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S July 9, 2013 at 5:30 pm

Dear Daryl

A great article, thank you! My daughter is 3, and because she is still young, I sometimes unintentionally neglect to pray with her or read the bible with her. But I do notice how much she understands, remembers and repeats, so now is a very important time to start that grounding, I would think…especially in these formative years.

So thank you for the reminder and reality check. I will certainly make a greater effort from now on.


pastor,danappa July 10, 2013 at 8:54 pm

may god bless all of us his unity father,son&the holy spirit. help to others james1:27.

Anon. July 13, 2013 at 6:12 am

I believed in doing number 7 until I found out that the young leader in our church with whom I trusted my son was introducing him to pornography, homosexuality, alcohol and who knows what else. Oh, the damage. I know it is not the norm and I wouldn’t want to scare people into secluding themselves.

Don Pierce September 21, 2019 at 8:37 pm

That is why all teaching and training our children starts at home.

Nathan Zamprogno August 11, 2013 at 10:35 am

One consequence of my loss of faith has been the need to address how I raise my son. I’m a single dad, and he’s now ten. I’ve always held the view that it’s important that my son comes to his own views as he grows up. Sure, there are things I would “prefer” he believes, but my best gift to him as a parent is to teach him how to think rather than what to think. To me, this means approaching orthodoxies with a skeptical mind, valuing evidence, and understanding all the psychological “hooks” that influence behaviour, such as the human needs to experience belonging, purpose or approval. My boy needs to know how these influences could cause him to make poor decisions, or suppress his critical thinking faculties because social acceptance is more important.

In pursuing this aim, I’m happy for my son to attend scripture at school, and I’m even likely to enrol him at a local Christian school when he hits High School. I would have no objection to him attending our local church youth group. I grew up in such an environment and it gave me friends for life.
I know that he will be proselytised. I’ve already started to talk to him about logical fallacies, about how to critique theodicy, and why the social utility of religion is a separate thing to its claims to scientific or moral truth. Kids are surprisingly receptive to such conversations, if they’re age appropriate. These conversations are some of the best times we have together.

Articles like this worry about whether kids will be drawn away from the faith of their parents by an increasingly liberal culture, but the things they say miss the point, and are patronising as well. Let’s dissect a couple of your points:

”2. Model what a Christian should look like”
All concerned parents want to model what they want their kids to become. I strive to model virtues shared by Christians (love, peace, patience, goodness, etc), noting along the way to my son that Christianity does not have a monopoly on these virtues.
”3. Make family a priority
5. Make sure you are connected to a church
9. Serve others with your child/children:”

…These boil down to the same thing: “Be connected”. Recognise the strength of family as the natural and optimal social unit. Be invested in your community, and in causes that are bigger than you are. These do not have to be churches. The same fellowship can be found in your local sports club, rotary, lions, volunteer group, musical society or school community, and these organisations carry the benefit of existing explicitly to do social good, rather than doing social good merely as a salving adjunct to their business of proselytising, preaching and profiting.

Apart from these, a young person can be almost guaranteed to fall away (or never acquire) religious faith if they encounter demonstrably untrue (or nebulous and unprovable) truth claims. The article makes no mention of this, which I find telling. Why does it not mention how certain apostasy is when a risible claim like “The Earth is only 6000 years old” is made, when so much evidence is at hand to make a nonsense of it? Similarly, when claims are made like “A fertilised ovum possesses a soul and demands the rights of personhood”, or “miracles happen”, or “our interpretation of ancient scripture is superior to all others, and some interpretations differ sufficiently for God to cast their adherents into hell, which is eternal torment, regardless of the sincerity with which they believed it”… Well, if that young person asks the honest and obvious questions with clear eyes, and if they have any acquaintance with history, biblical exegesis or rhetoric, then they are going to reject faith emphatically, because the proofs offered are circular and self-serving.
I hope my son exhibits the virtues which Christians claim only come of having “fruits of the Spirit” in the fifth chapter of Galatians; I am methodically teaching him to become such a person. However, I hope he always takes a skeptical view of the truth claims, moral or scientific, of all religious faiths.

Kate Hansen September 23, 2016 at 10:06 am

My religion and religious beliefs are very important to me and I hope to raise my kids in a way where they feel the same way. To do this, I think the best thing like you said is to teach your children about the Bible and about God. This will give them a strong foundation to go forward with faith in the life. I think making sure they are reading the Bible and other religious books are tools that can help them in the rest of their life.

Shirley Whitney February 7, 2017 at 10:46 am

Thank you for your wisdom. I have found it all too common that our neighbors are able to communicate their values and faiths to their kids but we as Christians leave that up to Sunday school teachers. Our kids need to SEE who we are becoming and HEAR about who we love and PARTICIPATE with us as we serve Him. Too often we want to give our faith rather than share our faith. Doing WITH our kids daily will pass our our faith and values.

Mathew (Penthetruth) September 20, 2017 at 7:54 am

Parents who use the Bible’s standard of discipline will be much better off in the end:

Good children do not just happen; they’re the result of careful cultivation. Isaiah 54:13.Thanks for this!God bless you

Zoe Campos March 25, 2020 at 6:28 am

I definitely agree with the part where you said that it is important to inform our kids how they could pass on the spiritual heritage to the future generation that will come after. My husband and I met through a religious conference and we still believe that our faith is what keeps our family together up to this very moment. We are also planning to enroll our daughter in a Christian private school to make sure that she’ll receive the education she needs to strengthen her own faith.

JEDSONMOSES April 18, 2020 at 3:13 pm

Wonderful. Thank you. I am a christian believer and an evangelist. I have a 3 year lovely daughter. She is perfectly following me in all. So happy. I am getting angry and scolding her when she refuses to eat food . She is crying and repeating my words in herself. I know it is a bad imprint. But helpless. Please guide me.

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