How to Handle Rejection Biblically

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Rejection is tough at any age…even babies cry when rejected. God made each of us with the innate desire to be loved and accepted just as we are. Yet we live in a fallen world where sin is rampant. People hurl flaming arrows of rejection at their family members, co-workers, and peers without realizing the depths of their damage that reaches throughout generations.

How can we overcome rejection that simmers at the core of our being? Our first step towards healing will begin when we reject any thoughts, words, or actions that run contrary to the Bible.

By faith we accept that God’s word is true and everything must be held to the fire of truth.

How can we overcome rejection that simmers at the core of our being? Our first step towards healing will begin when we reject any thoughts, words, or actions that run contrary to the Bible.

How can we overcome rejection that simmers at the core of our being? Our first step towards healing will begin when we reject any thoughts, words, or actions that run contrary to the Bible.

Accept the truth that God made you beautiful

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalms 139:4).

Every human being was formed by the finger of God regardless of their race, color, creed, or culture. Many people are born into a world where they are immediately rejected based on their appearance, intelligence, or family genetics.

However, in the eyes of God, we are all beautiful. The Lord knew each of us while we were still in the womb. Rejection has no root in our hearts if we accept the truth that God calls us “wonderfully made”. There is a beauty that confidently radiates from the child of God who is completely convinced through the Holy Spirit of their beauty through Christ.

Related reading: Fearfully and Wonderfully Made: Meaning and Commentary

Accept the truth that God created you for a special purpose

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11).

The culture is pushing every generation towards a feeling or belief of “nothingness”. It’s easy to fall prey to the world of randomness without a God connection through Jesus Christ.

God has a plan for each person in the kingdom of Christ. Through the presence and filling of the Holy Spirit, we can trust in His leading us towards the right plan for our lives. It takes effort on our part to diligently search the scriptures and pray for God’s guidance. There’s no task to difficult nor mountain too high for those who are compelled to live their lives in the purpose and plan of God.

Accept the truth that God doesn’t have favorites

“For God does not show favoritism” (Romans 2:11).

As a loving and perfect Heavenly Father, He knows how to love each of us as if there were only one of us. His love is complete even when we fail Him. Unlike the parent, coach, or teacher—He doesn’t keep choose the best of the bunch based on physical appearances, athletic abilities, or intellectual greatness.

Rather God looks at the heart of every man, woman, and child. He knows the thoughts and intents of our hearts even if we don’t. Every person who comes to Him won’t be rejected, but embraced into His arms of safety and acceptance.

Accept the truth that God can heal your past hurts

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3).

How many adults walk around every day carrying the physical, emotional, and spiritual wounds of their childhood? It’s not God’s will for us to hold the burdens of the past while attempting to walk in the light.

Through spiritual surgery, the Holy Spirit moves into the cracks and crevices of our hearts to remove any lingering or useless words and/or acts of rejection. His love is enduring and powerful enough to bring complete healing for a renewed, vibrant life in Christ. The scars and memories may remain; however, their potency for pain is significantly reduced to ashes when God heals and we forgive those who’ve hurt us.

Accept the truth that God can use your hurts to help others.

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).

The Lord never heals us of rejection just for ourselves. It’s our duty to reach out to the hurting people around us and share how we’ve been healed.

One of the greatest tragedies of our generation isn’t that a great many people feel rejected and left out—but rather that so few of us share how we were once rejected. Our faith becomes alive and active when our gifts of the Spirit are used to build up the body of Christ. Those in the kingdom of Christ aren’t locked down by people’s perceptions, but rather they are free to reach out without fear and help someone else out of the pit of rejection.

Accepted, not Rejected!

Whatever falls short of the truth of Scripture must be forsaken and no longer carried in our hearts. The very words and acts of rejection used against you is exactly what God uses for His glory to reveal the finished work at the cross. You shine the light of Christ in freedom despite the ugliness in attitude from those who reject you. The beauty, peace, and love of God has no limits in the lives of courageous believers who reject the lies of this world and embrace the truth of acceptance in Jesus Christ.

Here is a related article to read today: How to Handle Disappointment: A Bible Study

Resources – New International Version Bible, The Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright© 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblca, Inc.™ Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

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Kris December 2, 2013 at 2:29 am

Thank you Crystal,

This is such an important and helpful article to remind us of these things. Being rejected is so painful …even after years of sharing the word with people I feel a burning pain when they do not rejoice to hear it ! I know that perhaps I will NOT SEE them become a believer and in all these years I have had the joy of hearing LATER ON ..sometimes MUCH later that they have received the Lord and now are standing …some teaching even ! WOW!

I had asked the Lord actually to not allow me to see them because I might get too high and mighty …I have had some people I know boast about how many people they ‘got born again’ and I did not feel that I wanted to take that kind of position.

I love it whenever I meet anyone who loves the Lord …and I get so excited …!

Rejection hurts…as you know my own story to some degree …but it is the work of satan to cause near and dear ones to begin to reject those who become born again …it is not the person but the offense of the spirit of GOD in the believer most often because the rejecter as Jesus said is rejecting Jesus …even as it may appear that it is the person.

I am glad that even though I was not a perfect wife as my husband may have wanted …I determined in our marriage to do as the Lord taught me to the best of my ability so that no accusation could be made against me …and that is ONE area that none of the accusations and rationalizations have had any place to ‘stick’ …

My husband moved out but I trust the Lord that He will work in my husband and also all around him …those who are married are married for LIFE and that means what it says to me …so I know that the Lord will work on my behalf in this marriage no matter what it may appear to be at present …my first concern is for the soul of my husband …because without him coming to the Lord …it would not work out any better than before ….A CHANGE of HEART is a must ….

So thankful for your continued encouragement here in this blog! Keep up the great work !

Love you for this !


Crystal McDowell December 10, 2013 at 8:29 pm

Dearest Kris,

I’m so grateful to our Father and Lord Jesus Christ that you are being blessed. It’s the grace of God that gets us through the difficulties of life and I’m greatly encouraged by your kind words.

God bless,


kate April 29, 2015 at 7:37 am

Hi Crystal,
I stumbled across this post when looking for ways to handle the rejection of my best friend of 5 years who was like a sister to me, but chose to reject me as a friend now to replace me with drug addiction and new ‘more chill’ friends. I’m finding this especially painful as I have to live with her and we have 6 months remaining on our house lease, so i have been constantly ignored and desperately lonely and hurt. This post was so encouraging for me..I even wrote many of your words down to take with me! It took reading words written by a complete (but lovely) stranger for me to realise I was also carrying the hurt from being rejected by my father as a child and in some social circles growing up. I broke down and cried out for healing, which I know is a process but I really do feel physically and emotionally much lighter now. Thank you thank you thank you


Prefer to be Anonymous September 28, 2018 at 5:34 pm

What if that rejection came from a pastor or family, and pretty much every church I’ve been a part of? First week I ever stepped foot in a church my only Christian friend said theres nothing in the bible that said we had to be friends. At another church a former coworker said I should find another church. A third church a girl said she would leave if I kept going. So the pastor asked me to leave until she graduated and then I could return. And then finally at the 4th church the pastors family, after years of friendship and ministry, said I was barely tolerable and refused reconciliation, in most cases nobody can tell me what I did wrong. I cant put myself through this kind of hatred. It’s not normal to profess to love one another and then engage in so much hatred.


Julie March 8, 2019 at 9:19 pm

Hey lovely don’t carry these thoughts around do not fret psalm 37 the reading daily helps you grow you will begin to sing laugh at childish things and just trust God will not leave you alone maybe you will have a child one day to share life with just know that I experienced this but just leave you will find true love in a real believer as god works in them to help you this happened to me so don’t quit ask Jesus to lead you to a church and ask for prayer I did this and was helped through being prayed over and flowing tears helped me and thean said rest I knew it was a message a truly saved person won’t reject you we love because he first loved us so walk away from their hard hearts Jesus lives in us and he will guide you. Let them go be shaped by the trials and know there’s good days to come arise my love be freed you are my beloved. He loves you precious one receive this don’t be afraid and ask Jesus for a godly person to come into your life and just wait he or they will come xxx


Michael December 11, 2019 at 11:45 am

Dealing with Rejection? well, I have had a lot of rejection in my life and I really thank God in each case.
I was in a relationship with an atheist girl for almost 4 years. It was always on my mind to change her whiles it was in her mind to change me. I was unsuccessful in changing her as she was unsuccessful to change me, she got tired and left.
before then, i saw in a dream that i missed heaven cos of her.
I just feel like God draws his children back to himself through difficult time because I really feel more close to God when I am in trouble and seem to have no answer elsewhere. I really thank God for all the things I’ve been through because the hard times actually draws me more closer to God.
Give thanks to God in all situations. Problems are there for our spiritual growth. This is a mystery and its so true!
All praise to God the Most High!!!


Jack Wellman December 11, 2019 at 1:07 pm

What a great testimony my brother and a sign of the strength of your faith. Praying for you and thanking God for your seeing the bigger picture of your spiritual growth. Amazing. Thank you sir.


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