Bible Verses About Dating: 20 Scriptures Quotes

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One of the things that Christians can mostly agree to disagree upon is the subject of dating. Perhaps this is because that word “dating” is not even used in the Bible, yet the idea of relationships between men and women are laced throughout God’s Word. For the purposes of this article let’s define dating as “when there is a relationship between one man and one woman which goes beyond friendship and continues into marriage; dating would be the time they spend with one another”. Some Christians hold to the “courtship” view, which is a way for the man and woman to get to know each other, and each other’s family, with the permission of parents. Generally, the man and woman are chaperoned during a courtship. Bible verses about dating then could include most any verse that speaks of relationships and the importance of choosing a like-minded Christian as a husband or wife. Take a look at these Bible verses about dating and then go ahead and include your own below in the comments.

Choose Someone Who Loves the Lord Above All

Bible Verses About Dating

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.

Matthew 6:33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Matthew 10:37 Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.

Matthew 22:39 And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind…”

Choose Someone Who Walks With the Lord

Psalms 46:5 God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

2 Corinthians 6:14-15 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?

1 Peter 4:8 Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

Choose Someone Who Displays Good Fruit & Is Like-minded

Romans 12:9-10 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Galatians 5:22-24 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.  And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

Ephesians 5:19  And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart

Philippians 2:5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus

Be Careful to Remain Pure: Marriage is the Goal

Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Job 31:1 I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?

Proverbs 4:23 Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

Romans 12:1-2 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20  Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1 Timothy 5:22 Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, nor take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure.

Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

A Couple Other Things to Consider

Here are a couple other articles from our archives that you might like to read:

What Does the Bible Teach About Sex Outside Of Marriage?

How To Know You Are A Christian: 10 Traits Of A True Christian


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BibleLoveVerses March 1, 2012 at 10:54 am

I think that no other verse compared to this one when talking about love!
“So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.” (Genesis 29:20)


Pam March 1, 2012 at 9:43 pm

Ah yes, that is true love BibleLoveVerses. Jack here at WCWTK wrote a great article about Jacob and Rachel, you can read it here:

Thanks for stopping by and visit again anytime!


Jimmy December 22, 2012 at 9:29 am

i need some advice about a potential partner. I was reading the Bible and came across a saying about wisdom. I was looking for answers dont know if i found one. I use to date this female back when i was younger she broke up with me and she got married and then devorced and has a son now. I read that it is unholy for a man to remarry his wife after she has devorced him and married somebody else. Does this rule apply if we were dating?


David June 17, 2013 at 8:52 pm

I’m not exactly sure if I’m clear on what your whole situation is, but I noticed no one had answered your question yet so I figured I’d give it a shot. In Matthew 19:1-9 Jesus answers a question of the Pharisees about divorce. He gives them the one and only reason a person is allowed to divorce (verses 8-9). The Bible is clear in its teaching that divorce is only for the reason of sexual immorality. I’m not entirely sure if that answers your question or not, but I’m trying to approach it from a few angles.
If your question is whether or not you are allowed to marry her after her divorce, you must ask the question whether or not she was divorced for the right reason. There are several other passages that address this subject, but I just wanted to give you a big one from Jesus’ words in the gospels. If you have any other questions hopefully we can help! God bless!


mactivish magadaire May 6, 2012 at 6:47 am

So inspiring and full of teaching keeep up the good work and stay blessed.


Pamela Rose Williams May 6, 2012 at 5:36 pm

Thank you for your kind words mactivish magadaire. If the Lord tarries I will continue to write about His wonderful word.


ackeem spence May 22, 2012 at 11:54 am

god is love


Pamela Rose Williams May 22, 2012 at 9:57 pm



Tyler Burke June 11, 2012 at 1:24 am

In the above: When you are using Psalms 46:5 to talk about finding your significant other, the passage is actually describing the sacred home of the Most High. It is talking about how the house of God cannot be destroyed. In my NLT version it says “A river brings joy to the city of our God, the sacred home of the Most High. God dwells in that city, it cannot be destroyed. From the very break of day, God will protect it.” Psalms 46:4-5


Tyler Burke June 11, 2012 at 1:33 am

Reading a lot of the verses you have selected plus the verses leading up to the selected verse, I feel you have taken a lot of them out of context. 1 Peter 4:8 But most important, continue to show deep love for each other, for lover covers a multitude of sins. Now read this, 1 Peter 4:7-9 The end of the world is coming soon. Therefore, be earnest and disciplined in your prayers. But most important, continue to show deep love for each other, for lover covers a multitude of sins. Cheerfully share your home with those who need a meal or a place to stay.


Nessy Muwengwa February 15, 2013 at 7:35 am

wat a powerful God’s Word may the Lord kep on Blessing yu


james simeon March 19, 2013 at 2:24 am

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Gershon Appiah Danquah December 15, 2013 at 6:21 pm

God bless us all. Amen!


Joe August 9, 2015 at 1:32 pm

I’m not so sure about the “like-minded” thing. My first date was someone I had (and still have) a lot in common with. But we only went out one time, because she claimed we were “different.) Yet she married someone she has almost nothing in common with, and I did also. The people I get along with best are those whom I seem to have little in common with.


Freelyn August 10, 2015 at 10:04 pm

Praise be to God… :)God bless everyone.. 🙂


Kay November 9, 2015 at 6:47 pm

My heart is hurts and I am so sad over an ended relationship…I know he was not right for me and he is not a Christian….but I miss him terribly!
I miss the friendship as much as the relationship. I know God won’t tempt me with more than what i can endure- yet I am right there on the edge….and I just want that companionship because i am lonely!
Please take a minute to reach out to a friend or acquaintance that you know
might be lonely or hurting….thanks!


Kris January 19, 2016 at 11:42 pm

I’m not sure if this will get a ply, but it’s worth a shot.
I have been dating this guy for a year and a half now, he’s not a Christian, so that’s already one problem. He’s broken up with me several times, due to his own complexes and such. He flipped once again this July that passed, and left me. During the break (obviously extremely hurt) I worked on myself, and spent a lot of time with a long time guy friend.
I used to have a crush on this friend, but obviously it didn’t exist when I was with my boyfriend of the time. I spending time with this friend, those feelings resurfaced. And I didn’t want to accept it because I had honestly felt that God had put my ex in my life (for a long term relationship/marriage). But this friend is first and foremost a Christian. Not strong strong, but he understands my beliefs and my morals completely. He’s never mocked me, unlike my ex. He has been there emotionally for me, so much more than my ex had/has been. And I felt that he liked me as well, but he never made a mood; I’m assuming because he was respecting the fact that I still had feelings for my ex. I enjoyed the company from my friend but wasn’t sure because I missed being in a relationship or what.
So in November my ex and I start speaking again, and finally got back together in December. But in all honesty, I felt that I didn’t completely believe that he could have possibly changed every single little thing that he had wrong. But this was who, from what I believed from past experiences, was the man for me. So I went with the flow. Before we got officially together, everything was wonderful. I was so in love with him. We got back together and it still was great for a while, but things started happening left and right, getting worse and worse each problem.
I recently had a friend that passed. A true child of God. The day I found out, my boyfriend was trying to deny it and telling me that he has to be okay, this and that. Eventually he accepted that it was true, but then he started petty fights, so he wasn’t there for me emotionally, whatsoever. My other two friends (one being the guy I mentioned earlier) were there for me right away. The day of the funeral, everyone was there for me, except for my boyfriend. He had school, and I can’t ask him to miss school, but he didn’t seem too concerned with what was happening. My guy friend held on to me the whole time. I didn’t feel alone like I did the day I found out.
I haven’t been the same since that incident with my boyfriend. And many fights have happened that have not helped. He acts bipolar, disrespecting me in one moment and in the next wanting attention. He’s only thought about himself. He’s been manipulative, emotionally abusive, and just not verbal. From my experiences with him and God, I’ve believed he was the one, but I can’t understand how it could be so toxic. And I find myself wanting more and more my friend, which makes me feel like I’m cheating, even if I do not do anything about it. I don’t know if I want my friend altogether, or if I’m just yearning for those qualities in my boyfriend. I’ve contemplated breaking up with him but I don’t know what to do.
I love him but I have to love myself and God more. I can’t give what I don’t feel, and right now I’m not completely sure how to love him. I’ve been put down so much. So I don’t know if God never allowed me to be with my friend – when I had first liked him – because he was going through a phase, put my boyfriend in my life to give me experience and to grow, and to now be ready to be with my friend. Or just anyone in general. I’ve never been so confused and I really need guidance


Jack Wellman January 20, 2016 at 3:56 pm

I would wait right now and not make any decision. Do you have a trusted older Christian woman in the church you attend? Share this with her or your mom if possible. Something tells me by your reluctance you can’t give what you don’t feel so since you’re so unsure, do nothing, wait on God’s timing. You’ll know with almost absolute certainty when that time comes. Read Psalm 37 as it’s about waiting, trusting, resting in God and He will give you the desires of your heart but only if you delight in Him and delighting in Him means living a life of holiness that is pleasing to God.


Betty February 19, 2016 at 4:19 pm

The little I have to say is that I understand your confusion I myself had to stop waiting for a guy to notice me and make our relationship work. The moment I made up my mind to stop waiting and decided to give dating a break altogether my true love came through a dear friend who has been always there for me couldn’t see it at first cos all my efforts were into the guy I liked then. First your boyfriend is not saved, kindly pray for him and try witnessing to him but prayer to soften his heart is key then two kindly let go of him. I don’t know his demands as he’s not a Christian. Is he respecting the Christian code of purity and all that? Please for your own good take a step back take in a deep breath wait on the Lord and make a decision.


Alexandra May 23, 2016 at 11:17 pm

I know I’m a little late to the comments/questions but I have a question. Is there an example of people who did actually date/court in the bible? I’ve been looking everywhere for an example and all I keep finding is guidelines. When I say dating I mean morally not the whole sex before marriage type of dating. My father says that I may date (I will be an adult next year anyway but I do not want to disrespect my father if I do find someone that I think could be a potential husband) if I find an example of it in the bible. He believes that just because he did not date that I do not need to either. I would like to hopefully show him that moral dating is indeed in the bible so that things will be easier if I do find someone to love.


mbinya petronila June 2, 2016 at 11:33 am

im in love with a guy,he is loved by many ladies . he accepts,does sex with whoever he wants,when i get him,he humbles and says will never repeat again…i love this guy very much,he says that loves me also,we are from different tribes,his father dislikes our tribe and he doesn’t know about our relationship.i feel that is Gods choosen because whoever comes on my way i reject him and start thinking about him.we are of the same faith and can lead each other to the kingdom of heaven. im really looking forward to get a person whom we have the same faith and can lead to the kingdom of heaven.this guy can do it we only differ in that tribe which his parents hate and his liking of sex(not faithful to me)and we usually part for some time just because of this issue of sex.i feel that im very much faithful to him and also love him…and i find myself begging him to reconcile and continue with the relationship of which im not the one doing the mistake but i tell him to reconcile…need your prayers and pieces of advice.


Jack Wellman June 2, 2016 at 1:31 pm

Please know that no sexually immoral person is really a Christian and will not be in heaven but hell. Don’t depend on what you feel but trust what God says and all such people like this are headed for the lake of fire (Rev 21:8). Please don’t deceive yourself. Read 1 John chapter 3 to see why this man is no Christian at all. Pray that he is saved. If you marry him and he’s already proven he loves sex outside of marriage, what makes you think he won’t cheat on you? Warning…this man could bring you down with him into sexual immorality. He doesn’t have the fruit of a Christian but of an unsaved man (Gal 5) and we are not to be unequally yoked (or joined) with unbelievers.


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