7 Bible Verses To Help Overcome Resentment

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Have you ever been treated unfairly? When mistreatment spans over a long period of time, we may find ourselves struggling with resentment. It is our fleshy response to indignities, insults, and injustice. Yet unresolved resentment can hover over our lives causing havoc on us internally and those who live with us—even if they aren’t the cause of our pain. We must look to the word of God for help to overcome resentment:

Focus on God

“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God” (Colossians 3:1).

It’s incredibly tempting to focus our attentions on those who’ve hurt us. Yet we must intentionally look to God for help. He knows what we are going through and will supply the strength for us to overcome resentment. As we set our eyes on His grace, love, and mercy—we will find the peace we need.

Get busy about God’s work

“We want each of you to show this same diligence to the very end, so that what you hope for may be fully realized” (Hebrews 6:11).

Too much time talking and thinking about how we were wronged only builds a strong foothold for Satan to step into our lives. We must keep ourselves busy about doing God’s work in our homes, jobs, schools, and communities. Licking our wounds can only suffice for a short season. We must continue to press forward in God’s work in building the kingdom.

7 Bible Verses To Help Overcome Resentment

Return good for evil

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good” (Romans 12:21).

Our flesh desires to do evil to those who’ve hurt or mistreated family, friends, or us personally. Yet as those who’ve been bought with a price—we aren’t our own, we belong to God. Anytime we return good to those who’ve done evil to us, we are representing the Lord we serve and not ourselves. It is a spiritual act of worship to do good for those who’ve done evil to us.

Know that God is still in control

“Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God. Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows” (Luke 12:6-7).

When we are tempted towards resentment because of an evil act that was done to us, it can be difficult to believe that God is still in control. Yet Joseph’s response to his brother’s heartless act of selling him as a slave was “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives” (Genesis 50:20). We have no idea what God is still working out.

Trust in the Lord to repay

“Alexander the metalworker did me a great deal of harm. The Lord will repay him for what he has done” (2 Timothy 4:14).

Paul wasn’t shy about naming the names of those who frustrated the work of God in his life. He affirmed with resolution that God will deal with his enemies. As with Paul, we will have difficult people to deal with and many of whom will cause much friction along the way. Yet we don’t have to harbor resentment; rather, we trust in God’s ability to right all the wrongs both in this lifetime and the next.

Forgive those who’ve hurt you

“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins” (Mark 11:25).

Resentment and forgiveness can’t simultaneously dwell in our hearts. Eventually one will be stronger and overcome the other. Forgiveness is our choice to make in the face of resisting resentment. In our flesh, it’s not easily given, but in the Spirit we can freely forgive just as we have been forgiven. Forgiving others is our spiritual response to the temptation of resentment.

Be Thankful for what you do have

“Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe, for our “God is a consuming fire” (Hebrews 12:28-29).

Resentment focuses entirely on what we’ve lost or what we could’ve had as ours. However, if we make the conscious choice of thanking God for what we do have—the power of resentment will be broken. Start with the simplest of things to be thankful for and build up to the greater things, we will have the power to move forward with hope.

Get Rid of Resentment

No true believer can really be used in their faith in an awesome way unless they’ve released resentment. Holding onto resentment will always stunt spiritual growth. The Lord desires that His people be free to live and move according to His will. Letting go of resentment will empower each believer to experience the greater things in the Lord.

More verses to consider: Bible Verses to Comfort the Hurting

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Vicky January 30, 2016 at 4:50 pm

Thank you so much for posting this. I was dealing with so much resentment against my spouse. I feel like he was accomplishing so much at my expense while my career and growth took a back seat and yet not including me in his decisions nor his process as the helper that God has called me to be. I read your post and prayed on every scriptural reference and used it as a devotional and Through the power of His Spirit God has used the words that I now know He inspired you to write to set me free my heart feels light as a feather. God bless you


Todd Kilian February 24, 2016 at 4:21 pm

I have been denying Gods grace in my life for 4 years now. My Life and marriage has fallen to pieces as a result. My wife and I have separated and are living separate lives. I have tried doing it my way to get back together with her but I have an immense amount of resentment toward her for things ee has done to me to the point that as beautiful as she is she is not the least bit attractive to me. I didn’t even want to look at her. My spiritual growth has stopped also. I cannot live with this resentment anymore. This page is helping me find forgiveness and grace again. I’m opening my heart again to God because i know I cannot do this alone. I want my life and my wife back.


Indira Paul February 25, 2017 at 10:07 am

Thank u very much ma’am for such wonderful verses, I am married since 3years, even though, my mother in law is good,she never keeps good terms with me, always fights & sends me to my mother’s house for no reason, no one can question her, as she is very dominating person, I developed a kind of hatred & anger towards her,as she is always making me to stay away from my husband, whom i love very much, now i am understanding resentment & spirituality cannot go together, I pray God to help me to over come it & accept my mother in law as she is. Thank u


lc5kids March 14, 2017 at 3:50 pm

I searched for verses to deal with resentment. This came up 1st. I am having difficulty with being happy for a group that is growing. This after several “Godly” people trashed my Husbands reputation and treated him like he was evil. It effected my kids and me deeply. We still have friends involved with this group whom I love dearly. This is why I am having trouble with being happy when good things happen for that group. Dealing with this and the fact that things have not gone the best with my Husband finding a “position”. My head knows God is in control but boy do I get irritated, which leads Satan to move in. I will print these verses out and pray over them. Thank you.


Marie Scialpa February 13, 2019 at 1:39 pm

Thank you so much for these verses. I pray that I too will find God to help me with grace, love, wisdom, strength, and forgiveness through this coming year and for years to come. I do not want to live in anger or hatred any longer but free from it all. I promise to pray everyday over them to keep Satan from stealing my joy.


Ebai Emmanuel Ewangi April 18, 2020 at 5:22 pm

Truth you have to Seek God’s intervention and Surpass evil


Jack Wellman April 18, 2020 at 5:35 pm

Yes, and we cannot do it wihtout God’s help.


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