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Hi Crystal,
I have stumbled upon your site looking for ways to respect my husband during conflict. I read one of your articles on the subject and I am going to start applying what I have learned. Thank you. I have many issues with my husband but of course I don’t expect a solution for all of them but Him and I are on what seems polar opposites on all our decisions. Our big deal right now is that we are four years away from paying off our small house and he wants to buy a bigger one. All I see is a 30 year mortgage. our whole ten years marriage has been this way. I want my kids to go to Christian school and he doesn’t see the value of it. I try to avoid talking with my mom or sister about it because of course they are on my side and i end up talking bad about him but sometimes it’s just easier to get it off my chest. I have thought about going to our pastor but your article says to avoid going to a male for advise. I don’t have any female friends I feel I can trust wihtout feeling like I am talking bad about him. He avoids conflict and is a sweeper under the rug. I am desparate to know what to pray and what to do. We are having a really hard time tolerating each other right now. And I feel like every verse and scripture is saying my attitude is wrong which I am willing to change but very weak to do it. I am constantly looking to Jesus because he has changed me in the past. Thanks for your time and wisdom.