Bible Verses About Forgiveness: 20 Encouraging Scripture Quotes

by Pamela Rose Williams on June 21, 2011 · Print Print · Email Email

Forgiveness is a huge subject and certainly one in which the Bible is not silent. In the Bible we can read about our amazing and loving Heavenly Father who forgives us of all trespasses. God calls sinners to seek Him and promises them forgiveness. It is because of His great mercy and grace that God rescues the believer from the dominion of darkness that began way back in the Garden. Jesus extends a loving invitation for forgiveness of sins which is only possible through His shed blood. He gave His life so that we may live. We are forgiven because He was forsaken – That is amazing love! Here are some encouraging Scripture quotes about forgiveness.

Isaiah 55:6-7 “Seek the LORD while he may be found; call upon him while he is near; let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the LORD, that he may have compassion on him, and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.

God’s Character is Forgiving

Psalm 51:17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.

Psalm 86:4-5 Gladden the soul of your servant, for to you, O Lord, do I lift up my soul. For you, O Lord, are good and forgiving, abounding in steadfast love to all who call upon you.

Psalm 103:8-12 The LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger forever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.

Isaiah 1:18 “Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool.

Jesus Invites and Forgives

Matthew 5:22-24 But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

Matthew 11:28-30 “… Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Luke 7:47-48 “…Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” And he said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” (Jesus speaking to the accusers and the woman caught in adultery)

Luke 23:43 “…Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” And he said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” (Jesus speaking to the thief on the cross)

John 4:13-14 Jesus said to her, “Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” (Jesus speaking to the woman at the well)

God’s Gift to All – The Only Way

Seek the LORD while He may be found ... call upon His name

Acts 4:10-12 “… let it be known to all of you and to all the people of Israel that by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified, whom God raised from the dead—by him this man is standing before you well. This Jesus is the stone that was rejected by you, the builders, which has become the cornerstone. And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” (Peter speaking to the rulers of the people and the elders at Jerusalem)

Acts 10:42-43 “…And he commanded us to preach to the people and to testify that he is the one appointed by God to be judge of the living and the dead. To him all the prophets bear witness that everyone who believes in him receives forgiveness of sins through his name.” (Peter speaking of what Jesus commanded the Apostles to do)

2 Corinthians 5:18-19 All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.

Ephesians 1:7-10 In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace, which he lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of his will, according to his purpose, which he set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth.

Colossians 1:13-14 He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

The Christian’s Attitude of Forgiveness

Matthew 6:14 For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you (attitude: forgive because you love the Lord)

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (attitude: can love cover it?)

2 Corinthians 2:5-8 Now if anyone has caused pain, he has caused it not to me, but in some measure—not to put it too severely—to all of you. For such a one, this punishment by the majority is enough, so you should rather turn to forgive and comfort him, or he may be overwhelmed by excessive sorrow. So I beg you to reaffirm your love for him. (attitude: stand ready to forgive)

Galatians 6:1-2 Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. (attitude: approach gently and stand ready to restore the relationship)

Ephesians 4:31-32 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.(attitude: loving and forgiving just like God forgave you)

Christian Quotes About Forgiveness

“A forgiveness ought to be like a canceled note, torn in two and burned up, so that it can never be shown against the man. “  ~ Henry Ward Beecher 

“Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart.”  ~ Corrie Ten Boom

 “Man has two great spiritual needs. One is for forgiveness. The other is for goodness.”  ~ Billy Graham 

“Forgiving and being forgiven are two names for the same thing. The important thing is that a discord has been resolved.”  ~ C.S. Lewis 

“To err is human, to forgive, divine.”  ~ Alexander Pope

Looking For Something Else? Here are some more Bible verses and pages about forgiveness that you might want to check out:

Bible stories about forgiveness David Peach shares some examples in the Bible which illustrate the forgiving character of God toward His people.

5 Bible Lessons about forgiveness also written by David Peach, in this article David shares more real life examples of how forgiving our Heavenly Father is to His creation.

Songs about forgiveness is a collection of songs that speak of forgiveness.



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Sophia May 20, 2013 at 9:54 am

Hi

I am going through a tough time, my husband is cheating with his cousin. It started just after I gave birth to our son. Worst, he came with her to our place and I accepted her as a cousin. But whenever I left them together then they got a chance to sleep together…on my bed. The cousin grew up right in front of me. I started knowing her while she was still in primary school, now she is 18 and has a nerve to sleep on my bed with my husband.

I fought about it and even sent her out of our home but my husband got her a room in the nearby town and he visits whenever he wants. What pains me is that my husband does not want to hear even a thing about her…other wise he beats me up and insults me.

My husband has been doing this for a long time with many other ladies and I am not supposed to complain or talk about it otherwise I am sending him to do it or I am provoking him and he beats me up.

I am really trying to forgive but how do I forgive a person who sees nothing wrong about what he is doing and accuse me of being stupid, immature and just obsessed of him? My only hope is the Lord but it is painful…

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Simon May 22, 2013 at 7:33 am

I am sorry for your situation. This seems to be a most common and frustrating issue on this site, that being of a cheating spouse. The challenge is, you play by the rules, and your spouse is taking advantage of your commitment of supporting the ways of the Lord. We feel, are taught, and want to forgive, follow the ways of the Lord, and in that hope the other person will see the light, and in that face their weaknesses, and combat evil with strength. The Bible allows you a choice when someone acts in that manner, but with that, your world changes, yet again, and forever. That ultimately will be your choice, so consider the consequences. Have you done everything in your heart to address the situation? I would ask this only because you continue to allow it to occur. Perhaps that is where you should begin. Abuse is abuse, and that should never be tolerated. Consider turning to seek support beyond tolerance for intolerable situations, or the abuse will continue, as it is in your case. Common sense must bring answers where they cannot be found elsewhere. Good luck.

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christine August 19, 2013 at 8:09 am

ma dia u can never change a a man but God does try to go to mutundwe christian fellowship please u can never change him just pray en remember every thing has an end

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Nicole Daniels March 31, 2014 at 2:13 pm

I am praying for you! He need to be delivered from that lust spirit. He has to want to let that thing go. God can do ALL things! This is what the Bible says. You should look up and meditate on them. God has an answer to your situation….Right in his word! I would start there. God Bless You! Remember God want the best for you….NO matter what/ or how you think of yourself! Love ya girl!

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Adebola Janet June 3, 2013 at 9:45 pm

My Dear Sister in the Lord! I am so sorry for this situation and I want you to go through these Bible passages and study them very well. Matthew 6:12-15, Luke 6:37, Mark 3:29, Ephesians 1:7, Colossians 1:14. As Heaven seeker no matter what your Husband did to you, just find a place in your heart to forgive him, I know that is not that easy but with God nothing shall be impossible. Also remember God’s promise in the book of Psalm 50:15. These will be your prayer points:(i) Father destroy every obstacle standing against my marriage (ii) Father spiritually and maritally open the eyes of my Husband. (Father let your peace reign in my Home) In Jesus Name Amen

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tabeth June 7, 2013 at 7:36 am

Remember the lord allows you to divorce only if your spouse is cheating on you sexual immorality and you catch him red handed…its a choice. Dont let your tolerence of him lead you to a big sin of bitterness and unforgiveness when you on your death bed dying of HIV and AIDS, rather forgive him and let him go before its too late.Also never cease to pray for him so that God may turn his heart of a stone, I am praying for you and we love so dearly.

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Ndumi June 10, 2013 at 7:05 pm

I am devorced with my X husband and this happened after 3months of marriage. He started the verbal abuse before the wedding and it got tOo heavy I tryed to stop the wedding but family intervened and convinced in many ways that it was just the devil attacking my marrieage. I got married and did all I could to be a good wife (I was not perfect) but my not being a virgin became an isuee and we faught about everything he attempted suicide acted so strange and said his life is hard because of me, cryed to his mother and eventually started to beat me,my earning more was an issue and it had only been 2months that he said I was barren because I had had sex before and he had not.I ended things and his whole family started swearing at me I was called a satanist a beach a dog and a lot of things. He is now asking we get back together but I have no love for him in my heart could this be because I’m failing to forgive. I have been diagnosed with depression and had to be off work, I love Jesus with my soul. Most church mates SA wide church have heard ill rumours about me and the comment dicect my heart so painfully help me brotherens

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Donnam1067 November 2, 2013 at 8:05 pm

Ndumi:

It’s time to get out of the Seventh Adventist church and get into a for example First Baptist or Calvary Chapel type of Christian church.

You don’t have to reconcile with him just because they are trying to bully you. Their behavior is not of God…seems cultish. If he’s beating you now and proclaiming to be saved, what will happen to you if he walks away from the Lord altogether?? I came from a marriage where my husband beat me and my son. Do you want to possibly put your child in danger if you end up staying with him and getting pregnant? From what you have told us, you both are better off w/out each other. Keep praying and seek the Lord for guidance in this, get into another church denomination. Get into a good Christian sound doctrine faith based church…stay away from charismatic churches too. I will be praying for you and your situation. God bless ♥

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Ang July 23, 2014 at 10:37 pm

I know what this feels like. I suffered with depression for many years and was spent about 8 years feeling suicidal. But God came through for me and will come through for you. I live in supernatural peace now. Although mine wasn’t a marital issue. I had people swear at me, call me a Satanist, the b-word, dog, Pharisee – every evil name you could think besides my own name. I was only healed when I took a long break from my church/people involved in my situatation. You can not hear God and choose to listen and entertain their talk. Regarding church take a break from that particular ministry and when you come back find a leader or someone that has a reputable character (I had to write to the head overseer). They will sort out the issue and hopefully he will challenge those in church opposing you, if not MOVE and don’t turn back- life is short-heaven and hell is eternity. As for the man and his family, that will not work. FORGIVE him, move on and God will elevate you and he will hopefully have learnt and found some1 new. You are just as special and meaningful to God as the next person is…it’s not about how many are against you. When your elevated no1 will stand against you. No1 in my church stood with me either but Now God has acted. I’M PRAYING FOR YOU XXX

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jonny June 15, 2013 at 4:02 am

hey sister my prays will be with u allways cast ur all worries on jesus dont worry at all just keep praying for ur hubby may jesus show him right way regard jonny

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priyanka June 25, 2013 at 12:46 pm

hi.my name is priyanka…my lyf is going on very bad…thinking of suicide but immediately gods word in bible is stoping me which says that suicide is a sin….one of my cousin misbehaved with me.he touched me intentionally.i thought that he is just my bro so he is being very close to me but now i came to know that he wants me as his wife..i’m in love with my classmate since 6yrs.he came to know this.he is torturing me evry secong asking about my cousin.my family,my cousins left me.no one is talking with me right now.i’m unable to continue in this bloody world:(

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Cg July 2, 2013 at 9:29 pm

Be strong and don’t let another human ruin your life. Know that The Lord is your loving Father and wants to protect you. This world is a beautiful one if you see it with the eyes of The Lord. I have been in your situation and was able to overcome the distress with God in my life. The Lord put an amazing loving man in my life who loves me just the way I am and you will too. Life is short. Enjoy what ever time you have. I am now battling breast cancer and pray for more time. I will pray for you . May God bless you and give you peace in your heart.

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ADY July 16, 2013 at 1:11 am

hi. i have an uncle who is terribly angry at me because i fought for what is right for her sister who passed away. i know I’ve stricken and hit his ego hard and deep. I’ve asked his forgiveness but nothing in return.

I kept silent and did nothing further to comment. i played dumb and blind of what he was telling other people about me. but he’d gone out of his good mental state i guess. i think he is obsessed to strike back and want to see me crawl and suffer over my being frank.

many of us knew the truth, but it was only me who fought against him. now with my silence he has so noisy and loud, accusing me of the things i did not do and make other people believe that he was the right in all aspect, that he was a victim and i am the culprit.

everyday he shed time to destruct and destroy me and maybe including my family. he is religious but how come he acts like he can control and direct as he wanted it to be.

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Ang July 23, 2014 at 10:13 pm

Isaiah 8:10
Take counsel together, but it will come to nothing; speak a word, but it will not stand, for God is with us.

Went through a similar situation at church and for many years. Forgive him, walk away and stand in the liberty and freedom God has given you and watch God personally vindicate you in the open.

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James d'sousa July 16, 2013 at 4:07 am

wonderful

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kiara August 10, 2013 at 4:03 pm

Its lovely verses this hope people REALLY use them………………well God bless to all!

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adriana September 29, 2013 at 3:44 pm

hi I love ur scriptures

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Chris December 2, 2013 at 12:35 pm

You left out some other important scriptures on forgiveness:

Luke 17;1-4 Jesus said to his disciples: “Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come. 2 It would be better for them to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their neck than to cause one of these little ones to stumble. 3 So watch yourselves.

“If your brother or sister[a] sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. 4 Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”

And if they don’t repent, then what? Jesus didn’t say forgive someone if they are not repentant, he said, have nothing to do with them. We confuse forgiveness with letting go of the need to control. Forgiveness is conditional from the Lord on repentance, otherwise, there would be no hell because then He would forgive anyone just like we think we are “supposed” to forgive.

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Debra Torres December 5, 2013 at 10:27 am

I’m writing a blog post on the importance of forgiveness. Thanks for citing these scriptures. I used some on my post!

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Sad Brother December 5, 2013 at 5:46 pm

I overheard last week on the bus that my estranged wife is having an affair. She did it before, but her heart is very hard. She won’t speak to me at all, although I’ve managed to message her offering reconciliation. I’ve been encouraged by what I read here, and would appreciate some prayer please.

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Jack Wellman December 5, 2013 at 9:02 pm

You can count on my prayers brother. I will pray that God will convict her of this sin and that He would comfort you thru others and our prayers here and know that you are not alone brother on your knees. We kneel beside you and I am so sorry for such pain and it makes me pray all the more for the kingdom of come.

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Stephanie Garza January 28, 2014 at 12:49 am

Hi. I’m recently trying to better myself. I have a boyfriend which I’ve been with for 3 years and we love together. He hides my stuff while I’m at work, he torments me about how I look and about my weight. He’s grabbed me before and I’m afraid of him. I’ve tried so hard to forgive him for all he’s done wrong to me and I pray for someone to give me good advice and to Leo me become a strong enough person to walk away. I’ve cries so many nights asking god to talk my feelings and pain away. I’m lost and confused.

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Jack Wellman January 28, 2014 at 8:43 am

Hello Stephanie. As painful as this is, you must cut off this relationship for he doesn’t sound like a Christian one bit. Since you apparently are, we are commanded to not be unequally yoked with non-believers and so you must, according to the Bible, cut off this relationship before something terrible happens. I would forgive him but that doesn’t mean you can not trust him. Leaven this man and put Christ first (Matt 6:33) and talk to your pastor right away.

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Thomas January 28, 2014 at 11:48 am

At one time or another, we have all experienced people who try to take our power. When they are a partner, it often comes down to defining and reclaiming who you are. In doing so, you gain clarity with whom you are dealing with, learn what steps to take, and if done with character, can serve as a growth opportunity for yourself moving forward.
Consider Galatians 5:22-23: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”
How far are you from achieving this? It sounds like you are being challenged with abuse. How did you come to arrive at such a place? What is the foundation of your relationship? Was it built on love and respect, and did you take the proper steps towards achieving its graces, or was it about lust and convenience? If the latter, it brings to mind, “So I will tear down the wall which you plastered over with whitewash and bring it down to the ground, so that its foundation is laid bare; and when it falls, you will be consumed in its midst. And you will know that I am the LORD.” (Ezekiel 13:14)
Ultimately, true faith in The Lord provides us the answers to our questions, but we must learn, understand and abide by his commandments, in order for our lives to achieve spiritual growth and understanding of what we seek.
Consider why people pray for abusers in their relationships, yet continue to remain and take the abuse when nothing changes. Where do their priorities even begin? You do not need any human to tell you what is wrong with your living situation. Perhaps the first question should instead begin within yourself and your priorities, and how your choices are keeping you in such an environment. The truth is often hard to hear when seeking answers, but embracing the truth and seeing it for what it is, is the first step in finding and bringing resolution.
If you are considering how to address the abuse, consider reading Psalm 18, and keep in mind, turning the other cheek is not about taking abuse, or not taking action, it is about not taking revenge, and that, is common sense.
Only you know why you are trying to better yourself, but since you taken that wonderful step, and if you have come to this site because you are seeking that truth as a Christian, believe that true repentance is both a blessing and a privilege, one that will present the answers for what you seek. It is probable, you will learn a new respect for yourself in the process.
Good luck with your journey, and God Bless.

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DiAngela April 30, 2014 at 9:39 am

Please do not remain in a relationship that is abusive! God does not intend for you to stay under the abuser’s foot! God loves you and proved it as Jesus Christ his only begotten son died for you. You do not have to stay with an abuser and die by his or her hand!!! Of course forgive them of what has occurred, and love them by praying for them that God have mercy on them and help their sin sick soul! You do not have to stay and you should not stay in such a sick ungodly and loveless relationship no matter who tries to intimidate you! God knows your heart if you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Savior… Remember the Lord will hear you when you pray, so don’t be bothered by the nay Sayers they do not love you! God loves you, He will keep you and give you peace. Run from those deceivers and pray for their souls!!!!!!

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deanna August 15, 2014 at 3:07 pm

I have a mother in law that for 52 years has done great harm to me, my husband and children as they grew up. We left, moved away for many many years and lived in peace. Four other family members encouraged us to move. My Mother in laws husband died who kept her under a little control but we were told to move quickly and never look back because she had such evilness planned. We did leave for over 40 years. We returned because I knew we needed to find forgiveness to be obedient to our LORD God. We did our best to establish a excepting relationship. But her actions were as if we had never left and it all began again. We have forgiven her but I had also read somewhere in the Bible that because she is still so destructive we do not have to have a person like this in our lives but forgiving is needed for our relationship with our LORD God. Does anyone know where that scripture is, that we do not have to have this kind of person in our lives?

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Jack Wellman August 15, 2014 at 7:21 pm

Deanna…the author of this article may have the Scripture verse but I couldn’t find it. I do know that any outside influence that negatively affects a marriage can certainly be excluded from that relationship for the higher good of the marriage. I think we are to forgive others even if they don’t repent or seek to ask for forgiveness and I see you have already done that. May the Bible verse in the first marriage is helpful. A man is to leave his father and mother and cleave or cling to his wife….so he is to leave and cleave and we could say he and really she, is to leave the parents out of the marriage relationship. I could not find such a Bible verse but what you are doing is biblical in the sense of protecting your marriage for this woman sounds like she could do much harm to it. I admire your forgiving her from such evil intent, showing you are following Christ in your love for others…even if they mean evil toward you. Maybe you already have been but this woman needs to be prayed for as Jesus said we should pray for our enemies and ask God to bless them (Matt 5) so that she might repent and trust in Christ for her eternity will be so terrible that I cannot even describe it. May God richly bless you as you are forgiving the unlovable which is a God-like attribute. My sincere compliments to you. As I said, I am not the author but only a pastor and I see you have done all that you can do. I thank God for such godly women of faith like you who have such a forgiving heart even for those who are hard to do so for.

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TK August 17, 2014 at 2:47 pm

Deanna,
Timothy 5:13 first looks at this type of interference from in-laws as being busybodies, but in this case, ultimately a bully.
Regardless of which side of the family the interference comes from, it is an assault upon the sanctity of the marriage and violates the “leave and cleave” of God’s order for marriage (Genesis 2:23-24). A man and woman leave their birth families and begin a new family, and they are to love and protect each other. A husband who allows his mother or his mother-in-law to interfere with his marriage is not living up to the commandment given to husbands in Ephesians 5:25-33. Boundaries need to be set and then held regardless of the resistance encountered. The reality is that people treat us the way we allow them to treat us. If we permit them to trample the sanctity of our family, then that is what they will do. No one, not even our extended family, has the right to invade the privacy of our home, and it is the responsibility of the husband to guard that privacy. He should take the lead in gently—but firmly—explaining to his mother-in-law what she is doing that is over the line and assuring her that such behavior cannot be tolerated. He should remind her that God has given him the responsibility for his family and to relinquish any of that responsibility to her is to disobey God. He should also assure her that he and his wife still love her, but that the relationship has changed and he is in charge now. That is God’s design for the family, and that is the way it will be. Then the couple must stand firm in their resolve.

What can we do about reacting to a woman who acts in the way a meddling mother-in-law does? We can make a choice not to allow her to take away our peace of mind. We may not be able to change the way others behave, but how we respond to their behavior is our choice. We can allow the actions of other people to get to us, or we can choose to give it over to God and allow Him to use this to strengthen us spiritually. It is our own response to this type of situation that fuels our frustration. Only we can stop wearing ourselves out emotionally by allowing an interfering mother-in-law’s actions to be the arbiter of our own peace. Her behavior is not our responsibility; our response is.

Parents and in-laws should be treated with respect and love, but we must not allow our emotions to entangle us. The best way to disengage an enemy is to make him an ally. This is done through God’s grace. Christians can always give the grace of forgiveness (Ephesians 4:32). It may not stop a mother-in-law from interfering, but it will be a source of strength and peace to stand in (Ephesians 6:11-17). The only place to find true peace of heart is in a personal relationship with God through Christ. Only then can we respond by resting in His peace.
-GQ

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Cashmere November 21, 2014 at 1:51 pm

My partner and I are not married but it has been a topic of discussion. He and I met via technology, a dating website. I left the website for spiritual purposes and especially since he and I committed ourselves to one another. I suggested to him recently that he remove himself from the site as well and he agreed. It was brought to my attention a few hours ago and the proof presented that he is still communicating with women on the very site where we met. I felt deceived, and as this seems minor; I’m afraid that this could lead to some major issues down the line. When I first approached him about it, he lied about it. I forgave him in the eyes of God but I’m afraid to trust him again. It’s not the first time I’ve felt slightly deceived by him. Week after week he’s failing in communication, but he is overwhelming me with ‘I’m sorry’s’ and he’ll do better because he’s an imperfect person. He appears to be such a great person, he’s God-fearing, family and goal oriented, a provider, kind and gentle. However, his attention when we’re in public are always on other women. He claims to be viewing them spiritually, a gift that he’s been blessed with. He’s always open and willing to do better in order to satisfy me, which I highly appreciate. However, I’m starting to wonder if I’ve involved myself with an individual who talks the talk and deliberately abusing my kindness knowing that I will forgive everything that he does. Still today, after hours and hours of talking me into forgiving him, he is still a part of this website. In my opinion, if your on a dating website, you’re presenting yourself as ‘available to date’. Could I be taking this issue more seriously than it needs to be? Do I pray that things will someday improve as he requests that I be patient with him. Or do I relieve myself of this situation before one day saying ‘I do’?

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Jack Wellman November 21, 2014 at 7:37 pm

I’m not sure what Pam would say, the author of this fine article but as for me, if I may be allowed Pam, I say No Cashmere, you are not taking these slights and repeated incidents lightly at all. I see many warning sings here. The last think you need is to get into a relationship with someone you cannot trust. I would say that if he is still making himself available, then that shows you that he will not be faithful in the relationship, or if it should come to that, in the marriage. No marriage is better than a bad one and dating relationships can lead to marriage. Let me also say that repeatedly saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t show he’s changing the situation. When a person repents that means that they turn away. Saying “I’m sorry” to God is not enough to be saved so him saying “I’m sorry” is not enough. Try breaking the law and telling a judge “I’m sorry”…it won’t work. I believe you need to speak with your pastor about this too and I for now, would keep my distance…you don’t want to get hurt and don’t want to be betrayed by this man who doesn’t seem trustworthy.

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Simon November 23, 2014 at 6:58 am

“Bread gained by deceit is sweet to a man, but afterward his mouth will be full of gravel.” Proverbs 20:17
I must agree with Jack. There may be more than one issue here. First, dating websites can be addicting because they are attention driven. Second, this person may not be ready to settle down, though he is enjoying the fruits of your relationship. Three, he simply may not be mature enough at this point. If so, what are your priorities?
I knew someone that did this as part of his dating routine, where he met women, even removed himself from a site, but would go back on to search for other women. He was eventually caught by a woman he was dating, who posed as another woman, which I understand occurs frequently, because this happens routinely with men who have anterior motives. Do you want to continue in the relationship because he was forced into compliance? Is his behavior setting a tone for a fitful and fruitful relationship?

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Jack Wellman November 23, 2014 at 12:47 pm

Great words of wisdom and good diagnostic questions Simon. Thank you sir. You obviously care about this woman’s situation and I think that shows me that you have a heart that is devoted to Christ. Thank you.

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Simon November 24, 2014 at 6:27 am

Thank you, Jack. One correction to my post: ulterior, not anterior. Often people’s words jump off the page in pain. Hopefully my thoughts from my experiences will provide comfort and reflection for those seeking answers or direction, with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
God Bless!

MPOTY November 25, 2014 at 2:38 am

Its so bad how we people treat each other. for my point of view, love , communication leads all the way. we need to forgive everyone who has sinned against us, for us to have peace in our hearts. God loves us so much but why cant we his living creatures cant love each other? peace unto all.

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Jack Wellman November 24, 2014 at 8:53 am

Simon, your thoughts are always helpful my brother. Thank you so much for all your time.

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