Is Masturbation A Sin? A Biblical Study

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The Bible is silent on whether or not masturbation is sin.  What verses can we turn to in trying to determine if this is sin or not?

Sexual Immorality Starts in the Mind

James gives us insight into how sin starts. Sin begins with temptation as we read in 1:13-15 “Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God,’ for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one.  But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.” Notice that James says we are tempted by our own desires. When we hold on to this desire it gives birth to sin and sin that is un-repented of leads to eternal death. Temptation itself is not a sin because Jesus was tempted by the Devil in the wilderness but Jesus resisted the Devil by quoting Scripture.  Satan twisted the Scriptures and took them out of context but Jesus rightly divided the Word of God and the sword of the Spirit, the Word.  The Word of God is powerful when fighting demonic weapons. When we give into temptation and don’t resist the Devil by fleeing from him, then it becomes full blown sin.

Put to death…what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

Put to death…what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

You are not alone because Paul wrote that “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it” (1 Corinthians 10:13).  That is a great promise from God that we are not helpless victims of our own lusts of the flesh. We can resist sexual immorality in our minds as we will later read.

Lusting is Sin

Jesus said “that everyone who looks at a woman [or a man] with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her [or him] in his [or her] heart” (Matt 5:28).  This means that we can commit sexual immorality in our minds and that God sees it as being the same thing as the physical act of adultery.  When we lust after a man or woman in our minds, then we are essentially committing adultery (if we are married) or fornication (if we are single).  Even if no one knows about it, God knows about it and so do we.  Our conscience condemns us if we have the Holy Spirit (Romans 2:1-3).  Just as thinking sexual thoughts about someone other than your spouse is sexual immorality, so too is hating someone likened to committing murder in the heart (Matthew 5:21-23).  There is only one thing that you can do when lustful thoughts come to your mind.  Pray, recall some memory Bible verses, and when this temptation comes “Submit yourselves…to God [so that you can] resist the devil, and he will flee from you” (James 4:7).

Masturbation is Sexual Immorality of the Mind

Paul gives believers an imperative command by saying that “sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints [and that] there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking” either (Ephesians 5:3-4).  Even if we commit the act of adultery in our mind, it doesn’t make it an innocent act.  Not the way God sees it. In fact Paul asks the Corinthians “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, ‘The two will become one flesh’” (1 Corinthians 6:15-16).  That shocks most unbelievers. When a person is joined together with another outside of the bounds of marriage, the two become one and the same. You can essentially be joined together as one with a male or female prostitute because it is written “the two will become one flesh” and who wants to be one and the same with a female or male prostitute?  Our bodies, being members of Christ, include our minds and because our minds are very much part of our body, when our minds commit adultery, it is the same as our bodies doing it.


From all the verses we have read we can clearly see that sexual immorality, certainly the physical act, but even the mental act, is the same as adultery. This includes those who are married and those who are single. Therefore, from the context of these Scriptures, we can see that masturbation is committing sexual immorality in the mind and if in the mind, it is the same as with the body (Matthew 5: 28). The Bible clearly warns us that you are to “Put to death…what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.  On account of these the wrath of God is coming” (Colossians 3:5-6).

My advice to you, whether single or married, is to “Flee from sexual immorality [because] every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.  Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).  The final destination of the sexually immoral is the lake of fire (Revelation 21:8). Don’t let that be your end. If you have a problem with sexual temptation, learn to memorize Scripture, fall on your knees in prayer during temptations, make a covenant with your eyes to not look upon men or women who are not your spouse, and flee temptation when it comes. It will not end well for those who do not resist sexual immorality. Let not this proverb be about you: “So you will be delivered from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words, who forsakes the companion of her youth and forgets the covenant of her God; for her house sinks down to death, and her paths to the departed; none who go to her come back, nor do they regain the paths of life” (Proverbs 2:16-19).

More to read: Bible Verses About Purity

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Jack H February 10, 2014 at 2:49 pm

Hello, Pastor Jack! Yet again, another article that is inspired by God! 😀 I like that you are not really asking, “Is masturbation a sin?”, but rather, “Are the thoughts and motives leading to masturbation a sin?”. And I personally believe that you were right to arrive at the latter, for motives are easily corruptible, and tend to be part of whatever deed the person is commiting, whether good or bad. Goodbye from across the Atlantic! 😀


Jack Wellman February 10, 2014 at 7:06 pm

Jack….my friend…you nailed it exactly. I love that. I was hoping that most would get what I was trying to say and you did so perfectly. I thank God for your hunger for the Word my good friend across the “big pond.” May God richly bless you for that.


Alan September 23, 2019 at 12:25 am

It amazes me that masterbation is treated worse than re marriage. My wfe let me and i folloe the strist rules of not remarriying if i do think abot a woman it is always my ex wife.


David February 11, 2014 at 1:32 am

Yes, I agree with both Jacks, 1 Cor 7 vs 9 says it all “.. but if they can`t exercise self-control, they should get married, because it is better to get married than to keep burning with sexual desire.“ [Complete Jewish Bible].
Quite right, the thought, if not dealt with through prayer and quoting God`s Word, will lead to sin.
Blessings, David Central Europe


Jack Wellman February 11, 2014 at 8:12 am

Thank you David. I appreciate hearing from you my friend. Thanks for the encouragement.


Bob October 15, 2021 at 4:58 pm

Sure, I’ll just run out tomorrow and get married. Women are just lining up to tie the knot with me over the last 30 years. Matter fact, I’ll close my eyes and point to the next single never divorced or possibly widowed woman that comes into range and ask her if she wants to get hitched. (It doesn’t work that way. That’s not how it works.)


Jack Wellman October 15, 2021 at 5:26 pm

Hello Bob. I am so sorry you have not yet found a godly woman to date and then become friends and then marry. Is there a singles group in your church or community? David is not saying that we can just close our eyes and point to the next never divorced women to marry. Many women and men have been cheated on and had their spouses committ adultery or their spouse died, so just because someone is divorced doesn’t mean they don’t have a right to marriage again. I will pray for you as you seem to have a bitter spirit over this. Christ must always come first (Mtat 6:33), not earthly relationships.


Dr Ley February 13, 2014 at 6:57 pm

Actually, the Bible does address this issue directly. In at least one instance in the Old Testament we are told of a person letting his “seed” go on the ground – and this was very displeasing to God. In fact it was said to be a sin…
check it out…


Dr Ley February 13, 2014 at 7:09 pm

forgot the reference…
see Genesis Chapter 38 verses 4-14


Jack Wellman February 13, 2014 at 8:35 pm

Thank you Dr. Ley. That is spot on sir. I missed that. Thanks for adding to this article my friend. Well done. Very insightful sir and thank you for visiting us here sir.


Veronica Otto Williams October 7, 2019 at 6:00 am

Hi my husband being masterbating every night it breaking my heart. We been marry for 3 years. I need your invace please


Jack Wellman October 7, 2019 at 9:41 am

Hello Veronica. I would ask him to go with you to counseling with your pastor. There is no need for this. He is sinning by not fulfilling your desire. Also, talk to him and tell him what this is doing to you. Is he a believer?


Jacob April 19, 2020 at 7:30 pm

I’m not saying masturbation isn’t a sin necessarily, but the sin when a man spilt is seed on the ground, that was because he refused to rear seed unto is dead brother. It was not about masturbation in and of itself.


Jack Wellman April 19, 2020 at 8:02 pm

Thank you for clearing that us sir. I apprecate it Jacob.


George November 12, 2017 at 1:22 am

This is incorrect exegesis. God was angry with Onan because he failed to fulfill his covenant obligation to carry on his brother’s line with his brother’s wife. It was this that aroused God’s anger against him, not the simple fact that he committed coitus interruptus (which, by the way, is not the same thing as masturbation…)

I agree with your larger point about avoiding temptation. But this OT passage doesn’t actually refer at all to masturbation or even sexual temptation, but rather to obeying a covenant obligation before God.


Doug October 13, 2019 at 12:30 am

You are taking that scripture out of context. If you are referring to the example of Tamar masturbation wasn’t the issue because NOWHERE does it say that he was masturbating now does it? . don’t try to fit the square peg in the round hole which it sounds like you are doing. This example was withdrawing during ejaculation. It’s a form of birth control not masturbation. God found displeasure with him because it was the law to provide the heir which he did not want to do. Unfortunately it makes the topic more confusing when people start introducing scripture taken out of context.


Mr A Cotton February 16, 2014 at 12:49 pm

I suffer with this cross, but I don`t have any thoughts or motives to lead to this sin.
Has a recent catholic we were told at the age of 7 years(Confession) that it was a sin. If you go to a doctor he will tell you it`s part of puberty growing up.
I have never liked sexual intercourse, don`t get me wrong I am not a homosexual.
It`s just like having a cup of tea,because I just drink the tea,and I don`t think about having a cup of tea beforehand.
It`s just on impulse.
I don`t like masturbating either it just comes on like a robot
The Holy Spirit is there to convict me so to me it his a sin.
The part I don`t understand is you are attracted to girls,and via versa. I look at girls but I don`t get any thoughts of sexual desire towards them. They are all like different flower`s
some flower`s are nice,and some of them are not it`s up to the individual.
Their was a saint called Pardre Pio who had the stigmata,and he trained his eyes not to look at women.
He would not let any woman into his church unless their skirt was on their knee`s. It`s the same outside the Vatican a priest stands there with cover cloths for the women who had mini skirts on,or where showing to much up top.
It`s a long time since I wrote a post because Jack when you said that sin was done at the cross then you said you are judged if you have any responsibilities in Heaven.
I was thinking a lot about this I havn`t any what I could think of, so it looks like I am going to hell (Depressed)


Jack Wellman February 16, 2014 at 12:58 pm

No, no, no, my friend. Any person that is concerned or as sensitive as you are to sin is one that shows that Holy Spirit is in them and cannot lose that Spirit (read Romans 8) and so you must learn to forgive yourself as you must read this to know what I am saying my good friend at: Please don’t despair for God has given us all that we need, and there is never any sin so big that the cross cannot cover so know that we will never be perfect in this life but perfectly forgiven. Before I head off to work, after my sermon and Sunday school let me say that you should confess any thoughts or sins and then let it go for the when the Devil reminds you of your past, remind him of his future. I thank God for men of faith such as you sir that care about their sin. That is a sure and certain sign of conversion and being born again and God has no aborted children! (read John chapters 3, 6, and 10 and of course Romans chatper 8.


David February 17, 2014 at 1:01 am

hi Anthony, I agree with Jack`s comment. I know about depression. Read the scriptures he suggests. Remember Jesu`s words about His peace?
Also, it would be good for you to get Christian counseling and Christian fellowship. Ask God to provide an opportunity to do this. Don`t say “well, I have tried, no-one came“, “Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened to you“.
Yes, we all have our troubles, we are all fallen sinners, however Jesus died that we might live and He sent the Holy Spirit to comfort us during the hard times. To not only comfort, also to convict us of our sins.
Often you may feel like you are going to hell, but that is a lie from the devil, the father of lies. When someone gives his life to Christ, he is a new creature, all the old life died with Him on the cross. End of story.
During the Inquisition people would confess to anything to stop the pain, we don`t have to go through that, simply and humbly confess your sins, your fears, your hurts to God, ask His forgiveness and move on, forgetting the past life, ask God for your past to be forgotten, He will cast it into the deepest sea of forgetfulness, you do the same.
Blessings, David Central Europe


Nicholas Head February 21, 2014 at 3:36 am

I was engaged to be married at one time , actually later we did-not get married , but we met her pastor and they had a tape to listen to that practically said to do this rather than to have sex with your partner , as if that were not as bad of a sin as the actual , you get what I mean , it went on to go into a study of how to train yourself as a man after marriage to last longer and an exercise for the girl for the P.C. muscle I believe it was called so sex would be more enjoyable for both . I wondered too if a man could perform this in thinking of his wife when she was having her period and etc.,. I am only stating what this tape had to say . I can’t remember the verse right this second but will look it up after writing — something to the effect it being better for sperm to enter the belly of a whore than to spill on the ground , and recall when a man secretly let his sperm go onto the ground rather than go by a command to help his brother’s wife to bare children — I am sure I have this wrong , and need to look this up too , I was just wondering what your thoughts are on these and I certainly did-not mean to get graphic in any of this .


Scott March 9, 2014 at 5:10 pm

In at least one instance in the Old Testament we are told of a person letting his “seed” go on the ground – and this was very displeasing to God. In fact it was said to be a sin… With that said, what about someone with a vasectomy? I assume that he was displeased b/c you are wasting his seed by not giving it to a woman that is your wife. But with the vasectomy the seed no longer exists. Would you say that God does not agree with vasectomy?


Jack Wellman March 9, 2014 at 6:05 pm

Thank you Scott for your question. I believe the spirit of this law is that sexual immorality can be of the mind. A person who has had a vasectomy can still commit adultery in their heart by lusting after another person of the opposite, and in some cases, the same sex. I don’t think that spilling his seed on the ground was the sin and this may not apply to this article but I believe that if a person does masturbate and lusts in their mind, that is sin, except it be for their spouse who they cannot have sex with. Even so, it is best to have sex within marriage. I am not sure it was sin only because they were wasting seed though. Thank you Scott. I am not sure my answer was satisfactory for you or not sir.


Gene April 20, 2014 at 11:58 am

What about a healthy man and a healthy woman, both in their sixties, he a widower, she a widow, in love with each other? If they share sex is that a sin?


Jack Wellman April 20, 2014 at 12:28 pm

Thank you Gene for your question. I appreciate that sir. Let this answer not be my own human opinion, which could be wrong but let the answer come from God Himself in His Word, in 1 Cor 7:9 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” If the two both love each other and they are a widow and widower, then why not marry? Any sex outside of marriage is sin and the sexually immoral will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven (1 Cor 6:9; Eph 5:5; Rev 21:8).


Stephanie May 1, 2014 at 4:22 pm

Hi pastor
I’ve written you before about different questions I’ve had and you were of tremendous help. I wanted to ask this here as it is very embarrassing to ask my own pastor. What about masterbating while thinking about ones own husband? My husband is gone for work slot and I often struggle with this. However I always end up guilty and asking forgiveness and telling myself I won’t do it anymore. What is your opinion. And also since I keep being a “repeat offender” am I willfully sinning/cherishing a sin, as john describes in 1 john? It saddens me and scares me that since I struggle with this I may not truly have His spirit. I’d love honest instruction. Thank you.


Jack Wellman May 1, 2014 at 6:35 pm

Stephanie, I don’t know how to answer that to be honest. I don’t think lusting after your own husband is sin of course. Since it saddens you and scares you and that it bothered you enough to come here, then I see that if a person’s conscience, particularly that of a Christian, then I would try to avoid it. As for having His Spirit or the Holy Spirit precisely, if a person can name a time and place where they repented of their sins, confessed them to God, seen their need for the Savior and then put their trust in Him, then you are saved and you can’t lose this. Read Ephesians chapter 1 & 2 I think it is…since you are asking forgiveness and end up feeling guilty this could be conviction from the Holy Spirit so this is a sure sign of conversion because a lost person doesn’t even care if they are sinning or in grey areas they could care less but you do and this shows a sensitivity to sin that comes from God. Maybe you could ask a trusted Christian women who is an older woman in your church. Since you are a woman and the pastor is a man, I think you shouldn’t counsel with him anyway, only exception would be his wife being with him. I don’t know if I helped or not my friend.


javier November 13, 2014 at 2:59 pm

Please help me I cant stop I dont want to lose my wife and family every time I have sex with my wife I think about other woman why why can’t I stop I pray and cry out


Jack Wellman November 13, 2014 at 5:48 pm

Javier, thank you sir for your comment and I see you have a problem but you are not alone in this. Have you spoken with your pastor about this? As a pastor myself, nothing embarrasses us so you must talk to him right away. Also read this at: which is called How to Overcome Sin and this one at : called how to overcome pornography, even if its of the mind. I would try to fast even and stay in the Word because there is real power in the Word of God and again, talk to your pastor about this right away. You cannot do this on your own, God can help, prayer can help, fasting, staying in the Word and talk to your pastor immediately. Don’t put this off. Don’t let it get you down though because I see the Holy Spirit is convicting you of this sin and you have admitted it is a problem…and that’s a great sign to me that you are convicted of this sin and want to stop. Don’t lose heart or hope.


J N May 12, 2015 at 5:54 am

what happens to a married person whose spouse refuses continually to have sex with him/her. The spouse just hates it, no matter the counselling received, or the sacrifice the other makes. if the deprived spouse is burning with desire but does not want to commit adultery can the deprived spouse masturbate imagining his or her own spouse? with that be sinful?


Jack Wellman May 12, 2015 at 10:01 am

I am so sorry J N for your being deprived. This is actually sin for your wife to do as the Bible commands the husband and the wife to not deprive one another (1 Cor 7:5). Is your wife a Christian? That is, is she saved? I would talk to your pastor about this or have you already? I would seek to take your wife with you for counseling. Would she go or refuse? My first concern is for your wife’s salvation? Is she even saved? Also, I think that adultery of the heart that Jesus spoke about was lusting after someone else outside of your marriage so I see no problem with lusting of the heart if you are thinking exclusively of your wife and don’t think it’s sinful at all my friend. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I will pray for her and you. I hope I have answered your question. I would still talk to your pastor about this. Thank you for your question my brother in Christ.


DJB May 7, 2016 at 3:39 am

Is masturbation still a sin if you are not married and create a fantasy girl to relieve sexual tension?


Jack Wellman May 7, 2016 at 1:26 pm

Yes, read Matthew 5 DJB. Lusting in the heart is the same as adultery of the heart.


M J June 18, 2016 at 6:32 pm

So is it okay to masturbate when I get married or if I happen to get aroused by my hormones without lusting after another?


Jack Wellman June 18, 2016 at 7:06 pm

Thank you MJ. We all sin, none are perfect but try not to let your hormones arouse you by having relations with your wife, therefore you shouldn’t need to, right?


DJB May 7, 2016 at 10:58 pm

How is it lusting in the heart when that fantasy girl isn’t even a real person?

She is a totally made up person.

You can only lust after a real person not a fake one.


Al October 11, 2016 at 3:11 am

Onan’s sin, spoken of in Genesis Chapter 38 verses 4-14,
is not masturbation but disobedience to God’s instruction to impregnate his late brother’s wife

Chapter 38 verses 8
“Then Judah said to Onan, “Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother.”


Josh MacKinlay October 12, 2016 at 6:41 am

Re the Onan situation…..would God really have asked somebody to break God’s own commandment concerning lusting after a woman who wasn’t his wife? Wasn’t Onan’s lust the thing displeasing to God? Wasn’t Onan’s’ spewing his seed on the ground a reaiization that he was about to break God’s laws? As foot that poor boy fantasizing…what of people who have no hope or chance of marrying yet have the God programmed desires through the hormones He created? Yes, masturbation is displeasing to God and sinful…but there is much more to the matter than a glib…;oh of you can’t control yourself then marry. Chance would be a fine thing for many sick, disabled, elderly, unattractive etc. who have no hope of marrying. JM


Janice October 20, 2016 at 3:52 pm

I do t think those verse are the same thing..


Angela Allard October 29, 2016 at 1:12 pm

No, that is incorrect. He (Onan-Genesis 38:9) was killed on the spot for having NOTHING to do with “dropping his seed” on the ground.
He was Killed because his heart clearly revealed Rebellion! Here’s the verse.
“And Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so it came about that when he went in to his brother’s wife, he wasted his seed on the ground, -in order not to give offspring to his brother-.”
So The reason God did this is NOT because Onan wasted his seed on the ground but because he did not want to impregnate his brothers wife, refused to perform his familial duties of producing offspring for his brother. This was a great offense at the time.
Deuteronomy 25:5-6

Well more than that, it revealed his Hearts condition which is the most important to God.
So this verse has nothing to do with masturbation or any relation to it whatsoever.

I Do agree with this article though.
Pastor Jack Wellman, finally the point to masturbation being a sin at all was perfectly pointed out… the MIND! Amen!
However… I do have a question Pastor Jack…
What about those married couples that spend time apart for 6 months to a year or for any length of time due to military and such??
I believe that the couples that practice self-discipline of the mind in the LORD and Faithfulness daily to their spouses, CAN also do that during self-service in this area while they are apart.
Such as the MIND, “their thoughts” will only be on their long missed Loves while they services themselves during these apart times.
They are not committing a sin that.


Jack Wellman October 29, 2016 at 2:26 pm

Great points my friend. Thank you. By the way, I never said in this article that I used “(Genesis 38:9) as saying the man “was killed on the spot for having NOTHING to do with “dropping his seed” on the ground.” Please read the article. I don’t even mention Genesis 38:9 in the article, so how can you say that Onan died because of this and my takin Gen 38:9 out of context when I didn’t even use it in this article? I never stated it in the article anywhere, so please re-read it and see where I am in error and quote it for me. I don’t think that spilling his seed on the ground was the sin and this may not apply to this article but I believe that if a person does masturbate and lusts in their mind, that is sin, except it be for their spouse who they cannot have sex with. Even so, it is best to have sex within marriage. I do not believe Onan sinned because they he was wasting seed though.


Angela Allard October 29, 2016 at 4:19 pm

Pastor Jack, I am aware of this.
I know you didn’t mention (Genesis 38:9) in your article.
I have hit reply on Dr Ley’s First comment to your article, but some how when I sent out my comment here, under Dr Ley’s it was no where near or under his comment at all once it processed.

Sorry for the confusion. That first part was not aimed at you.
However, I did include you at the end of my comment concerning your article only because you replied to Dr. Ley so I was certain you would see my message and see where I was speaking to you, instead of writing two comments, since you’re the one who checks all these anyway.

So there was no misunderstanding on my end, but I apologize for the confusion.
I hope now that this comment I’m leaving you now will be directly under your reply to me, because I hit reply to you just as I did my first one under Dr Ley’s yet it showed up as just a comment to your article.


Jack Wellman October 29, 2016 at 5:28 pm

No problem my friend. I was at fault apparently in understanding your comment. You are fine and I am sorry so it’s all good my friend. Thank you.


Don March 26, 2019 at 3:15 pm

What if you and the lady you are going with don’t want to marry buy want sex or what if your wife has passed and think of her and the sex you used to gab and you relieve yourself


Jack Wellman March 26, 2019 at 4:03 pm

Hello Don. If you and a lady are not wanting to get married but just have sex, you know this is wrong (Gal 5:19-21; Rev 21:8, etc) but if your wife has passed, you can lust after her since she ws your wife. Does this make sense sir?


Daniel December 26, 2016 at 1:07 am

Pastor, I have been in a frenzy for months now, thinking I’m going to hell for what I’ve done.
I have been sexually immoral in my ways for a long time, but several months back I am afraid I may have committed the unforgivable sin. I fought masturbation a long time, but one day I read the verse saying to cut off the hand, for it is better to lose one part of the body that for the whole body to be put into hell.
I didn’t try and stop my ways as I should have, and I think I’m going to hades for it now.
A few weeks after I read the verse, a feeling welled up in me in a moment of weakness. I think I lost my salvation right then. I think that I blasphemed the holy spirit by not obeying his commands, and now I’m lost forever.

I really need help with this. It’s a feeling I can’t shake off no matter how hard I try.


Ezra March 25, 2019 at 11:01 pm

God always welcomes you back with open arms. Like the father in the story of the prodigal son, he runs towards his lost son and creates a huge feast for him. God will accept you with open arms no matter how far you are from Him, for He is the God of love, God of peace, God of hope and God of miracles.
All you have to do is just to pray and believe that you have received His forgiveness. Pray such that His strength will empower you and you will no commit the same sin again.
God bless you!


Pastor Henry March 4, 2017 at 1:01 pm

Hi Brother Daniel, am sure this is very late response but what the Bible says is that ‘ the word of God is alive (living) and Powerful (active)….Heb 4:12, is never too late to hear. Before i continue to add my bit to your submission above, I want to commend Ps. Jack Wellman for his great works of rightly dividing the word of truth.. 2 Timothy 2:15, actually i was reading on Ps. Jacks subject and i decided to read also the reviews.

Bro Daniel actually you have not lost your salvation…
You know the love God has for mankind through Christ Jesus is so great the Apostle Paul prays that the church will comprehend the breadth, and length, and depth, and height of his love ….Ephesians 3:18-19. He ends by saying it is so great we may not fully understand it.
My Brother i haste to say God’s love is unlimited in Christ

But as humans Christ said “Spirit is always willing to yield to God but the flesh is weak”…Mark 14:38
Apostle Paul also reiterated this feeling of constant fight with the Spirit in Galatians 5:17-25

What you are feeling is what the Bible describes “death” for the wages of sin is death…James 1:13-15, and this state one needs to jump out of. This you can do if you know the truth about God’s word and it will set you free. The truth is He loves you no matter what, so confess your sins 1 John 1:8-9 and you are free. Anything you do and don’t feel right about is sin… Romans 14: 22b.

Jesus saids the only way to be out of such act is to watch and pray. To understand this further please visit below address. Thank you and God bless u.

It is our prayer to be strengthened with might by His spirit in the inner man. Ephesians 3:16

With Ps. Jack’s permission would like to direct you to further read
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Jack Wellman March 4, 2017 at 2:45 pm

Thank you Pastor Henry. I have seen your blog website and that article does provide help but also comfort. Thank you pastor for your labor of love for His glory.


Kenneth Smith March 29, 2017 at 12:34 pm

I got a question, even though I’ve already read those verses. Do I have to take out and forbid Masturbation in my life in order to be a complete full Christian? I’ve stopped my pornography habit and lusting habit, just wondering if Masturbation is ok


Jack Wellman March 29, 2017 at 1:28 pm

Hello Mr. Smith….masturbation comes from lustful thoughts, doesn’t it? Therefore, if you read Matt 5, lusting in the heart after another man or woman is the same as adultery so I don’t think it is okay sir. Thank you for asking.


Alan November 26, 2017 at 11:47 am

Has anyone thought of asking God instead of man? Here is what our great heavenly Father tought me through His Word and Holy Spirit. Jesus came to set the captives free. Much of you are captive to your flesh as you are not abiding in Christ. Masturbating does NOT have to come from lustful thoughts just as scratching an itch does not have to be lustful. The good Lord knows our bodies better than anyone. No porn,no lustful thoughts of other people and if NEED BE just get it done and get on serving our great God. Psalm 118:26 (I know, but it works) 1 Thessalonians 5:18


Jack Wellman November 26, 2017 at 12:23 pm

Hello Alan. God does speak to us through His Word, and I believe He has spoken and that masturbation is not a good thing. God never intended this for us, so you are right in one sense, but if a person is abiding in Christ, would they do this? I doubt it very much. It is sin to he who it is sin, since what is not of faith is sin, so you cannot speak for others if they feel it is sin because to them, it is.


Syrene January 5, 2018 at 8:59 pm

How is it sin if you are only thinking about your spouse?


Jack Wellman January 5, 2018 at 11:07 pm

Great question Syrene. I don’t think it is sin myself but to whomever it may be sin, as Paul said, what is not of faith is sin, but to them. I can’t judge another for doing that with their spouse in mind. Thank you for your comment.

Happy December 20, 2017 at 6:35 am

Great article!

When I became a Christian, I ceased masturbation without giving it another thought. I was so enthralled with knowing Lord Jesus Christ.

Some eight months later, I was in a situation where worldly women were paying me a lot of attention and I became sexually aroused.

The urge to masturbate came upon me, without thinking about the women. Overcome with sexual desire, I went to the washroom to masturbate, just to get some relief from my arousal.

I want to stress that I was not thinking of having sex any of the women, but I was overwhelmed with the desire to relief myself from being aroused.

As I was about to masturbate, a voice spoke: “That or me!”

I responded, “You Lord.”

I walked away without masturbating.

At that point I realized that masturbation is a choice we make.
Later when reading the book of James I learned, If we submit to the Lord and resist the Devil (James 4:7).

Over the years I have come to realize that masturbation is one of the reasons Christians do not overcome their sin and they are often depressed and feel forsaken. Instead of putting Lord Jesus Christ first, they let carnal desire rule in their lives and become the Devil’s prey.

Great article, which, I hope you do not mind, I have republished on my blog with appropriate attribution.

God bless you!


Jack Wellman December 20, 2017 at 9:12 am

What a great testimony to the power of God sir. I believe your experience will help many sir. Thank you sir.


Nina December 24, 2017 at 10:33 pm

Thank you in advance for your answer


Jack Wellman December 25, 2017 at 9:28 am

Hello Nina. I think you and your spouse should speak with your pastor and counsel with him over this. This is a very personal thing but if this is your spouse and it is your spouse whom you are thinking of, I see no real problem with this.


gregoria January 15, 2018 at 8:21 pm

Thank you brother Wellman, I have been searching
for articles, sermons ,and any christian info about mansturbation ; It really seems that nobody feels free or sure or stro ng enough to speak on the subject, but I am so glad that thru you the Lord our God spoke by Holy Spirit ( ispired you). I thank the Lord , I cannot put your inspired thoughts down.May the Lord your God continue to bless you.amen


Jack Wellman January 15, 2018 at 8:39 pm

Hello Gregoria. You are encouraging. I believe we all struggle with many different things in life (Rom 7), but the good news, God never gives up on us and there is strength gained in the struggle, and that gives people hope!


gregoria January 15, 2018 at 8:56 pm

Thank you brother Wellman,after years of strugglin in search for an answer to mansturbation, The Lord your God inspired you to answer and that it reaches me. I am glad I found your site since this my seco d answer to questions that crowed my mind, the other was is there sex in heaven?


YowitsMe January 19, 2018 at 11:48 pm

Hello, sir! I have a question: if i masturbate with physical only and not with mind, is it a sin?


Paul January 20, 2018 at 7:57 pm

The bible gives a vast list of sexual sins from bestiality to homosexuality we are to run from. Masturbation isn’t mentioned once.If it were a grave a sin as many pastors consider it,God would have mentioned it at least once If we are to avoid the lusts of the flesh then you better not indulge that apple pie cake and ice cream
It’s foolish to assume we all of the sudden have strong sexual urges after we marry.Paul said if we burn with lust then marry. Not fast for 2 weeks,take a cold shower then pray 5 hours..marry,that simple


Jack Wellman January 20, 2018 at 8:47 pm

Hello Paul. If lusting in our hearts is considered adultery of the heart, think about that. Does it glorify God? Is it something you could do before other brothers or sisters in Christ? Is it love, pure, holy, and the things we’re to dwell on. Jesus never mentioned bank robbery by name but we know its sin, so just because Jesus never mentioned masturbation is no proof it is not sin. That’s an argument from silence and we could use that all day to justify our actions.


Anonymous January 20, 2018 at 10:38 pm

Everyone knows that your body will do what it will. Regardless of thoughts, lusts, and desires. If you are just filling a physical need, to get things under control, without lustful, covetous thoughts, or desires. And female (there’s no seed & eggs can’t fall to the ground). Would that be sinful?

Folks are always talking about men masturbating. Is it different for women?


Jack Wellman January 21, 2018 at 1:09 pm

Hello Anonymous. Paul said some have made themselves eunichs for the kingdom so masturbating is not natural, God forbids it as its caused by lust in the heart, and if you wouldn’t do it in public or in front of others, you should not do it in private. This is not living a holy life. It is not different for women. It includes both men and women.


Lori January 25, 2018 at 1:33 pm

I’m a little confused with your statement about masturbation. You said if you would not do in public or in front of others you should not do it in private. We have sex in private not in public so is sex now wrong to? I’m not arguing about masturbation being wrong was just confused with your statement that’s all.


Jack Wellman January 25, 2018 at 1:56 pm

Sex between a married couple is to be private but whatever else we do, if we cannot do it in public, we should not do it at all. I don’t mean showering or bathroom trips, but I am sure you not what I mean my friend. If we want to be above reproach and not ashamed at His coming (1 John 2), then if we would not be ashamed to do something in front of Christ, it must not be sin. That is all I am saying sir. This is a very controversial subject and I cannot judge anyone, but only base this on principles found in the Bible (i.e. Matt 5).


Tammie February 16, 2018 at 2:53 am

Hi THANK U for this article I’ve been lookin for answers to masturbation for a long time u have answered all my questions compleatly may God bless u always ! Love you from my heart .


Jack Wellman February 16, 2018 at 1:06 pm

Thank you Tammie. Prayers for you my friend.


Klein March 1, 2018 at 9:53 am

Thank you for the article and all the replies Pastor Jack.
I am not married and was living a celibate life for ages and did not have sex with anybody else or with myself through those years. I picked up problems with my prostrate and bladder and had to see a urologist to sort it out for me.
On learning that I am living a celibate life he advised me to masturbate at least every second week. This is necessary to prolong my life here on earth and to better my physical condition.
Do I then listen to my urologist to improve my standard of living here on earth or refuse to do so because the Trinitarian will reject me when I do what the urologist ask me to do?


Jack Wellman March 1, 2018 at 10:01 am

Hello Klien. I examined medical evidence and studies to the statement your doctor made and frequent masturbation in young men is actually linked to higher risk of early prostate cancer, but it lowers prostate cancer risk for men in their 50s, a study shows. That’s because high levels of male sex hormones, or androgens, may increase a man’s risk of prostate cancer. But different studies of this question, done in different ways, have reached different conclusions, so there is no consensus to what your doctor said. He may or may not be right. Studies indicate that frequent masturbation during men’s 20s and 30s increased their risk of prostate cancer but men in their 50s who masturbated frequently had decreased risk. The question becomes, if something is sin, and we do it to prolong our life, is this pleasing to God? I think you know. Your urologist should not make this decision for you, even if it’s by suggestion, since there is not enough evidence to prove it, but even if it did help prolong your life, would this be reason to do something you know that God does not like? The Bible teaches obedience is better than sacrifice.


Klein March 2, 2018 at 1:14 am

Thank you Pastor Jack.
I will have to undergo a paradigm / mind shift now. I am 68 and need to undergo an operation to remove cancer from my bladder and this suggestion by the urologist came in preparation for it to happen during May 2018 due to the prostate problem as well.
Thank you once again for the feedback.
May God be with you forever and ever. Amen


Jack Wellman March 2, 2018 at 11:28 am

Hello Klien. My prayers are for you brother. I am so sorry for all this but am overjoyed at your desire to live in obedience…regardless of the circumstances. I am sure God is most pleased. Thank you for the encouragement.


Christine July 7, 2018 at 10:50 am

Could I please ask a question?
I recently ended a relationship (we are both Christians). We did not become one flesh but were intimate in other ways. He assured me this was ok as we were intending to marry. I ended the relationship due to differences. I repented of all I had done with him but then this morning, remembered his touch and well…masturbated. I knew it was wrong but still justified it in my mind, then felt wretched after. I have prayed, confessed, asked for forgiveness saying that I want my body to remain pure unto God. I also never want to abuse God’s grace but feel that I did. I appreciate this is a very sensitive subject but cannot think of anyone I know that I want to discuss it with. I lost my peace with Jesus once before and had a breakdown. I had a panic after this incident and thought I may get ill again over this. Any words of advice would be welcome. Thank you in advance.


Jack Wellman July 7, 2018 at 11:26 am

Hello Christine. For one thing, I am glad you ended this relationship because this man who said “this was okay as we were intending to marry” is a light straight out of hell. Love means you wait for marriage and lust means you don’t, so this man would not have been a good husband anyway, but God forgives all our sins (1 John 1:9) and you must believe that and not believe what you feel or your feelings are. You did the right thing. You were troubled by this and ended the relationship and now God will forgive you. Now, you must learn to forgive yourself since God already has.


andres bonifacio August 4, 2018 at 9:08 pm

hello Jack,
hello all,

if i may ask …
when god punishes ( Eve for eating the forbidden fruit )
he condemmed women ( all women… my mother , your mothers)
so condemmed are my daughter… so my nieces etc..
Pain will be, pain will come as they bring child into the worrld ( Satan’s realm )

I cannot differentiate mobsters ( especially Asian gangsters )
punishing, killing not just the subject or sinner but the family..
basically condemming father to son to mother to daughter!!

I cower to the thought that i may pass the same iniquity to not just the one who Tresspased ( evil doer that may hurt my children or family ) but his or her whole family… everybody.

sorry the question runs away….
but punish are all the women by God ,
for the iniquity by one ( like Eve ) is as God does.

here is the question!
Why not Punish … i mean punish not the one but ALL !!!!
I can feel the pain… but the pleasure comes after the pain
I probably could not stop… i would continue punishing.


Jack Wellman August 4, 2018 at 9:16 pm

Hello my friend & thank you for your question. We ALL deserve God’s judgment. Not one of us is righteous (Rom 3:10-12), so God would be fair and just to punish all of us, but in His love He has chosen some. God is not against women or fixated on punishing women. In fact, Christianity has lifted up women in our eyes and God sees no difference between male and female. Eve was punished as was Adam. I hope I have helped you my friend. There are some things that I cannot answer about God since His ways are past finding out, but the essentials are as simple, a child can understand them (John 3:16).


Kappa February 6, 2019 at 11:28 pm

Is it adultery if its animation?


Jack Wellman February 7, 2019 at 9:47 am

Thank you Kappa. If the animation is about sexual immorality, then it is adultery of the mind and would be considered sin by God.


Alessandra Phillips June 30, 2019 at 5:47 pm

I don’t think you will go to hell for having sex with your one person you love. Yes God wants us all to treasure the beauty of marriage. But what if you have been with that person for ever.
After my divorce I meet a man after my ex husband his the only man I have been with. And we have a child together. Does that make me sinful and unable to go to heaven


Jack Wellman June 30, 2019 at 6:54 pm

No Alessandra. I don’t think you’ll go to hell for what you did. God hates divorce, but loves and forgives divorced people. As long as you are not living together and are legally married, I see nothing wrong. My old mentor told me, “You can’t unscramble an egg.” God loves you; we can all confess our sins and He wil cleanse us (1 John1:9).


Maru September 5, 2019 at 4:11 pm

Please reread her comment. She is having a long term sexual relationship with a man without being married.


Jack Wellman September 5, 2019 at 5:34 pm

Hello Maru. Which “she” do you refer to please?


Jana April 13, 2020 at 8:48 pm

Hello Maru,
I am replying to your post because I replied to Mr. Wellman’s answer or rather question to your post on 9-5-19 at4:11 PM. He never gave you an answer. Maybe it’s because the answers and replies do not fall directly below each comment. We comment and he answers but then if someone replies to his answer, there isn’t anything that shows below it because he may answer on a different day. I scrolled on through here and never saw a reply from him. Please read the post I made in regard to his question of Which “she” do you refer to?” It was made on 4-13-20 at approx. 8:30 PM.


Confused July 8, 2019 at 12:35 am

My husband left me and now he is living with another woman in another state. We have been separated for 8 years. My question is can I divorce him without being sinful. Will God forgive me if I meet someone else and remarrying.


Jack Wellman July 8, 2019 at 9:23 am

I would talk to your own pastor about this but if he has committed adultery, you should be free to remarry. What has your pastor said about this? Please talk to him too.


Mary September 5, 2019 at 4:04 pm

So for us single women. Please note it is a scientific fact that when we ovulate, and also right before menstruation, we are sexually aroused. It has zero to do with lust and all to do with how a woman’s body was designed by God so that we have a desire to be fruitful and multiply. There is no verse that says masturbation without lust is wrong. It does not matter if we read the Bible or pray while our hormones are doing what God designed them to do because the urge will remain and is not evil or of the devil. Hormones due to ovulation do not simply shut off because we are single. It is also not a matter of burning because there is zero lust involved. It is literally how God created the female body.
Ovulation in a women is there whether single or married. And no, going for a walk or eating chocolate does not fix it.


Jack Wellman September 5, 2019 at 5:30 pm

Whoever lusts in their heart for someone not their spouse is adultery of the heart…that is all I can say. It is up to each person’s own conscience before God. Paul said it is better to marry than burn with lust. That’s biblical fact, science aside.


He Who Hath an Ear October 25, 2019 at 5:18 am

It is impossible for a single woman to commit adultery because a man can only commit adultery with a married woman. Jesus was talking about a man looking on a “married” woman. (it is not adultery to have sexual relations with a single woman even if you are a married man) Later he also showed his understanding that it is human nature to look, but not to touch! For it is better to cast the eyes into hell then the entire body!

“But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.” – Matthew 5:28–29 KJV


Jack Wellman October 25, 2019 at 10:10 am

Hello friend. You have a double standard…one for men and one for women, and that is sin. Adultery can be committed by both men and women and your arguement is weak in that you assume Jesus was only speaking to men, but as you can see elsewhere in Scripture (1 Cor 6), He is speaking to us all, men and women. You’re taking text out of context to create a pretext and a false one at that. Please get a good study Bible and you’ll see you are in great error and teaching others error too. Please repent of this. You need more than an ear to hear…you need eyes to see the Scriptures.


Austin October 11, 2019 at 9:59 am

Hey, Mr. Jack names Austin and i struggle with this daily. Its so hard but at the same time i know who Jesus is and i grew up in church and i know he can help me. But its not that its the fact that i can’t seem to forgive myself even tho he forgives me. I have a hard time because my wife doesn’t understand how hard it is to stop. I don’t want to lose my wife or my 2 wonderful kids over something the enemy has been feeding me. I been trying for years to stop and at times i can stop up to a few weeks but then i slip back into it. It’s a bondage that only you and Jesus can break. I mean Jesus overcame the world and he came here so that we could overcome the world also. Like you said it starts in the mind if you can stop it there most the times it want go further. Like a pastor told me once if you keep feeding it then it will grow the only way to stop is it is Jesus and to stop feeding the problem.


Jack Wellman October 11, 2019 at 10:15 am

I am praying for you now Austin. Have you and your wife sought counsel from your pastor? There are things that we all battle with, and this side of heaven, none of us will be sinless. Don’t give up the battle…at least you know it is wrong, but there is hope that Jesus can help you in these times of tempation (PHil 4:13). If you fill your mind with Scripture, and run to the Word of God when tempted, and fall on your knees and ask for God’s Spirit to help you when you feel it coming on, this can help my brother.


Evelyn October 21, 2019 at 8:32 pm

I’m a married woman who’s husband is overseas in the military. We have been apart for over 2 months now. I have sexual desires but in no way want to explore them with anyone else but my husband. I do masturbate but while I do I think and remember the sexual encounters I’ve had with my husband. He is the only one on my mind during the act. Is this also a sin in God’s eyes since my lust if of my husband?


Jack Wellman October 21, 2019 at 9:43 pm

Hello Evelyn. I believe you can lust after your own partner. Jesus said that if we lust in our hearts for someone other than our spouse, that is like adultery of the heart, but I don’t see any issue for this since you are so far apart and for so long. Generally it is the fact that whatever is not of faith is sin, or if you are convicted by doing this, then it is sin, but if you feel it’s not sin to you since you are desiring after your own husband, then it is not sin. I hope this helps. Praying for you and your husband who is serving our nation and our thanks be to him and to you too, since the spouses of those deployed serve, and serve in a very difficult situation (for example, your long separation from your beloved husband). Thank you for your question.


Mar January 12, 2020 at 5:35 pm

I am a widow, who is used to having sex for the past 45 years. I keep remembering sex with my husband, and end up master bating. Is this a sin?


Jack Wellman January 12, 2020 at 5:57 pm

I do not believe it is sin to lust after your own spouse, living or not, but your own conscience must guide your decisions Mar. Thank you for your comment.


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