How To Help Your Children Discover Their Gifts

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Psalm 127:3 – “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.”

Children are one of the biggest blessings we receive from God.  They are also one of the biggest responsibilities we receive from God.  As your kids (and mine) get older they will feel a need to belong and be valued.  This, my friends, is a big crossroad that needs to be traveled carefully.  If you are not spending time with your kids, they will find value in themselves from anyone who will be their friend.  This may include anyone from drug dealers to school bullies to anyone who loves chaos and trouble.  Your precious little ones have been blessed with gifts and talents that the Lord has given them.  You need to be involved in their lives to help them mature in their gifts properly, so that in adulthood they will be shining beacons of light for Jesus!

Here are some practical tips you can use to help guide your kids into discovering and excelling in their gifts.

Discovering Childrens Gifts

The key isn’t just learning to play, but to spend quality time with Johnnie in the process.


This is the most important trait you need in order to be a productive parent with your kids.  They want to know that you love them.  They want to know you are listening to them.  If they know you are listening, they will want to talk with you more and they will also be way more receptive to the advice you give them.  Take a step back and see what your kids are into.  Maybe little Johnnie has found a love for sports.  Take him to the baseball field and practice pitching and hitting the ball.  The key isn’t just learning to play, but to spend quality time with Johnnie in the process.  Listen to him on the field.  Work on the things he is weaker in and applaud/compliment him in the things he excels in.  He may be the next Colin Kaepernick to inspire the next generation of kids!  “I don’t think most people look at football players as what they’re doing out here is trying to glorify the Lord.  I think a lot of people think of it as oh it’s a game, let’s go win.  Ultimately, that’s your goal, that’s what you want to do, but you also want to glorify the Lord on your way to doing that.”

Try Something New

You may be in a place where you or your kids have no idea what their gifts are.  Try something new!  Take them to a musical/opera.  Take them to a football game.  Take them to the zoo.  Wherever you take them, pay attention to see if they get excited about it.  If little Janie really has a good time at the musical, take time to sing with her and maybe learn to play an instrument.  If she develops a passion for singing, then definitely get her singing lessons so she can grow properly.  Sometimes we have to jump out of the boat first before we learn how to swim, and this may very well be your situation.  So, go somewhere new and let God use it for His glory!  Little Janie may be the next Christian singer to role model for insecure girls and boys.  “This, this is for all the girls, boys all over the world.  Whatever you been told, you’re worth more than gold.  So hold your head up high, it’s your time to shine.  From the inside out it shows you’re worth more than gold.” (Gold, Britt Nicole)

Always Encourage

One of the biggest mistakes we can make as parents is to discourage our kids.  Never make your children feel bad because they aren’t good at something.  Sometimes it takes practice before they can achieve success.  Michael Jordan, the biggest and best NBA player of all-time, didn’t even make the basketball team his sophomore year of high school.  Can you imagine how things may be different had MJ’s parents not let him try out for it again? You never know what skills are waiting to blossom in your kids.  Encourage your kids to keep trying the things they are interested in.  Give your kids specific Bible verses to take with them in their times of struggle.  For the older kids use 1 Timothy 4:12, “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”  They can rise above the negativity of the world and make a difference!  For the younger kids use Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.”  Your little ones can face challenges they think are too big if they know you are supporting them all of the way and that God is giving them strength at the same time!  Always encourage your children.  You both may be amazed at the gifts they discover they have along the way through encouragement.


This is one of the most important things you can do for and with your kids.  Pray specific Bible verses with your children.  Pray Matthew 21:22, “And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”  Your kids will really grow with God when they believe this verse and see how God blesses them with gifts and skills.  Pray James 1:5, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”  God will show your children what they will be good at if they ask for wisdom in it.  Pray Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths.”  Your children will grow in their faith as they start seeing the path open up for them in what they are good at.  Our God is always faithful and when we pray to Him, in faith, BIG things happen!


Wherever you are in your journey with your kids, it is never too late to help them discover what they may be good at.  I hope these tips have helped you get an idea of where to start.  Our children are only with us for a short time.  Don’t miss out on one of the best stages of life!

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” (Robert Brault)

God bless you as you continue to live a life worthy of the calling!

Another Reading: How To Discipline Children: 7 Tips For Christians

Resource – “Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.”

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