Will There Be Marriage And Sex In Heaven?

by Jack Wellman on March 28, 2013 · Print Print · Email Email

Will there be sex in heaven?  What will the roles of men and women who have husbands and wives in heaven be?  Will they still be married?

Like the Angels

Jesus addressed this question when the Sadducees asked him about whether there will still be marriages in heaven and whether they will still be married.  One thing that I learned is that the Sadducees did not believe in the resurrection but the Pharisees did.  There is an easy way to remember who did and who did not believe in the resurrection among the religious leaders.  The Sadducees did not and so they were “sad, you see” but the Pharisees did because they could see “far, you see.”  I know it sounds silly, but it helps me to remember who believed and who didn’t believe in the resurrection.

The Sadducees were trying to trick Jesus when they asked,Teacher,” they said, “Moses told us that if a man dies without having children, his brother must marry the widow and have children for him. Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh. Finally, the woman died. Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her (Matthew 12:19-23)?  What did Jesus say?  He stated that, At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven (Matthew 12:25).  This does not mean that we will have wings like the angels for not all angels have wings.  This means that there will be neither marriages of one to another or that they will procreate (have children).  The angels also do not marry nor do they bear children.  Jesus said in Mark 12:25 that When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.” Jesus actually rebuked the Sadducees saying, Are you not in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God (Mark 12:24)?

No Need for Sex in Heaven

There is not going to be any sex in the Kingdom of Heaven because those who have put their trust in Christ on earth will live forever. There will be no need to replenish the human race because eternal life means that the death rate on earth at present (being 100% or 10 out of every 10 humans die) will not be like the death rate in heaven (being 0 out of 10 will die). Sex was created by God to bond male and females together as one in a relationship that is like that of Christ and His Bride, the church. The church has become one with Christ.  Sex is also made for procreation (having children) but it is a way of having two people, male and female, come together i n the most intimate relationship possible. Two people become one in unity, family, and harmony and their DNA creates one child at a time (save for twins or more). This unique gift from God is designed only for those who have made lifetime commitments to one another.  In Genesis 2:24 is says, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Jesus said as much when He stated that at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.  For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate (Mark 10:6-9).  Today, the church and Christ become one and what God had joined together, stays together.  That is the intent of marriage.  “Till death do us part” is in most marriage ceremonies but sadly, it is “until disagreement makes us part.”  This is why parents of the couple must stay out of their children’s marriages and perhaps is the reason why God said, in Genesis 2:24, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh (my emphasis). They leave their old families behind to create a new family.  I do not mean that they distance themselves or cut off the relationship from their families but that relationship stops at the threshold of the new couple’s door.

Better Than Sex

Sex was created by God to bond male and females together as one in a relationship that is like that of Christ and His Bride, the church.

Sex was created by God to bond male and females together as one in a relationship that is like that of Christ and His Bride, the church.

God created sex for married couples to enjoy but in heaven, there will be no greater joy than to be in the presence of God.  What a day that will be and there will be nothing on this earth to compare with it. That is why Paul said, I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us (Romans 8:18).  The joy is indescribable even to Paul who was taught directly by Jesus Christ.  Paul said thatNow we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known (1 Corinthians 13:12). The Apostle John had a foretaste of this when he wrote, Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when he appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is (1 John 3:2).

The Roles of Men and Women in Heaven

Men and women are co-equals and co-heirs in Christ today and in the Kingdom of Heaven they will be ruling with Christ as kings and priests.  That indicates that we shall be ruling and reigning with Christ.  The capacity and responsibilities will not be due to our being male or female but due to what we have done on this earth.  Jesus said that some will rule five cities, some may rule ten cities, but our responsibilities will be in direct proportion to what we have done with out talents, time, and treasure here on earth (Luke 19).  In Revelation 5:10 it states that at His return, Hemade them to be a kingdom and priests to serve our God, and they will reign on the earth”, “and has made us to be a kingdom and priests to serve his God and Father–to him be glory and power for ever and ever! Amen (Revelation 1:6).

Conclusion

God is no respecter of persons between men or women (Acts 10:34) because,There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus (Galatians 3:28). Men will not be the head of women in heaven. He and she will both be ruling together but in different capacities according to what they have done on earth.  We are not saved by works but our works will follow us to heaven and each man and woman will be rewarded according to what they have done on earth for the Lord.  Today, if you have not placed your trust in Christ, you will not be in heaven but be eternally separated from God with no second chance.  Today is your day of salvation (2 Corinthians 6:2) for no one is guaranteed that they will live beyond tonight or tomorrow. Come to Jesus today, repent of your sins, confess them to God, and put your trust in Jesus Christ.  Then you can join the other saints in ruling and reigning with Christ in the Kingdom of Heaven.  That will be better than any marriage or sexual relationship that has ever been consummated.

Take a look at this related article about Heaven

Who Goes to Heaven?

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Patricia Schneider March 28, 2013 at 6:20 am

Oh darn, no whoopee in heaven? Not to be disrespectful of you or God’s Word…guess I haven’t the foggiest idea of the WONDER of BEING WITH GOD IN HEAVEN?
Perhaps I’m still ‘attached’ to this world. ‘Cause of my hubby’s health, we haven’t been able to enjoy this marital blessing for some time now. Have to admit…I MISS MAKING WHOOPEE!
Which brings me to a question I’d asked Pastor Daryl Evans and haven’t received a response yet. He had written an article about ‘lust.’ I asked him about masturbation, if it was a sin? Or should I pray for relief from sexual tension? Tried praying, taking a walk, SOMETHING to distract me from these overwhelming feelings.
Years ago, when I was still practicing the Catholic Faith, after spending 7 months in the ‘nuthouse,’ I find myself giving in to this and not really KNOWING if I were sinning or not. In Confession, I asked the Priest. He replied that in itself, it wasn’t a sin. But that excess of any kind is harmful to us. Now that I am becoming more familiar with God’s Word, this particular subject has me concerned.
I know I will never be perfect as Jesus is, but that doesn’t stop my wanting to be as perfect as possible for Him.
When you get the time, please advise me on this. OK?
May you, Pastor Jack, and your family have a Happy, Blessed, Wonderful Easter!!!
Always in Christ, Jesus…Patty

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Jack Wellman March 28, 2013 at 1:13 pm

Patty, it’s always a joy to hear from you. You said, “should I pray for relief from sexual tension?” I think that is the solution. Jesus said that if we lust after a person in our heart we have committed adultery but as for your question, I don’t consider it the same as adultery but I personally think you should not be doing it for it is a matter of lust. I agree, none of us are perfect and I am about as far from that as a human can possibly be. I know its harder for single people to have to live with these passions and God made us this way. The Bible is silent on this and so I can’t be dogmatic about it but I believe that anything that takes our passions to a place that we might feel guilty about then for that person it is sin. Not an unforgivable one of course, but I like your solution when you feel this urge…”pray for relief from sexual tension.” That’s a great idea. Even so, know that we well never overcome the flesh entirely in this world but will be made perfect only on the day of Christ’s return. If it concerns you then I believe you shouldn’t do it. May God richly bless you and you also have blessed Resurrection Sunday.

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sandra white March 29, 2013 at 5:47 am

Then what is fornication, if the Bible doesn’t mention this? Thank you,

Sandra

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Jack Wellman March 29, 2013 at 1:20 pm

Thank you so much Mrs. White for your comment/question. Fornication typically refers to consensual sexual intercourse between two people not married to each other. For many people, the term carries a moral or religious association, but the significance of sexual acts to which the term is applied varies between religions, societies and cultures. The definition is often disputed. In modern usage, the term is often replaced with the more judgment-neutral terms premarital sex, sex before marriage, or extramarital sex.

In the English translations of the Bible the Greek term πορνεία (porneia) has given rise to some dispute. The traditional translation of the term into English has been fornication, but has also been translated as whoredom. More recent translations have preferred the alternate translation of sexual immorality or simply immorality.

As I told Patricia, if it seems sin to a person then it is sin to them. As I also told her that I don’t believe she should be doing this even though the Bible is silent on it. Did I help answer your question my friend? I hope so and I thank you.

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Patricia Schneider March 28, 2013 at 1:58 pm

Bless you, Pastor Jack, for replying so quickly! Was almost embarrassed asking such a question, but really wanted an answer. Your articles and replies in the past have helped me tremendously in my daily walks with Jesus, and understanding God’s Word…that’s why I turned to you.
Still keeping up with the online Bible Study…have changed it to the New International Version (NIV). AND STILL HAVE LOADS OF QUESTIONS! For instance:
In Timothy 2 vs. 11-12 “A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet.”
Now how do I relate that to my life?
Maybe I’m using the ‘wrong interpretation’ of bibles? Could you give me your selection again?
Always in Christ, Jesus…Patty

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Jack Wellman March 29, 2013 at 1:26 pm

When Paul instructed men and women (some think husbands and wives were specifically in view) in his churches (see also 1 Cor 11:2-16; 14:33-35), the immediate problem was disturbances in the worship service. On the one hand, changing attitudes about the man-woman relationship led women to assert themselves in the worship service in ways that threatened unity and perhaps also reflected a disregard for biblical and cultural distinctions between men and women. Disruptions by women included inquiring about the meaning of prophecies (1 Cor 14:33-35) and teaching men (1 Tim 2:11-12). But the present passage also reveals that the anger and arguments of some men were contributing to the disruption of the church’s worship service. As pointed out above (see on 2:1), Paul drew upon certain material in such cases in order to restore peace to the community by encouraging appropriate behavior. In this his concern both for biblical patterns and for the perceptions of those outside of the church is evident.

Most commentaries suggest that verses 11-12 prohibit women from teaching and holding authority over men. Within the worship setting their appropriate role is that of the learner. Women will be quiet during the teaching portion of the service–that is, they will not teach or question. And they will be fully submissive to men’s authority. This does not mean that women are not allowed to lead a women’s Bible study or to reach in Sunday school. I am not sure if this helped or not. I hope so Patty.

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Derek Hill March 28, 2013 at 7:18 pm

This was just awesome! Jack, I always learn a lot from you in what you write. It is hard to picture eternity without sex, but I am still an earthly human. I know and have faith that when I enter into heaven it will all make sense because I will be perfect and whole and then I will truly know God like I have never known before! I am excited for that day when I meet Jesus face to face and praise our Father in heaven! God bless you brother! This was very encouraging and informative!

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Jack Wellman March 28, 2013 at 7:31 pm

Derek, YOU are awesome man. Such an encourager. YOU are one of the reasons that I look forward to being in heave when we all finally get to meet. Oh what a great day that will be.

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Tim G August 25, 2013 at 6:01 am

Totally agree!

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Rhonda March 28, 2013 at 9:07 pm

I just recently lost my husband, he was only 40. He was an alcoholic and died of Cirrhosis of the liver. He always read the bible and put his trust in the Lord but just had this terrible addiction. He left behind a 13 year old son and myself. I miss him so much and haven’t felt the same since his passing. I feel like part of me is gone as well. I just have a question. Will I see him again? I know Jesus died on the cross for all of our sins but I still question why did my husband have to die and leave behind his son that needs him so much. Rhonda

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Jack Wellman March 28, 2013 at 9:18 pm

Rhonda, I am so very sorry my friend. What heartache this must be for you and our son. Let me show you what Gods says…“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”(Rom 8:1). Notice that Paul didn’t say “unless you sin again” or if you are not perfect. No, Jesus said in John 11:26 “whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?” and”John 6:47 “Very truly I tell you, the one who believes has eternal life.” and John 6:58 “This is the bread that came down from heaven. Your ancestors ate manna and died, but whoever feeds on this bread will live forever.”

Jesus NEVER qualifies His word that “except if you sin again. “Very truly I tell you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.” (John 5:24). This “has eternal life” is in the present tense. More specifically, the present, indicative tense which means that the very day your husband put his trust in Christ, he “had” or possessed eternal life. Once a person is born again, they can’t be unborn. God has no aborted children, only children who posses or hold eternal life. Paul said that in Eph 2:6-7 “And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus,in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus.” Notice that we (and your late husband) are ALREADY seated in the heavenly places, which means as good as done as far as God is concerned.

Let me give you one more comforting verse that Paul wrote to declare that this person who trusts in Christ is in no way going to be forgotten or as Paul wrote in Rom 8:38-39, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Now doesn’t that cover every possibility? Yes! Even death can not prevent us from being with Jesus. I pray this helps for Paul was “convinced!” and so am I and I hope you are now. May the God of all comfort, comfort you and richly bless you and your son. You will see your husband again.

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Jack March 29, 2013 at 4:07 am

Happy Good Friday, Pastor Jack! Very sad to hear that this woman you were talking to, has lost her husband to alcohol. :( I know how she feels, some of the people I know have been lost to atheism and always have. When I say lost, I mean ETERNALLY lost. That is why our duty is to preach the Gospel to as many people as possible, so that none who never knew God may perish, but be joined with Him in eternal heaven! :D Believe me, as long as this man truly put his trust and faith in Jesus Christ, he will be socialising with probably 3 billion people as we speak. We love you, Jesus! :DD

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Jack Wellman March 29, 2013 at 1:29 pm

Amen…by putting our trust in Christ we can be sure that He will never turn us away (John 6:37) and that security in only as strong as the Securer (John 10:28-29). This is all the more reason to have a passion for the lost and be about rescuing the perishing and casting nets but with the recognition that it is the Father Who draws men and women to Christ (John 6:44) even though we are still commanded to enter into the harvest (Matt 28:18-20, Acts 1:8). Thanks Jack!

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Jonathan April 2, 2013 at 8:55 am

Pastor Jack,

From your reply to Rhonda, it sounds like you believe in “once saved, always saved”. I could be interpreting your reply wrong and, if so, I apologize. I just wanted to say that I think there is plenty of scriptural evidence to back up the fact that someone CAN lose their salvation. I myself have more than likely been in that situation on numerous occasions…even very recently. Mostly due to a complete falling away from God and Christian living.
I don’t want anyone to lose hope that a loved one who has passed won’t be in heaven, but I do believe you have to look at how they lived. None of us can say for certain who is saved and who isn’t, but you can’t accept Christ and go on living however you want. Of course we will all continue to struggle with sin and will be forgiven when we ask, but we must do our best and continually strive to be better.
I’m no one to preach, I just wanted to add to the discussion and hear yours/others thoughts. Thank you.

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Jack Wellman April 2, 2013 at 4:55 pm

Thank you Jonathan for your comment. I do not like the term “once saved, always saved” for it is not in the Bible. I believe we must all work out our own salvation with fear and trembling and the haunting works of Jesus in Matthew 7:21-23 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!”

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Zack June 2, 2014 at 5:55 pm

“Once saved, always saved” verbatim might not be in the Bible, but it is implied once someone has salvation, they can never lose it. Jesus says that nobody can take out of His hands what the Father has given Him. So how can we say that you can “lose your salvation”? I don’t like that term at all.

To lose your salvation kind of makes it sound like you have ownership and have earned it. Salvation was given, and we must be weary on how we assume people can “lose” what God has given. I think the Bible speaks for itself that those who are not saved, will never be saved, but those who are truly saved can not lose that. To say they could seems to be blasphemous because it goes against election.

I, do, however, believe in the professing Christian (one who says they believe in Christ, but does not truly) and we can discern this by the fruits they produce (And I come to the understanding from reading Mt. 7:21-23 that these are the people who Christ is speaking of), but in no way shape or form does this equate to us saying, “You lost your salvation today, but you can get it back tomorrow if you really try hard.” That is buffering the idea that we can in some way earn our salvation, or that we have a hand in it, taking away from God’s sovereignty, and Christ’s sacrifice.

Those who truly have Jesus in their heart, never loses Him. If they do, they never truly had Him to begin with.

But other than that, great article, Jack!

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Jack Wellman June 2, 2014 at 6:02 pm

You are spot on my brother….I so admire your biblical wisdom. Ironically (or by God’s sovereignty really) I just wrote this to a lady who’s friend and parents are fruitless Christians:

Dear (name withheld) I am so proud of your effort to ensure that a person is soundly saved. Jesus said that you shall know them (provides evidence or proof of) by their fruit. No fruit or bad fruit shows that they are truly not abiding in the vine. I have most of my family that say “I’m Christian” yet they show no evidence, no willingness to be part of the Body of Christ, the church (this is disobedience, e.g. Heb 10:23-25). We are to honor our parents, as you said, even if they are old. One way we honor them is to show them that we love them and love sometimes offends in order to, as Tom said, humble them because the most loving thing we can do is to tell them the truth. The truth sets you free or it makes your really made. The Word of God comforts the afflicted but afflicts the comfortable. 85% of Americans say that since they are a good person they’ll go to heaven. This is contrary to what the Bible says…we are all sinners, we have the wrath of God abiding on us still (Rom 5; John 3:36) I would ask you to either follow this patter at the link provided and is the way that Jesus, Paul, Peter and the church did evangelism. We do this so that they won’t hear Matt 7:21-23 someday. Either print this article off, particulary at the bottom where it gives people the “good person” test at:

http://jackwellman.blogspot.com/2010/10/hells-best-kept-secret.html

You could also mail it to them. Jesus said that the gates of hell would not prevail against the church. There are no solo Christian acts in the New Testament church, ANYWHERE! Do this in love. As I said before with your friend, you may have to offend to soften their hearts. Soft words produce hard hearts but hard words produce soft hearts. Use Scripture, stand firm, risk a friendship for truth’s sake, pray the Spirit convicts them of their sin and then back off…and leave the rest of up God for that is all you can do and leave the rest up to God. Do it only one time and then wait upon God. Ask them to read Matthew 7:21-23 and ask them if that concerns them? Jesus said that MANY will say on that day Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.” The Word of God is like a sharp two-edged sword. It needs to cut in order to heal! Let me know what you think of the evangelistic nature of the article. This method used by Jesus works with “fruitless” Christians who may be false converts (or tares among the wheat), it works with Mormon’s, Jehovah Witnesses’, Atheists, Muslims, Jews, Agonistics….will pray God softens there heart but be prepared to and risk offending for their eternal souls are just too important not to!

I think you are so right Zack and I thank God for you brother for you know you are so right. MANY will say on that day but MANY will be lost! How tragic. I wish I had you in my church or you could go with me in street evangelism, in the mall, or door to door. 320 people die every hour and 2/3rd or MORE will forever be separated from a Holy God in a Christ-less eternity. You tell em’ brother. We need men of God like you so much! Jesus said that I give them eternal life. If the receive it and then lose it, was it really eternal? NO~ and Jesus, being God cannot lie> John 10:28-29, John 6:37, 39 was true then and true today and forever! May God richly bless you brother.

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Zack June 2, 2014 at 6:16 pm

I am very grateful for your kindness, Jack. I wouldn’t admire my wisdom, I certainly do not have over 300 articles under my belt! (Kudos to you for that!) but you, on the other hand, possess great wisdom. But as I read through Proverbs, I can only pray the Lord grants me wisdom that I can use.

Jack, I have been reading many of your articles today, and they really do open my eyes (especially the article about living together before marriage). You speak edification to the body of Christ, and may the Lord bless you for that. I seek out your guidance and understanding on sexual immorality (as I was recently in a very sinful relationship that I broke out of by the Grace of God) but still find myself consumed at times by the sinful thoughts, and even have met up with her, not honoring God in the slightest with what I do. I ask humbly for your prayers, and will continue reading your articles until I can be a man after God’s own heart to the extent you are. I can be impulsive, acting on my urges rather than logic, and Proverbs 14 showed me that, so now I look to honing my faith. I desire to live my life for Christ, and I will not stop fighting, no matter how many times sin knocks me down.

But thank you for your articles, you are truly doing the Lord’s work and I can only imagine the glory you will have in heaven for your work here on earth. God Bless, brother!

Rainey April 2, 2013 at 8:10 pm

Hello sorry for writing so much to you but i am working on trying to help my dad to understand that Jehovah witness has a lot of false in that religion. My dad is trying to tell me that we shouldn’t celebrate holidays like Christmas because nobody really knows when jesus’s real birthday is. He is also telling me that how do we know if Christians are the right religion if every religion has their own bible. How do we know which bible is the right one??? He also belives there is no hell and no heaven. He thinks that their is only a kingdom some where. He belives there will be a place for the bad people but no hell. He also thinks that if you pray to god and show him you are sorry for the things you do then he can save you from hell but i keep telling him that he needs to get saved. Please get me some answers so i can share this with him….

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Jack Wellman April 2, 2013 at 8:31 pm

Rainey, I am so sorry my friend. I am glad you care enough to tell him the truth. Currently, he is like most lost people. They equate what they “believe” is more important than God’s truth. Only God alone can change this man’s heart (Prov 21:1) and that is what we can pray for. He says “I believe” on so many things but you could ask him, “can you prove that there is no God? That there is no heaven or hell? Can you prove that what we “believe” changes what is true? We used to “believe” that the earth was flat but our beliefs didn’t make it so. Just being sorry is not enough. As you know, it takes repentance, godly sorrow for our sins, confession of our sins and then putting our trust in Jesus Christ to save us.

We have a couple of articles that you can read and copy and paste to print off for him to read and see what he thinks. One is “Is Jesus the Only Way?” at:

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/is-jesus-the-only-way-a-biblical-analysis/

Another is “Who Goes to Heaven? Do Good People Go to Heaven?” at:

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/who-goes-to-heaven-do-good-people-go-to-heaven/

Here is another too. It’s called, “How Do We Know the Bible is True? Is it Really the Word of God?” at:

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-do-we-know-the-bible-is-true-is-it-really-the-word-of-god/

Start with one at a time though. Read it with him. Read the Bible verses that are in these articles. There is real power in the Word of God and then leave it up to God to convict him for only God the Father can draw people to Christ (John 6:44) but He does use people to do this.

With the Word of God, and a Woman of God, with the Spirit of God…God can make children of God. Don’t despair. Even Saul (later Paul) was a murdering enemy of the church yet God changed his heart completely. I’ll pray for that with you.

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Chevelle April 4, 2013 at 12:09 pm

Hello Jack,

This is a very good article.

I was wondering if it is okay, according to the scriptures, to be married but not have children? And I mean deciding that you don’t want to have any even though you are capable.

Chevy

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Jack Wellman April 4, 2013 at 12:11 pm

Thanks Chevy…I see no sin at all in not having or not wanting to have children. That is not even mentioned in the Bible as sin so you are just fine. We have freedom in the non-essentials of the faith and not having children is okay if you are married. May God richly bless you my good friend and thanks for the question.

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Godlove April 6, 2013 at 5:58 am

What nan insight!
Bravo!!! my friend

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Brian Finley April 6, 2013 at 7:11 am

What an amazing message. It is 6:40 in the morning here in Texas and what compelled me to read this I don’t know but I am sure greatful I did. Thank you for taking the time to write this

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Jack Wellman April 6, 2013 at 12:12 pm

Greetings to you Mr. Finley in the Great State of Texas. What a pleasure to hear such encouragement my friend. I appreciate it.

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Bro. Repentance April 10, 2013 at 5:04 am

Dearest Pastor Jack;
I Have Numerous Questions To Ask But I Will Only Ask Few Ones That Bothers Me. 1. Is Payment Of Tithe(1/10th) Compulsory. 2. If We Don’t Pay Will Jesus Allow Devourer Or Arm Robbers To Invade Us. 3. And If I Love To Pay But My Income

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Jack Wellman April 10, 2013 at 10:53 am

Thank you for your question my friend. I tithe but don’t do it out of a legal requirement but from a cheerful heart as Paul described. I believe those who don’t make tithe or offerings are only hurting themselves. I believe that God will not bless those who are not blessing the church and certain bibillically sound ministries. Does this answer your question sir?

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William April 18, 2013 at 1:01 pm

No sex in heaven. So easy for those who are married, or who are regretful for “sowing their wild oats” earlier on. No I am not idolizing sex (remaining chaste, no porn, no masturbation) and it hurts. Allow me to reiterate that: It is painful to be single and obey God’s standards on sex. Please do not say to exercise, serve, or whatever else to distract or use that energy. I have tried them all, and I find that it is quite easy to serve, exercise, or whatever and still “feel the burn” of sexual desire. Do not insinuate that having desire is sin. Sin is acting in a way that God would not approve of on those desires. If anything, my pain is a sign that I am NOT SINNING!
I sincerely hope you are wrong, because not only is there no other avenue to fill this desire (ie sex is for more than procreation, otherwise I don’t think it would be as popular as it is), but it also points to a seemingly eternal victory for sexual sin in the life of sinners.

Victory cannot be achieved by doing nothing. In the realm of sex, that is all singles are allowed to do (nothing). Please do not mix semantics by trying to mix up sex and gender like Peter Kreeft. I am not talking about the chance to be a man (gender), I am talking about intercourse, coupulation, horizontal bop, whatever clarification is required. The only avenue to victory is for something to happen, and no sex in eternity just seems like the devil can sit in hell and find the smallest satisfaction that he ruined sex for celibate singles forever because God does away with it, and the only allowable response is to do nothing.
Why is sex the only part of creation that God does not redeem? After all the troubles it caused it seems to be a prime candidate for redemption. Anyway, I find a flaw in your argument anyway. Adam had the closest relationship tyo God that any man has ever had, and before the fall, God himself said “It is not good for man to be alone” and that began the whole sex/intercourse dynamic. God could have given more of himself to Adam in response to that statement, instead he gave Eve. I am just a man like Adam, so why do I have to be denied even in eternity if I am obeying today? Perhaps you are wrong, maybe I am, but I find this tired argument of no sex in heaven to be rather cold hearted to obendient singles.

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morris imbwaga May 21, 2013 at 11:59 pm

This so good my the almight continue to use u to enlight many in the missio dei of the LORD GOD of heaven

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Lauren June 16, 2013 at 5:26 pm

Sex is an earthly pleasure. So, I believe that once you leave this Earth, you can’t have such things anymore. Besides, I’m sure that once in Heaven, you would be at peace and wouldn’t even think about sex.

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Zack June 2, 2014 at 6:45 pm

That is really heavy information! And i’ll be sure to look at those articles! I will confess I have used pornography to try and fill that sexual void at times, but that is my folly not putting utmost confidence in Christ, whom I know can deliver me from myself. Jack, thank you much for these articles and wisdom. Iron shapens iron, and you are certainly iron.

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MirelCl July 31, 2014 at 6:47 pm

Mr. Jack Wellman, I am sad and I feel empty. I understand that will be no marriage in heaven, like Jesus said. Then what will happen with sexual life? God want to take this pleasure from us? I can’t believe, God create sexual life for us, but He want to eliminate it in heaven?
We have interdiction to make sex?
We don’t drink, we don’t eat, we don’t have sex, etc. What life will be in heaven? A boring life? A life of eunuch?
I need an answer!

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Jack Wellman July 31, 2014 at 7:22 pm

Thank you MirelCL. Jesus never married, never had sex, and was eternally and fully joyful in the presence of the Father. These things you mentioned are physical and there can be no comparison with what that will be like than what we experience here and today on earth Rom 8:18). What is the only other option (Rev 20:11-15)? Are you saying that if there is no sex in heaven, they you won’t want to be there? There will be drink and food in heaven and such a time of rejoicing that we cannot even describe it. Have you ever read Randy Alcorn’s book “Heaven”? It is an outstanding look at what we can expect. After Jesus’ resurrection He had both a physical body and a spiritual one and could eat and drink, which is what He did after He rose from the grave. After the resurrection, Jesus was able to eat (Luke 24:42-43). He showed people His hands and feet with the nail prints in them (Luke 24:39; John 20:27), and people even grabbed His feet and worshipped Him (Matt. 28:9). As the reports of Jesus’ resurrection were spreading. This resurrected, physical body was a glorified, spiritual body. The spiritual body is not merely “spirit.” The spiritual body is the resurrected, glorified, physical body just like yours will be. Is it not worth living for heaven, even if there is no sex?

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MirelCl August 1, 2014 at 4:40 pm

Thank you for answer, Mr. Jack
I want to understand these:
1. We’ll be with physical body (legs, hands, mouth, eyes, nose) in heaven?
2. Here we have flash, bones.
What kind of structure we’ll have in heaven?
3. God made us naked (Adam, Eve).
Will be nude people in heaven?
4. Will be women, men and children in heaven?
5. Will be kisses, hugs in heaven?

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Jack Wellman August 1, 2014 at 10:27 pm

Thank you Mirelcl…Will there be nude people in heaven? I doubt that very much. Will there be children in heaven? the Bible doesn’t say and so if the Bible is silent, so must we be…but there are neither male nor female in heaven but as Jesus said in Mark 12:24 And Jesus answering said unto them, Do ye not therefore err, because ye know not the scriptures, neither the power of God? 25 For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven.” Yes, we will have a physical body but have the capabilities of a spirit body. Flesh and bones, yes, but we will be spirit too because both body and soul reunite at Christ’s return. Yes, kisses and hugs, no doubt in heaven. To find out what heaven will be like, please read this: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/what-does-the-bible-say-heaven-is-like/

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Jack Wellman June 2, 2014 at 6:23 pm

Zack, I am overwhelmed and when I read your comment, I fell on my face before our God and prayed for you that God might strengthen you at the very moments you are resisting temptation. To me this is exceedingly strong evidence that you a Christian for sure because no one in the world cares but the very fact that you are fighting this temptation is a great sign and solid evidence that God is changing you into the image of His Son and our Lord, Jesus Christ. My brother, I am no better than you, I too face fierce temptations from the Enemy and I must daily run to my strong tower but if I can encourage you, I am glad. If I have any glory [in heaven] we know that all credit is to Him alone for He is glorified because I could do nothing of myself and if not for the Holy Spirit, what good would I be? So ultimately, He is glorified by this work here for what do I have that I have not received? The answer is “0” but all to my Hero, Jesus Christ. Getting knocked down is okay because we can only then have one way to look…and that is up! I covet such men of God like you in the tiny little church I am the under-shepherd of to the Great Shepherd.

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Zack June 2, 2014 at 6:34 pm

Well, I really do appreciate that, Jack! I can’t fathom that you’d have such a strong reaction, and it shows me I need to have the same compassion and desire to pray for others when they are in need, which I feel can be easy for me to overlook. You are encouragement and health to my bones and God speaks through you to inspire and fortify the faith in others. God Bless you, Jack, I will pray for your battles, and you will most likely see me in other articles in the near future!

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Jack Wellman June 2, 2014 at 6:40 pm

Great news Zack…the Old Testament word for “worship” actually means to “touch the head to the earth.” Doesn’t that gives us a vivid picture of how we should pray and worship God…literally on our face, prostate before His Holiness. Oh, what a glorious God we worship and worthy of every bit of it. No wonder the word holy means “weighty, heavy” and this weight of His glory needs to push me downward on my face in humility. I do have an article on overcoming sin at: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-can-i-overcome-addiction-and-sin-in-my-life/ and on how to overcome pornography, although you don’t have that problem but both men and women of the battle in the mind. Pleased to have you visit any of our articles brother. Here is the one of sexual battles of the mind at: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-overcome-an-addiction-to-pornography-help-for-struggling-christians/

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Jack Wellman June 2, 2014 at 6:44 pm

Zack, I should have been more specific…the Hebrew word for worship is “shachah” and literally means “to bow down, to depress, to bow down, prostrate oneself.”

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