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Helen April 21, 2017 at 4:17 pm

Awww you’re welcome! And yes, God forgives both of us 🙂 Because He is good, no matter if we fail. God bless you, sir!

Jack Wellman April 21, 2017 at 6:13 pm


kathleen Winnett October 16, 2017 at 12:35 pm

I have a question I go to church every Sunday I have been baptize and was saved at the age of 32 years old. I taught awana for 17 years I love GOd but I’m living with a man now for 20 years and I can’t marry him because I will lose my husband pension.Am I going to hell my pastor won’t let me join the church because I’m living with this man who is a good man. I’m sacred I don’t want to go to hell.

Jack Wellman October 16, 2017 at 2:17 pm

Katheleen.. The question is….do you trust God enough to take care of you. If you place your security over Christ, you are not seeking the kingdom of God first and His righteousness, which we are commanded to do (Matt 6:33). Many believe they are saved, but on the day of Jesus visitation, they will hear the most horrific, tragic news ever; Jesus will say, depart from me. Many will say Lord, Lord, but these same many will be turned away (Matt 7:21-23). The Bible is clear. Those who practice such things as sexual immorality will not enter the kingdom (1 Cor 6). It is good you are fearful because you cannot say you are a believer and live in sin (1st John chapter 3). Read these verses, call your pastor, repent of this, and move out of this sexually immoral lifestyle while you still have time. You are living with a “good man” but the Bible teaches, none are good…not eve one (Rom 3:10-12)! Jesus said if you love me you will keep My commands. I fear you are in danger of God’s judgment. Trust God. Move out. Repent of this. Those who do these things sin against their own body (1 Cor 6).

Khunde October 18, 2017 at 4:53 pm

Hi..about salvation..are you saying that everyone we sin we have to ‘repent’ again even though we are saved. For example if I recieve salvation today and maybe after a few months I commit a great sin like I give into my lust and commit self pleasing…does that mean my salvation is gone now I have to repent again to God. Why would I repent again when I’ve already done so and that sin is already forgiven? Wouldn’t the logical thing to do be to realise what I have been tempted to do by Satan and pray to God about this shortcoming and ask God to help me with temptation? And to only have faith in God that I won’t fall into that sin again?

Jack Wellman October 18, 2017 at 4:58 pm

Hello Khunde. To repent means to turn away from or forsake. God actually brings repentance and if you sinned a great sin, would you not repent of it or stop doing it? We all sin, but we are still saved, but I believe its good to confess our sins when we do them. If you sinned today, and didn’t ask God to forgive you. Or if you sinned and didn’t turn from it (repent), then would you fell good about yourself? John tells us to confess our sins (1 John 1:9). We are all tempted, but we are carried along by our own lusts and temptations and cannot blame the devil for all our sin and temptation.

Debbie October 19, 2017 at 6:05 pm

Greetings Jack
What a sad story. My heart aches for you and for the young girl you counselled. You missed so many opportunities to show love like Jesus did and still does today. Our salvation as Christians is permanent and eternal. We can not lose our salvation by sinning. We are all living in a broken world and we wi still all sin at times. We try hard not to because we want the special rewards in heaven…but were still going to heaven. Praise God. Dont take it from me. Below is an article from versebyverseministry that explains really well what the bible says more fully about Christians and sinning. Our sins are forgiven past present and future! None of us can get to heaven by our works alone…for we all fall short of the glory of God. Thats why God sent His son to save us. None of us need to pretend to be perfect….we all know none of us are, save Jesus.
Yours in kindess and truth,
A sister in Christ

Jack Wellman October 19, 2017 at 6:21 pm

Thank you Debbie. I do agree as the verses you cited mention on the website that we are not saved by the will of man but of God, and predestined for the kingdom, but it is important to realize what the Bible says elsewhere regarding practicing sin. The verses you noted were not in the context of “practicing these things” or living in sin, but 1st John 3 is and he writes, “Everyone who makes a practice of sinning also practices lawlessness; sin is lawlessness. 5 You know that he appeared in order to take away sins, and in him there is no sin. 6 No one who abides in him keeps on sinning; no one who keeps on sinning has either seen him or known him. 7 Little children, let no one deceive you. Whoever practices righteousness is righteous, as he is righteous. 8 Whoever makes a practice of sinning is of the devil, for the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the works of the devil. 9 No one born of God makes a practice of sinning, for God’s[b] seed abides in him; and he cannot keep on sinning, because he has been born of God. 10 By this it is evident who are the children of God, and who are the children of the devil: whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is the one who does not love his brother.”

Since this is true and someone living in adultery or sexual immorality that is not repented of, cannot be of God if they “keep on sinning.” That’s because they’re born of God and “whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God.” I believe it is wrong to tell someone who is living in sexual immorality, or fornication, that they will still go to heaven since Paul says those who practice these things will not inherit the kingdom (1 Cor 6:9-10; Gal 5:21). God calls us to be holy for He is holy…not perfect, but not in open sin with no repentance. That sounds like a license to sin.

Marie May 3, 2018 at 11:44 pm

I am in agreement with Jack Wellman’s response to Julie’s questions. He showed the love of Christ by telling her the truth rather then what she wants to hear. Please consider the following verses that clearly state that a Christian can fall away from the Lord and loose their salvation. Once saved always saved is a doctrine of deception and Heresy that leads many into complacency and to live with unrepentant sin.

Hebrews 10:19-31, 38-39
“Having therefore, brethren, boldness to enter into the holiest by the blood of Jesus, By a new and living way, which he hath consecrated for us, through the veil, that is to say, his flesh; And having an high priest over the house of God; Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching. For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. He that despised Moses’ law died without mercy under two or three witnesses: Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace? For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people. It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.”

Jenny February 6, 2018 at 5:25 am

Thank you for this teaching.
At my church three of the leaders restrained me from telling a young follower of Jesus that her moving in with a man was wrong.
It was explained that she had come out of a difficult marriage time & all she needed now was a comforting time. That this man was kind & often not there. He is not a Christian & they were all praying sometimes openly on our prayer web site for him to become a Christian & to marry her.
I believe I am the only one who feels strongly she should be shown the bible teaching.
She is a very beautiful woman & has great ability during prayer time with bible references.I do not want to acussed of disunity & not obeying the leadership as has been made clear if I speak or write to her.
What are views. ?

Jack Wellman February 6, 2018 at 10:12 am

These church leaders are compromising sin and condoning sin by giving their approval of a live-in situation between people who are not married, and that is clearly sin and this is no grey area. I am saddened by this church’s response. I wished you could send them here to this article or have them contact me since this is not a godly thing, and in fact, 1 Cor 6 comes to mind. This church is in trouble, in my opinion, because if they allow this sin to continue, what other areas in their personal lives do the compromise and try to justify their own sins?

Dennis Carr February 15, 2018 at 8:40 am

Dear Sir: I do not have a problem with the comments and advice that you have provided. I only wish, that you churches would do their job and supply the information that you have mentioned. As long as their attendance is satisfactory and their bills are getting paid and their patting each other on the back, they are satisfied. // When a person ask me for my opinion, I try to give it to them as softly as I can and the truth the best I know, without them blowing up. The churches are failing us very bad. // Jesus Christ has called me to do divine healing. I didn’t even get in to studying the Bible till 2012. I was never told the importance of learning the Bible and what few times I went to church, it did not help me and I did not understand what they were trying to do. // So 2014 May 1 Jesus Christ spirit made his presence known and told me to start practicing Divine healing. I have three are four friends, and we discuss our opinions on healing. It is in Scripture in the Bible, many times. I have five or more professional healers that I study on the Internet. I usually study every day or make comments on Facebook to try and get people’s attention on the Bible. Thank you, Dennis Carr

Jack Wellman February 15, 2018 at 9:57 am

Hello Mr. Carr. Churches are told to reach the lost (Matt 28:19-20) and visit this widows, orhpans, sick, prisoners, and the poor (James 1:27; Matt 25:36-38) and so if you have a gift for healing, you are overlooking the most important thing…rescuing the perishing. And as for healing, it is God Who choose to heal and not you. We pray for God’s will to be done on earth and in heaven, not man’s will (your or mine) to do their will in heaven and on earth. Jesus makes His presence with all who believe, not just you. There are no such things as “professional healers” in the Bible. You mean that they get paid to heal people so their professionals? Friend, you need to get out of this situation and start growing in the grace and knowledge of our Lord as commanded. If your church did not help you then you help it! Be part of the solution and not part of the complaining. Jesus calls us to be His witnesses…and He said you will know them by their fruits…not by their gifts.

Erika March 14, 2018 at 9:32 pm

Hello my name is erika and ive been with my fiance for 4 years and have 2 children with him. My question is i just recently got saved on 2/26/17 after my daughter was born and me and thier father was living together before i knew chirst…and as i get more intune with our Father i am starting to feel different about things and i must say this all happen after i got baptized on 10/29/17…we do live together still but i keep asking God to help get him an apartment so we can live separate again..i know our time isnt on the Lords time i already told him he has to leave bcuz we are living in sin…if we are both saved well i know i am forsure because i question my salvation everyday still and i know i shouldn’t be but there is always a BIGGG WHAT IF YOU KNOW??. I want assurance that im sealed God knows everyones heart so he knows i want the Lord more then anything in this world…i just want to make sure that i am going to heaven …i feel bad kicking him out to the streets…and the Lord knows that as a Christian ur supposed to come with Love Meekness Kindness etc…pls help with my question…Thank you and God bless u

Jack Wellman March 15, 2018 at 10:21 am

Hello Erika. This boyfriend can work, right? Why not let him have his own place? It’s not really “kicking him out” but doing what God says that is important. The Bible tells us that those who live in sin can have no assurance of being saved (1 John 3), so I would repent of this, have him move out, or you will never have any peace of mind about your eternal fate. It is loving to live a single life and not live in sin with a boyfriend. If Jesus comes back or you die before repenting of this, only God knows where you’ll be. Call your pastor and talk to him..both of you go to him and counsel today.

Michelle April 9, 2018 at 5:37 am


Anonymous June 2, 2018 at 12:31 pm

Thank you pastor Jack this article helped and blessed me tremendously I’m in a similar situation but it’s a way bigger church witness killer. Please if you can contact me by email. I’d very much like to discuss with you. Thank you and God bless

Jack Wellman June 2, 2018 at 1:08 pm

Hello Anonymous. I will my friend. Thank you.

Cyntha August 15, 2018 at 11:19 am

Thanks relevant issues I would like to contact you via email as there are some concerns I would like to ask you about .

Jack Wellman August 15, 2018 at 11:26 am

Please click on this link: https://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/contact/ and I will respond to your concerns. Thank you Cynthia.

Roman September 11, 2018 at 12:05 pm

Well I digress.
This is an old post. But how can we judge when only God can judge. Just because people live together doesn’t mean they are in sin or sinners.
Roommates of opposite sex. For example.
Only God can judge. Because God sees the heart.
A couple who is dedicated. To God and has professed to God they are married although not married in paper.
God sees the heart. Only he can judge this couple
Has been blessed and God has miraculously healed the young lady.
Let’s think why did God ask Hosea to marry a prostitute she was a sinner.
Why did God tell David. I have given you all the daughters of Israel. Let us not be hasty to judge others.

Jack Wellman September 11, 2018 at 12:29 pm

Hello Roman. We are not judging anyone. God’s Word says that and the Bible says that being dedicated to one another means they can live together before marriage. This is sin. God sees the heart but also the sin and His Word says that people who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God (Gal 5:19-21). read your Bible. Follow His Word. Not what you think. David is no excuse for us to commit adultery. The quote you mentioned in 2 Sam 12 is actually Nathan the prophet condemning David’s actions, not supporting it as you say. You have taken text out of context to make a false pretext. Please don’t counsel people. You do not believe or follow the Bible. Hosea was ordered by God. It was NOT Hosea’s idea and besides, He MARRIED her, not lived with her outside of marriage. Please repent of this satanic teaching.

Laura Walters December 3, 2018 at 10:23 am

If PEOPLE are assuming the worst about a couple living in the same household, then they’re judging and that is not their place. That is a sin. It only matters what God thinks, knows and sees, not any man.

Jack Wellman December 3, 2018 at 10:47 am

People may be judging them by appearances, but we are told to abstain from every evil appearance…but unmarried couples are not to live together as this is sin. Yes, it does matter what God thinks, and that’s why we quote Scripture because that is what God thinks. All sexually immoral will be judged by God but we must speak what the Bible says, so I pray you see the point here. Do you think unmarried couples should live together? If so, it doesn’t matter what you think (as you said “not any man (or woman)” but what God says in His Word and it is sin to do so. I am sorry you feel it is okay to live together being unmarried but your “feelings” are not supported by Scripture.

F.Reginald Carter December 8, 2018 at 7:40 am

IT is wrongly been practiced among us. The bible does not support such.

April D Leslie December 24, 2018 at 10:02 pm

Hello.. my question is .. is it wrong for a preacher to let his daughter live with her boyfriend in his home just cause he doesn’t want to hurt her feeling?? Also the daughter is married to another man…

Jack Wellman December 24, 2018 at 10:27 pm

Hello April. You are right to sense this is not right. This clearly is wrong. We are told to abstain from every appearance of evil, and to do this only to please his daughter is absolutely the wrong reason. There is nothing that can justify this living arrangment. It is even worse since this pastor’s daughter is still married to another man. I believe her father the preacher may be doing his daughter harm buy allowing this and condoning it by allowing it. It is clear to me that this is wrong at every point. I pray this preacher repents of this and worries more about obeying God than hurting his daughter’s fellings. If need be, have your pastor contact me. This is serious sin and God will not bless this arrangement or this church.

Kristine December 31, 2018 at 3:27 pm

I stumbled upon your article while searching answers for something else.
Your article gave me insight to things I’ve been guilty of in my past and confirmation of what not to do according to God’s word and his will for my life as a Christian.
Thank you and God bless you and your family.

Jack Wellman December 31, 2018 at 3:39 pm

Hello Kristine. Thank you for your kindness. I do hope it has helped you.

Peezy January 5, 2019 at 3:51 am

but despite this sin why is it that a church would not allow you to be apart of it, as everybody is a sinner and there should be no qualifications as to who can enter a church. also why does it matter if other people think you’re having sex when you’re not, i think that it should be between you and god not you, your neighbours, your family, your church and god. like as long as you’re not actually having sex or having lustful thoughts, it can’t be considered a sin because it doesn’t go against anything in the bible. what that means is that why should it matter if people “think” you’re having sex if god knows you’re not. we arenj’t trying to please people.

Jack Wellman January 5, 2019 at 9:58 am

Hello Peezy. You are trying to justify what is not good and by condoning this or thinking its okay for unmarried couplest to live together, you are ignoring the Scripture to “Abstain from every appearance of evil.” It does matter what people think. If soemone claims to believe in Jesus and lives unmarried, Christianity is disdained in their eyes. I pray you repent of this thinking.

Leah January 31, 2019 at 3:10 am

Would it be a sin to live together with your fiancée if his parents, brother, and niece live in the same house and you have them all as accountability partners to help keep you out of sin?

Jack Wellman January 31, 2019 at 8:57 am

Where will the two of you sleep? On different floors and in different bedrooms? If so, I see nothing wrong with this. Thank you for your question.

Rozell Burroughs Jr March 14, 2019 at 9:11 pm

So if a person has no where to go and no parents and family members don’t really loke them.
But is saved and you are to, are you saving just leave them in the streets.
Is that the answer.
Because everyone is not able to survive off of their paycheck.
And people think that you are sleeping together even if they see you just out on a date.
So really that’s the answer to helping people who can’t live off of what they get paid.
If a couple say there is no sex, if they are lying we don’t ask God to reveal it, we the church become the judge and sit that person down from their duty in church.
Because of what someone thinks you kick a person out on the street, caz people in the church are judgmental and so that’s Christ like.
Wow no wonder the churches are empty.

Jack Wellman March 14, 2019 at 9:18 pm

The churches are not empty and you are trying to justify this sin of abstaining from every appearance of evil and living together unmarried never happened in the Old Testament or New in the church. If a person has nowhere to go, then they ought to repent of that sin and move out or back home, but to say it’s just surviving off their paycheck is like saying this is okay, when it is not.

Reno March 20, 2019 at 12:35 pm

The only thing you have to do is believe in jesus christ and that he is the son of God. He died on the cross for our past present and future sins teaching anything else is weong

Jack Wellman March 20, 2019 at 1:09 pm

This is almost true. Jesu said you must repent and believe (Mark 1:14-15). Repent of something means you turn away from something or stop doing it, so if there is no genuine repentance, and they keep practicing the sames things that send people to hell (Gal 5:19-21), then just believing in Jesus is not enough. James said even the demons believe, so that is not enough, so you must include repentance and faith or you are wrong. Please study this. Jesus said the kingdom of God or the gospel includes repentance and faith. Read 1 John 3 to see if those who practice sinning, even if they believe in Jesus, are saved or not! You do greatly err.

Dan May 24, 2019 at 2:37 am

Great article!

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