How Can I Overcome Addiction And Sin In My Life?

by Jack Wellman on April 30, 2012 · Print Print · Email Email

Every Christian that is not in heaven still struggles with sin.  Many struggle with addictions.  Addictions to marijuana, to alcohol, to pornography, to gambling, to overeating, to shopping, and so many other sins.  Is there any hope in breaking the chains of addictions?  Since many Christians struggle with the sins of addiction they begin to doubt their own salvation. What can a believer do to escape…to overcome their sin?

The Apostle Paul Struggles with Sin

If anyone could overcome sin, surely it was the great apostle Paul.  He wrote more books in the New Testament and founded more churches than any other apostle.  Even though this great man of faith was a spiritual giant, he struggled with sin too.  Don’t let anyone tell you that you will not struggle with overcoming sin in this life after you are saved.

Romans 7:15-24:

15 “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.”  And all of God’s people said, “Amen!”  What Christian has not battled with the flesh?  We end up doing just what we don’t want to do…but we do it anyway.  You are not alone.  You are in good company – with Paul.

16 “And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good.”  Paul is saying that I agree with the Law of God…that it is good.  The Ten Commandments say we should not bear false witness, but Christians are still not fully sanctified…..it is a lifelong work of sanctification and we are still prone to lie.

17 “As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me.” What Paul is saying is that it’s not really him anymore, but the old man or woman rearing its ugly head.  Even though we are new creatures in Christ (2 Cor 5:17), we are still not without sin (1 John 1:8).

18  “For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.  For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.”  It’s like Paul said that he knows better, yet he falls into sin.  The only thing is that he doesn’t stay there. He acknowledges it and gets back up.  He has the desire to do the right thing but guess what:  He still can not carry it out…in his own strength that is.  This takes the very power of God:  God the Holy Spirit (Rom 12:2).

19 “For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing.” That is me in a nutshell.  A train wreck, a sinner, a wretch but the good news is that Paul realizes that the good he wants to do is what he is not doing…and he keeps on doing it!  The good news here is the fact that he understands that it’s wrong.  This is strong evidence that the Holy Spirit is working in him, convicting him of his sin.  A person who is not born-again has no true desire to do what is right nor are they convicted when they do evil things.

20 “Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.”  Paul is cutting himself some slack. He understands that he is battling the old nature.  The pre-conversion person.  The Saul is still in there but Paul is not settling for it now, neither is he allowing to let is slide.

21 “So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me.”  This “although I want to do good” is because God has given him His Spirit to show him his sin and even though evil is there with him…he recognizes that he wants “to do good.”  That is hopeful because he understands that the law is at work.  The Law is a mirror, showing us our sins and he recognizes the evil being there with him (James 1:23). He wants to do good and that is a sentence full of hope, not despair.

22-23 “For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me.There is a battle for the mind…the battle is ultimately through Jesus Christ but it is a war nonetheless.  We might lose battles but the war has truly been won already.  The law was made clear to Paul by his conscience (Rom 2:15).

24 “What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death?” Paul finally admits defeat in his own frail, feeble, human strength.  He needs rescuing.  He is subject to eternal death without a rescuer.  What can this wretched man do?!  What can we do!?

25 “Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.” Paul falls on his face, being a wretched man and admits defeat (Rom 7:24) and gives thanks to God Almighty, our Mighty Savior, Who delivered him and Who will also deliver us.

How To Overcome Addiction

I prayed hard, “Lord, please help me, I am weak.” You know what? It worked.

Victory in Defeat

You can not overcome sin on your own…you can not conquer your marijuana addiction on your own…you can’t overcome the addiction to pornography by your own strength…you can’t defeat the enemy of alcohol, gambling, overeating, depression…just name it:  You just can’t do it…..but God can!  He wants to help you overcome the powerful sins of your life and your strong addictions, the mighty fortress where we have no chance at all.  God desires to help us and He is more than able and He is absolutely willing to.  Imagine the God of the universe.  He created the entire universe, all the stars, the galaxies, the sun…everything!  He knows the 100 trillion times 100 trillion number of stars all by name.  Now is anything really to hard for God?!  No!  We have no power in ourselves but the Holy Spirit is God and the very power of God working in you.   The first thing you need to do is to acknowledge to God that you can not overcome this by your own power.  That is exactly what He has been waiting to hear.   Victory will only come in defeat.  You are in over your head but God is over all things.  When we tell God “I just can’t beat this thing God”, He must say, “Finally…now, maybe I can send my power to help them.“  He will be your strong tower.

Pray day and night for the help you need.  God can deliver you…He did me!  But it took time. Don’t lose heart. You will slip and fall but get back up, pray for forgiveness and ask God to cut off all the sources of your drug addiction, if you are addicted to pornography, get rid of the Internet.  Jesus said, speaking in hyperbole, If your hand offends you, cut it off“(Matt 5:30).   What He is saying is to cut off the source of your addiction or sin.  If you can’t get rid of the Internet, then have a friend put a password protected filter on it.  If you are addicted to drugs, turn in the illegal drug dealers.  Drastic yes, but this is what it must take.  God can do all things…He created the universe and He can help deliver you and He desires to help you overcome this addiction but you may have to make some painful decisions.  We can do nothing on our own…but we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us (Phil 4:13).  The converse of that is that we can do nothing in our own strength.

Victory in Christ

Please don’t lose heart if you are battling an addiction or some deeply entrenched sin.  Sometimes these demons are mighty strongholds of the mind. The very fact that you are grieved over your addiction or sin is evidence that the Holy Spirit is not only in you but working in you, for the Spirit convicts us of sin and sanctification is a lifelong process.  The very fact that you searched for this over the Internet is evidence that the Holy Spirit is working in you.  Can’t you see that!?  This is no coincidence. God brought you to this article today for a very specific purpose, a reason, to be a path for your feet – a light for your life.  It starts with God and ends with God.  I am a pastor today but let me tell you that I was in prison, hooked on drugs, stole, and was headed down the broad path of hell. It took me years and years to finally get over this, yet God never, ever gives up on me and He will not give up on you.  Like the Prodigal Father, He kept looking down the road for me to come to Him.  He is looking down that road today, waiting, watching, for you.

What I finally did to break the addiction was to pray that all the sources or suppliers of my drugs were removed from me or that they would move…whatever it took.  I prayed hard, “Lord, please help me, I am weak.”  You know what?  It worked.  God heard my prayer and answered it.  It took me a very long time and today I am clean and sober but I am still a train wreck, a sinner and I will never overcome all sin in this life.   Jesus’ blood covers past, present, and future sins of ours….so the very fact that you have a sin or addiction weighing heavy on you should not, I pray, make you lose heart.  The fact that you are grieved over your sin is a great sign that the Holy Spirit is trying to show you your sin.   Once a believer repents, this does not mean that they will not fall back into sin.  No, we will sin again and again…but turning from our sin we will begin to loathe it all the more.  Yes, we need to repent, but we sin every day and every day we can begin and end the day by falling on our face, hands, and knees before God to ask for forgiveness.  You too can declare as Paul did, Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord (Rom 7:25)!

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Lou January 9, 2013 at 9:02 am

It’s amazing how I just posted this on Tumblr, http://lifeasihaveit.tumblr.com/post/40091786245/im-posting-this-because-i-have-no-one-to-talk-to then I stumble upon this. Thank you pastor. It’s like everything that I had written in that tumblr post was answered here. I think what prompted me to really reflect on everything was I started watching porn two days ago, just out of curiosity. It felt so wrong, I told myself not to do it again. The next day, I found myself watching another again. I even tried masturbating just to know how it feels. It was so wrong I couldn’t continue, I was so disgusted with myself. Before that, I have been gradually losing motivation, because of my addiction to k-pop and fiction stories. When you think about it, they’re really not that harmless, but for me it is. I feel like I’m getting more lifeless everyday. I tried to go back to Church and talk to my leader but it just didn’t work. I felt like I’m hurting my leader every time I come back then leave again. So I decided that I have to fix myself first before coming back, but it’s really impossible. Again, I thank you for this. Maybe I don’t fully get it yet. And I’m still not completely ready, but I think this is the first step.

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Timothy September 10, 2013 at 12:50 am

Lou,

I don’t know if you will see this comment, since it is way past the time in which you sent your original comment. But I needed to respond to your post, because you have the misunderstanding that so many people have today, and of which Satan wants us to think, in that we have to “clean ourselves up” before going to church, or coming to Jesus. That is what this whole article is about. The Romans 7 passage that the pastor used is a great passage that shows us, even though we may have been saved, we will still struggle with our old sinful nature: the desire to do what we want (the desires from our past life before giving our lives to Christ). It will always be a battle, and a good Christian leader at any church you go to, will understand this, because it is a battle for him/her too. We all struggle with some form of disobedience (sin). God doesn’t look at any sin as worse than any other sin. Sin is sin, and Jesus paid for it all on the cross. Also, you can rest assured that you are not alone. There are many accounts of people, in the Bible, coming to Jesus just as they are. They didn’t get right with God before coming, and Jesus never taught them to, either. One of these accounts that you might want to read, which would apply to your struggle, is the woman who was caught in the act of adultery. Jesus said that looking lustfully at another woman is committing adultery in your heart (He said this to his disciples, but it applies to women also). Check out this passage (Luke 7:36-50) and let the Spirit of God give you peace, and pray and ask Him to help you in this struggle. Find a good Christian sister (I believe you’re female: person needs to be the same sex as you) to come along side you for support. We, as Christians, can not live like Christ, and walk this walk, on our own. God Bless. I really hope and pray this comment finds you.

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Timothy September 10, 2013 at 1:00 am

Also, the battle gets easier as we yield to the Spirit, by reading God’s Word, and praying, and asking Him to help us live according to it. This battle has been commonly described as feeding 2 dogs. The dog that you feed, whether it is your flesh (your old sinful nature) or the Spirit (your new life with Christ) will determine which is stronger, and which one will defeat the other in the fight. The more you feed the Spirit, and starve the flesh, the easier it becomes to make the decision to follow God in all His ways. (Romans 8:5-14)

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frank milne January 9, 2013 at 5:20 pm

jack thank you so much for what you have written, i am one hundred% a believer in god, i have done some bad things in my life, the one thing thats really bothering is im still having sex with my girfriend we have a little boy together i will marrie her one day, i am fully aware that i am a sinner and am sorry that i cant stop, in my heart of hearts my faith told me that god is working with me and i honestly beileve that finding this on the internet is gods way of talking to me and confirming my faith, i find my self growing closer to god all the time and i am genuinely excited with what he has planned for me, i will praise the lord and trust in him for the rest of my life god bless and thanks again.

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Jack Wellman January 9, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Mr. Milne. I am overjoyed at your comment and encouraged that you are in the process of your sanctification. Having said that, please read 1 John chapter 3 and 1 Cor 6 9-20. I beg you to sir. In fact, I implore you for your own sake. You must flee this ongoing sexual immorality. No one continues in sin and can claim to have peace with God (again, please read 1 John 3 to see why I say this). I speak to you not as a pastor but as one who passionately cares for your eternal soul.

Having said this, still do not grow despondent by my words for they truly are in love for I desire to rescue all who are perishing (not that I am saying you are). Take heart from Paul’s words in Romans 7:15 “For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.” but then says in verse 24, “What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death?” and her is his answer in verse 25 “Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!”

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frank milne January 11, 2013 at 8:26 am

thank tou for your reply jack, one sin is equally as bad as another is this correct? and you said your self that god is working with me, it is impossable to live life with out sin after all we are all sinners, i have prayed and asked god to give me a new heart and to fill me with his holy spirit, surly i will receive? i am in no way questioning if what you say is true i am looking for help understanding thats all, the fact that i am feeling this guilt and i have asked the lord for his hep and that believe, duz that not mean i’m on the right path?

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Jack Wellman January 11, 2013 at 11:51 am

Yes Frank, the “guilt” is probably the Holy Spirit convicting you of your ongoing sin of sexual immorality. That is most certainly a good thing. Yes, sin is sin, and it is all an abomination to God but sin is to be repented of. I used to use drugs, was a thief and ended up in prison but I stopped by God’s grace and without repentance, there is no coming to Christ completely. Take heart though, it may take a long time and be a hard, difficult path. If you love this woman, why not get married? That way God will bless you, her, and the child. Otherwise, God can not bless you and your son will learn that living together is okay by your example and I get the feeling that you want him to be raised in the Lord, right?

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frank milne January 11, 2013 at 9:48 am

thank you for your reply, and please call me frank, i have tried writing back to you 3 times this will be the 3rd so if you get 3 lots off messages you will no why, you mentioned that the very fact that i had red what you had written showed that god is working on me, is it not impossable to live a sin free life, and is one sin not as equally as bad as another? i do feel guilty for sex with my partner and am fully aware that its a sin, but i have asked for god to come in to my life and to give me a new heart and to fill me with his holly spirit, you also said that we all fall back in to sin, does the fact that believe and that i have asked him in to my heart not accoumt for something? i am in no way contradicting what you have said i am st looking for help understanding.

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Jack Wellman January 11, 2013 at 11:55 am

Thanks again Frank. Please forgive me for not always responding right away. I am a bi-vocational pastor that works to support myself for the church is small and few in number and I also write for this site too of course.

Do you all have a church home? I urge you to find one that preaches Christ, the cross and upholds the Bible as infallible. You can not conquer this sin by yourself. Yes, I believe God is working in your life or you wouldn’t even be here and asking so this shows me that God is convicting you of this sin and wanting you to repent and come to Him for eternal life. It is not so much about letting Him come into your heart as it is putting all your trust in Him, crying out for a new heart (which you have said!), repenting (turning away from) your sin, and confessing it to God. I sense you are being drawn to God (John 6:44). What did you think of 1 John chapter 3?

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frank milne January 11, 2013 at 3:08 pm

thanks for that jack, please exuse the two messages my lap top is playing up,i would marry her tomorroy but because the past she said just now its not what she wants, my partner is not a believer unfortunatly, and her not having sexual relationship with me would be a problem, i know that god loves us all, and i do trust in him but surly he would understand my situation, i hope and pray that i get the new heart that i prayed for because at this moment in time i dont think i can stop, yes we have lots of churches i have started attending one, thank you once again for your help, and god bless.

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phillip January 15, 2013 at 2:01 pm

How come you stop at Roman chapter 7? Why not keep reading Romans chapter 8? Man added the Chapters and verses in these letters. Romans 8

1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.
3 For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh:
4 That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
Also you are taking 1 John 1:8 out of context. This means we are all born in sin. We all have sin. Again keep reading chapter 2 . 1 John 2:1 My little children, these things write I unto you, [that ye sin not.] And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous:

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Jack Wellman January 15, 2013 at 2:13 pm

Thank you Phillip for your comment and question. You said, “Man added the Chapters and verses in these letters” and this is true. I did not mean to stop there but the point was made that we all sin but who can deliver us? Christ can in 7:25. How did I take 1 John 1:8 out of context sir? We all sin but we can confess these sins (1 John 1:9). Yes, we do have an advocate in Christ. Please help me understand what I did so that I can either see my error or know what you are saying I am intentionally taking out of context.

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Jack Wellman January 15, 2013 at 2:16 pm

Phillip, are you saying that Frank is okay with the state he is presently living in? He can live with another woman and have sex outside of marriage? Do you believe he is not under condemnation at the present time considering what John said in 1 John chapter 3? Please clarify what you mean sir.

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desmond February 12, 2013 at 2:05 am

hello sir’i cant understand my condition anymore.last year i was about comitin suicide because i was dupe by some demonic entanglement.that got me delivered by my pastor,as for then i couldnt pay my rent life was so harsh and tough for.
miraculously after my pastor deliverance and help in clearing most of my financial need i got a very fantastic job out of the state with good yield and quality salary.and i gave testimony in my church this very season.but pastor i found mysely tougher to sin and my fightin with it is a war in my mind…sleeping in prostitute home”spending recklessly and wmanising all along drinking and declaring alcohol in the bar…but for my job am just receive another fantastic promotion.but i ve a feeling that i will fail soon if i dont stop all this because i found myself phisically cant stop it.i couldnt save any money,living and and crying after misbehaving but later found myslf doing worst again….just crying…..and all this lifestyle started after my deliverance and getting my job….am confuse sir……+2347067328789 pls call me…

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Jack Wellman February 13, 2013 at 12:20 pm

Hello Desmond. Some of the greatest times we sin are just after and during our greatest successes. The Bible is full of this when someone is successful they get to comfortable and relax spiritually and stop reading the Bible, stop praying, and stop trying to yield to the Holy Spirit (Rom 12:1-2). I suggest re-reading this article and highlighting the Scriptures that are in it. There is real power in the Word of God. Also, make it the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing you do at night and discipline yourself to pray at least 3 times a day and the first thing in the morning and the last thing before bed.

Stop going to bars, you may have to cut off all your old friendships and relationships with those who are NOT Christian. You are right….you can NOT overcome this…but it takes Christ living within you. You and I can do all things through Christ and through Christ alone.

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Daniel April 21, 2013 at 6:16 pm

Hi Pastor Jack,
I’ve pleaded for the Lord to deliver me from lust. I’m engaged and looking forward to marriage, but oftentimes struggle with immoral thoughts and temptations. Occasionally I have even looked at pornography. As a born again believer, I understand that God is gracious, BUT I get VERY discouraged when my tears, prayers and promises last for a while and then I succumb to sin. I do believe I have a repentant heart to be delivered and have experienced many days of freedom, but when I fall and choose sin, I feel like God should just give up on me. I do not justify my sin at all. But what perspective should I have to God? Is He TRULY patient with me as I struggle for purity and prepare for marriage? In Him, Daniel

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Jack Wellman April 22, 2013 at 11:50 am

Thank you Daniel for your comments and expressing your concerns. We all struggle each and every day with sin. I believe we should repent every morning because we daily need cleansing and keep short accounts with the Lord. We are all guilty but we are also made righteous in Christ Jesus. Read 2 Cor 5:21 and see that God the Father sees you as having Jesus’ righteousness, so don’t grow weary or discouraged. Read Romans chapter 7 to see that even the spiritual giant, the Apostle Paul struggled daily with sin. Paul wrote “For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me.”

Romans chapter 7 may give you comfort my friend. You may also read the gospel of John and the books of 1st, 2nd, and 3rd John. These will give you some reassurance in your walk with Christ while also strengthening it.

I hope this helps. May God richly bless you.

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Daniel April 24, 2013 at 12:37 am

Thank you Pastor Jack. I’m taking that text and that advice to heart. I think part of my problem has been in neglecting to establish greater emphasis on prayer, and I know prayer is vital in my heart (and strength) daily being renewed. I’ve repented to God for my laziness, and have been making some good strides in my walk. Thankfully He is patient I am finding. Thank you for the words of comfort, and blessing on you and your wonderful ministry.
Daniel

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Amy May 6, 2013 at 1:06 pm

Praise the Lord. Thank you for this page.

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Amy May 6, 2013 at 1:08 pm

What about the part in the bible where it says if we deliberately sin, there is no sacrifice that can cover it. Each time someone picks up marijuana or makes a conscious decision to do what they know is wrong, isnt that a deliberate sin? Help me understand where the line of grace is drawn

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Jack Wellman May 6, 2013 at 1:16 pm

Thank you Amy for your question. We can never take one verse and let it stand alone to make it a belief or doctrine so we must look at the context of the entire chapter in which that was written. First, it was written to the Jewish people (thus the book’s name, Hebrews).

Arriving at a clear understanding of the true nature of salvation represents the first step in settling the question of eternal security. The Bible clearly teaches that at the very moment of genuine repentance and saving faith a sinner is:

Converted – turned around (Acts 3:19)

Reconciled – made at peace (2 Cor 5:19)

Sanctified – set apart for God (1 Cor 1:2)

Regenerated – given new life (1 Pet 1:23)

Redeemed – purchased or bought back (1 Pet 1:18)

Adopted – placed in God’s family as a son (Rom 8:15) and

Justified – declared righteous by God (Rom 3:28, 2 Cor 5:21).

Furthermore the repentant sinner is sealed with, indwelt by, baptised in and anointed with the Holy Spirit (Eph 1:13, John 14:17, 1 Cor 12:13, 1 John 2:27). He receives eternal life (John 3:36) and because he is now ‘in Christ’, he is predestined to be conformed to Christ’s image (Rom 8:29). He has come from darkness to light, from death to life and from the power of Satan to God. Once he was blind but now he can see. Truly, he is blessed with all spiritual blessings (Eph 1:3)!

From the very first moment of faith in Christ, all of this is equally true of every single child of God. These are positional truths unrelated to and independent of changing human emotions and feelings. Think for a minute: if Christians can lose their salvation, God is reversing all these actions in the lives of hundreds of people daily. Many trip over these Scriptures:

‘For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened…If they shall fall away, to renew them again unto repentance’’ (Heb 6:6)

In checking the context here, it is clear that those mentioned were enlightened but not saved. They tasted but did not drink. They experienced spiritual power but were not personally born again. These Jews had come out of Christ-rejecting Judaism into a knowledge of the truth, yet they had stopped short of actual faith in Christ. With full knowledge of the gospel, they had turned their backs on Christ. The context clearly shows that the author of Hebrews did not have true believers in mind here. Verse 9 states: ‘‘But, beloved, we are persuaded better things of you, and things that accompany salvation.’’ In other words, no true believer can apostatise. (If this passage taught loss of salvation, the loss would be permanent — no repentance is possible according to v6).

‘‘For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remains no more sacrifice for sins’’ (Heb 10:26)

If this verse robs all deliberately sinning believers of salvation, then all are lost; for all believers commit deliberate sins. To avoid this particular doctrinal pitfall, it is vital to understand the ‘wilful sin’ in the context of the entire Hebrew epistle. Verse 26 refers to Jews who had come to a head-knowledge of the Messiah and then gone back to ritualistic Christ-rejecting Judaism. Then in v39 the position of true believers is contrasted with these Jewish apostates: ‘‘But we are not of those who draw back unto perdition; but of those who believe to the saving of the soul.’’ True believers may backslide, but they can never become apostate.

I urge you to read Romans chapter 8 to see how it is impossible for a believer to be un-born (John 10:28-29, John 6:37).

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Rob November 7, 2013 at 12:57 pm

As a 30-year Christian (since 23), this has been one of THE toughest and most debated set of verses, and I AGREE with the Pastor. I have known the Lord for 30 years, and in the past 13 have experienced long-term major trials, on-going tribulations, and the ongoing battle with the ‘old nature’ / desires that lead to sinning. I’ve also spent years getting to know the Lord, via the Bible, prayer, church, and life experience.

I am convinced these verses are speaking of people who were directly in contact with born-again Christians, perhaps or likely saw miracles via healings, etc., and yet still did not personally come to Jesus and simply ask Him to save their souls. They liked the excitement, the free food, socializing, etc., but for whatever reason each person has, they did not accept Christ and ask for eternal salvation from Him.

Why do I say this? Two reasons. First, Jesus said over and over that “NO ONE” could ‘snatch’ a saved believer from His hands. There are many others, but the message is clear; You cannot ‘lose’ what you did not ‘earn’. Salvation is a GIFT, given by Jesus to anyone who asks Him for it. The other reason; plenty of verses support the theme of knowing all about Jesus, but not accepting Him as Lord and Savior (i.e. the act of being born-again).

Consider the Pharisees, Herod, and MANY THOUSANDS of others (Google Jesus ‘feeding the five thousand’ and ‘feeding the four thousand’, and the Roman guards at his death, Pilate, on and on and on. Thousands saw FACE to FACE what Jesus could do; healing eyes, ears, paralyzed legs, exposing and casting out actual demons (who spoke and revealed themselves), leprosy on the hands and everywhere else! These people ‘wondered’, were ‘amazed’, at what Jesus could do… “Who is this!?” they proclaimed… Yet within a period of one week the crowds went from praising Jesus as the King of the Jews to screaming “Crucify Him!!!”. These were NOT born-again Christians, they were people who had ‘tasted’ His goodness, seen His miraculous works, heard His amazing teaching of the truth, and yet they did not accept Him as God, as the Savior of their soul. IN fact they rejected and murdered Him.

Lastly, if a born-again believer could lose their salvation, it seems it should be me. Paul felt the same about himself… he supported the killing of Christians. King David was a murderer and adulterer, Moses was a murderer! Yet they both were SAVED and are alive and well with God in Heaven.

Sin deceives us. That’s what sin, the lies and attacks of the Devil, and life’s trials can do to your relationship with the Lord. I’ve done it all in terms of testing God, rebelling, repenting, tossed around like a ship on the ocean, ALL over the roadmap of emotional tantrums and acting out as a child.

Because of 13 years of long-term trials of all kinds, loss of any semblance of a ‘normal’ life, especially financially… now having nothing in terms of security… I’ve doubted my salvation, determined God hates me, that I am too evil to be justified before Him, humiliated Him and myself, etc., etc., etc. I’ve hated my personality, why I am so weak, that my life is a complete failure (in my eyes)… YET God has NOT left me… His Spirit remains within me, bonded to my soul / mind, and I KNOW it. Note I’ve not spoken of how God USES pain, loss, and chronic, long-term troubles ALL through the Bible to mold people for the role He wants to use them in. I still hope God will place me in a role that has meaning and purpose.

No true Christian wishes ANYONE be lost to Hell. As humans, we tend to think it is too harsh a punishment, no matter how much evil someone has done. Yet God has clearly stated His judgment AND available forgiveness. What else can He do than offer eternal life with Him for FREE, and all you have to do is ask?

Sometimes I wish God would perform many more direct miracles so people would clearly see He exists. But Jesus DID this and PROVED how hard human hearts can be. If you read the ‘rich man and Lazarus’ story, the rich man begged Abraham to ‘send Lazarus back to warn my brothers so they don’t end up here [in Hell]’, and Abraham said, ‘Even if someone rises from the dead, they will not believe’. Well guess what? Someone DID rise from the dead, Jesus Himself. He raised OTHERS from the dead during His ministry.

Ultimately we have to transfer our reasoning into faith… salvation is something we ‘get’ as a choice, but also know that ‘no one can come to God unless HE first draws them to Himself’. God’s ways are much higher, and He makes clear He is God, and there is no one like Him. Let fear of Him or Hell, drive you to HIM. God is love, and ‘whoever calls on the name of the Lord [Jesus] WILL be saved’.

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Mr A Cotton May 10, 2013 at 12:49 pm

I read about St Paul at the top of the page,but I did not know what his sins were so I Googled it.
I went on four Christian websites,and it did not say what his sins were. It was way above my head what was writing down.
It went back to Genesis,and Adam`s original sin,and St Paul said that we were all sinners. He did not mention Jesus,and Mary which Matin Luther had something to say about that.
It went on to say that Satan could change himself into a white angel,and confuse us.
I havn`t a clue what they meant on these four sites.
I was expecting a list of his sins,but there wasn`t any sign of his sins on these sites. It`s got me totally baffled,and I was upset,because it seem to imply that I was going to Hell. It also said about sin that you have to come to the age so you could tell right from wrong. Is there levels of sin ect.. a man murders somebody. A man steals for a living. A 10 yrs old boy steals apples from a neighbour`s tree.
This tormented me all night,and I was asking God to help. Also could you tell me what is meant by “knock and the door will open” I am still sinning but not so much now. Jack

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Jack Wellman May 10, 2013 at 2:19 pm

Thank you Anthony. Paul was no different than any of us except that He was more intelligent. Even so, he was a sinner just like us all. He struggled with sin in his life and you can read about his own struggle with sin in Romans chapter 7. I don’t believe every thing I read on the Internet but I do believe every Word of God. His sin of the past was persecuting the church and he never forgot this but he is like us in that every day is a struggle against sin.

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Mr A Cotton May 11, 2013 at 9:19 am

I too don`t believe everything I read on the internet,but I thought they would have mentioned his sins. The sites where two catholic sites,and the church of England. I can`t remember what the other one was.
I just wanted to find out myself. I was going to ask you Jack,but I know you are a busy man.
Anyway thanks for giving me the information,about St Paul.
I also asked what is meant by “Knock and the door will be opened”,because I want to start knocking. Thanks Jack for the information.

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Jack Wellman May 11, 2013 at 6:54 pm

Thank you Anthony. Perhaps Paul’s greatest sin was from his past of persecuting the church but I see no clear, biblical evidence that he had an ongoing problem with sin and I believe the Bible above any other writings, even above the Catholic Church’s tradition. Paul was not liked much I don’t feel for he taught grace is free and no works are necessary which is somewhat contrary to Catholicism.

As for knock and it will be opened…this is a saying by Jesus to ask, seek, and knock and I believe it is from Matthew 7:7-12. It all has to do with prayer and the persistence of prayer. We must ask (in prayer) seek (God’s will from prayer and guided by the Bible) and knock (to be proactive in what God has told us). Does this make sense Anthony my friend? I believe that we must knock to see which doors God will open but if we don’t knock, then we will never know when and which door to walk thru that God opens or as Jesus says to the church in Laodicea the lukewarm church in Revelation 3:20 “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.”

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Mr A Cotton May 12, 2013 at 4:11 pm

I agree with you about St Paul,and I was looking for the biblical evidence about his sins,but has you say there is no biblical evidence. I found none has well.
Jesus said “Seek,and you shall find,Knock and the Door will be opened. Jesus seems to say one is different from the other.
I am seeking all the time.
I always wanted to know what was meant by a Camel to pass through the eye of a needle. I knew there would be some kind of other needle. Then I found it was a hole in the wall of a city when they shut the gates at night, people knew about this hole,and could get through it easily,but the rich man with all his wealth packed on a camel would have a big problem to get through.
When I found this out I knew what Jesus meant,and it made me feel good,because I looked for the answer and I found it.
I did what Jesus said. So is knocking the same Jack. Thanks

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Jack Wellman May 13, 2013 at 2:45 pm

Anthony, that’s an excellent point and analogy about the knocking and you may have well did a better explanation than I did. I sense you have such a hunger and thirst for the knowledge of God and I thank God that there are such men of faith like you my friend.

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Mr A Cotton May 13, 2013 at 3:56 pm

Thanks Jack. It`s just that I can`t understand the meanings in the bible,and a catholic priest said read the New Testament thats hard enough. I do find it very hard.
The sin I told you about that I was committing has got less.
I keep asking God to do what He wants me to do,and then this happened twice. I had every intention to commit this sin,but I did not do it. Something (God) or the Holy Spirit stopped me,and I found I was deleting all the offensive material. This was very profound,and I broke down with joy! and I Knew it was God. St Paul is a very good role model thats why I wanted to know what his sins where.
This happened a long time ago when I was going through a divorce. I went on a retreat at this place called Minister acres,and when I walked into the big hall there was this very big picture of St Paul`s conversion. Then when we were all due to leave,and go home everybody had an envelope. You did not know the person that gave you this envelope,and when I opened mine there was the same picture of St Paul`s Conversion inside.
I guess the point I am trying to make that these people who say God is not answering there prays. I leave that up to God.
I thought about You Jack that you had a tough time,and where you are now, again that`s God`s work. I find it very hard work, has Jesus said. Thanks to you and your team you have turned me round that God does forgive you. I found it very hard work that God could forgive me,and now I accept it,but the doubting Thomas does creep in now and again. I think that`s why Jesus chose Thomas. I just want to go to Heaven. Thanks Jack for pushing me that way.

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Jack Wellman May 14, 2013 at 3:27 pm

Anthony, again, you are far too kind and more than I deserve my friend. You are such an encouragement to me brother. Even Jesus was told no three times in the Garden prior to Calvary and so sometimes no answer is a “No” answer but doesn’t God always know better than we do? Most assuredly, yes and amen.

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Mr A Cotton May 15, 2013 at 12:00 pm

I can say this has well I have been on this site over a year now,and I am still here.
I found the other sites where trying to see who could be better than the other`s,and to me that`s really wrong.
I am not too kind at all, you are doing God`s work,and so is Robert. You and Robert cannot see my view on you. God has chosen the two of you to do His work,and I am proof that you are doing God`s work. May God give you Jack, and Robert to have the will to go on to spread your word. God is with you both.

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ken June 16, 2013 at 1:21 pm

hi jack i am addicted to sex, i want to be delivered i pray for GOD to give me strength to turn from this horrible addiction and yet i fall back in it. i have had this for over 35 years and i have done some terrible things in my life and hurt people with my actions.i gave my life to the Lord many years ago and was able to stop for awhile but now it is a real battle.i feel like sometimes God has given up on me.i also struggle with drinking and saying mean things and i am a very negative person.my sex addiction started when i was young and came across porno mags that my father had hidden.it was from that point on that these addictions took hold.i have committed so many sins,I hope and pray for God to forgive me and to cleanse me from all my sins.i feel like a rope in tug of war. wanting to be changed and being pulled back to wanting to sin.please pray for me and give me advice my heart is so heavy right now and i am so tired of my sinning i want to be free.Lord Jesus i give myself to you help me

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Jack Wellman June 16, 2013 at 1:36 pm

Ken, you are not alone my friend in this struggle. There is indeed freedom in Jesus Christ for He came to set the captives free. I urge you to read this biblically centered article on the link below my comment that deals specifically with your strong tower but God can deliver you my friend. Don’t lose heart and never give up because He never gives up on us. It is by God’s divine sovereignty that He brought you here perhaps for help. I would follow the steps below in the article provided in the link and also suggest a time of prayer and fasting for fasting can help us break these strongholds.

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-overcome-an-addiction-to-pornography-help-for-struggling-christians/

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Mr Anthony Cotton June 17, 2013 at 3:28 pm

Hi! Ken I have a god idea how you feel. I told Jack and He replied to me twice. The first time I sort of half agreed with Jack then the second time through reading what he said the penny dropped. I could not believe that God could forgive me,and I was ashamed,and of course Satan played his part putting thoughts in my head that God would never forgive you,and I nearly was going Satan`s way. I might as well be hung for a sheep than a lamb. Then through Jack`s words,and it was definitely the Holy Spirit that hauled me back from the brink. I found the Holy Spirit really profound,and it felt like He was sit-in next to me. Jack also said that you would fall again,and I did. It was a bit of a struggle,but I turned to God to forgive me,but I still felt ashamed.
I always think of Jesus when they were going to stone the prostitute to death,and the Pharisee trying to trip Jesus up.
“Let him who has not sinned cast the first stone” I find this very profound just a little sentence,but what a meaning. I still marvel at this quote. Then Jesus went to the prostitute,and asked where are your accusers, none. A catholic priest said she probably did it again,and we are all like her in a way. When we are forgiven we are on a high,but when we fall it`s the end of the world. I was like you Ken,I still fall,but I turn to God and ask forgiveness. It`s easier said than done. Jack`s words never give up,because He never gives up on us. Jack evan says by God`s divine sovereignty that He sent you here for help. That`s the way I came onto this site,that is about two years ago now,and I am still learning off what other people have said,and of course the Bible.

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Genesis June 22, 2013 at 5:28 pm

Hello Jack thank you for this article and I was wondering if I could feel sin and I know we can’t go by our feelings but I sometimes feel uncomfortable or like I did something wrong

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Jack Wellman June 23, 2013 at 6:11 pm

You will sometimes feel something is uncomfortable when it is sin and that is the Holy Spirit. We know what sin is by what we read in the Bible and most of the time shouldn’t need to depend upon our feelings.

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Jason July 5, 2013 at 9:43 pm

Hi Jack,

As a recovering porn addict and child of God, your article has been a great encouragement to me. I was led to Christ by my father when I was 12 years old, but unfortunately exposed to pornography by an older cousin at the age of ten. This horrible addiction took hold of my life in my early 20′s and has tormented me for many years ( I am now 39). With a wife and two beautiful children, you would think that this would be the last thing I would become addicted to. However I am convinced that Satan will set a trap at a young age in order to thwart God’s calling on ones life. I can certainly relate to Paul in regards to spiritual warfare because that was certainly what he was facing. There is nothing more miserable for the child of God than to have a burning desire to be obediant to God and to be used by him but cannot through mental strongholds. Many people seem to think that Christians are immune to sin but nothing could be further from the truth. If anything, they struggle more with it. I believe that God certainly wants us to live free from addictions and strongholds, but until we learn and comprehend that we have always been free, there will be a struggle. Until that full healing takes place, we should saddle the horse and keep on riding( confession and seeking forgiveness) no matter how many times we fall. That I believe puts a smile on Gods face……finish the race! God bless you and thank you for your encouraging words. Jason

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Jack Wellman July 6, 2013 at 6:36 pm

Thank you Jason. What a great and uplifting comment my friend. I believe you are right that we must get up, dust ourselves off and get back in the saddle again. Love it. We have written an article that addresses this very subject called How to Overcome an Addiction to Pornography” at this link:

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-overcome-an-addiction-to-pornography-help-for-struggling-christians/

May God richly bless you and strengthen you in times of temptations Jason.

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Wandie. Drake August 1, 2013 at 4:47 pm

I prayed for 30 yrs. For deliverance from God from drugs. I woke updated one day and was completely free. Now I hate drugs and see what it has done to society in the United States. Why did it take so long?

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Jack Wellman August 1, 2013 at 9:06 pm

Thank you for your comment and question. Are you asking how come it too so long for you to be delivered or what it has done to the U.S.? I assume you mean you. I thank God that He did a mighty work in your life. Are you angry at God that it took so long? Why not be joyful that He DID deliver you, no matter how long it took. I can not answer that which is God’s secret will my friend. I too struggled for so long. Just be thankful that He did deliver you and that you are still not in their bondage and that you didn’t die and would have been sent to hell fire.

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Bro R. Carlton August 3, 2013 at 9:49 am

I believe that sin can be over come, things like drinking and drugs, fornication, stealing and the like. Because nobody does all of these things, so if control can be had in one area all can be controlled thru a true relationship with Christ and the indwelling of the Holy Ghost.

I think that our problem is that we have not truly commited our lives fully to Christ. It’s just like when a Husband or Wife truly commits their lives to to the marriage the cheating and unfaithfulness stops because they have truly commited to the relationship.

We as professing Christians have to truly commit our lives to Christ and God, truly deny ourselves and the cheating and unfaithfulness will stop.

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Jack Wellman August 3, 2013 at 12:01 pm

Thank you Mr. Carlton for your comment. Let me ask you, have you ever been addicted to drugs or alcohol? Many have before the became Christians and so if we can overcome these sins by our own effort, then why did Jesus have to die? Didn’t Jesus say that of yourselves you can do nothing (John 15:5) and Paul said that we can do all things..thrur our own effort? No, thru Christ Who will strengthen us (Phil 4:13).

Do you believe then that this article about overcoming sin, with all of these Scriptures for help, is of no use? There is power in the Word of God and thru the washing of the Word of God (Eph 5:26).

Human effort by itself and alone to overcome is destined to fail. We need a relationship and a close one with Christ, yes, but we also need the power of God the Holy Spirit to help us in overcoming sin.

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robby August 21, 2013 at 9:02 pm

Thank you pastor for your words of encouragement. I believe I’m a Christian but I have been a porn/sex addict for 15 years (since age 12) and it has cost me EVERYTHING. Everything I read about what Gospel/Salvation is depicts it as Jesus breaking the power of sin in our lives. I sincerely struggle with how can I be a Christian/how can I share my faith with others, if I haven’t experienced this Sin-Deliverance that Jesus ushered in/delivered.

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Jack Wellman August 21, 2013 at 9:12 pm

Thank you Robby for your comment and question. As I have said before, the good news is that you are struggling with this addiction, and the fact is that at least you are struggling, meaning you are remorseful and want to overcome this. We actually have an article on how to overcome this specific stronghold. Please read it and see how you can use the applications of this article at the link below in taking steps to try and break this stronghold of the Devil at:

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-overcome-an-addiction-to-pornography-help-for-struggling-christians/

Please don’t give up. I am glad that you at least WANT to share your faith and I can understand how it can hurt a person’s testimony. The fact is that you can not overcome this on your own. Read the article, fast and pray, take these steps, get rid of the Internet or cable if necessary, find an accountability partner to put in a filter for your Internet if you keep it. You can’t do this alone but with God, all things are possible. Read this article called How to Overcome an Addiction to Pornography at:

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-overcome-an-addiction-to-pornography-help-for-struggling-christians/

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shane pillay October 30, 2013 at 8:52 am

Dear Jack,
Thank you for your blog.
I`m so glad I`m not alone. Sex in any and everyform seems to be a major addiction or craving for all human beings. Lust, Porn, sexual acts etc seem to be an order of the day. It seems so easy to give up drugs and alcohol, but sex, just drives us insane. Were we not create to subdue the earth. Sex was put into our lives by God, just like our souls and spirit. If we don`t look at material how will we know how to satisfy our partner.

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Jack Wellman October 30, 2013 at 11:52 am

Thank you Shane. You are most certainly not alone in this struggle. We have an article that may be of much help to you or for others who struggle with sexual addictions and sin and the link is at the bottom of this comment. Check out this link and tell me what you think my friend.

One thing that troubled me is that you said “If we don’t look at material how will we know how to satisfy our partner.” Jesus said that if we look with lust we have done the same thing as having committed adultery *)Matt 5:28). You do not need pornographic material or images to know how to satisfy your partner. There are Christian marriage counselors and pastors that can help you with this. Sex by the way is not the important part of marriage….. love is and serving one another and loving your wife like Christ loves the church. Eph 5:22 says this. Please be careful because in many, many marriages, looking at pornographic or sexually explicit material causes great problems within marriages.

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-overcome-an-addiction-to-pornography-help-for-struggling-christians/

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anonymous November 6, 2013 at 3:14 am

Hello Jack,
First, let me say I am writing as anonymous because I am ashamed of my addiction to internet porn and masturbation because I know that our bodies are the temple of the living God and I have violated this law. I grew up knowing the truth meaning acts 2;38 truth. I recently came back to God about two months or so but one day I got mad at God and in my head I said that I refused to believe and that there was no God can/will God forgive me of this? or have I eternally damned myself? Even though when i said/thought this I didnt at that moment fall on my face and plead for Gods forgiveness a few days later I realized what I had done and felt guilt like self hate and like a loathsome worm. I cried for weeks I couldn’t hear God anymore so I felt hopeless so that’s why i stared watching internet porn again and started having attitudes that I used to have. then my family started saying that I must not want to live for God anymore and that I was turning into my father ( who was turned over to a reprobate mind) I stared getting scared that it was happening to me because of said addictions and what I had said in my head. so I stared getting scared for my soul again so I got online to find a support group and I came across your page and I LOST it so i started praying /begging God to forgive me but i dont know if he has turned his back on me (I’m not blaming God here) because of what I said/ thought? plus I havent gone to church in about two weeks and I havent been reading my bible because every bad thing I see in there I apply it to myself and I havent been repenting of my sins for awhile because I felt like because of what I had said /thought god had said okay I’m done with you. I guess if he had i wouldn’t have been moved by your page. I’ve also been tortured by the enemy with things like God hates you, he’s not listening/hearing you, Gods left you, your mine you just dont know it yet, there’s no hope for you, you think crying to him is going to help you. my family says that its partly me and if it is how can I change ? Ive asked a lot of people I know and I need an outside prospective from the people who know me
I need your help if you can I’m desperate

thanks

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Jack Wellman November 6, 2013 at 9:21 am

Hello Anonymous. You must seek counsel from your pastor and tell him right away. We have an article that is especially designed for those who have sexual addictions and you can find real, practical application steps to take at the bottom of this comment.

God never gives up on us so don’t believe that lie…that thought is from the Devil. God wants you to overcome your sin but if you feel totally helpless, that is okay because once we give up fighting in our own strength we must turn to God and His strength. It is impossible to overcome this alone. I would go back to your Bible at least 2 times a day (no matter WHAT you feel like) and pray and fast even over this. God will not turn a deaf ear for those who want to overcome sin because if you want to overcome this as I see you do, then that is a sign the Holy Spirit is working in you to convict you of sin and that is a sign that you will not be given over to being a reprobate. Please seek Him daily first thing in the morning and last thing at night in prayer, counsel with a pastor, find an accountability partner of the same sex you can trust and follow the steps in the link given. I pray for you my friend.

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-overcome-an-addiction-to-pornography-help-for-struggling-christians/

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Rob November 7, 2013 at 1:17 pm

Hi Pastor,

Landed here today after searching ‘God help me overcome sin’. I know I have the choice to sin, yet have become convinced I cannot permanently stop with porn. I don’t view it regularly, I go through the cycle of temptation, sin, guilt, repentance.

Like thousands of others, apparently, I pray and pray for God to help me in my weakness, to ‘manifest His strength’ in my weakness. Yet the issue continues. The guilt, frustration, anger, discouragement, depression. At 52, I hate this world often, very, very tired of battling in faith, knowing God is good yet experiencing long-term troubles, especially career-wise. Too much to write.

Free will and using the power of the Spirit, versus surrendering one’s self to God in great pain of failure (and desire for true rescue), and extremely hard for me to figure out. Part of me says simply, “It is SIMPLE, you turn away from the temptation!”. I KNOW this is HOW you shut down temptation. But the FEELINGS associated with porn almost always win. Last night I began to pray to God because of temptation, I try to repeat verses… went to sleep but upon waking ended up acting out again.

I hate my infantile behavior, hate fearing what will happen in the future (per all the employment problems I’ve had), hate getting older, hate this world in many ways. KNOW that I go to God daily, pour out everything, maintain total honesty with Him. I attend church every Sunday, as I finally got involved in a service task.

I overcome my attitude and emotions by focusing on God’s character; His goodness makes me feel good. His love helps be feel accepted. His proven actions over the years have matured me and I know He is not cruel or mean on purpose, etc. He is exactly as He described in the Bible.

Surely you understand all this; I just want a ROLE in HIS work, and clear role with meaning and purpose. All these years of suffering and testing MUST be part of His plan, for He PROMISED “I know the plans I have for you, plans for good and not for evil”.

There is a possible business / ministry He may be leading me into, but I have had MANY disappointments related to work/jobs, though I have fervently committed ALL my searching into His hands. I’m again unemployed, but I have been praying and asking for God to show me where HE is working, to invited me into HIS work, and help me overcome any crisis of faith when called. I am WILLING and looking to God to make me ABLE, to actually DO whatever He wants.

Please pray my life will have MEANING via His Guidance and CLEAR direction.

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Jack Wellman November 7, 2013 at 1:25 pm

Hello Rob…I am glad you “landed here” my brother. I will be glad to pray for you. Maybe you might like to read this article that is more specific to the stronghold you are battling. It provides biblical applications and practical steps you can take to overcome this but not in your own strength, as you already know I am sure. This is no accident I don’t believe that you came here and might be the reason that you are reaching out for prayer…you desperately desire to overcome this. Welcome to you and others who are also battling this demon from within. Please check out the article “How to Overcome an Addiction to Pornography: Help for Struggling Christians: at:

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/how-to-overcome-an-addiction-to-pornography-help-for-struggling-christians/

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Dereck November 12, 2013 at 10:07 pm

Hello Rob,

You and I think the same things about ourselves, but, I am trying to stay in the Book (the Bible) and keep on learning about the ways that God (Jesus) would have me to act.

The only thing that may make me pause in what you were saying was the fact that the people during Passion week, were not saved.

I would venture to say, a lot of them probably were not, but, ALL. I don’t know about that.

First of all, people that traveled with Jesus were there, Mary (Jesus’ mother) was there, now, I do believe that most people did not know who Jesus was until he was gone.

So, probably most of the people who were there, did not understand who Jesus was.

I think of Passion week as not so much that people were not saved, but, that of human nature, and really, we, as human beings, have not changed. We change our minds like we change our under wear.

So, brother, keep the faith and lets just work on ourselves and stay in the Book.

Peace and Love

Dereck

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Amy November 17, 2013 at 7:15 am

My son died this past March. He loves the Lord deeply but struggled with the sin of alcohol and sex. He would go through long periods of faithfully walking in obedience and then he would fall and fall hard. He loved Jesus, loved God’s word, studied, prayed, cried, had so much regret, and right in the midst of drawing near to God again, right in the middle of great joy, he had such pain. He died in the Ukraine, so we do not know all the details. He went out in the middle of the night after walking up unable to fall back to sleep (he had been drinking that day). He was in the Ukraine to visit his infant daughter and to witness to the girl who had his baby, possibly propose marriage. My understanding is that he drank on the flight over there, drank while he was there, and had sex with his girlfriend after proposing. Before leaving he was determined not to drink, to stay pure, and to be a witness. It all turned around after he started drinking on the 20 hour flight over to the Ukraine. The autopsy showed that he had enough alcohol in him to kill someone and it was below 0 degrees outside and he was not dressed warm enough. He told his fiance that he was going for a walk and would be back in 30 minutes (something he would do at home when he had trouble sleeping…he would go for a run) There was no sign of struggle, but there were bruises on his neck and chest. We do not know if he just sat down and cut off his own airway or if there was foul play…all of his belongings were missing (phone, watch, money). I know Tony’s heart for God…he was a pastor at heart, wanted nothing more than to serve God. In the Navy he wanted to be a chaplin (was dismissed because of drug use while on vacation) he went through a program at the church, 3 different times, for men who struggled with addition, he went through an intensive missionary program and was asked to stay on as staff, but was pulled away by a relationship and then alcohol…it was a vicious cycle in his life. He could go months, years walking in obedience and then fall again, hard. God saved him and showed him favor many times, he loved the Lord so much. It was mind boggling when we would see him get snagged over, and over. He cried and prayed, but in the end he died. I believe he is with the Lord that God took his hands off him and let him die to save him. But there is still that question, that pulls at my heartstrings. There is scripture that seems to say that drunkards will not see heaven, that someone who is tossed around like a wave will not see heaven. If there is any light you can shed on this for me I would be so very grateful. God bless, Amy (Tony’s mom)

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Jack Wellman November 17, 2013 at 2:37 pm

Hello Amy and first let me say that I am so very, very sorry for your loss. The Bible does indeed say that no drunkards will inherit the Kingdom of God but neither shall liars and thieves, and so on…but once we are saved, God’s grace is all encompassing. How many of your, mine, and your son’s sins were ahead of us when Christ died on the cross? The answer is that ALL of them were. Once a person is saved they stay saved and nothing can separate us from the love of God…not life, nor death, nor height, no, not any created thing (Rom 8:38-39). When we are saved, none of us are sinless and we will remain sinners, yet saved, and only when we receive our glorified bodies will sin cease in our members so take heart.

If he believed in the Lord (Rom 10:9-13) that He is the only way (Acts 4:12; 16:30-31) then he has been sealed by the Holy Spirit (Eph chapters 1 & 2) and read Romans 8 to read this for yourself. Take heart. Also, please check out the link within this comment to see if a person can lose what they never did to receive in the first place….that eternal life. John 6:37.39 and 10:28-29 should help ease your mind. Check out the link below to see why I say that and I believe that you will see your son again someday in the Kingdom.

http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/can-a-christian-lose-their-salvation-a-biblical-analysis/

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Amy November 17, 2013 at 8:29 pm

Jack,
I will check out the link and thank you so much for your counsel. This is a wonderful ministry. Tony, was saved and he loved the Lord and his word deeply. God bless you. I will stop being concerned and look forward to my son being in my welcoming party along with the Lord when I go home.
Amy <

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Jack Wellman November 17, 2013 at 8:37 pm

Thank you Amy….perhaps we will all get to meet together in heaven and I can meet the both of you! Love the sound of a welcoming party! ><>

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Danny November 17, 2013 at 7:25 pm

Hi to all. I am struggling with an addition that it seems I inhereted from my parents in addition to a long atmophere of abuse in all the ways that anybody can imagen during all my childhood. I am despaired, guitly, wounded, shame and lost. I have been praying and praying with the bible reading and go to church regularly and still I did not receive any healing from God. Is not that so strange with God by letting me suffering so much? Who would like to be felt miserable with these actions? Particularly being slaved with an addition that destroys your mind, health, body and spiritu My addition started since I was a little boy. I have been addicted for many years with deep pain and guilt that I cannot see my salvation ahead. I do not feel any God’s power in my life but infernal and ungly temptations. I have to deal with a fallen nature that I did not asked for? I hate what I am doing, yet my body wildy desire it. Can I be saved? Please pray for me. Thanks. Danny

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Jack Wellman November 17, 2013 at 7:33 pm

Hello Danny…thank you sir for your comment and question. Praying and going to church and reading the Bible is great but you cannot make that conditional to have God heal you. God isn’t responsible for your healing and suffering. We all suffer. How about those who are not saved? They suffer too but with no hope for eternity. Did you read the article again? There are practical steps to take, counseling to have, fasting you can help in overcoming this. You didn’t ask for a fallen nature but neither did I. Is God responsible for that too? No, we all sin and are born into sin. The fact that you want to overcome sin is a great sign that you have the Holy Spirit working in you. No one “inherits” addictions from parents. That is not true. You are blaming God and your parents and apparently Adam and Eve’s fall in the Garden but you must yourself take responsibility for your sin, confess it, repent (destroy all drugs, seek counseling, cutoff your drug sources by turning them in if necessary). Jesus said to “pluck out your eye if it offends you” using exaggeration to make a point. You must take radical steps of you want to overcome this…and not play the victim of your parental inheritance, God, and the fall. Until you do this, you will be the victim and not the victor. I am sorry Danny but that’s what I see it as and I say this in love for I was once a drug addict and dealer and battled this for years…and begged God to get rid of my drug sources ….and He did and now I am clean and sober and went from disaster to pastor and so can you! Praying for you.

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Danny November 17, 2013 at 10:35 pm

Dear Pasto Jack. Of course I am not expecting you agree with all my thoughts, that’s Ok with me. My history is very complex to be summarized in a few lines. That’s why I undertand your judgements and statements. Children borned of parents using heroin may have a high tendency to use the same drugs. However this is not even my core point. I sincerely believe that I am seeking God in order to heal me from my miserable sinful condition without his promeses fullfilled with me. Of curse I cannot change God’s mind to heal me. However, you states that is only and Only God who gives the power to overcome any sinful addition. I have confessesed my sin over and over again and stay way from resources, materials, provisions and environments that lead me into this addiction just to fail again to the next week. I have able to stop my additions up to six months under agony and a brutal effort just to fall again. Imagen how many thoughts may go through your mind about faith and God? I know Pastors do not like to hear this, but this has been my experience and I am not joking, I am talking from my heart. I am gradually dying and I am hopeless. I am been addicted for more than 40 years. Imagen how much your brain may accumulate in so many years, if God cannot heal you the only path is the death. Your praying are sincerely appreciated. Thanks Danny

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Jack Wellman November 18, 2013 at 9:25 am

Thank you Danny and I apologize for not seeing the exactness of your battle. I am sorry about that. Prayers are so important and maybe you can ask for prayers of your church in an “unspoken” needs but I still think fasting is going to help you break the bonds of this stronghold. Don’t despair and don’t give up for God’s love never fails and God never gives up on us. I am so sorry for this battle. I do see hope in that you want to overcome this as this is indicative of the presence of the Holy Spirit working in you to sanctify you and my own battle with drugs took me some length of time but we wrestle not against our own flesh alone but against wicked spirits in high places wanting to keep us ensnared.

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Elinaty Zulu March 11, 2014 at 4:22 am

I want God to free me but i have no one to trust pls help me

thank u

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Jack Wellman March 11, 2014 at 7:16 am

I am so sorry Elinaty for your heartache. Why don’t you talk to your pastor. There must be someone in the church you can confide in? God can free you, believe me, for there are many stories of believers who have overcome their addictions but they have first came out and publicly confessed it to a recovery group, a pastor, a close friend…someone. You must trust someone. If you don’t come out with this and seek help from at least one other person then you may never overcome this on your own. Why not join a church? You need to speak perhaps with a Christian substance abuse counselor or a pastor because both are trained to keep things private but if you are more worried about someone knowing your addiction that you are getting help, you must swallow your pride and confess it to at least one other person so they can pray for you to overcome this. Otherwise, nothing may ever change.

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Gideon April 21, 2014 at 4:24 am

Pastor I am a loving husband and father of three. I love the Lord and I want to do what is good. But like Paul, I am struggling with the sin of internet porn. I keep on going back to this sin and after that I feel so ashamed of myself. It feels like I am doing this deliberately but I know I am not. I have searched for help in the internet and that’s when I found this article. It has given me hope and I will continue to confess my sins to God and believe that I will overcome this sin. I cannot cut off the internet and this is proving to be a challenge as the temptation will always be the. I also cannot share this with anybody because it is such a disgracing sin. Please pray for me pastor so that I can be delivered from this sin.

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Jack Wellman April 21, 2014 at 8:40 am

Hello Gideon and thank you for your prayer request and you can rest assured that I have already prayed for you and will again. Stay on your knees and cry out to God for He can deliver and is mighty in our striving to overcome. Never give up because He never gives up on us and His love never fails. At least you are fighting this sin and that is evidence that the Holy Spirit is working in you and sanctifying you sir.

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