Coping with a Miscarriage: Biblical Words of Encouragement

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A miscarriage is the emotional roller coaster of riding high on the expectancy of a new baby to the lowest depths of pain from loss. Miscarriages can come without warning or time to prepare your heart to cope. Well-meaning people try to comfort with words of advice and encouragement, but the brokenness remains. Even though the emptiness may seem to consume your heart, there is hope in Christ. The book of Psalms offers words of comfort that can seep through your hurting heart to bring truth and peace.

Truth: My heart hurts

My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life” (Psalm 119:50).

No one escapes pain. It’s a part of living in a fallen world. Jesus Christ sent the Holy Spirit to be your Comforter during this difficult time of your life. The Holy Spirit is always available day or night when you need Him. You can pour out your frustration, confusion, and anger before God because He cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7)

Year after year Hannah was unable to have children and this brought her unimaginable anguish so that she couldn’t eat. It was after Hannah poured out her soul to God that her faith was renewed and refreshed in the Lord. (1 Samuel 1:2-20) Healing from deep hurt is possible when submitting your heart to God for healing.

Truth: My hope is lost

Do not let my hopes be dashed” (Psalm 119:116)

You must not give up on your Lord; He knows your suffering ...

You must not give up on your Lord; He knows your suffering …

We hope our prayers will be answered in the way we desire, but it doesn’t always happen. It becomes difficult to hope because we are afraid of disappointment. Yet our hope can be built up again one faith step at a time.

When the storm suddenly hit their boat, the disciples lost all hope of survival. They woke Jesus up in a panic in which he calmed the raging storm with a few words. Afterwards he asked “Where is your faith?” (Luke 8:22-25) Jesus still asks that questions of us. Where is our faith when our painful times come without warning? Hope that was lost can be found through faith in God’s word.

Truth: My mind is troubled

My thoughts trouble me and I am distraught” (Psalm 55:2)

A troubled mind can’t rest in peace and quietness. It will keep you up at night and hassle you all day long. Worrying about your future isn’t God’s will for your life. He’s in control when you aren’t. You can trust Him in the dark days to keep your mind when you focus on Him and not your situation.

Hagar found herself out in the wilderness with her son and no water. Her thoughts were troubled and she cried in her distress. God heard her son, Ishmael, also crying and sent an angel to lead her to a well. (Genesis 21:14-21) Our troubled thoughts can be refreshed through the living waters of the Holy Spirit. He will lead you to think on what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, or praiseworthy. (Philippians 4:8)

Truth: My strength is gone

My strength fails because of my affliction” (Psalm 31:10)

A miscarriage can sap your spiritual, emotional, and physical strength. After a time of recovery, you may need to enter into a deeper rest of spiritual solitude. In this time of prayer and meditation you will find your peace to move forward with your life. In quietness and confidence, you will find strength. (Isaiah 30:15)

After running from Jezebel, Elijah became so exhausted that he wanted to die. He lost the strength to move on until an angel appeared with food. Elijah didn’t find God in the wind, earthquake or fire, but rather in a gentle whisper. (1 Kings 19:13) Be still before God and listen to His voice speak to you through His Word. (Psalm 46:10) You will find strength in the bread of life flowing from God.

Truth: My joy is depleted

Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy” (Psalm 126:6).

After the loss of your baby, your joy may seem elusive. Joy from the Lord is deeper than happiness. It’s the reassurance that God is still on the throne and has a plan for your life. Joy is replenished with patience and time spent with God. (Ecclesiastes 2:26)

Sarah must have wept many nights for the promised child. She didn’t give birth to her son, Isaac, until her nineties. Isaac’s name meant “laughter” as she knew that many women would laugh with her in joy of God’s grace over their lives. (Genesis 21:6) Your joy will be stirred up again as you turn to the Heavenly Father for wisdom and direction in your life. His joy remains in you no matter your circumstances.

Truth:

Not everyone can clearly understand what it’s like to lose a baby. Some who have had lost babies may have moved past the pain and have forgotten the great significance you are going through. Yet God is able to make all grace come on your life to endure. You must not give up on your Lord; He knows your suffering and longs for your surrender to His purposes. God will hold you through this. Just trust Him.

Take a look at these other hopeful verses in the Bible:

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Resource – New International Version Bible, The Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright© 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblca, Inc.™ Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide. YouTube video “Solid Rock” by 4 Him





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