5 Prayers For Reconciliation In Relationships Between Spouses

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Here are 5 prayers for reconciliation in relationships between spouses.

Prayer of Forgiveness

Righteous Father,

I know that You seek to have us always be in a right relationship with You and sometimes I do things that grieve You. I know that I do and say things that grieve my spouse too so I am asking You to give me the right words to say to be reconciled to my spouse.  I know I have made many mistakes and have asked for forgiveness from them but it seems that it hasn’t restored our marriage to where we’re both in a right relationship with one another and I know You desire us to be in one.  I need Your help.  Please send me Your Spirit to show me what I might have done wrong that I was not even aware of and soften my spouse’s heart to accept my faults and extend forgiveness to me so that we can worship You together in the way that is pleasing to You and in the way You intended a husband and a wife to be joined together in offering You thanksgiving, praise, and honor.  I know that in my own inadequacies I cannot fully understand how to always say the right words or do the right things but it is my desire to be reconciled with my beloved mate and it is in the strong name of and for the glory of the name above all names, Jesus Christ my Lord, Amen.

5 Prayers For Reconciliation In Relationships Between Spouses

Prayer of Blessing

Great God in heaven,

I am asking You for Your forgiveness for things that I have done to You that are clearly sinful for I am surely not sinless (1 John 1:8-10) and forgive me for those things that I have obviously done wrong to my spouse to hurt them and cause them pain.   I am asking You to bless my spouse and help them to understand how far I fall short of the perfect spouse and I pray for Your help in knowing how I can help to restore this relationship and make it more of the way You originally intended for us to have a right relationship with one another and with You.  I know that my prayers have sometimes been hindered because of my own stubborn heart and unwillingness to be a greater servant of my spouse and to love them in the way that You have loved me, even dying for me while I was Your enemy (Rom 5:10) and a sinner (Rom 5:9).  Please extend to me Your mercy and grace and allow me to treat my spouse in the way that You love me unconditionally and not treat them the way that I often do.  I need Your help in doing these things and again, bless my spouse and I thank You for my spouse and for Your forgiveness, love, and grace and in the precious name of the Savior, Jesus Christ I pray, Amen.

Prayer of Reconciliation

Father in heaven,

You have reconciled me to Yourself through Your Son’s precious blood and so I am begging You to help me be reconciled to my beloved spouse.  Only You can change the human heart (Prov 21:1) so I ask You to change my heart to be one that seeks to humble myself and seek reconciliation in my relationship with my mate.  Too often I speak without thinking and I know my words hurt my spouse but this is no excuse for the things that I speak to them.  I ask for Your Spirit to be sent to help us be reconciled with one another as Your Son’s precious blood was shed for our being reconciled to You (2 Cor 5:18; Col 1:20).  This I pray for Your Son’s most holy name and for His glory, Amen.

Prayer of Restoration


You are in the restoration business; restoring me by giving me Your Spirit.  You have made me into a new creation in Christ (2 Cor 5:17) and I am pleading with You to help me restore this marital relationship with my beloved spouse.  How often have I done things out of pure selfish ambition and gain?  I cannot count the times where I was only looking out for my own interests and not that of my spouse.  Please forgive me for my selfishness and help our relationship be restored to the way it previously was.  I need Your help in doing this because I don’t always know the right thing to say or do and I lack Your wisdom in acting out of a sincere and genuine heart that is motivated only by serving my spouse and loving them in the way that You love me.  What more can I do to help in restoring this relationship to where You would have it be?  Help me to think, act, and speak in ways that would reflect Your own love and for this I pray in the precious name of the Great Son of God, Jesus Christ, Amen.

Prayer of Repentance


I repent of my sins and my sins against my spouse.  I am so sorry and I need to tell You and my spouse that I have sinned.  Let me be humble in approaching them by telling them that I have sinned against them by the way that I have acted or by the words that I have used.  I know that I don’t always treat my spouse in the way that I am supposed to because there are many times that I am still more concerned about myself more than I am my spouse.  I need to esteem my spouse, to cherish my spouse, and to extend to them the same grace and mercy that You extended to me, even though I didn’t deserve it.  Help me to understand that I cannot fix relationships on my own.  Only Your Spirit can give me a tenderer heart and please soften my spouses heart too so that they can accept my apologies and to let them know that I often act out of impulse and pride.  Help me to know the right words to say to them so that I can show them that I have a repentant heart and seek to be reconciled to them in our relationship because the relationship between a husband and wife is supposed to reflect that of the relationship that Jesus Christ has with me and with the church.  For this I pray for the Son of God’s glory and in His name, Amen.

Final Thoughts

Maybe you’ve prayed such a prayer before.  I know I have and I also know that I’ll need to again being I am a fallen creature.  I need God’s help in knowing how to pray and how to seek forgiveness and to love my spouse in a way that shows her that I do and not just depend on words alone.  Can you comment by giving us your own prayer so that we might know what to pray and how to pray it?

Take a look at some Bible verses about marriage: Bible Verses About Marriage

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Vennesa Arrah July 26, 2019 at 9:54 am

Sir please help me ask God make my Roland to forgive me.I have hurt him several times and his is about to take another woman to the alter we have been together for 12 years. Sir please help pray for peace and unity in my relationship


Jack Wellman July 26, 2019 at 10:17 am

Praying now Vennesa.


Jiffy August 15, 2019 at 9:34 pm

Agree in pray with me for understanding. My spouse has been living in a different island from me. I have stand beside him through every thing he has been through. I have sense something wrong from the tone of his messages. He is not talking about giving up on us. He says I don’t love him, I have put my children before him. The devil has raised its head before and God crushed his head. Now again he wants to destroy my family. Pray God will work this out again. Show me how I can be a better spouse.


Shannon August 26, 2019 at 11:22 am

Pls pray that God will do a mighty miracle in my marriage of 24 yrs. We have been through so much. I have been sexually abused by a dr. We have experienced a lot of trauma. We’re in the process of getting divorced. With the idea that couples get remarried. Pls pray for God’s restoration & healing. As well as His protection. That he would use us for his glory & our good! That the enemy would not be victorious in destroying our relationship! That God would bring us back together, stronger than before! That no footholds or strongholds would remain! Thank u!


Jack Wellman August 26, 2019 at 1:38 pm

Praying right now for this Shannon.


Claire September 11, 2019 at 11:30 am

Dear Jack, please oray for ne to be transformed and become the wife God intends for me to be and the wife my husband deserves. Our marriage of 27 years is on the brink of divorce please pray for me to have more of a servants heart towards my husband and get rid oif my selfish tendencies. I need my husband to forgive me and the walls of hostility to come crashing down. In the holy name of Jesus I ask.


Jack Wellman September 11, 2019 at 11:37 am

Hello Clarie, my sister. You can count my prayers in for you in this relationship. We know that God alone can change the heart (Prov 21:1), so let’s pray for that and anyone else reading this, please, I beg you, pray for Claire.


Prestina Gabriel September 13, 2019 at 4:15 am

Praying for Travis to forgive me so we can try for another baby I have hurt him in the past by words I said but I have been asking for his forgiveness ever since.Ww have been together 12 years lost our son in april of 2013 when I was 5 months pregnant I said hurtful words for him that I have heard him repeat for the last 6 years.Im past ready for him to forgive me so we can start our family and be happy.


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