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DocReits October 13, 2013 at 12:19 am

Hi Crystal,

I appreciate your heart in admonishing us not to lord it over others with a judgmental spirit. I believe that is what Jesus was referring to when he said to take the beam out of our own eye before trying to remove the speck in our brother’s eye (Mt 7:1-5).

Having said that, there are certainly more verses in the NT about the duties of the saints to judge, especially to judge those who are saved than not judging (It is something like 62 vs 8 scriptural references difference). Here is a rather in depth study on the topic which should help.

Bottom line…It is actually more biblical to judge than not to judge. Hopefully that whetted your appetite to review the whole article in this link. Here is a taste:

“What we found was that any compulsion that the modern Church or modern Christians have to prohibit judging cannot be said to be based on God’s Word or a solid understanding of the scriptural perspective on this topic. Instead, far from prohibiting judging, the Bible instructs us how to judge and what to judge. This being the case it must be that Christians who prohibit judging are merely reflecting the influence of the ungodly culture around us.

In completing our Biblical survey on judging we have found that there are approximately 70 passages in the New Testament that address the issue. Of these only a small fraction (less than a dozen) actually contain any language limiting judging in any manner. The remaining 60 plus passages provide an overwhelming and unavoidable message from God’s word that, contrary to the wishes of our culture, Christians are to judge both people as well as behaviors and beliefs with the only following exceptions:

1. We are not to be angry without cause.
2. We are not to judge one another for whether or not we continue to practice Jewish feasts or Jewish dietary laws.
3. We are not to place final judgment on someone – in terms of salvation or damnation/condemnation.
4. We are not to judge who will be rewarded with a greater position in the kingdom of God.
5. We are not to judge those outside the church, except to judge them as outside the church.
6. We are not to judge hastily, improperly, or presumptuously, and without first examining ourselves.
7. We are not to judge according to appearance, but according to God’s standard of righteousness. ”


Unfortunately the world (our culture) has so cowed Christians with this “Don’t Judge” mantra that we have become marginalized and ineffective in crying out against the ills of our age…(vis Gay Marriage, Abortion, Euthanasia, etc.)



Crystal McDowell October 26, 2013 at 9:56 am

Dear DocReits,

I appreciate very much your point about being careful with teachings on being judgmental. You’re correct in that we must take care in how we approach the issue of being judicious versus judgmental. I think the scope of this article was focusing on the subject within the body of believers and not necessarily from a world view of judging others. I believe an article on “How to be Judgmental” would address your comments. Have a blessed day in the Lord and again thanks! Your sister in Christ, Crystal

WeakButHopeful April 24, 2015 at 4:06 am

Thank you very much Crystal. The Lord has been prompting me (for quite a while now) to repent of my judgmentalism, and I found your article via a Web search.

Actually, I found many references on the Web, but yours spoke to my heart because you stressed #1 prayer to God for wisdom #2 repentence of our own sins first #3 dealing with sinners as Jesus did (and does, including me).

Other posts I found stressed truth and obligation under Scriptural commands, but I think we have all seen the terrible toll that truth without love (“zero tolerance”) can exact in our lives, and as for Scripture I believe Jesus said it could be summarized as loving God above all and loving our neighbor as ourselves (and by their fruits you will discern because only God can see their hearts).

All of this was to encourage you and thank you for your wonderful article. I realize others may not agree, and I also realize that the true burden is now on me to use this truth to repent and renew my life. If you feel led to please pray for me for my sake and those I encounter in my daily life. Thank you.

Alex Leslie May 7, 2015 at 11:01 pm

This is the same thing for me. Please brother or sister pray for me and I’ll pray for you. I need to repent from my judgmentalism as well. Also, such an encouraging truth in love filled article.

Margaret October 27, 2015 at 8:26 am

I have a Facebook friend who spends a great deal of time posting negative memes of the pope, Catholicism and various other religious critiques that seem so dismissive and disrespectful. If anybody’s looking for an excuse to avoid Christians, judgmental approaches makes most want to run the other way, and the best way to stop doing it is to think about how it makes you feel to get a “side talk” and focus on your own log (as somebody in the comments suggested) and pray for the lost brethren. I skim right past most of this Facebook friend’s lengthy scriptures and political rants, thinking eh, she’s in an obnoxious mood today. Non-Catholic Christian friends have referred to me as a saved Catholic, which is another judgment designed to make me feel like I’m “in”, I suppose. I’d prefer God is the judge of my soul, since He alone is the one who knows what no human eye can see… not somebody taking a spiritual snapshot with their naked eye. I’m sorry if this also sounds harsh. I have been on the judgmental side, too, trust me. I hurt myself because I wasn’t identifying that I was playing God. I lost loved ones more than I helped. I had to hit my spiritual bottom to realize what I was doing. Jesus never sat at the table with the tax collectors agitating them. He drew people to himself with great love.

I wish, as believers, we’d focus on what we have in common in the Body of Christ and stop thinking it’s our sole duty to walk around hitting each other over the head, saying “it’s for your own good.” lol

Onome A January 12, 2016 at 7:46 am


Thank you for your post. I want to stop been judgmental and I pray that God helps me and gives me grace going forward

JENITA EVANGELINE November 9, 2017 at 12:33 pm

Thank u sooo much. These verses u have mentioned really helped me.. I am a judgemental girl and trying my best to come out of it. I thank Christ for showing me ur article and opening my eyes. I feel the peace of God in my heart right now. I Praise God for u!

Alison Har November 13, 2018 at 6:05 pm

I am the extreme one. When I judged, my words are harsh and direct since I love bring facts to tell off other person how insensitive and inconsiderate they can be. To me, if a person wasn’t being pinpoint over their weakness, they never consider themselves in any position wrong. I have to confess is difficult to tame my mouth

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