10 Bad Excuses For Skipping Church

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Spiritual growth comes from building a relationship with God through prayer, His Word, and being with other Christians. Skipping church and saying that it is not necessary is like someone who claims they want to become stronger and get in shape yet they never spend time learning about exercise and healthy eating. Then they wonder why nothing has changed, or maybe even become worse, in their spiritual life since last year. God has ordained that the local church is the way He wants to build spiritually mature Christians.

Please understand that I am not saying you should never skip church, but when you say it is important for your spiritual life and you try to teach this to your children, then you need to stick to that commitment. Don’t look for reasons to stay at home when your relationship to God and His Word are so important to your spiritual growth.

Here are 10 bad excuses for missing church services.

“I’m too tired”

One of the 10 Commandments is to take a day of rest each week. We are told to honor that day—protect it as though it were something valuable. God even modeled this day of rest when He rested on the 7th day of creation. Yet, we have created so much busyness in our lives that we have trouble slowing down so that we can enjoy regular time with God. The purpose of the day of rest is to give our body a break but also so that we can commune with God without the cares of the world encroaching on that time. If you are too tired to worship God weekly, then you have created a busyness that God never intended.

Certainly there are seasons of increased activity in our lives, but we should acknowledge that we have created an inappropriate sense of urgency if we are too tired to set aside time for worshipping God at His house. This urgency and lack of rest is physically and spiritually unhealthy.

10 Bad Excuses For Skipping Church

Who creates the busyness for them? We as parents need to help our children learn discipline and responsibility. We should also help protect them from poor choices that affect their relationship with God. If church attendance is a priority to you, it will be much easier for your children to make it a priority to them. Be a good example for them.

“I got up late”

There are times this happens. But every week? How often do you not go to work because you overslept by 30 minutes?

Maybe we should be less boastful about our lack of discipline.

“The pews are too hard”

No one would be offended if you took a small cushion with you to sit on. I know no one likes to hear about how much more difficult things are in other countries, but this is one of those areas where we really should not complain. I think back to the many church services I’ve been in where we’ve sat on logs or hard benches for 2 and 3 hour services and I never heard anyone complain about the rock or ground they are sitting on being too hard. Not even 90-year old grandmas.

“It’s too hot/cold”

If it is too cold, take a sweater. If it is too hot, take a fan. Don’t let a few degrees keep you from learning from God’s Word.

“The church is full of hypocrites”

I saw this saying recently and thought it was appropriate: Saying that you won’t go to church because of hypocrites is like saying you won’t go to the gym because of out of shape people. Don’t let others keep you from doing what is right.

“The preacher preaches too long/loud/soft”

This could be a problem with the preacher, but it could also be a problem with you. Are you hungry for God’s message? Do you even want to hear what God has for you? I know God speaks to us through His Word, but He also uses those He’s given charge to teach His Word.

Pray and ask God to give you a hunger for the Bible. Ask Him to give you a desire to learn from the preacher. It could be that the preacher needs your prayers and help to know how to present the message of God in a way that helps you learn.

“I’ve heard it all before”

A humorous event happened a few months ago in a Sunday night service with our daughter. The pastor was preaching from Genesis and telling the story of Adam and Eve. Instead of paying attention our daughter started playing and acting bored with the message. My wife asked her to sit up and pay attention. Our daughter whined, “But, I’ve already heard this story!”

Do you really think you have exhausted the depths of God’s Word? People spend their whole lives studying the Bible wanting to understand it better. Ask God to give you a desire to hear it all again.

“Church is boring”

Public worship with other Christians may not always be the most exciting thing for me to do, however it could also be a matter of my own heart condition and attitude that makes church less interesting. There are many things we do because we know they are good for us, not just because we enjoy doing them. Perhaps you have heard people say something like this: “I used to hate exercise, but I loved the way it made me feel. Now that it has become a habit, I hate missing my daily routine.” When we grow stronger as Christians and closer to God we learn to crave those times of worship and fellowship with other brothers and sisters in Christ.

“I will go after I stop… Or, I’ll go after I start…”

Many people think that God won’t accept them until they give up some particular sin or start doing some certain activity. What they don’t take into account is that we are sinners by nature; therefore, we can never earn our way to God’s favor because of doing (or ceasing to do) certain things. We have salvation granted to us by God’s grace. Our daily Christian lives are no different. We should develop a hunger and thirst for God’s Word and His institution—the church. If you wait until you are perfect to start worshiping God with His people, then you will never enter the doors of a church again.

Don’t allow bad excuses to keep you from attending church and growing spiritually in the Word of God. Ask God to help you develop a new attitude towards His house and determine to spend some time with the Lord in public worship this week.

More reading about church: How to Choose a Church

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arnel November 7, 2014 at 11:01 am

Can I make a suggestion? Why not make a survey on “Excuses made by some preachers when they deliver a lame message in the pulpit.” I think it’s fair to understand why there are some people really hate attending church services and they don’t want to offend their pastor by saying that. I believe that’s one of the reason why they’re making excuses because people feel or discern that their pastors do not make preparations whenever he delivers his message.


erma June 21, 2016 at 2:54 pm

Unless you live somewhere , where there is only one church in town, this is really not a good excuse. If you don’t like the service, or the preaching, or if the sermons aren’t Bibically based or whatever you are looking for, try another church. If you don’t like any of them, perhaps it isn’t the Pastor’s message, but the person hearing the message.


DocReits November 7, 2014 at 7:59 pm

Hi Pastor Peach,

Thank you for the thought provoking message. You make many great points. The sentiment I gather from your message together with arnel’s comment is that folks aren’t “getting” what “they” want from church. One of my teenage son’s once made that same comment. “Dad, church doesn’t do anything for me”, was his exact statement. I told him that was not the church’s main purpose.

Pastor Peach, you speak in almost every one of your points of receiving spiritual well being from going to church, such as your analogies to exercising and eating right…but ALL of these things center, once again, on what folks are missing for “themselves” by not attending.

That is one of my main pet peeves with what I call “Big Box Ministries” such as Joel Osteens mega church. His main draw is in “building people up”, in his words. IOW, making them feel better about themselves and who they are. Do not misunderstand, it is great to love on people and build them up and a vital ministry of the church. It’s just that it is not the “main purpose” of attending church, IMO.

The number one reason we go to church is to worship God. My prayer of reminding myself who I am in relation to God every day starts, “You are God and I am not”. I am just as selfish as the next person. I fight it daily. So when I saw all of the things church can do for “Me” in your article my red beacon light went off…sorry.

Secondly, Church is for reminding me that I am a sinner saved by God’s Grace. The preaching of the Word is to draw me to continually recognize my sin and to encourage me to turn away from sin and towards Jesus. For without this we are damned forever with no hope. None!(John 14:6)

Attending church is not about “what church can do for me” which is the main reason, IMO, churches are vacant and becoming more so in America. I live in the most un-churched state in the nation(WA). Is it any coincidence that it is also one of the most ungodly? Fortunately after ardent searching I found, not a perfect church, but really close…;-)

Find a church where you can enter into worship, through prayer, praise, giving alms, fellowship, helps and the Word. If the main focus of the church is to bless you, keep looking. The main purpose of the church is to bless God. If you get something out of it, great…but, that is just a bonus.




gmercier November 10, 2014 at 2:26 pm

so I struggle with going to church. I work with a man who calls himself a believer and even the non believers I work with have more morals and ethics than he does.

He would fit into the average evangelical church rather well, most wouldnt be able to tell what he actually is. The church isn’t full of hypocrites it is full of the enemy.

I realized along time ago it was what I could offer the church not the other way around. I am empathic to those believers who fall and get back up, like me, but the evil of this individual is like nothing I have ever seen.

In battle you usually can tell who your fighting, the guy with the different uniform. In church you can’t tell, so you never see it coming.


Kari June 20, 2016 at 4:33 pm

What about not liking the new pastor of my church I’ve gone to for 20 years and unable to find a different church that I like?


Jack Wellman June 20, 2016 at 4:59 pm

Why don’t you like the pastor Kari? What are your reasons?


Cheryl June 21, 2016 at 12:47 am

I Have stopped attending church as because as I got more into the Word I discovered that unbiblical doctrine is being preached which appeals to the flesh. Our Pastor says that as our spiritual father we need to submit to him and get line with the vision of the church. I cannot do this and walk within the will of God so I have stopped attending. I feel that this is a valid reason for me not to attend this church anymore and I am trusting God that I find an alternate place to fellowship.



Linda June 21, 2016 at 6:33 pm

I love my church but it is four miles away and I don’t have a car. There are people who would give me rides but I feel like a burden and after almost three years without a car I decided I had to change, and said “no more rides” . . . I detest taking rides from people! I have ridden my bicycle to church twice in the last month and both times had serious exhaustion problems on the way home. I’m over 60, I should add. Won’t Jesus love me just as much if I worship here at home? That said, I really do love Him and my church, and all the people in it. There’s a great advantage in going to church because it brings me so much joy.


Mike June 22, 2016 at 12:37 am

Hi Linda, I have this difficulty, I am baptist and the nearest baptist church is 12 miles away in another town. I am presently not driving either, my friend and I are members of our church, but it is a bus ride and a train ride and more often than not also a taxi ride, each way. It is very difficult to get there, we try to get there each week but it is not always possible.


Joshua November 20, 2016 at 7:20 am

Yea okay, so my start time at work varies a lot because I don’t sleep well, and when I did go in at 8.50 everyday, I was too tired to function to the required standard. I go to bed at normal times, so sometimes it can be a real problem. I have memory difficulties and I’m always distracted, most of my family just think I’m autistic or something. So, no some people do have genuine struggles it’s difficult not to get offended when people at church are not gracious.
I spent the last year getting depressed and angry with myself after missing church, but regret and self-hatred are not Godly motivators. Now I talk to God about my regret and I try not to get angry with myself.
I’m a 23 nearly 24 yo. male and I miss church more often than not.


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