7 Good Bible Verses To Help Cope With a Divorce

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While divorce is shockingly prevalent in our generation—the pain, discouragement, and abandonment of it still hurts. Many people who are divorced didn’t plan for it or even expect it to ever come to their marriage. In spite of the fact that God hates divorce, it happened in Moses’ day, Jesus’ day, and our day as well. As believers you must fall into the arms of Jesus Christ through the comfort of His word to cope with a divorce. Allow these 7 good Bible verses to speak to your heart during this difficult season:

There is hope

“Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God” (Psalm 42:5). 

One of the first and most dominant emotions to struggle with in a divorce is utter hopelessness. You’ve made a covenant with God and your spouse in the midst of family and friends to never part—and yet here you are. Discouragement is Satan’s main weapon against believers in this difficult time. However, there is hope and grace in Christ to make it through the pain of divorce. Put your hope in God to take care of you spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

7 Good Bible Verses To Help Cope With a Divorce

… in Christ all things are possible and you can move past divorce towards God’s purpose for your life.

There is peace

“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you” (Isaiah 26:3). 

In the chaos and calamity of divorce, peace will often feel far away. Yet by trusting in the Lord rather than how you feel brings peace in the midst of stormy days. When you wake up every day with your mind set on God’s goodness—He will get you through it with His perfect peace. It’s not a one stop shop with peace, it’s an ongoing process of learning to trust in God’s faithfulness through unknown territories of life.

There is joy

“For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning” (Psalm 30:5). 

It seems hard to believe that there can be joy through this devastating experience. Yet the Lord knows how to bring joy alive in your heart during this time. Your strength to get through this divorce will be rooted in the joy that comes from the Holy Spirit. While you can’t take away the experience and disappointment of a divorce, through Christ the sting of it will eventually diminish in His presence of joy.

There is comfort

“My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life” (Psalm 119:50). 

In a divorce situation, loneliness can creep into your heart and mind. Yet it is possible to be alone and not lonely for those who seek their comfort from the Lord and not the empty promises of the world. The Lord has made many promises to those who love Him and He keeps every last one of them. Search for His promises in the Bible and cling to them all day and night to bring you the comfort you desire.

There is provision

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19). 

For many people divorce can bring financial disaster especially if you weren’t the breadwinner of the family. You could find yourself suddenly having to make major financial decisions in a short period of time. These are days of seeking wisdom from God to lead you to the right people to help give direction with your finances and finding sustainable income. The Lord promises to meet all your needs and to not forsake you nor your family.

There is justice

“For we know him who said, ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ and again, ‘The Lord will judge his people.’ It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God” (Hebrews 10:30-31). 

There can be great pain for those whose divorce stemmed out of adultery. It’s difficult enough to figure out the needs of your family and your own personal needs; but to also struggle with the betrayal can be overwhelming. Yet if you intend to seek revenge instead of trusting God to repay—you will only end up a bitter and disappointed person. This is a time of casting all your cares on God in order to gain strength so you can forgive the adulterer.

There is a future

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11). 

Divorce will feel like it’s the end of the world. In many ways, it is the end of a relationship and everything that was promised in it. Yet the Lord is above your divorce and is able to make all grace abound towards you to move forward in faith. Your future isn’t limited or restricted because of a divorce; rather through Christ you have a calling and purpose to fulfill in spite of it.

Coping in Christ

You may feel that you will never get through this divorce. However, in Christ all things are possible and you can move past it towards God’s purpose for your life. The Lord will never leave nor forsake you in the season of suffering. He will make His presence known to you when you seek after Him with all your heart, soul, and mind. You will move beyond just coping and begin to live victoriously in Christ.

Related reading for you: Bible Verses About Divorce

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Alex Jennings May 22, 2015 at 8:12 am

I’ve been going through a grueling divorce with my wife. At times, it’s difficult to focus on anything else but the discouragement and abandonment that has resulted from our marriage. I’m seeing a divorce lawyer later this week, but I’ll make sure to use and read these biblical verses before then to sooth my emotions. I really liked the first verse you shared—There truly is hope!

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Cherry August 23, 2016 at 11:40 pm

I am completely distraught. Even after going through the crushing of seeing my husband in adultery and being taunted by his women, I forgave him and took him back for the sake of our adopted son. He had several instances where I found him going back to his women. Ultimately it has resulted in so much pain, my face is getting slightly paralysed and I have blood clots in my arm. I hurt deeply that I am not valued by the man I was loyal to. Today he is again flirting with the very women who I forgave. I want him to let me go, I am tired of this.

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Laura August 28, 2016 at 11:43 pm

Cherry,

I feel your pain…the years of women, the drugs, the alcohol, and all those who turned the other cheek at my cries out for help. God does not want his children to be abused. I was and you are being mentally and emotionally abused. Just because no one else can see it; you are experiencing abuse and God sees it. God does not want you to live this way; this is not God’s plan! Any one who tells you that is it; is misreading scripture. Read Jeremiah and God’s plan. God’s plan for us can be achieved by following his word and by making the right choices for you and your child. Then you will be prosperous. They way you are being mistreated, has nothing to do with you; it is not because of you! It is your husband’s bad choices and decisions! Don’t ever forget that! I learned long ago that “You cannot change someone, they have to want to change.” YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL OF YOUR HUSBAND. HE has made these choices and YOU did NOT cause this. You are made in his likeness. You are tougher than you think! You are strong for putting up with, forgiving, and persevering. I’m sure you have hidden all of this form your child too, just like me. God gave us free will to make our own decisions and your husband is making his own terrible choices that he will have to deal with when he meets Jesus. That is all on him. What is best for you and your child? You go, you go and make good choices for you and your child. Don’t be distraught, put on the armour my friend! Divorce does not define you. GO find a church that will love you and support you. God hates divorce, but LOVES you! All that matters is your relationship with him, he knows the truth.

Sending Prayers to you!

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Ali October 3, 2016 at 9:18 pm

I was with the same man for 7 years off and on. We were together 6 years before getting married, after we got married things went downhill, he picked at every flaw there was of mine but nothing on him. We have 2 children together, a home, the whole beautiful family. His father, who is a very disturbed man, had brought in his opinions of me and influenced my husband at the time, that i was a bad mother and wife. My husband believed him, things fell apart after I gave birth to our second child and he would be so hateful of me, didnt want anything to do with our child nor me. Stated I was cheating, stalking me at my job to see if I was working, to having his so called friends follow my vehicle around to see what im up too. Obiously, they lied to him, that ended me being kicked out and calling it quits. I should have stayed and worked through it. He moved his gf into the house and her kids as soon as I left. Come to find out, he was cheating on me for along time. 15 months went by and we decided to try again, no just for the kids but also for each other, is what I thought. Our year together was wonderful just for him to break it off with me on our 1 year anniversary. Ive been hurting very badly over this and dont understand why, I believed he used me to fix the house since im the handy woman of the house, just to find out that he was cheating on me again 2 months before the second break up and kicked me out, to move her in..I have a hard time letting things go and this is one thing, im real stuck on. Some people its easier said than done, others feel held captive since my second marriage failed..I tried my best to keep our family together and now, i juontdont know how to be happy, while raising our kids in two seperate households. I didnt want this for my life nor my kids. I pray to god, ask how can I get him out of my head, beable to move forward without feelibg guilty. Any suggestions out there that helped anyobe else..

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Jack Wellman October 3, 2016 at 9:22 pm

Hello Ali. Please know you have my prayers. I am so sorry for such heartache. I would talk to your pastor or some trusted Christian friend about this. You don’t have to carry guilt. Read 1 John 1:9. That’s one powerful promise. All a person needs to do once they have been brought to repentance of sins, which means we turn away from and forsake them, and then put their trust in Christ, they only need to confess it to God. The Apostle John wrote 1:9 which promises, ” If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Don’t trust what you feel, like you still feel unforgiven. God forgives ALL our sins and cleanses us from ALL our unrighteousness because of Jesus. Read 2nd Cor 5:21 to see why this is true. Put fact over feelings. God forgives. God can and will. Then, it’s over my friend. Don’t dwell on what God’s forgotten. Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection are enough for ALL sins of ALL people living and who will live and who have lived and died! Believe it! Not your feelings. If I pray for you, I pray you understand God forgives and forgets! Now you must do the same.

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Elane December 12, 2017 at 12:18 pm

You let him go. Do it now! He is controlling you and your child’s life. All the best in your new future. I went through it too.

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Ermilo Ramirez September 25, 2016 at 10:10 pm

My wife wants a divorce because I cheat it on her once while I was drunk. She also says that i called a slaught I made a comment that’s how she took it. I don’t understand how many other relationship a way worse then mine and she can’t forgive. Where separated Wright now and I can’t take it. I love her and don’t want to loose her.

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Jack Wellman September 26, 2016 at 11:25 am

Hello Ermilo. I would just pray and perhaps you can talk to your pastor about this too. Ask him and the church to pray for you for your marriage. I would also stop drinking. Tell her that you quit drinking. Drunkness is sin but also hurts others. I will pray for you sir. I am so sorry for this pain.

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ross December 19, 2016 at 2:59 pm

my wife was a good woman. she was targeted by a local satanic cult. it started with a woman befriending her. shortly after she began to no loger live in grace and mercy but rather judgemental. her new friend convinced her to leave the marriage. one thing after another ultimatly my wife was held captive for days and satanic rituals done and horible abuses. i brought her home. she told me they said they did it because of who i was and my preaching the gospel. she left again and we were divorced. i have been wandering the western united states trying to find where and how to rebuild my life. its a moment by moment struggle. most days im over come by unbearable grief not just the lost of my love but the abuse she endured and the reprogramming of her mind. they even killed our dog. we once lived a life knowing eachother would fail eachother, but loved thru it. knowing god grace was completeing our salvation and maturing us. i constantly rehearse my failures, its all i can do to trust the lord. its a battle. one moment i trust the next in agony. its hard to trust, i believed with all my heart the promises i thought the lord gave us. its hard to believe i can hear him now. as i look back and believe some how i missed him. had i not this wouldnt have happened.

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Ryan Fenton January 9, 2017 at 9:16 pm

Let vengence be the Lord… Jesus Christ is a very present help in trouble!

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Maire March 10, 2018 at 9:35 pm

My husband has cheated on me. I have tried to make our marriage work over and over again. There has even been physical abuse. Im so tired…I want out of this failing marriage. …Im just don’t know how to hide how I am really feeling. I fear I will be harmed if he catches on to the fact that Im trying to quietly walk away from him. Please pray for me

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Jack Wellman March 11, 2018 at 12:52 pm

Hello Maire. Have you talked with your pastor about this? I would let the police know what’s been happening as this man abusing you is breaking the law. He needs to be in jail according to Romans 13:1-7. Even though you have grounds for divorce if he has been cheating repeatedly, being abused is his breaking the law so he needs to sit in jail for this, but I will be glad to pray. Your husband sounds totally lost.

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Dorothy April 1, 2018 at 7:41 pm

Hello I have been married ten years together nine. We Seperated because he threathened me and the kids we still tried to,make it work but he was,commuting adultery once that was found out he has been very angry and belittling me. I had surgery lost my job neither case was he there I had to move back with him cause I lost my house. Every word is I hate you you don’t have nothing I never lived you your pathetic the list goes on but through everything I still tried to hold on cause I want our marriage. I know hes telling me we have no chance he even told me only a piece of paper holda us together and he whips his but with paper. Even though I know thus is not healthy I live him and want to let go but it seem so hard. I cry daily I don’t know how to be happy anymore I feel like everything is my fault even though I know its not. Ive prayed I’ve read I’ve done all that I can do I feel luke I can’t hear from god. I feel like I’m going through the worse and he’s enjoying life. He threathens to out us out daily and say he don’t care where I live. I really need help ive tries to locate out reach groups counseling not helping I have called the domestic hotline but they really don’t talk to you. Is there anyone that can hear my cry for help. I feel like my world has crashed. Please if someone can help me pick up the pieces I want to move forward I don’t know how

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Jack Wellman April 1, 2018 at 8:42 pm

Hello Dorothy. Please call your pastor and see if you both can get counseling. If not, go there yourself, but their must be another woman or man present as you should never meet with a pastor alone. Also, only God can change the human heart (Prov 21:1), and this man does not sound saved, so please pray for him. I don’t see this man’s life as evidence of having the Holy Spirit and only the Spirit can change his heart. Pray for him, and trust God with the rest. And, we are told to request prayers from the church and we need one another as Jesus’ coming draws near (Heb 10:24-25). You cannot do this alone.

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Dorothy April 1, 2018 at 11:43 pm

I’ve reached out to my pastor. My husband won’t even consider counseling. He is in the world and he acts like he hates me. In so distraught. Its hard to focus on anything

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William April 6, 2018 at 7:33 am

My wife of 28 years left me on March 5th because she said that I was verbally abusive. While I do agree that we argued quite a bit I do not feel that I was verbally abusing her. Most of my frustrations were due to her constantly bringing up issues from the past. She had left before in 2008 and we got back together in 2009 but I feel that she didn’t truely come back with true forgiveness in her heart. Between 2009 and up to the time that she left last month, I was constantly trying to convince her that I had changed and that I did love her and wanted our marriage to work. However no matter what I did or said it was never good enough. I am hurting so bad and I feel so betrayed and lost right now. I just joined a divorce care group and im seeing a therapist to help talk through my emotions. I pray nothing but good prayers for her everyday and I pray that God continues to keep his arms wrapped around both of us during this transition period.

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Jack Wellman April 6, 2018 at 5:59 pm

I will pray with you William. I am so sorry for this pain sir.

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Emily April 15, 2018 at 10:57 pm

Not going into details. The hardest thing was divorcing him even though I still love him very much, no matter what he’s done. Just couldn’t take it anymore. How do you move on from that

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Jennifer May 19, 2018 at 10:27 pm

My husband just told me he doesn’t love me like he should. He has been texting another woman. We have 3 kids. I don’t want to break their hearts. Please help me. This jyst for found out today. I feel sick. I need this horrible pain to go away.

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Jack Wellman May 20, 2018 at 6:03 pm

Hello Jennifer. Praying now for you. I am so sorry for all this.

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Nick May 25, 2018 at 1:42 pm

Jennifer, I understand the pain and sickness you are feeling. My wife admitted her infidelity to me and my heart broke and i felt that physical sickness you are experiencing right now. For almost a year a tortured myself in my own mind, attempting to forgive her, and not being able to. I wanted to ,for her sake and for my own as the resentment and anger was literally eating me alive. It took me to the point of suicide, until finally I cried out to God with all my heart. I had prayed many times throughout that year for God to take the pain from my heart, and to renew my mind as I would literally picture her cheating on me in my mind over and over, and I had asked the Lord to take it from me, but always with anger or pride infecting my heart and thus my prayer. But when I was fully broken and to the point where I had tried to take my own life, I cried out humbly and broken and asked the Lord not just to take this from me, but to please teach me how to forgive! Perhaps the Lord allowed me to get to that point to teach me I just felt on Him completely, lime Peter did when he was sinking in the water and cried out “save me Lord!” For whatever reason, God allowednmento be completely broken so I could cry out to Him from that place of brokenness so the healing he performed in my heart could only be attributed to His grace. So I promise you that God’s word is true, He does have a plan for you, a plan to prosper you and not harm you Jeremiah 29, and as it says in the book of Ephesians what the Lord began in you He will complete. The Lord did not bring you this pain, but if you submit yourself totally into His loving care he will deliver you from it. And all things, even the worst of things, God can and will use for the greater good bringing glory to His holy name. I asked God to teach me to forgive, but He already had, on the cross. Remember all the grace God has given you already and use the lesson of the life of Jesus Christ to forgive, and in that forgiveness you will find freedom. All glory to God ournfather in heaven

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Jack Wellman May 25, 2018 at 2:04 pm

Well said Nick. Thank you for encouraging this woman of faith.

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Melina June 19, 2018 at 9:37 pm

I know the pain you are going through. Lean on the Lord through this, one day things will be better, God will never leave you, he is with you always.. you can’t keep someone who doesn’t want to be there, it’s more of a tourture for you, knowing they are there but don’t want to be there, that they are there because they feel sorry for you. You don’t want that, that is a nightmare that you don’t need. One day you will heal, all will be fine. Yesterday I told my husband we are separating then divorced, because that is what my husband wants but won’t say, I can’t live like that. It know kills me to be around him knowing he hates being there, he looks so unhappy. I know a major parts f this is his drinking has taken him away from God, and his friends influence him like he was a teenager. He wants to live a single bachelor life, no worries, no kids, no wife, no one to bug him ever. Even though this has me devastated, I know it’s the best thing for me. I’m leaning on the Lord, he us helping me not lose my mind. I’ll keep you in prayer. God bless you take care

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Jack Wellman June 20, 2018 at 9:56 am

Hello Melina and thank you for your comforting message to Jennifer, however, please be sure that the Bible teaches that unless there is adultery, no divorce is permissible, according to the Bible, not my opinion. Please be careful in suggesting someone divorces over something other than adultery. You are giving advice that is not biblical, and even though you’re trying to help, please know that those who divorce without just biblical cause are sinning. It may seem like “the best thing for” you, but I am glad Jesus didn’t depend on how he felt because He prayed 3 times to have the cup of Calvary removed, but endure the shame and suffering for us.

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Jim June 3, 2018 at 11:20 am

My wife had an affair for over a year. It was just via text and phone at first then on my birthday she left for Mississippi to stay with this guy for almost 2 weeks. Even after I showed her proof I knew she continued to lie. She’s moving out tonight 7 months after the affair. I still love her and she cannot tell me what I’ve done to make us grow distant all she says is u told you things have to change. 21 years of marriage thrown away. Our teen daughter is taking it the worst and our two older sons try and give me support but I feel Satan in winning on this one. I’m trying to keep the faith but it is so hard. I guess if I knew what I did it might be easier but she doesn’t really talk about it.

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Sindi July 31, 2018 at 12:34 am

My husband and I have been together for close to 6 years and married for over a year. He has been unfaithful with his ex(baby mama) and has divorced me. I pray to God for healing and to forgive and accept the situation. I pray for strength so I can be strong for our 14month old son. It hurts so much but I know God has not forsaken me.

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