Bible Verses About Helping Others: 21 Top Scriptures

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So many times we want to give more to those that need help. We might think that giving only comes in the form of cash donations. This is not true; you can give by helping others. Everyone can give something whether it is time, money or some other way of helping others. Helping others includes the times when you visit the sick, run errands for someone who is unable or even when you just offer your umbrella to someone on a rainy day. Let’s take a look at these Bible verses about helping others.

Helping Others Shown in Moses’ Time

Exodus 17:12 But Moses’ hands grew weary, so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it, while Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side. So his hands were steady until the going down of the sun.

Deuteronomy 15:11 For there will never cease to be poor in the land. Therefore I command you, ‘You shall open wide your hand to your brother, to the needy and to the poor, in your land.’

Jesus Spoke About Helping Others

Bible Verses About Helping Others

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ (Galatians 6:2)

Matthew 5:16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

Matthew 5:42 Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.

Matthew 10:8 Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse lepers, cast out demons. You received without paying; give without pay.

Matthew 25:35-40 For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’

Luke 3:10-11 And the crowds asked him, “What then shall we do?” And he answered them, “Whoever has two tunics is to share with him who has none, and whoever has food is to do likewise.”

Luke 12:33-34 Sell your possessions, and give to the needy. Provide yourselves with moneybags that do not grow old, with a treasure in the heavens that does not fail, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

John 15:12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you…”

Apostles Preached and Wrote About Helping Others

James – Doing

James 1:17 Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.

James 2:14-17 What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.

John – Loving

John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.

1 John 3:17 But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him?

1 John 4:19-20 We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.

Paul – Putting Others First

Acts 20:35-38 In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’” And when he had said these things, he knelt down and prayed with them all. And there was much weeping on the part of all; they embraced Paul and kissed him, being sorrowful most of all because of the word he had spoken, that they would not see his face again. And they accompanied him to the ship.

Romans 12:13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.

Romans 15:1 We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves.

2 Corinthians 8:9 For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sake he became poor, so that you by his poverty might become rich.

Galatians 6:2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

Ephesians 4:28 Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need.

Philippians 2:4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Does Anybody Love?

What are you doing about help others? How about that little girl that does not have a Mommy, can you invite her to the Mother/Daughter Tea with you? How about that young man that has grown up without a Dad, can you sit with him once a week and teach him the Word of the Lord? What about the lady across the road that is too old to keep the outside or inside of her house in good condition, can you lend a hand – without expecting to be paid? As the Church we are called to love one another and one way that we do that is by helping others. When was the last time you put your love in action? Don’t forget to listen to the video in the upper right of this page “Does Anybody Hear Her” by Casting Crowns; it will make you think and even perhaps it will make you act.

If you are looking for a way to help others today, maybe you can consider sponsoring a child that is less fortunate through the great ministry of Compassion International.

Sources:  The Holy Bible, English Standard Version “Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.”  YouTube “Does Anybody Hear Her?” by Casting Crowns

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Allen Redden March 17, 2012 at 12:40 pm

My name is Allen. A young man who is trying to serve the Lord and follow his commandments, according to his word. I am a man who is willing to help other’s when I am able, what God asked of us to do. To help each other. I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive. (Acts 20:35), I will help encourage other’s to do better in their life. I will call out to my friends or my teachers or my Pastors when I do not know the answer, thus God will show me where I can find the answer to the problem. But although I will do all these things when I am able to do them. Now it’s a time where I need a Blessing. I have been looking for a Full time job now for 5 years, my credit has gone very bad. I can not pay off my loans, and it’s hurting me even more. I can’t afford to buy me a coke or a sandwich from a restaurant, I have to live off my family/friends in order to maintain good health and to have a place to live. I am a man who desires to be married, a man who cares about my life and where my life is going but now I am soon to be 26 years of age and I still see my life right now hard and no way out. Though I believe in God that in the end I will have the victory, I still struggle and still want my desires of my heart . I don’t ask for much, I ask for the simple things. A job to get me stable so I can buy me a little home, a job so when I meet that women I want to marry, I can take care of her and or the Child I wish to have someday if it comes my way. Or the Coke at the restaurant I can not afford. What does it take for a man who loves God, a man who cares about his life to do great things, a man who want’s to achieve? What does it takes for a man to earn that dollar so he can call himself independent? What does it takes for that man to earn a dollar so he can take that special one out to dinner? What does it takes? What does it takes? I am writing to someone today that is reading this to hear that I have a prayer. I am not confused in my life, because I know what I want in my life and I know what I need in order to get it but still have not gotten it. What does it takes? What does it takes? What does it takes, for a good man who cares, for a good man who loves. My question to you today is, what does it takes.

(P.S.) I love your page, but my friend, Christian friend, what does it takes , what does it takes?


Cathy August 8, 2012 at 4:58 pm


There’s only one thing that is impt. in this world: GOD. Having a genuine faith in HIM and constantly begging for HIS mercy and grace, is what it takes for you to have the desires of your heart…it is not our own hopes and dreams that will help us reach our goal…..but GOD’s own divine plan and will. No matter how good or achievable our dreams may be, if it is not in line with what GOD wants you to do and become, then that causes the delay in the fulfillment of HIS plan for us.
I’m telling this not to discourage you my friend, but I am basing this from experience. I also had simple dreams then but when GOD called me and asked me to “take up my cross”, all those dreams became the total opposite of what I have expected. GOD did not give me a good life, but HE gave me strength to endure what is yet to come, and filled my life with HIs neverending grace and mercy. GOD filled my heart with LOVE, that I may be able to love the unlovable. GOD gave me trials that I may be sensitive to others who are also going through the same hardships, that I may serve as an inspiration to them as well.


Nancy April 2, 2015 at 10:21 am

It takes patience and trust. Trust in God and believe. Dont ask when, but simply say ‘Thank you Lord for all that you have done and is going to do in my life.’


Bob March 17, 2012 at 1:39 pm

I love what you read. You are right and I hear your Prayer. When I am able to I will help you. And I Pray that many more other’s will hear your prayer to.


Jaida May 19, 2012 at 3:25 pm

I will pray that you can earn the money to buy yourself what you need, and take care of who you need to.


Tony July 7, 2012 at 9:50 am

So many people say they will pray for those in need… and many of those people actually forget and don’t end up doing even that. Many of the people that say they will pray and to just have faith in God are doing exactly what James 2:14-17 tells us NOT to do:

What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.

So many so-called Christians have the ability to help others in need… yet, are so selfish that they refuse to do so. These people either do not read God’s Word or do not think it applies to them! Ask yourself this… do you have a seek to have God’s heart? If so, then why do so many people not have compassion for people that are without a place to live, food, clothing and much more? How do you react when you see a homeless person on the street? Have you ever volunteered at a food pantry or soup kitchen? The next time you come across someone that is clearly in need… look into your heart and ask yourself if there is something you can do to help them.

Galatians 6:2 says to bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. Are you a law breaker or law fulfiller?


Vanessa September 26, 2012 at 4:59 pm

I agree but believe the *charity/help* should start in the church. How many families are sitting in a pew week in and week out and don’t have enough food to feed their family? Don’t have money to keep their lights or gas on? Yet there are churches going to Africa or India or into Mexico. Nothing against the people that are not in my country or the homeless who are not born again but I say, FAMILY FIRST.


aj faucher September 3, 2012 at 11:47 am

allen do me a favor look up matthew 6: 25 – 34 i have gone through troubles of the same nature and i still am three years later but it gets better day by day this verse helped me through alot and i hope it will do the same for you god bless and i will keep you in my prayers


Vanessa September 26, 2012 at 5:04 pm

Easy to say when no one is dependent on you for their survival like children or a spouse! Believers could very easily *take no thought* if there stomach isn’t grumbling and they have gas in their car to get to work or they have money to wash their kids clothes. How many people sit in church that can offer to help by allowing someone to do laundry at their home? Or have a room they can give free or for a very low fee? I do not believe these are the types of curcumstances the Savior was referring to when He said, Take No Thought…


Sandi August 7, 2015 at 10:58 pm

Hi Vanessa:

I do agree with you that there are so many ways to give today, so many ways to reach out and help others, so many ways to share. So many ways to grow in faith when it comes to helping others. But there is just one problem. FEAR. It is greater today than it has ever been in history. Is it impossible to overcome? Certainly not. All things are possible to him who believes. But FEAR has gripped not only the secular world, but the Christian world too, in so many areas and ways that it is paralyzing.

As far as focusing on assisting, rebuilding and strengthening overseas? It’s easier than tackling the problems at home. Money stretches further overseas, some feel that there is more severe poverty overseas, and many feel that poor and other challenged peoples in the US don’t deserve the help that is sent overseas. It’s a very poor, non-Christian, un-faith-filled attitude.

Dear Lord: Break up the stony ground in the hearts of those who can do more at home. And for those who can share at home as well as abroad, give them a pure heart. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.


raymond October 9, 2012 at 12:05 am

Actually, Vanessa I mean no disrespect whatsoever this is just a friendly debate, I think differently. I strongly believe that that is what God meant for us to do. I believe that God wants us all to be like family to each other, if we lived in other times people were alot friendlier and stuck together for each other in times of need they were trustworthy and in return people could live like everyone was thier brother and sister and those that did do wrong get hot coals heaped upon them in the end when you bless them like God blesses us despite our sins. We are meant to treat everyone like an equal we are to treat everyone as jesus would treat us, we are to sacrifice ourselves for another, however there is also where other parts of the bible come in saying that those who are able to work and do not work should not eat..I hope this makes sense. Sometimes yes it maybe impossible to help there are limits and i believe the bible talks about that as well refering to not bieng a fool with what god gives us.


R.B.Ramesh December 12, 2012 at 5:02 pm

Lovely quotes


Pamela Rose Williams December 12, 2012 at 6:14 pm

Thanks for the kind words R.B.Ramesh. I hope you will come back again to read more.


robin January 11, 2013 at 4:09 pm

I must admit i did not read all comments and do not know if Allan Redden is still reading replies. My godly advice is twofold:
#1 – you seem to have your life mapped out and are asking what does it take to get God to work with you on your plan – altho you did not say so in so many words. Deciding you want a house and marriage and child and job may NOT be what God wants for you. I encourage you to BLINDLY and HONESTLY submit to Him and let Him open the doors He wants you to go thru and YOU just need to be obedient and go thru them. #2 – you mentioned wanting “the desires of your heart” and I take you to Psalm 37:4 where it says “if you take delight in the Lord, then He will give you the desires of your heart.” This DOES NOT MEAN that if you do something for Him that He will give you what you want. Noooo……… means if you delight in Him (read His word, obey His commands, want what HE WANTS) then He will give you desires in your heart that coincide with His. If you have not prayed and fasted on this I strongly urge you to do so. May God bless you as you come to Him without any preconceived ideas, plans, desires, wants, or requests other than to be in His will for your life.


Pamela Rose Williams January 12, 2013 at 12:06 pm

Hello Robin, thank you for your loving and wise advice to Allan. Blessings to you.


Danielle Street February 4, 2013 at 12:19 pm

Hi Pamela, what a wonderful online ministry you maintain! Today I needed a verse about helping others for an article I’m writing for a magazine. You provided me a variety of fantastic verses to choose from!
Thank you!!
Many Blessings,
Danielle Street


Pamela Rose Williams February 4, 2013 at 12:26 pm

So happy to help Danielle. Thank you for your encouraging words. BTW, I took a look at your blog … it is lovely.


Arlene February 5, 2013 at 8:21 pm

good evening! i just LOVE this information on verses and thoughts on helping others. our group is preparing for a day in which we help persons/families in our community. I would like very much to repeat a good part of the paragraph you wrote, Does Anybody Love. Would that be ok with you? please feel free to email me directly with any questions. thank you!


Pamela Rose Williams February 5, 2013 at 8:54 pm

Hello Arlene, Thank you for the encouragement you left here. Look for an email from me with our policy for using content. Blessings.


pastor joseph February 12, 2013 at 10:36 pm

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luke waikabakaba April 24, 2013 at 6:21 pm

reading all the article above give me courage on how to love others. love does not come from the mind full of fault it came from the heart full of love. it a saying that goes start first in Jerusalem which mean all the good thing your do must start first at home, in your family,your relative then goes in church than to all people around you or to anybody. to tell the truth i am not good in reading bible but i do believe in the word of “GOD” which an able me to share his word to everyone. so love one another as god love you.


TYean james May 13, 2013 at 9:44 am

Does God trust us


Gideon May 25, 2013 at 2:19 pm

All that we have it is by grace, we are graced that we can wake up every morning and go to work. we are graced that we are still able to have ideas that can generate wealth. we are graced that our businesses are flourishing. we need to understand that whatever possession we have it is because God trusted us that we can manage it well and distribute it accordingly. so stand up and help a fellow. stand up and adopt an individual. Giving is a positive respond toward John 3:16


FallDown September 9, 2013 at 5:08 pm

DOES anyone love? Really love, with an unguarded heart, even if leaving it unguarded also leaves it open to emotional wolves who think nothing of feeding on it? Gideon is right that all we have is by Grace. I found that out the hard way (though the hard way is what is slowly bringing me back to a God I turned my back on years ago, as many of us do in our arrogant youth, when we think WE are the invincible one). I was blessed with a wonderful loving family. I had a “wealthy” childhood though we were firmly middle class, socioeconomically speaking. But five years ago a series of medical crises struck, and in a brutal 16-month period, lost my family to various cancers and myself, suffered a medical trauma that has left me permanently disabled. My elderly mother and I are all that is left. I was not expected to live a year (it has now been 5). The end of that first year, I discovered all these people who had held prayer circles for me, friends and relatives who prayed for me, asked their fellow church-goers to pray for me. And I the agnostic, slowly, to my own surprise, came to believe that all those prayers kept me alive at the end of that one year I was given. Somehow still keep me alive. But it is a scary living. I never wanted to be the next Bill Gates. I made decent money in a career I chose and loved, worked hard, and earned enough to live the lifestyle that suited me. But I have to confess since my disablement if I could have a “do-over,” I would have chosen a career I may not have loved as much, but would have earned twice as much, for I had that option then (the classic fork in the road), but did not, as none of us does, have the power of foresight. Though it should be the OTHER way around, my now-frail mother is my primary caretaker, a now-middle-aged woman who sits hopelessly watching my mother do and be responsible for things that at her age should not be her burdens, burdens that now make her walk somewhat stooped over when she used to have such a proud, lively gait. A ready smile, a sparkle in her eyes. Now that smiling mouth is instead strained, eyes dull with worry. And fear.

I believe I did not die then because it was not my time. That I firmly believe. But there are too many days when I think it might have been better if I had, though I have no death wish. But I also before had no inkling of what sudden medical-caused poverty can do to a person, body and soul. How draining and terrifying it is going to bed each night yet still being awake when the morning birdsong begins, as the sky begins to lighten. Then and only then do my eyes finally close, from sheer exhaustion, for a few hours’ restless sleep.

My mother and I are scrabbling by on her Social Security check and my disability check, which now put us below the poverty level. We are in a “donut hole” of a different type. We collect about $200 a month “too much” to qualify for any additional state or federal assistance yet not enough to cover my monstrous copays (even with Medicare)–my prescription copays alone are around $14,000 a year. That doesn’t include all my other medical necessities that Medicare does not pay for. Or the hot water heater finally giving out, the garbage disposal breaking, the sudden need for four new tires on a 2-year-old car because I didn’t know that many dealerships put special tires on a car so potential buyers get a smooth ride. But those tires are not meant to last. And they didn’t. All FOUR tires had total dry rot. Ironically, I had traded in my previous car for the one we have now because the new one had higher safety ratings, more airbags. And given my condition, the high safety rating mattered. I never dreamt the tires could have been deadly. Then there are the 4 teeth that have cavities (I don’t have dental coverage so I cannot go to the dentist). I walk around with chronic eye strain because I am two years overdue for an eye exam and new glasses, which Medicare does not cover. My mother’s bridging of 30 years ago finally needs replacing, but it is $4,000 she doesn’t have. So what will happen is eventually they will just pull each tooth until she has none left. (And that scares me most of all because I think THAT will be the straw breaking the camel’s back–my mother will not walk around with a mouth filled with no teeth. THAT will finally defeat her.) The last hike in property taxes, though of course housing values are still down nationwide, took the very last of her savings.

And so I find myself praying, constantly, something I have not done in decades. The deeper we sink into the morass of poverty, the more I pray. But then I feel guilty, that that isn’t the “right” reason for praying. And my story isn’t even that unique. At all my various monthly specialist appointments, I commiserate with others stuck in similar situations. I pray for them as they pray for me. And still we are better off than the impoverished in other nations. I once traveled abroad frequently. To see TRUE poverty, misery, you have to leave the U.S. See children playing in filth, waste, in the streets, in tattered dirty clothes or even naked. Thousands of them orphans. They have never had a doctor’s care, likely never will. And thousands will die unmourned, unknown, just as their births were unremarked upon–except as one more burden. Imagine, your very birth seen not as a glorious gift but an awful burden. But I know poverty is something that will always afflict the world because we DO refuse, collectively, to see ourselves as our brother’s keeper. And I don’t mean that in a Christian sense but in a humankind sense. Greed is a drug even more destructive than heroin simply because greed isn’t seen as addiction. No “wrong” is seen in paying one’s employees a minimum wage rather than a living wage while the sheiks of business earn 7-figure salaries and 6-figure bonuses. No immorality is seen in a child dying from lack of proper nourishment while top Hollywood actors dine in restaurants that charge $600 for a plate of food, $1,000 for a bottle of vintage wine. Nothing ludicrous is seen in a couple with no children living in a 10-bedroom, 8-bathroom estate in a gated community, a second home somewhere in the islands, while a family of 6 live together in a 2-room shack with an outhouse.

And then I find myself pondering the REAL meaning of “impoverishment.” Who are the truly “impoverished?”

And my answer is, Not the family of 6 living in a shack. Not the pack of parentless children playing in landfills, bellies distended from severe malnutrition. Not the ordinary middle-class family suddenly in foreclosure because circumstances beyond their control put them there. But it is all those who will suffer from *their* impoverishment. The other kind of impoverishment, far more insidious and buried under the excuse, “I earned MY wealth,” their self-inflicted “wounds” may be invisible. Now. But eventually we all will answer to a higher power.

Those answers will be interesting.


Angela October 14, 2013 at 12:19 am

I too was making semi-decent money when life happened and I became disabled. Due to my illness I made some very impulsive decisions that made my illness even worse and I was at a point that I was living with an alcoholic (I didn’t know that when I moved in) and extremely depressed. My mind was so jumbled and confused I couldn’t find my way out. I lost my car and my job too. Then my minister came to me and said I could stay at our center. It’s in an old farmhouse and still has bedrooms upstairs. They never wanted anything from me but to rest and try to get myself better. Theysigned paperwork so I could get food stamps and get on thesection 8 waiting list. These peop,e showed me unconditional love and support when I was at my lowest point. I’ve been in my own apartment for over 3 years, was approved for disability, have a car and I’ve been able to start working again. I’m going up to 10 hours a week this week. My employer is very understanding and because of the nature of the business (home care for seniors) the hours are more flexible. I also have other support people who keep an eye on me to make sure I’m not doing too much and can step in to help if things get bad. It still gets rough, I hit a rough patch a few weeks ago when I tried to work to many hours.

During the time I had very little or no income I learned so much, I learned how to ask and accept help. I learned how to.cut through some of the government red tape and fight for what I needed.
Keep making phone calls and if the answer is no then ask them fore name and number of someone else who.could help. I asked everyone I talked to if they knew someone who.could help me pay the damage deposit on my apartment. The last person I talked to.said she didn’t know anybody. But 15 minutes later she called back with a name and number. She had asked other people she worked with and one of them knew of someone at a local organization who helped. Not only that they gave me bus tokens for a few months too.


Angela October 13, 2013 at 11:24 pm

I’m sure there are some who think by choosing to work Sunday mornings is not the right thing to do. I thought a lot about this today and realized it is exactly what I need to be doing. I work with a woman in her home, she has a brain disease that is slowly eating away her frontal and temporal lobes. Because of this she has some behaviors which would be very disruptive and possibly hitting and kicking people. Before her son and daughter-in-law called my employer to start in home services someone had to stay home with her. Now that I’m there the family, their kids and grandkids can all come over and eat breakfast together, without interupption. Then they go to church. I am taking care of someone who is very sick and giving peace of mind and relief to the family during the most difficult time of the day for my client. I feel like I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing on Sunday mornings. There are other days I rest and my spiritual community has other opportunities for gathering together.


Jennifer April 24, 2015 at 7:59 am

Great read. Someone may have already said this, but the verse under Matthew 10:5 is from Matthew 10:8.


Jack Wellman April 24, 2015 at 9:58 am

Hello Jennifer….we corrected the verse to be Matt 10:8 instead of Matt 10:5. Thank you so much for your sharp eye and your kindness in responding to help us. May God richly bless you for that.


Tara June 3, 2015 at 12:03 pm

I found this website by researching the internet as it relates to how the Christian response should be to help anyone in their time of need. I’m familiar with what the bible says however I’ve really being having a hard time with the amount of help my family has been offered during a trial we’ve been going through for over a year now.

It’s with much reluctance that I share my story. My two children were temporarily removed from my custody in late 2013. When trying to find a Christian home within the community where I attend church for her to live, families told my husband and I that they could not assist us with such a request. We even asked people who have a close bond with to be designees to supervise visits and were told they could not do that as well. Although we had some family members who agreed to designee visits with the children, however they too have stated they can no longer assist us in making sure we have visits. Is there a scripture that stats when your family is tested to the degree that only God can restore, that a saint not get involved? I have done a lot of soul searching. Sometimes I question my husband and ask if we are in the right church because not only do the members of our church have an unwillingness to help us, we also have people who have past judgment on us as well. It has been really difficult going to the church Sunday after Sunday and Wednesday after Wednesday and you feel as though people are looking and laughing at your family. Don’t get me wrong people ask how the children are doing but when it was time for us to assist the state in placing the children with people we knew, its like the place where you go to worship and people who you think you know would be a good fit, you are told “NO” in a true time of need. I also want to mention there are a few people who send scriptures daily to me and who tell me that they are praying for complete restoration of the family. And there are 3 people who have really been heart in about making sure we see our children. I don’t discount that nor am I saying I’m not grateful to God for these people. However, I don’t have a close knitted family type of feel about the rejection from the people who I worship with.

I don’t know how to feel about this. I was hoping you could help me understand the “Christian” view point on why they are choosing not to help and what should my posture be with the decisions my brothers and sisters in Christ are making not to help?


Sandi August 7, 2015 at 10:39 pm

Hi Tara: I believe that many Christians generally read and accept the scriptures but never expect to be called upon to do anything slightly different than their daily lives, and certainly not remotely different. Many also are not willing to step out on faith to help others, being fearful that the request could become burdensome as more and more is asked. Christians who feel led to respond favorably to every request, believing that only the requests that God wants them to receive make it to them, are few and far between. Many Christians want to go to church, read the Bible, go home and grapple with their own issues and problems, not including the problems of others. So many are suffering and struggling today that there seems to be no time or effort or money for anything or anyone else.

The stories in the Bible where followers gave their all to others, helped others in extraordinary ways and stepped out on miraculous faith sometimes seem so far removed from what many of us are struggling with today; though the same God is with us today as Who was with them. I think the principles are the same today, but we have to find out how God wants us to apply them in a culture that is so different, and in a world that is so much more challenged, troubled and evil than it was then.

I am so sorry to read how your church, or some of the members, seem to have failed you. I do know how it feels to finally open up about what you are suffering, expecting loving compassion and assistance, only to find out that shockingly people do not behave as you were so sure that they would. It is like a nightmare that you cannot believe that you are in because you are a Christian and you love the Lord.

As far as if you should leave this church for another one, only you can decide. I do know also that just like in the world, you find that people are the same everywhere that you go. Though some churches certainly are better fits for us than others, the personalities within all churches are very similar.

As far as getting help from others is concerned, in the end I say that we can only rely upon ourselves and our connection with God. Sometimes, certainly not always, we look faithfully to other Christians for help in a time of great need, only to be severely let down, because the help that God wants to give us comes from the least likely places, not from where we think is the obvious.

I don’t know what your situation is now, but I will pray for you and your family. Prayer does change things. We all should do a better job, as someone mentioned above, of actually praying for others when we promise to. In fact, we can usually stop and say that prayer immediately.

The Handmaid


Sandi August 7, 2015 at 11:28 pm


You spoke so many painful truths in your discourse. Though your story is really not all that unique, you should also publish it at others places too. It is very well-written. I was mesmerized, sorrowful, and strangely inspired. Are you a writer? I do sincerely believe what you said about you are still here because of those prayers of those people. But there is a reason that you are still here, in that condition, when you would rather be gone. I know it is somewhat of a cliche’, but I believe it in your case.


Sandi August 7, 2015 at 11:51 pm


Very inspiring story. I am so glad that you are at peace with what you are doing on Sunday morning. Sounds like you are providing a wonderful service, and that Christians came to your aid when you most needed them. God bless them richly, and YOU!


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