Small Group Ice Breakers: 25 Good Questions

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One of the best parts of my job of being a pastor is that I am able to lead two small groups.  I have been a small group leader for about thirteen years as I believe strongly in the value and benefits of small groups.  There are many things that I love about being involved in small groups but often the main reason that people join a group is to get to know other people better.  Now don’t misunderstand me, I know that people join groups to learn and study the Bible more and even to be involved in service projects and other activities, but I think that most people, deep down inside, join groups because they want and yearn to be closer connected to other people.  In these groups friendships are often developed that help people grow together to be more like Jesus.  I say all of that to tell you how committed that I am to small groups.

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The small group leader is very important to the group.  This sounds like a simple statement but it is oh so critical.  I have the privilege of overseeing the small group ministry in our church and I love investing in the lives of our leaders.  There are many key elements to being a good small group leader but one thing that is so important to the group is to have everyone be involved in every aspect of the group.  This includes the Bible Study discussion and prayer time too.  These reasons are why I am writing this article today.

A good ice breaker will get people talking and many times laughing and ultimately bonding with the other group members.

A good ice breaker will get people talking and many times laughing and ultimately bonding with the other group members.

I believe that having ice breakers in the beginning of a small group meeting will often help the discussion and prayer time to be something that everyone will join in and be engaged with.  A good ice breaker will get people talking and many times laughing and ultimately bonding with the other group members.  When we use the emotions and laugh and cry together, we will begin to form and also continue to deepen our bonds with each other.

Ice Breaker Questions

  1. If your house was burning down, what three objects would you try to save?
  2. What comes to your mind when you think about God?
  3. Tell me the high point of your week.
  4. If you are at a friend or relative’s house for dinner and you find a hair in your salad, what would you do?
  5. If you could have dinner with any person alive in the world today, who would that be?
  6. If you could ask God one question right now, what would it be?
  7. Name one person that is not a family member that has had the greatest influence in your life.
  8. If you were banished to a dessert island, would you rather be there alone or with your worst enemy?
  9. If you could go back and visit any time period, what time would you travel to and why?
  10. If you had to give up one of your senses (hearing, seeing, feeling, smelling, tasting) which would it be and why?
  11. What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever eaten?
  12. What is your favorite TV show and why?
  13. If you had to live this week over again, would you change anything?  If so, what would that be?
  14. Talk about a purchase that you made sometime in your life that you regret.
  15. If you were a kitchen appliance, which one would you be and why?
  16. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would that be?
  17. Tell everyone to write on a piece of paper 3 things about themselves which may not be known to the other members in the group. Two of these things are true and one is not. Have each person take turns and read out the three ‘facts’ about themselves.  After this is done, have everyone vote as to which of the 3 is not true. There are always surprises when you do this. This activity is not about becoming a good liar but simply a fun ice breaker that helps the group and leaders get to know more about each other.
  18. Tell us about a book or movie that you have watched recently and would recommend to the group.
  19. If you could take a vacation right now, where would you go?
  20. If you could visit heaven right now and talk with one of the people of the Bible (other than Jesus), whom would you talk to?
  21. Name a gift you will never forget?
  22. If you had the power to change one problem in the world today, what would that problem be?
  23. What is one thing you really like about yourself?
  24. Does your first or middle name have any significance (or were you named after another family member)?
  25. Tell me the first thing that you ever remember in your life.

In my opinion, icebreakers are not just something to do once in a while to change things up.  I try to use one before every group meeting.  This list is just a starting point as there are many more.  You will be amazed at the discussions and conversations that will be started by opening your group meeting with an ice breaker question.  My guess is that the people that are reading this article are probably group leaders.  If you are a group leader, you may have some others that you like better than these.  I encourage you to bless us all and add any icebreaker you have in the comment section.

Leading a small group takes hard work and I believe this includes not just showing up with your study in hand but think through how you will get people talking and comfortable so that when you study the Bible later on in your group, everyone will feel welcome and encouraged to join in.

Take a look at this related article:

Small Group Bible Studies

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{ 21 comments… read them below or add one }

Katherine Steele May 2, 2013 at 3:37 pm

Really enjoyed your comments on ice breakers, I will try and do that on a daily basis. I am sure it would be a great “silent reach out for Christ” ! Folk would come back ! God Bless your family and ministry for Y’shua. God Bless America;- for break through


Jasinto May 4, 2013 at 2:57 am

thank you for this article… i will use it to help our new small group a few couples and mine recently started… we each have found that this closeness added to our relationships have broadened our thinking and deepened each of lives to Christ.
i would probably be considered the small group leader… and we r soon to shar with our pastor the wealth of having small groups… so again thx and would you pray with us as we will certainly be doing so 4 u..
in Christ name


Rose Ann J. Desuyo February 18, 2019 at 10:56 pm

Thank you for sharing your article sir, im about to search an icebreaker and i saw this never regret to used this in my lifegroup =), Godbless you more and more


Tieng chan than May 11, 2013 at 5:40 am

Thank you very much .dear brother and sister
Your activity and material help my knowlage every day.
I am looking forward to hear from you again and again.
May God bless you
From Timothy


Maryjane June 19, 2013 at 6:19 am

Thank you for sharing this ice breaker. We really enjoyed sharing our answers to each other. God bless you 🙂


Mary August 14, 2013 at 3:11 am

How did you meet your spouse?
What do you consider your best quality?
What do you consider your worst quality? (the following week)


Paul1316 January 22, 2014 at 12:30 pm

After scouring the web, this is, by far, the best group of ice-breaker questions I’ve seen. Thanks!!


Heidi Webb September 5, 2014 at 4:38 am

Thank you for this valuable information. I’m about to embark on leading the first small group at my new church. Please pray for us!


BonforGod September 8, 2014 at 1:47 pm

Thank you, I will be using one tonight for a small womens group. Last year my icebreaker for a small group was: if you were a flower what kind would you be & why? Everyone enjoyed this icebreaker. For men you can change it to, if you were a tree what kind would you be & why? I also like one I was asked in a group which was, tell the group something about yourself that most people do not know about you. That led to many interesting funny respondes. Thanks again


robert October 12, 2014 at 7:24 am

if everything is connected to everything else,how can you be judged as a seperate thing?


Dyrell February 9, 2015 at 3:58 am

Why would judgment be based on connection?
Why would connection alleviate responsibility?


Dyrell February 9, 2015 at 6:34 am

Great List… I’m working on some ones that are really more than typical ice breakers, but actually may spark serious thought and discussion, like your #6 “If you could ask God one question right now, what would it be?”

Actually wouldn’t it be nice to start discussing questions like that at any party or gathering, even when there is no planned lesson later on?

Yes, I know that might not be the purpose of the defined ice breaker as we think of them- but I’m thinking expanding its role to provoke useful and intentional conversations when we are with others, rather than the usual small talk that seldom benefits much….
Just finished my thoughts on it here…


Tyson Hodge October 17, 2017 at 3:58 pm

Excellent point/idea. Maybe I will just start using questions like this in everyday conversation. *Girl at checkout: “did you find everything you needed today?” Me- “sure did……..if your house was on fire, what three things would you go back to save?”

No, but serious, I totally am going to try to squeeze these into everyday life.


Jim Bates April 23, 2015 at 12:22 pm

If you are interested in 1100 icebreaker questions in an iPhone app, you might try “Let’s Talk” by Brain Sparks Labs. All are ‘G’ rated and organized for all types of groups.


Beverly January 25, 2016 at 3:12 am

can you give me an example of an icebreaker that is personal at first then will be paralleled to spiritual? or that will be connected in spiritual life of a person? actually,this is our assignment in the small group leaders meeting we have every sat.,i hope you could help me…thanks.


Vanessa February 23, 2016 at 12:45 pm

Getting ready to start another Financial Peace class and was looking for more ice-breakers and I came across yours. I will definitely use the above questions. Very welcoming and takes the pressure off. Here is one we are also using for our class:
My name is?
Go around the group and ask each young person to state his/her name and attach an
adjective that not only describes a characteristic, but also starts with the same letter of his name e.g. generous Grahame, dynamic Dave. Write them down
and refer to them by this for the rest of the evening. 🙂


Sheyan Schroeder June 13, 2016 at 10:50 am

I am going to be a Christian cabin leader and I am so using these questions for my campers every night. Thank you.


Ann Sellers July 28, 2016 at 6:38 am

I am having a group of ladies at my home just for pure fellowship and I wanted something for us to talk about instead of kids, work, politics, these questions are great for conversations as well. Thanks so much.


Jason October 16, 2016 at 5:08 pm

Just found this after searching the topic. My wife and I are small group leaders again after taking a few years off and I’m looking for some for our upcoming meeting.

One of the ones we used that lead to much discussion and interest was to ask each person to share something impressive about their spouse that most other do not know. That was a great one and learned a lot about each other. The next week the ice breaker was somewhat the opposite – to share a quirk about their spouse. Keep in mind we prefaced this ice breaker to be careful and considerate to your spouse. But this one was hilarious and really brought the group much more closer and comfortable. We saw true friendships begin and really grew strong after that.


Pamela Rose Williams October 17, 2016 at 12:55 pm

I love it! Thanks for sharing Jason.


Eleanor January 13, 2019 at 9:17 am

This is the best site. I have led Stephen Ministry for a number of years and know first-hand how warm up questions begin to establish trust and make for great small groups with lasting friendships.


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