was chosen as a Youth Leader and I nearly refused to accept the role because I know I would only preach gospel and drink wine. Now I am in a leadership position with 6 other guys but I never allow myself to assist them in ministry because I am always guilty of my actions when am alone. I feel so helpless I have been praying and trying to read Scripture that can help but to now I haven’t. Please keep me in your prayers and help me where you can.

Jack Wellman March 24, 2018 at 10:59 am

Praying for you Daniel. I am so sorry brother.

Bruce Davis July 3, 2018 at 11:35 pm

I prayed for you brother. Please pray for me as well. I am active in ministry in my church as well but I stay in the background. I even fear telling others about the gospel for my lack of fortitude under pressure. I am not happy. It’s hard to tell others to adopt my faith.
I know it is the only reason I am still in this body. We are commanded to tell others of the gospel. Satan is laughing hard because he has a hold on me.

Pray for me to be free of all sexual desire. Porn will never drag me down again!

Bruce Davis July 3, 2018 at 11:39 pm

I prayed for you brother. Please pray for me as well. I am active in ministry in my church as well but I stay in the background. I even fear telling others about the gospel for my lack of fortitude under pressure. I am not happy. It’s hard to tell others to adopt my faith.
I know it is the only reason I am still in this body. We are commanded to tell others of the gospel. Satan is laughing hard because he has a hold on me.
Pray for me to be free of all sexual desire. Porn will never drag me down again!

Lans March 31, 2018 at 12:25 pm

Pls pray for me, Im also got into porn addiction. Ive been a Christian since I was a kid together my whole family. This was pretty big challenge to me as I’ve keep promising to God and praying that I will not watch porn anymore. However, these past few days while all alone, the devil keep corrupting my mind and tempted to watch. I really feel bad for my self, ashame and guilty…
Thank you

Jack Wellman March 31, 2018 at 12:31 pm

Praying for you now Lans.

Thiefwhore March 31, 2018 at 1:22 pm

I’m a worthless thief who steals from families and I cannot stop.

Jack Wellman March 31, 2018 at 1:30 pm

Hello my friend. No one that God calls and saves is worthless. Please speak with your pastor. Counsel privately with him. There is hope in CHrist and so I pray for you and love you as a fellow saint. Prayers for you.

N.B.K April 3, 2018 at 6:01 pm

I guess this is my first step admitting it. I am a porn addict and I have tried hard to stop. I started watching when I was young due to being molested at age 9 through 13. After being molested, I had lost my virginity early. Since then I have 2 children, and a third one on the way with my husband. He too has an addiction but he overcame his even though he’s had a slip up. I am trying to be better but I feel ashamed anytime I give in. Please pray for me.

Jack Wellman April 3, 2018 at 6:39 pm

Prayers for you N.B.K. Don’t give up. God is working in you and it takes time my friend….praying!

Tim April 20, 2018 at 9:03 am

Someone pray for me please. I haven’t been a Christian my whole life and I just want to live for god but I can’t if I keep running back to this

Jack Wellman April 20, 2018 at 9:47 am

Hello Tim. You need to sit under good Bible teaching/preaching, Sunday school and Bible study just like I do, but please call your pastor and tell him and ask your church to pray for you as we are commanded to do (James 5:14) as we need one another (Heb 10:24-25) and seek to do what Jesus commands us to do (Matt 25:34-39) as we do it to Him (Matt 25:40) or we do nothing for Him (Matt 25:41- and that’s not good (Matt 7:21-23).

Hilary April 24, 2018 at 9:22 am

Hie i have watched porn, but i don’t regulary watch it how do i get out of this please pray for me to have self control and for that edge to stop

Jack Wellman April 24, 2018 at 9:31 am

Hello Hilary. I would get rid of your source (INternet or cable or DVDs?). The solution is in this article but you must seek a community of believers to pray for you, even if it’s for unspoken needs. You need a female accountability partner. YOu need to confess this to at least one Christian woman. Read this again and go over the solutions. Seek God’s help and your Christian mentor.

Hilary April 24, 2018 at 9:31 am

How do i know that i am addicted and also how do i know that God has forgiven me

Jesus saves May 8, 2018 at 7:29 pm

Please help me i been a christian for 8 yrs and im struggling with porn and masturbation, i was elected youth leader and was praying to God to help me i feel unworthy to take title , and many look up to me, i feel ashamed

Jack Wellman May 8, 2018 at 7:43 pm

I am praying right now brother. You took the first step in overcoming this. Confessing it to God and to others and saying you are unworthy (the fact is, none of us are worthy), but I know this can come close to adultery of the heart. I would find a trusted Christian brother to make your accountability partner. Destroy the source (Internet, DVDs, smartphone?), and take drastic action. I am praying and now find an accountability partner who will tell no one about your private battle.

Jose May 10, 2018 at 10:29 am

Please pray for me . I am jose from Peru and I am a habitual porn addict. I really want to be free from this.

Jack Wellman May 10, 2018 at 10:40 am

Praying now my brother. I know you want to be free and can be. Please read this again and try to follow what you can do my brother.

Marcel July 11, 2018 at 9:47 pm

I am a Christian and I still struggle with mastrubation due to the corruption of my mind. I have often looked at porn in the past few years and I really want to stop forever. I’m addicted to sex and it makes me miserable.I know God has forgiven me , but I still fall and I feel like liar. I get angry and annoyed easily because of my guilt. I feel like I’m always watching my back never knowing if I’m gonna be found. I talked to my mom about it and felt good for awhile but I fall again. God has helped through the tough times, but it’s a never ending battle to stay pure. Please pray for me. Pray that my mind may be healed thx

Jack Wellman July 11, 2018 at 9:55 pm

Prayers for you Marcel.

Daniel August 3, 2018 at 3:50 am

Im not sure if is adiction 2 years went by i know afew websites by heart.but i did not go there.then i starter on the darksite of youtube .mild content.till finally went to see what i chose not to for 2 years..there i was..there is always some tricks that satan uses to make us trip ans stumble.i dont do drugs anymore.i am alcohol free for 6 years.i thank God for it .is been a blessing and more.i know have a 3month old baby.my first one.my name is daniel and our creator has provided and protected me/family till this day

Need Help in Jesus Name August 5, 2018 at 2:54 pm

I am too like you guys.. i hate it.. i want to live for Jesus.. please guide me.l someone.. i am an introvert.. please, if someone can talk to me, share me Gospel.. encourage me.. please please.. do we have skype group or something? look guys, it is only us and Jesus who can defeat this demon.. as a group, we cant be defeated.. we need to group up

Jack Wellman August 5, 2018 at 5:00 pm

Hello friend in Need of Help in Jesus’ Name. Please follow the simple steps in this article. Make sure to find a trusted and close Christian man to help be your accountability partner (female if it’s a woman in need of help). You need community (Heb 10:24-25) and confess this to someone in your church who you know won’t share this. Get rid of the source, get an Internet filter, find an accountability partner…you have the answer. Yes, you need a group and it’s called the Body of Christ, the church.

Loraine August 7, 2018 at 5:10 am

I have tried to quit but eventually after some time I visit those sites to satisfy myself when I’m not with my husband. I’m a teacher yet I can’t teach myself. I’m not addicted but I watch porn when my feelings are triggered. I have always prayed and made promises but after a while I’m regretting for watching it. It’s a constant battle. Pls pray for me. I want to quit once for all.

Jack Wellman August 7, 2018 at 2:12 pm

Praying right now for you Loraine.

A.E. September 23, 2018 at 7:11 pm

I have this issue with porn even when I am only a teenager, my parents had found out about a year ago but I fell again and they told me they wouldn’t stand me repeating that mistake again. I don’t know how to stop and I end up feeling so guilty, I don’t want it to affect my life anymore, I want it to end. Please please pray for me.

Jack Wellman September 23, 2018 at 7:17 pm

I am praying for you as I write this A.E. I am sorry for this heavy burden. There must be an accountabiity partner who is a trusted CHristian friend in your church, and not someone in your family, that can help you in this struggle. Ask for prayers from your church as “unspoken needs” and the other saints will join with me to pray for God to help you break this bondage. Only God’s Word and prayer and some use fasting, to break this addiction.

danny September 27, 2018 at 9:21 am

Hi my name is Danny and I am a porn addict…been doing it for 4 years now… and I really want to stop….I do pray to God to help me ..and to grant the spirit of self control. ..I can’t just control myself …please pray for me …I really need to stop watching porn ….thank you

cameron October 2, 2018 at 9:44 am

ive been trying to confess and everytime i do i start up again i feel so guilty being in my youth groups and telling lies i sometimes think whats the points if you maybe put me in your prays it would mean so much to me i just want to be done with porn and live without it thats all i want

Jack Wellman October 2, 2018 at 11:13 am

Hello Cameron. Please don’t give up. At least you are striving to let this go. Have you followed the steps given in this article? How have they worked so far? Have you tried any of them? There is power to cleanse our lives by the washing of the water of the Word, or the Word of God, so just like I do, you need to sit under good Bible teaching/preaching, Sunday school and Bible study just like I do, but please call your pastor and tell him and ask your church to pray for you as we are commanded to do (James 5:14) as we need one another (Heb 10:24-25) and seek to do what Jesus commands us to do (Matt 25:34-39) as we do it to Him (Matt 25:40) or we do nothing for Him (Matt 25:41- and that’s not good (Matt 7:21-23). You cannot overcome this in isolation without the Word of God and the power of God and the people of God and their prayers.

tony grande November 8, 2018 at 2:41 pm

i am christian a virgin i believe i have an addiction and i have dream of being a male pornstar and be married to one

Jack Wellman November 8, 2018 at 3:01 pm

Friend, please seek counsel with your pastor today as we know this is sin. God can help you but you need the godly counsel and prayers of the saints as this cannot be done in isolation.

Dave November 24, 2018 at 10:20 am

Please pray for me to stop With watching Porn, And Masterbating to it, And with committing Adultry by Thinking the Lustful Thoughts I Have been a Believer for 3 years but had this problem all my life never had a real Girlfriend or been Married, Please help me to stop

Jack Wellman November 24, 2018 at 12:55 pm

praying now Dave, but please call your pastor and tell him and ask your church to pray for you as we are commanded to do (James 5:14) as we need one another (Heb 10:24-25) and seek to do what Jesus commands us to do (Matt 25:34-39) as we do it to Him (Matt 25:40) or we do nothing for Him (Matt 25:41- and that’s not good (Matt 7:21-23)..

Dan November 30, 2018 at 3:24 am

Please pray for me on watching porn..

Midde John November 30, 2018 at 4:54 pm

This former atheist man tells what he saw in hell. He is telling that he saw christians hanging on crosses constantly getting swords stabbed/penetrated trough their private parts by these demons. These are the christian that couldn’t stop watching porn, masturbate and stop the sexual desear.

Im triyng to keep this in my mind and hope we all can stop BEFORE ITS LATE. These sins are so “normalised” and maybe the main sins in our christian life. IN BLOOD OF JESUS PLEASE LEAD US NOT INTO TEMPTATION,
BUT DELIVER US FROM EVIL.

Jack Wellman December 1, 2018 at 10:20 am

Hello John. I did not approve of the video becasue there is no way to verify this man’s story and it does not match what we see from Scripture that Christians are NOT destined to be in hell and suffer because Christ paid it all and so this is not even close to biblical truth and was not allowed. I am sorry…it is not accurate and I believe the Bible over the works or immaginations of a man.

Joseph January 17, 2019 at 1:23 pm

Hi I’m new to this forum.and thanks this site.well I’m a struggling open addict as well and I’m an Christian for over or around 30 years now.please keep me in your prayers in from Chicago i attend no clue h for now.

Jack Wellman January 17, 2019 at 2:09 pm

Praying now Joseph, my brother. The fact that you admit this and ask for prayer shows me and God you desire to break free…praying for you sir.

Zack January 18, 2019 at 3:59 am

I’m almost 21 and I’m still stuck in this loop of watching porn. I want to put a to this now!I’m going to pray to God tonight to help me in this journey so we can finally put a end to this. I’ll also pray for anyone else struggling with the same problem

Jack Wellman January 21, 2019 at 3:01 pm

Still praying for you Zack.

Timothy January 23, 2019 at 9:27 pm

Please somebody help me and pray for me I’ve had a porn addiction since I was probably 11 years old I’m now 27 I wanna live a godly life I know watching it and masterbating is wrong but at times I feel like I cant stop. I really wanna be free and stop this disgusting habit it also destroys the way I view my girlfriend after watching it for a while I feel like it gives me bad thoughts about her.

Jack Wellman January 23, 2019 at 10:06 pm

Praying for you Timothy.

Christopher vijay January 29, 2019 at 1:27 pm

Iam a porn viewer father, and Iam underage, I cant stop and my grades are terrible, im slowly succumbing to porn, in my mind I think im not goinf to watch porn today, then I wake up at night with an exciting evil feeling and I watch porn, even when I hear a voice, “dont do it” the I regret it and think about death, Im actually writing this at night without anyone noticing, so you understand my situation Please anyone I beg of you to please pray for me ,please please father please!

Jack Wellman January 29, 2019 at 2:00 pm

I am praying now my friend. Have you tried the strategies in this article. Call your pastor Ask for prayer from your church (as unspoken needs). We need one another (Heb 10:24-25).

Esosa February 1, 2019 at 12:48 pm

I got clean for a few months and now I got the urge and I fell, please I need help to overcome this mind killing sin, I need your prayers to be able to leave up to the standard of over coming the sin and turning to God and allowing the holy spirit to dwell in me again and for the rest of my life. Thank you

Jack Wellman February 1, 2019 at 12:51 pm

Praying for you my friend. We all fall in many ways, but God never forsakes us.

Abby February 23, 2019 at 1:50 pm

Hi, I am Abigail. I have been struggling with Pornography and Masturbation for three years straight. Even though, I am a Christian I have been constantly doing it over and over.
I have prayed but it just seems like I am not moving anywhere.
I am in desperate need of Change from God as I am eager and willing to work in His Kingdom. I just do not want to continue in this mess anymore.
Please, please Pray for me as I Pray for myself.

Jack Wellman February 23, 2019 at 2:14 pm

Hello Abby. Please confied in a trusted Christian woman you can trust to help you and pray for you and ask your church for prayer as “unspoken needs” as we need one another,and more so in these last days (Heb 10:24-25).

benja March 11, 2019 at 7:07 pm

i start this bad thing befor 5 yrs when i was 19 i am from afrika i see a lot of porn videos after that i cray and i ask lord to help me then i stop and after a few weks later i start again so i serch solution from internat to quit porn then i follow diffrent steps but nothing was work lastly i tell to pastor then i quet for a month i break my phone and delet every derti thing from my pc but i found my self in that derti are every day i cray i do no what can i do … some time i say God didnt went me because i have a lote of sin… pls pray for me i want to be deliverd from this addiction.

Ben March 19, 2019 at 12:57 am

Anytime I am alone in my room I feel like doing that but have reached the stage of getting marriage but the Lady I am with is not ready now but Ï also loves her and want to wait for her what I do Pastor ?

Jack Wellman March 19, 2019 at 9:01 am

Hello Ben. You cannot do anything to make her love you. Either she does or she doesn’t. THis is up to God (Prov 21:1). I would wait for if it is meant to be, she and you will wait. Prayers for you.

basliel March 31, 2019 at 8:07 am

hi…am form ethiopia(africa)… am 20 and i am 2nd year preclinical medical student…i am a student fellowship leader in our campus…i have been struggling to get out of the addiction of pornography and masturbation but i can’t…. i mean i don’t want to lose my intimacy and relation with God by the sins that i am doing…so can u please help me… sorry for my enlgish (africans!!!)

Jack Wellman March 31, 2019 at 1:07 pm

I would follow the steps in this article. Talk to your pastor. Find a strong, trusted CHristian mentor. Get rid of the sources of this pornography, no matter what the cost. What is your soul worth? I am praying for you my brother.

Ruth April 3, 2019 at 7:29 am

I really need help I think I am addicted, everytime I am alone I get the urge to watch it, I want to stop, it’s messing with my mind and the relationship that I am suppose to have with God I really want to stop please pray for me.

Bhushan wankhede April 28, 2019 at 2:49 pm

Please pray for me from watching porn videos and control on our self

Jack Wellman April 28, 2019 at 3:14 pm

Praying for you now my friend.

Beatrice May 6, 2019 at 7:41 am

Hi my name is Beatrice ,I’m recently engaged to a man that I really love,I’m a born again Christian and I believe in Jesus , truly pornography sites have been a struggle to stop for some years now I’ve been tempted so many times and I find my self watching and I end up sinning towards my God ,I give myself self satisfaction and I think it’s really draining me spiritually,I really want to stop and continue serving God in the appropriate way

Sean Brunson May 17, 2019 at 7:35 pm

Hi Mr. Wellman. My name is Sean and I have been struggling with porn addiction for 25 years. I am 45 now. I read my Bible daily but do not pray regularly. Like a dog returning to his vomit I keep committing foolishness. I love God and Jesus, but I don’t want to give the Devil a stronghold. Please pray for me.

Jack Wellman May 18, 2019 at 11:58 am

Hello my brother. Yes, I will pray for you sir.

Jack Wellman May 18, 2019 at 6:09 pm

Still praying for you sir.





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