5 Biblical Steps For Restoring Broken Relationships

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I have a friend who says that relationships are like gardens, they must be cultivated. She also said that the most difficult thing to restore is a broken relationship. Though it is difficult to do, broken relationships can be restored and as with other issues of life, the Bible has guidance for this. Here are 5 Biblical steps for restoring broken relationships.

Be Sure All are Committed With Love

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13

Loss of commitment in a relationship will lead to a breakup. Cultivation of a relationship requires hard work and much love. Lovingly remind others in a broken relationship that you care for them. Tell them you are committed to restoring the relationship and keeping it healthy. Ask them if they are willing to do the same. Commitment to the relationship is the first step to restoration and all parties in the relationship must be committed to it.

Humble Yourself

Commitment, humility, time, forgiveness and proper communication are all steps that will lead to restoration in a way that will please the Lord.

Commitment, humility, time, forgiveness and proper communication …

Do this now, my son, and deliver thyself, when thou art come into the hand of thy friend; go, humble thyself, and make sure thy friend. Proverbs 6:3

One of the greatest things you can do to restore a broken relationship is to humble yourself and admit where you were wrong. God loves a humble heart and He will be glorified when you take this brave step forward and admit how your actions contributed to the breakup. Your humble attitude will show the love of Christ and possibly cause others to do the same.

Don’t Rush It

Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD. Psalm 27:14

Remember that sometimes the Lord gives us trials in our life so that we take time to cultivate our relationship with Him. When our relationship with the Lord is right all other relationships on earth fall into place. Don’t forget to “take time” to examine your relationship with the Lord, spend time daily with Him in His word and ask Him for his guidance with restoration. Then when He gives an answer trust Him to make it happen.

Ask Forgiveness and Grant Forgiveness

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:14-15

Just as it is important to humble ourselves and admit when we are wrong, it is important to ask for forgiveness. When you ask forgiveness the forgiving party forfeits their right to ever bring it up again. We can choose to remember the transgressions no more, just as the Lord does (Isaiah 43:25-26). The same holds true when you grant forgiveness to another, put it behind you and don’t bring it up again. Forgiveness is a key component to restoration of a relationship.

Remember the Rules of Communication

Moving forward with a healthy relationship requires proper communication. These four simple rules are easy to remember and priceless when applied. Memorize them and teach them to those with whom you have relations. You will be blessed.

But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: Ephesians 4:15

1. Be Honest – Speak the truth in love and remember shouting does not make it true.

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27

2. Keep current – Resolve your issues today and once they are resolved do not bring then back up tomorrow.

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Ephesians 4:29-30

3. Attack the problem, not the person – Take care to speak kindly to one another. Avoid absolutes like “always”, “never”, “ever”. For example instead of saying “You NEVER take out the trash” consider saying “It would be helpful if you take out the trash more often”. When we are not careful how we say things we are grieving the Holy Spirit because He would NEVER prompt us to do that.

He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him. The heart of the prudent getteth knowledge; and the ear of the wise seeketh knowledge. He that is first in his own cause seemeth just; but his neighbour cometh and searcheth him. A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city: and their contentions are like the bars of a castle. (Proverbs 18:13,15,17,19)

4. Act, Don’t React – I believe this is the most difficult thing to bear in mind when we are communicating. It is so easy to respond in an ungodly way when we are in the heat of discussion. It is only when we take care to think about the information being presented and then slowly respond that we are able to act instead of reacting.

In Summary

Relationships, just like gardens are hard work. They require constant cultivation. Commitment, humility, time, forgiveness and proper communication are all steps that will lead to restoration in a way that will please the Lord. I pray that if you are struggling with a relationship that you have the courage to read, meditate upon and share this article with others and that you will soon be on your way to restoration. May God bless you as you choose His way.

Resource – The Holy Bible, King James Version



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emeldah November 18, 2019 at 8:49 am

i pray that God restore my relationship which is falling apart. I hv been in this relationship with him for 7 years and i love him so much now he has left me for another woman, i know God can restore it. Please help me in prayers i want him back.

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Shelly April 28, 2020 at 2:54 pm

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Jack Wellman April 28, 2020 at 3:07 pm

Hello Shelly. I had to edit part of your comment because of the inappropriate nature and contact information that could cause others to be mislead. Scientists agree that there is no cure for herpes. If there were, we’d have found it today and it’s not in herbs. Almost every herb known to man has been tested for this and found to be useless. Even though some symptoms might improve, it is short-term and is not a cure, but there are medicines that can prevent or shorten outbreaks. One of these anti-herpes medicines can be taken daily, and makes it less likely that you will pass the infection on to your sex spouse. Spam is not allowed, especially unproven and untested claims whereby certain herbs this man has, could be potentially fatal to some people on medications or with chronic health issues. Please find another line of work rather than peddling useless things and this site is for Christians, and we won’t allow them to be fleeced! I pray you have repented and trusted in Christ or far worse than herpes will come someday (Rev 20:12-15).

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Fade December 22, 2019 at 6:58 am

I want Restoration between myself and T, it been a rough journey since October now and I’m now short of prayers . But i still believe strongly in God for a breakthrough as my heart chooses him over and over again

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Melissa Williams February 23, 2020 at 8:24 am

My fiancee left me because I told my dad about why I was crying. My dad now showed how ungrateful he was to my fiancee. And my fiancee was his right hand man. We have a child together and I’m pregnant for him again. He loved me before and now he wants nothing to do with me again ever, I know we

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Caryl Cheatwood March 7, 2020 at 8:43 pm

Please heal the relationship between myself and a special person in my family

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Clara jiffany April 2, 2020 at 9:47 am

Please pray for me so that my relationship with Gift can be restored. We have been together for 3 years but he left me for another woman. I believe there is still time for him to come back to me.

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Divine April 12, 2020 at 10:51 am

Please pray for me my relationship had fallen but i believe God can restore my relationship and bring the love of my life back…holy spirit of the mist high God please intervene on my relationship.Amen

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CHAPMAN MSOWOYA May 18, 2020 at 8:21 am

I’m praying to get my fiancee back, I know I messed up but I believe I have what it takes to be a better man. I was so childish and never appreciated the opportunity she gave me. I lost my relationship and I’m in deep depression. She blocked me everywhere, but I believe with God all things are possible, please how can I approach this situation, I know her place but she told me never to go there. I am willing to do whatever it takes to make things happen.

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Taylor May 20, 2020 at 7:57 am

Please pray for my relationship. We have been together for 4 years. I believe God can restore this relationship, I just pray he can allow God to take over as well. We love each other so very much. I know God can get us through this.

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Khari June 1, 2020 at 3:52 pm

Lord, I ask for restoration. I ask you to bring forth B and I’s spirit and to soften our hearts to how our love used to be. We both love each other, why make this harder than it needs to be. I ask that restore trust in me and forgiveness. The last 5years were made of strength, please don’t let us forget we can get through this tough time. I ask that you repair, guide, and protect us from things not sent from you. Thank you for all your blessings and for bringing us to each other. In Jesus’s name, Amen.

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Charles June 17, 2020 at 10:40 am

I seek for prayers . My four years marriage is breaking up. My wife has refused to allow me go pay her dowry. When I told her that I will pray God to restore her back to me she said unless I got to witch doctors. I am borne again I can’t consult witchcraft. Please pray for my wife. I need her back. Her name is Aziza. May my God proof himself against every satanic power and restore Aziza back to me in Jesus name.

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Jack Wellman June 17, 2020 at 11:29 am

I will pray for this Charles. I am glad you did not go to witch doctors are these aer satanic.

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Klaudia November 8, 2020 at 12:47 pm

Lord, I m asking for your forgiveness,healing and restoration of my relationship with Petrus. I gave everything in your hand, touch his heart to forgive me if am wrong and connect us together once again . Open his heart to remember me everyday and bring us each other. Destroy every satanic power that want to keep us apart Lord.touch his heart and bring him close to you. Amen

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Chika November 26, 2020 at 2:03 am

I don’t know if it’s still possible to restore my marriage again.
My hope is in God. i know I made a mistake because I was childish. All I pray now is Lord let your will be done.

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