10 Prayer Tips: How To Talk To God

by David Peach on January 21, 2012 · Print Print · Email Email

Prayer is simply having a conversation with God. There are many different thoughts on what you should and shouldn’t say when you pray. There is merit to many of these ideas. But try to make your prayer life a simple conversation with your Heavenly Father.

Here are 10 tips to help you as you begin a journey of praying faithfully to God.

Have a Place to Pray

You may have a quiet room in your house that you can use to pray, or you may find solace in your car in the parking lot at work. Wherever you pray, try to be consistent. It certainly doesn’t matter to God if you lock yourself in a bathroom or a broom closet, but it will help you to focus on your prayer time when you have a consistent time and place to pray.

Prayer Tips

Pray without ceasing means to always be in an attitude of prayer, or to be aware that God is with you at every moment and that you can have a conversation with Him at any time.

Have a Time to Pray

Schedule a time to pray. The Bible says to pray without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17). This means to always be in an attitude of prayer, or to be aware that God is with you at every moment and that you can have a conversation with Him at any time. However, scheduling a specific time to pray each day will help you become a consistent person of prayer: someone who is serious about the needs of others and will pray trusting that God will accomplish His plan in their life.

As you begin learning to pray, you may find that you only need a few minutes each day. Ten minutes of praying is a long time for someone who has never had the habit of prayer. The more you pray and follow these tips, the more time you will want to have with the Lord.

Make an appointment with God on your daily calendar and keep that appointment just as you would with anyone else on your agenda.

 

Make a Prayer List

Create a list that you carry with you or in your prayer journal where you can note specific prayer requests that people mention. When someone asks you to pray for them, write it down. Don’t trust your memory.

You can divide your list into various types of requests, or create lists that you will pray through on various days of the week. Maybe you will commit to praying for government leaders three days a week but want to pray for your family every day. At first this may not be necessary because you will start with a short list of requests. But as you have more and more things to pray for, you can divide them out so that you are not rushed in your prayer time.

Use a Prayer Guide

A prayer guide is a short list of reminders of what types of things you should pray for. Here are some suggested topics for your prayer guide: salvation, protection, leadership, ministry opportunity, deliverance from temptation, etc.

When you pray for a missionary you should pray that God will give them protection on the field, that they will be able to witness effectively and that they will have more ministry opportunities. When praying for your family you can use this list to remind you to pray for their deliverance from temptation, safety and that they will make wise decisions as they lead others.

Make your own guide to help you remember certain things you should be praying for in each type of request that you are given.

Pray Specifically

Pray for the requests on your list and try to avoid general prayers. God already knows about all the missionaries in the world. Don’t just pray for God to bless them all. Pray for their specific needs. Pray for your family member’s individual requests.

God knows the needs. He wants us to acknowledge that we are concerned about those individual requests too.

Keep a Notepad Close

Have you ever been distracted while praying? It often happens that we are praying and remember something important we need to do, or even another prayer request will come to mind. Use a simple notepad to help you jot down these new requests (or to-do items) and then get back to your conversation with the Lord. Don’t let distractions keep you from having an effective prayer life.

Keep a Prayer Journal

Along with your prayer list you should keep a journal of the things you have prayed for in the past. Write down when you began praying for it and when God answered your prayers. We have all had prayers answered, but can you name five specific things you prayed for and when God answered them? If you don’t have some type of prayer journal, you probably can’t.

Use this prayer journal to remind you of the prayer answering God that we serve. He is eager to hear and answer our prayers according to His will.

If your children were not thankful and never recognized when you do good things for them, how would that make you feel? Don’t be guilty of having a thankless spirit by asking God to answer prayers and then never acknowledging His provision.

Talk With God

Don’t make prayer complicated. There are certainly many things the Bible teaches about prayer. We should pray with respect. We should pray to a loving Father. We should pray with sins forgiven. We should pray in Jesus’ name and according to His will. All of these things are taught in the Bible. Keep these things in mind while praying, but don’t complicate prayer.

Talk with God as if you are having a conversation with a friend. Yes, He is King of creation, but He is also a caring and loving Father.

Pray Aloud

God will hear you if you pray silently, but praying aloud helps you to stay focused. When you pray aloud you force yourself to think intelligently about your words. Praying silently is a quick way to zone out and lose focus and intensity in your prayer time.

Find a Prayer Partner

The majority of your daily prayer should be a personal time of communion with God; however, it is also helpful to share requests with others who can carry a prayer burden with you. You can both rejoice over victories through prayer.

The Bible even speaks about us joining together with others in prayer. We can bring requests to God on an individual basis, but Jesus admonishes the disciples in Matthew 18:19 and 20 that there is more power in going to God as a group rather than only as individuals.

I hope these 10 tips help you in your quest to pray more consistently. Having daily communion with God is a great way to help you grow spiritually and become more mature in your Christianity.

Do you have other prayer tips? Please include them in the comments below.

Resources:

The Holy Bible, King James Version (KJV)



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Georganne Harris January 21, 2012 at 11:05 am

Please send these 10 tips about praying! Thank You

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John FORU January 29, 2012 at 7:48 pm

Thank you for the tips about how to pray to God.
I’ am a person who always uses prayer as a tool in my home, work places and even any where I confront situations in life, but I could not do this effectively. Having this tips as a guide, this will help me to effectively pray to G..D.
Thank you and G.D bless.

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David Peach February 28, 2012 at 8:56 am

I trust you will be able to pray more effectively.

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faith mugo February 28, 2012 at 2:15 am

thank you on ten tips on prayer,i would like to add an important ingredient that i find very necessary in my prayer life ,having faith and believing that our prayers have already been answered and not having any doubts at all , because Jesus said “be it be done to you as you believe”

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David Peach February 28, 2012 at 8:59 am

James 1:5-8 “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”

Thank you for the good reminder Faith.

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Dike isaac February 28, 2012 at 4:43 am

My name is Dike isaac, i am christian i trust & believe in God i do read my bible sometimes. I have been seeing all the Good things he do’s in the bible, all the miracles. The same bible tells me bible was words of God. It motivat my faith. but i have pray to the extent of confus i started thinking if truly God is still working in this world.

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David Peach February 28, 2012 at 9:02 am

I sometimes wonder if God is working and hearing my prayers, but this is where a prayer journal really helps me. When I can look back and see that God has answered very specific prayer requests it reminds me that He is still working and that He is interested in my personal life and needs.

I encourage you to keep track of your own prayer requests and answers as well as writing down prayer requests from church. Ask the people who requested prayer later to tell you what the outcome wass. I think you will be surprised as to how much God is working in the lives of His people today.

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georgemax May 27, 2012 at 1:08 pm

pray for me to get a better job dear comrades

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Thomas May 29, 2012 at 9:39 am

I have never thought about a prayer journal before. That is very interesting. I sometimes ask myself why does it seem like my prayers go unanswered. I guess we miss when they are

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11ki June 6, 2012 at 2:40 am

I don’t know how to pray and i am the most confused person on earth now. I sometime think of insulting God but i just ve a change of mind. I don’t ve a job @ my age, no wife, no kids. I just ask what have i done or need to do.

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David Peach June 6, 2012 at 9:34 am

11ki, I would encourage you to talk to God as you would talk with an older friend. You should speak respectfully, but also feel free to pour your heart out to Him.

I would encourage anyone who has questions about whether God listens to your prayers or not to look at our page called Come to Jesus. Once you settle the fact that you are truly saved then you can confidently go to God in prayer knowing He hears you.

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Cosby August 18, 2012 at 10:51 pm

I walk with him as my friend everyday. I don’t do anything without talking to him.

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Arpita August 25, 2012 at 5:18 pm

SIR,
i am hindu… i love god through my heart.. when i think about god…i think about my mother who is very religious person… she is having a lot of faith on god…she is suffering frm a serious disease called glucoma in eyes… she has just got operated last year…still she can’t see things clearly through eyes… i want my god to heal my mother…. how should i pray.. how will it be possible..??

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David Peach August 27, 2012 at 9:31 pm

Arpita, I encourage you to pray for God’s will to be done. That God will be honored and glorified in whatever the outcome is. There is nothing wrong with telling God that you want your mother healed, but you also need to be willing to accept whatever God chooses.

Read your Bible looking for the prayers that it contains. It will teach you much about prayer. Also, search here at What Christians Want to Know for articles about prayer. There are many of them. They will help you.

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Chase Bevan September 3, 2012 at 12:17 pm

will let you know if he is here with you Just asking

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Linda Grier-Hughes September 12, 2012 at 8:51 pm

While preparing a seminar on prayer, I ran across these tips, which allowed me to better explain many of the tips for prayer I was using. We had already incorporated the journal and list, and asked for more specific prayers…to no avail. But with these simplistic explanation of the tips, I can consistently revisit the points for clarification.

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sue September 24, 2012 at 1:56 am

i would also like to add that its important also to ‘remind’ God of the promises that He made in His word. For instance, when i’m anxious and confused, i like to say, ‘Lord, your word promises that i should not be anxious about anything. but in everything by prayer and petition with thanks giving i should present my request to you and your peace which transcends all understanding shall guard my mind and heart in Christ Jesus’. i find that when i claim those promises, i start to feel what God promises….i don’t know i I’m making sense…

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David Peach October 5, 2012 at 2:06 pm

Sue, I wanted to let you know that after reading your comment here last week, I have twice mentioned it in sermons on prayer. I don’t think it is at all presumptuous to remind God of His promises. It is not that He has forgotten, but it seems so powerful in my life to turn something over to God and step out of the way so that He can work.

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Linda Jones September 27, 2012 at 5:17 pm

I thought that if you pray out loud that the enemy can hear your prayer too but if you pray inside your head or silently only God can hear it.

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David Peach October 5, 2012 at 2:11 pm

Linda, thank you for your comment. What you say may or may not be true; however, I think there is a better way to look at this issue. Jesus offered many prayers to God verbally. He did this so that others could listen in on His conversations to God and learn from them. Jesus was not scared of the enemy hearing what He had to say. The power and Holy Spirit that Jesus had is the same power and Holy Spirit we can have today. There is no fear of the enemy listening in on our prayers.

That does not mean it is wrong to pray silently. But to think you are tricking the devil in some way by not voicing your prayers seems to give too much credit to him. I don’t think he is powerful enough to stop God from doing what God wants to do.

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afolayan September 29, 2012 at 12:05 am

Nice one indeed! May God increase your anointing in Jesus name

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Mabuki October 5, 2012 at 6:14 am

Thank you very much for these tips. I’m one of those who get distructed very easily especially when i pray alone. Now I know exactly what to do. Thank you thank you thank you!

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Susannah November 18, 2012 at 1:46 pm

Hi
Thank you for your article. I am going through a very hard time in my marriage and thinking of leaving. I wasn’t sure how to pray for wisdom amd faith, but your article has helped me.
Thanks again

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Blessing November 20, 2012 at 2:02 pm

Thnx for the tips you can say that again i feel very powerfull when i pray aloud rather than praying quietly.

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mw1988 November 24, 2012 at 8:32 am

How long does God take to answer prayers because I have been praying for God to answer a prayer request but it has been so long. I have tried fasting but nothing what should I do or what other way of praying should I try

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donna November 27, 2012 at 1:46 pm

mw1988 – have you tried praying according to His will? I don’t know what you’re praying for but I do know that if you pray for His will to be done then you can rest assured that God will hear it and is working on it…that sometimes can be frustrating though since what we think we need or want is not always in His plan. Hope this helps. :)

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shanice December 4, 2012 at 11:10 pm

Hello.. i pray and talk to Jesus on the daily.. i been asking for him to bless me with a family of my own because im not sure if i can have children but ive been trying for awhile and would like for him to make the blessing happen. I also pray for other things but I know that patience is the key word and you have to be thankful of what you ot going on before he’ll do more for you to be thankful for

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shanice December 4, 2012 at 11:13 pm

Hey i pray on the daily.. and i would like to have a baby.. im not sure if i can have babys and been trying for a while but i been asking god to bless me with one but i know patience is the key word. hopefully one day i become bless

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Daniela January 14, 2013 at 2:54 pm

Hello, I am a new christian only a 1 year old. I pray everyday and read my bible several times a week. I have a problem with praying out loud, we join a pre service prayer gathering where there are a few people of my church. I find myself wanting to say a prayer, but find myself always resisting; not sure maybe nervous of what others may or may not think of what I say or how I say it. Any suggestions

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Anastasia January 26, 2013 at 4:15 am

Thanks David for helping to clear the air on prayer request, I thought there was more to it.
The journal issue is a big yes, especially when you feel down, full of doubs and worries etc. It helps you count your blessings and as you do, the doubts, the anxiety, the questions etc just seems to fade away. Even the list of problems you were counting will begin to fade away too. Hope, strength, faith increases and the athmosphere for the miraculous is created.

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David Peach April 20, 2013 at 10:29 pm

Daniella, my only suggestion is to talk with God like you are talking with a friend. He doesn’t mind if you don’t know what to do. He doesn’t care that you don’t feel like you have the right words. He simply wants you to communicated with him.

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Suzy May 25, 2013 at 5:03 pm

Hi Daniela …

I just read your message on here… a little late response, I know…

I’ve had the same thing when it comes to praying with others. I say just ask God for courage & take a leap of faith & just do it.

It may help to have in mind what you want to pray about, & you can keep it as short as you like for a start & I’m sure in no time you’ll be comfortable to prayer all the time with the group.

Just remember, your with a group of people who love God & there won’t be any judgement & know that the angels will be cheering you on & God will be proud of you.

Anyway, maybe you’ve done it by now seen it’s several months old…. if so, let us know how it’s going… xo

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Pastor Kamanya February 5, 2013 at 5:01 am

Thank you for the teaching this is an eye opener to every Christian who is willing to pray effectively. God bless you

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Juliet Gado February 11, 2013 at 5:25 am

I have read the contents of this web site. It’s all true. Hope God s with me and answer my prayer requests.

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Juliet Gado February 11, 2013 at 5:30 am

I enjoy the article. I strongly believe that God is ever where and watching us all the time. It is good to communicate directly to God.

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Juliet Gado February 11, 2013 at 5:32 am

Thanks God. Please hear my prayers.

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Mr. Tomasz Czerwinski February 15, 2013 at 10:28 pm

please cancel the request about blessing to the holy dove and kevin
cancel it
these creatures are taking away my mother and my father to die
they’re saying bad things about my parents ,
please prayer that they get punished for this

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Robert February 26, 2013 at 9:55 am

Jesus told us to love even our enemies, “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:43-44 ESV).

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Crystal March 1, 2013 at 3:49 pm

I’ve never really been close with the lord. Some of my family is… My mom is the closest one to G..D & She sometimes keeps me together without knowing it. I want to change some of my ways, I’m on a path of doing so. I just don’t know how to talk to G..D I’m going to start to use a journal to keep track of what I pray about and see how that goes. I’m hoping it works for me.

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mit March 13, 2013 at 8:37 pm

I need a prayer for my children.

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Robert March 14, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Mit,
God is good and we will be praying for you and your children.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Mr. Tomasz Czerwinski April 1, 2013 at 2:50 pm

i can’t sleep
prayer request to get some sleep

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jose lopez April 3, 2013 at 12:07 am

Need.prayer need thing to go my way. Have hard time in life.

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BRAJ MOHAN April 5, 2013 at 12:27 pm

Thank you for giving the tips.
I have some other thoughts too. God knows our needs, so why should we pray for that. He is willing to give me my needful. And which is not given by Him, means that thing was not better for me, may be in future it harms me. So, my thought is to be a child of six month aged. Who only knows to cry… when he feels hungry, he will cry, do potty, cry, wants to sleep, cry does not wants to sleep, cry. every time his mother understands that why the boy is crying. like that GOD also understands my problems and he will surely make solve it. I have nothing to do with the problem. just be a six month old child and enjoy the life. let the GOD think on my problems.

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Robert April 5, 2013 at 1:43 pm

Braj,
i see the point you’re making, but let me interject a few thoughts, if I might.
What kind of a relationship would we have with our parents if we continued to act liket that 6-month old baby? If we continued to cry, go potty, cry, etc. when we were 30, our relationship with our parents would be strained to say the least. I believe God expects more out of a relationship with us than for us to simply ignore Him. Many times, as we pray for God’s help, He shows us what He wants us to do. For example: the Bible promises us that God will take care of us, but that does not mean that we set on the couch in front of the tv waiting on a check to drop from heaven. Bottom line, prayer is communication with God (the Bible tells us to pray without ceasing); when we neglect prayer we are neglecting our communication with God. God bless you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Lilian John April 19, 2013 at 2:51 pm

What shall i do when i have been praying for a long time 2-3yrs and still no answers? Because sometime i end up crying instead of pray

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David Peach April 20, 2013 at 10:25 pm

Lilian, I know it is not the answer you want to hear, but I have to say to keep praying. Trust that God will work out His plan in His time.

There are many examples in the Bible where people tried to “help God” do His plan. It never ended well.

Some people have prayed for decades before they have seen God answer a request. One time a family had been praying for 14 years for the salvation of their son and God allowed me to be the one to bring the Gospel to him. We were all very excited to see the answer to that prayer. But they prayed for a very long time.

Trust that He is in control.

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Rommel May 15, 2013 at 11:35 pm

sir, Please help me to believe in God.

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Robert May 16, 2013 at 12:35 pm

Rommel,
Let me make a clumsy attempt to help you. May I suggest you read this article. Hopefully, it will help you in your journey. Please feel free to respond. We are here to help.
http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/what-is-the-gospel-message-finding-the-truth/
God bless you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Sam May 16, 2013 at 9:20 am

Dear Robert & David

Robert – I am also addressing this to you, as your answer to Braj above makes sense and I was hoping you may be able to give me some direction.
I really need your help in this: I had a miscarriage 6 months ago and was only 5 weeks’ pregnant. The loss was both shocking and devastating, as we had been trying for almost a year to fall pregnant.
We fell pregnant again recently. Due to the first loss, I prayed every day that God would make this a healthy baby and pregnancy. At just over 5 weeks, I saw the little heart beat and it was so exciting. I hadn’t seen the heart beat with the first one. I started to tell a few close friends. I went for my second scan at just over 9 weeks… no heartbeat. I had to take pills to get rid of the pregnancy, as the baby had died at around 6 weeks old. This has happened very recently and my heart is still breaking and I am still experiencing the physical effects of the miscarriage.
Miscarriage is a very lonely thing. My husband says that it obviously wasn’t meant to be and has carried on with his life – never talks to me about how I am feeling (physically or emotionally). People who have never experienced miscarriage first hand have no idea what it’s like.
I now wonder what the point is of asking God for anything? If we as Christians believe in pre-destination, then everything that happens in our lives is as it was meant to be. Therefore, I feel like all I can pray about now is to thank God for what I have – my beautiful daughter, who may never have a sibling. Age is not on my side, and I am having a hard time accepting that I may never have another child.
Robert, David – I really want to place hope in the Lord again, but I am struggling with this so so much now. It’s as if his answer to prayer requests is “wait and see”.
My daughter has a heart defect that could only have gone within the first year of life. I prayed and prayed for God to heal her heart. It never happened. So what’s the point in asking God for anything? I feel I must just carry on with life and what will be will be.

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Robert May 16, 2013 at 12:30 pm

Hello Sam,
I can hear the heartache in your words. Even when we are assured that God loves us and cares for us, it is difficult (to say the least) when we experience tragedy and heartache in this life. We are told to expect tribulation in this life (John 16:33), but it still hurts when it happens. The thing that makes all the difference is how we respond to these tragedies. Do we turn to God and trust that He knows what’s best and will get us through whatever we face? Or do we let our lack of understanding shatter our faith?

Have you expressed your feelings to your husband? Too many times, I don’t know my wife is feeling a certain way until she tells me. We men can be thick headed.

Do you have a church family, Christian friends, or a pastor with whom you can confide? Someone you trust and can talk to can be such a help when going through tough times.

You ask what the point is for asking God for anything. Many times, the purpose of prayer is to change us, to mold us into what God wants us to be, rather than to change God’s mind or get what we think we need. The Bible is also clear that we receive what we ask from God only if it is His will (I John 5:14).

Concerning predestination, God either allows or causes everything. I don’t think it is biblical to say that God is the cause of everything, otherwise God would be the cause of sin…and He is definitely not. Therefore, from our point of view, we do not know what is going to happen. Therefore, we must trust God and His infinite knowledge, and put our lives in His hands. We live according to His standards and we have faith that He is in control. Bad things happen to us because we live in a fallen world, not because God isn’t sovereign, but He promised to see us through whatever happens to us.

You made a statement about God’s answer being “wait and see”. While you may be correct about that, it is also possible that God’s answer may be ‘no’. For some reason, known only to God, it may not be in His plan that you have another child. Not that He caused the miscarriages, but He did not prevent them. Our responsibility is to trust Him. Nevertheless, that may not always be easy, especially when going through something as emotionally taxing as what you are going through.

Sam, I pray that God’s comfort will fall upon your heart and your faith will grow through these times of heartache. I pray you will not turn your back on God, there truly is no other place to turn. God bless you, comfort you, and keep you.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Sam May 19, 2013 at 2:25 pm

Dear Robert
I thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement, as well as your sensitivity to my situation.

A couple of days after reading your response, I became angry with God, but your promise to pray for me kept entering my mind, and made me cry. Perhaps I cried for both the loss of my baby and the feeling of loss of the Lord, through my own doing.

Despite your prayers, I started to turn my back on God.
I became more angry, self-absorbed and withdrawn. This impacted heavily on my marriage, including other stressors I currently have in my life, through unnecessary commitments I have made of my own choosing.

Robert, I was suddenly and, to me at the time, inexplicably, drawn to the articles on this site about the role of a Christian wife. I spent hours one bight reading through such articles and came to the realization that I am unable to heal because of the ‘unnecessary commitments’ I have made, which have been stressing me out no end. I decided there and then to let them go. By doing so, I am able to focus on my role as a wife and mother, and understand and accept what God wants of me.

Although it still hurts, I am starting to understand that maybe it’s not God’s plan for me to have more than one child. That is a very difficult thing to accept for someone who has changed her life with the focus on raising children and a home.

Tonight I read Crystal’s article on miscarriage. I regret to say that had I read it at the time this happened to me, and even now, it would not have helped, and may have angered me more. The article has no depth for me, but it may, hopefully, help others.

Your words were comforting, however, although it was Jesus Christ who carried me over the past couple of days and fought the battle to win back my heart, by directing me to the articles here on marriage.

Robert, I am still emotionally weak about my miscarriage, and when I think about it or someone talks to me about it, I still sometimes break down. But focusing on The Lord and rebuilding my marital home helps to carry me through. May I ask that you continue, for a while, to pray for this person you have come to know through this article? It is comforting to know that someone out there, who is a brother in Christ, actually cares, even though he has never met me.

Thank you once more for your kindness.

Yours in Christ,
Sam

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Robert May 20, 2013 at 8:36 am

Sam,
I will certainly continue to pray for you and your healing. Remember, even though the words might be mine, it is God in whom the promises are fulfilled and in whom we trust. It is often through the hardships of life that we come to know Jesus in a more intimate way. God bless you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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David Peach May 20, 2013 at 7:42 pm

Sam, I am glad you have found some of the articles helpful. I too will pray for you in your situation.

I certainly don’t understand all the emotional things that go on during a miscarriage. I do know that it is appropriate to grieve the loss of your child. No one else will grieve as much as you or as long as you during this situation. It isn’t that they don’t care, it is that they don’t understand. Allow yourself to grieve even if others don’t grieve with you.

I really appreciated something Robert said in his previous message to you: “You ask what the point is for asking God for anything. Many times, the purpose of prayer is to change us, to mold us into what God wants us to be, rather than to change God’s mind or get what we think we need. The Bible is also clear that we receive what we ask from God only if it is His will (I John 5:14).

This applies to a situation that took place in the life of my wife and I. We had always thought we would have 4 children. It took us 5 years before we conceived our first child. We intentionally wanted to wait a year before our next pregnancy and then we started trying again.

We prayed daily as a family for 3 years for another child. My wife (though no one knew but me), became angry with God because of not getting pregnant again.

God finally got ahold of her heart and one day took the anger away. She surrendered to God’s will. This did not mean that she did not want any more children, but it meant that she was finally willing to accept God’s plan. When it came to the number of children we would have, she always told God what she wanted and never really cared what He wanted for her. But that changed when she acquiesced to God.

When my wife surrendered her will to God in the matter, God made her content with the one child we had. In fact, we ceased to pray for any more children (though our son continued to pray for a couple more years). When our son was 6 years old God blessed us with a little girl.

I don’t know that God will give you another child, that is not my point. But as Robert said, prayer is to help mold us into what God wants us to be, not to change His mind on a matter.

I pray that God will give you great peace during this time and that He will use it to draw you closer to your family and to Himself.

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Suzy May 25, 2013 at 4:44 pm

Hi….

After reading Sam’s messages, I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your loss Sam & the heartache you are feeling at this time.

I know it doesn’t take away all your pain right now, but it may be of some comfort to remember that your precious baby is in the care of our Lord Jesus now & you will be reunited with him/her someday to spend eternity (& this lifetime is only a speck in time).

Also, the book of ‘Job’ reminds us that we should continue to praise God through our hardest times, they are often a spiritual battle & defeating the enemy can only be done by praising & leaning into God & trusting Him.

(Certainly easier said than done – I do realise that & I need reminding more than anyone when the going’s rough). But prayer’s are with you!!

God bless you Sam.

From Suzy xo

Sam May 26, 2013 at 3:54 pm

Dear Robert, David and Suzy

Thank you all for your wise words of faith and encouragement. I understand The Lord is trying to speak to me through all of you wonderful brothers and sisters in Christ.
David, thank you for sharing your experiences with me.

I think this is going to take time. I often slip back into anger – more because I feel so alone now. Is it possible to privately email Pam for help?

Thank you again to all of you for taking time to help, and for your prayers and compassion. I wish I could tell you how much of a comfort you have been to me over the past two weeks. I will continue reading the articles on this site, as they are so well written and informative.

Thank you thank you thank you, once again. You people are truly gifts from God.

Yours in Christ,
Sam

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Sam May 26, 2013 at 3:57 pm

Sorry, just to clarify why I am asking Pam for help – I feel I need to get my marriage back on a Christian track, and have read a couple of her articles, which were a huge help.
Thank you,
Sam

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David Peach May 27, 2013 at 12:45 pm

Yes, you can contact Pam by going to this link: http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/contact/ Tell us that you would like to have Pam contact you and give a short explanation as to why. You don’t need to go into any details on the contact page. We will forward the email to Pam and she can get with you privately to see if she can help.

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Robert May 27, 2013 at 3:29 pm

Trust God, He loves you and knows you better than you know you. He will see you through anything and everything. God bless you,
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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wise June 14, 2013 at 9:14 am

hello!
i always love to talk to God at anytime anywhere. i do that as if God is with me. recently, i have observed that, some of the things i mention as minor wishes do happens, but the major ones are not happening. my question is that, do i need to do something extra to have my major requested prayers answered?

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Phil June 15, 2013 at 7:23 pm

David:

I would first like to thank God for finding this article. It has ministered to me in way that will bring more glory to his mighty name. I specifically liked the part of the article where it was mentioned to have a journal to keep track of prayer and when God answered that specific prayer request. I have asked God for many things and have received it but forget about my asking him. I will make sure from today on to write down the request and watch how God answers it and when! God bless you David!

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nianza July 21, 2013 at 6:25 am

Sir , lately my hair has been inna very bad condition.. I had a long set off hair and now is most gone.. and I really don’t want to go to school with short hair.. so I’m praying and praying that my hair will grow fully before school starts.. I’m very worried .. please pray for me – thank you

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Tebby August 7, 2013 at 6:53 am

The grace of GOD is so much sufficient for us all Man Of God.. i am really happy to see this site coz it has motivated me a lot, i have been praying but not consistent, now that i know that i should write down my prayer request and follow them until God answers me, i know that God`s time is the best and his time is real….when he answers me with YES nobody can say NO..

I really appreciate your effort and time for creating this site…May his mercies and favor speaks for you..,

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David Brochu September 4, 2013 at 11:47 am

Feels like a shorter version of St. Alphonsus Liguori’s “How to Converse with God”. Nice read

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Brie September 5, 2013 at 6:08 am

Thank you for the insight. I need the prayer tips, please send to me, too.

God bless you so much.

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Matthew October 7, 2013 at 5:28 pm

But I’ve “prayed” for so long if he really loved me wouldn’t he try to communicate immedietly?

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