Bible Verses About Marriage: 20 Great Scripture Quotes

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The earliest use of the English word “marriage” dates back to the 13th century [1]. Marriage by God’s design is the union of one man and one woman (Genesis 2:18).  Some say that it is the ceremony (wedding) that makes the man and woman married;  God’s word tells us that it is the joining of flesh that makes the marriage (Genesis 2:24).  Here are twenty great Scripture quotes about marriage.

Hosea 2:19 And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy.

God’s Plan for Marriage

Genesis 1:27-28 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.  And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

Bible Verses About Marriage

Let marriage be held in honor among all

Genesis 2:21-25 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

Malachi 2:14,15  But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.

1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Children Given for Marriage

Genesis 29:22,23 So Laban gathered together all the people of the place and made a feast. But in the evening he took his daughter Leah and brought her to Jacob, and he went in to her.

Judges 1:12 And Caleb said, “He who attacks Kiriath-sepher and captures it, I will give him Achsah my daughter for a wife.” And Othniel the son of Kenaz, Caleb’s younger brother, captured it. And he gave him Achsah his daughter for a wife.

1 Samuel 17:25 And the men of Israel said, “Have you seen this man who has come up? Surely he has come up to defy Israel. And the king will enrich the man who kills him with great riches and will give him his daughter and make his father’s house free in Israel.”

1 Samuel 18:20,21 Now Saul’s daughter Michal loved David. And they told Saul, and the thing pleased him. Saul thought, “Let me give her to him, that she may be a snare for him and that the hand of the Philistines may be against him.” Therefore Saul said to David a second time, “You shall now be my son-in-law.”

Popular Bible Marriages/Weddings

Genesis 24:67 Then Isaac brought her into the tent of Sarah his mother and took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her. So Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.

1 Samuel 25:40-42 When the servants of David came to Abigail at Carmel, they said to her, “David has sent us to you to take you to him as his wife.” And she rose and bowed with her face to the ground and said, “Behold, your handmaid is a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord.” And Abigail hurried and rose and mounted a donkey, and her five young women attended her. She followed the messengers of David and became his wife.

Ruth 4:13 So Boaz took Ruth, and she became his wife. And he went in to her, and the LORD gave her conception, and she bore a son.

Esther 2:16-18 And when Esther was taken to King Ahasuerus, into his royal palace, in the tenth month, which is the month of Tebeth, in the seventh year of his reign, the king loved Esther more than all the women, and she won grace and favor in his sight more than all the virgins, so that he set the royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti. Then the king gave a great feast for all his officials and servants; it was Esther’s feast. He also granted a remission of taxes to the provinces and gave gifts with royal generosity.

Luke 2:4,5 (KJV) And Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judaea, unto the city of David, which is called Bethlehem; (because he was of the house and lineage of David:) To be taxed with Mary his espoused wife, being great with child.

John 2:1,2 On the third day there was a wedding at Cana in Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus also was invited to the wedding with his disciples.

What the Earthly Marriage Symbolizes

Isaiah 54:5 For your Maker is your husband,  the LORD of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer,  the God of the whole earth he is called.

Ephesians 5:23,24,32 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

Revelation 19:7-9 Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe herself  with fine linen, bright and pure”— for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints. And the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.”

Revelation 21:9-14 Then came one of the seven angels who had the seven bowls full of the seven last plagues and spoke to me, saying, “Come, I will show you the Bride, the wife of the Lamb.”And he carried me away in the Spirit to a great, high mountain, and showed me the holy city Jerusalem coming down out of heaven from God, having the glory of God, its radiance like a most rare jewel, like a jasper, clear as crystal. It had a great, high wall, with twelve gates, and at the gates twelve angels, and on the gates the names of the twelve tribes of the sons of Israel were inscribed—on the east three gates, on the north three gates, on the south three gates, and on the west three gates. And the wall of the city had twelve foundations, and on them were the twelve names of the twelve apostles of the Lamb.

Christian Quotes About Marriage

“Marriage is an exclusive union between one man and one woman, publicly acknowledged, permanently sealed, and physically consummated.” ~ Selwyn Hughes

“The monstrosity of sexual intercourse outside marriage is that those who indulge in it are trying to isolate one kind of union (the sexual) from all the other kinds of union which were intended to go along with it and make up the total union.”  ~ C.S. Lewis

A man doesn’t own his marriage; he is only the steward of his wife’s love.”  ~ Edwin Louis Cole (Ed Cole)

“God created marriage. No government subcommittee envisioned it. No social organization developed it. Marriage was conceived and born in the mind of God.”  ~ Max Lucado

“Fifty-fifty marriages are an impossibility. They do not work. They cannot work. In marriage someone has to be the final decision maker. Someone has to delegate responsibility, and God has ordained that this should be the husband. ~ Wayne Mack


The Holy Bible, English Standard Version

“Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.”

The Holy Bible, King James Version

Source: [1] Song ” I Will Be Here For You”- Michael W. Smith

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YORKE February 11, 2013 at 8:16 pm

Hello….my name is YORKE and am about to marry, but the lady I want to marry doesn’t known how to say sory pleace I need ur advice.


Pamela Rose Williams February 11, 2013 at 9:58 pm

Hello Yorke, thank you for visiting us here at WCWTK. Perhaps your lady may find it interesting to read up on forgiveness. We written quite a few articles on that subject however, I think I would like her to read the one that David Peach wrote first. It has great lessons right from the Bible. She can read it here:


lorin January 7, 2014 at 9:40 pm

Hi Yorke, I would like to comment about this because I feel like I am like your wife with my husband. He says the same thing about me. So, I thought I would share my perspective. I dont know what the situation is but there are reasons why I have had trouble saying sorry. If I do something that bothers my husband, he has this way of being revengeful ten fold and making me suffer. It immediately makes it hard for me to say sorry. I feel like if he would treat me with love then anything I did wrong would be apparent, but instead I feel like while I did something wrong it seems so shy in comparison in the words and ways he has made me suffer. Other times I feel like I never did anything wrong, but in his eyes I did.. and there is an important, perhaps one of the most important, tools in marraige that is active listening. We dont fully listen and show understanding to each other, so we both pout bc we feel misunderstood. My advice to you is to focus on you, try to actively listen, not react, not allow yourself to ever overshadow anything she has done wrong, instead calmly let her know that when she did something it made you feel “disrespected” or whatever it is. Ultmately, if you want her to say sorry, you have to make her sins against you seem apparent by not doing anything back to her to overshadow what she has done. Hope this helps!


christie February 16, 2013 at 7:07 am

hi, have been married for 8years and have 3 kids,7,4 and 2 years old. for a year i have been working in a different state with the 2 year old while my partner lives with the 2 older kids and a house-help. he insists that the climate at my workplace is too harsh but i feel considering the ages of my kids i should live with them.we argue a lot on this and am tired. please advise


Chris Leon July 6, 2013 at 3:49 pm

What are your Priorities?Is it
1.Your job
2.Your family
3.Your Husband
You can lose your job, your family and your husband, which concerns you most?
Actualy you admitting that you family is divided in two.
A family is father, mother and children, not father, children and house-help(whatever that is). A wife is her husband’s help-mate and you have deligated that possition to another.


Zippy April 10, 2014 at 5:33 pm

I don’t know if you’re still dealing with this, and I would say pray, but pray God would give you the strength to carry out what He has already said to do in His Word. In Ephesians 5:22 He said, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” This means that out of your reverence for the Lord you yield what you feel and by faith, do what your husband says.
I know you have your views and feelings about the situation but you have to trust the Lord in this situation and not lean on YOUR UNDERSTANDING of what you think is best. God can make anything work out for good. I could tell you stories of women I know who obeyed the Scripture s because of their love for the Lord and stopped arguing with their husbands. They submitted and the Lord turned the situation totally around to work in the woman’s favor. It’s about the Lord and honoring His Word. Those children belong to Him. Honoring God through your marriage should be your top priority above everything else.


lynette February 25, 2013 at 10:14 pm

christie :pray and give it to god


ben February 26, 2013 at 3:05 am

Thank you going through some hard times and just what I needed


Daisy March 13, 2013 at 9:24 am

Consider the Fact that you both are now parents and decide on whats best for the Children…..Sit and talk but before doing that both of you should pray and ask the Lord God our Father and Creater to Help both of you to make the best and right decision….Communication is the key on earth and as well as Heaven….. All the Best and God Bless your family


Maggie March 13, 2013 at 3:24 pm

Christie: Hello I belive your right on spending time w/your older children. Comunication and understanding is a big part of marriage.Pray about maybe moving bk I belive husban and kids should be your priority.


Tobe March 13, 2013 at 4:50 pm

I met a man many years ago, right nw he is in Dubai working and i am in Nigeria, i have been telling him about marriage, he has been promising but no step is taking and he doesn’t want me to go what can i do?


k March 23, 2013 at 10:08 am

need you to recommend a book or bible verses to walk lesbian women through to show proof of what god says about it.


Jay April 9, 2013 at 9:19 pm

This is only meant for the barren woman without a husband. You have to start at the beginning of Isiah to understand this statement. This is misleading information to any woman looking for a husband and is not dedicating their life solely to the lord. A married wife is married to her husband, & all blessing come through the husband or mate who is in better standing with the Lord in today’s World. Anyone quoting the Word should realize this before using a passage to enlighten oneself or others.


rita April 22, 2013 at 3:43 am

i have been planning marriage with my partner who lives in a different country. He wants me to join him over but i feel i am in a good employment where am living. I don’t want to leave my job now. What can i do?


Larry April 25, 2013 at 4:27 pm

Hey, My Son is going through a hard time right now, the same as i have been through some 30 years ago. It;s his marriage, thy have 2 kids of there on, and She like’s to go out in get really where she does not remember how Drunk she gets, Hewould stay at home with the kids in let her for he said he Love’s her in to keep her he would do what he can. But i guest that was not enough, for She move out in when to her Mother’s, She is Bipola i think thats how you spell it, and want take the Med. for it. And has omit that she was or going to sleep with another guy. I have try hard to fine the words to tell him to just let go, and try to get the kids from her, for she also has try to do away with her self at one time. I pray everynight for him, and also have told to leave it in God’s hands. This is easy for me to say, but i no the Heart ace he is going through for i have been there myself. Is there any verse in the Bible i can say to him, or put on the net so she could read that maybe God will show her what she is doing is wrong, or am i just wasting my time worry about them, more or less him. Why do people do this when the Kids or to young to have a say in it, i’m sorry for carrying on and will be waiting on your reply, Thank You and Have a Bless D ay…. Larry


Anton July 13, 2014 at 5:20 am

Alcohol is the real cause to this problem. Get her away from the alcohol no matter what. It clouds her mind to see the beauty of the kids, The loving husband and a loving home. This is the work of the devil and needs to be stopped.. There will be hard work but the reward will be far greater and the victory will be sweeter when the family will become a loving family.. Finally seek God as one family and do not look left or right but stay focused on him and the fruits of the spirit to guide you.


Jami May 6, 2013 at 12:10 pm

Sorry for the heartache for all those involved. I Corinthians ch. 7 is great to read. It talks how a wife should not leave her husband & if she did she must remain unmarried and be reconciled to her husband. And a husband should not divorce his wife. It goes onto say if a believer is married to an unbeliever and the unbeliever leaves then the believer must let him/her go. God has called us to leave in peace. But if the unbeliever is willing to stay with the believer than let him/her stay. I prayed for your son & his family.


Bre May 20, 2013 at 5:58 pm

Hello, I am 21 and i am engaged. My fiancee and i are in church and strong believers of god.He loves the lord and church. He is ready i mean really ready for us to be married asap and we have been engaged since 02.14.2013. He is 28 and a wonderful guy,humble, great provider, good heart,dont argue, comes home and is honest.He is really different from any of my past relationships where i was abused, cheated on, used,and just stressed. I really feel that god has sent him to me for my husband but my problem is although i know all this about him looking at my cousin and sister which are 25 and 23 i am kind of scared to marry him bc of how they got a divorce so quickly(within 2 years) and i dnt know if im marrying too soon or if i will be able to handel marriage or living with someone for the rest of my life not knowing the changes in them that may come. What is your besit advice on me making a decision? Thanks and god bless


Mike May 29, 2013 at 10:32 am

Bre, it’s very important to trust God in all aspects of your marriage; if you read Ephesians 5, that is the groundwork for all marriages. I’ve been married for a few years, and the things that have come up and been incredibly hard are things I could never have planned or foreseen. Our marriage was on the brink of ending a few months ago, but I honored Gods plan to love my wife and she honored the plan to respect me, and we are still together, getting stronger after almost having the marriage fall apart. We’re a long way from “good”, but are slowly making progress with prayer and therapy. Hearing how young you are, I’d recommend seeking some pre-marriage counseling and also find an older couple who could mentor/hold you accountable. If you have had some abuse or bad relationships in the past, I’d recommend possibly seeing some counseling for that too.


Esi July 4, 2013 at 6:11 am

Pls! I’m 23yrs of age, having knocking with a keen guy whos under pressure, God fearing, faithful, supportive, respectful, gentle n lovely. But one day he told me that he has had a dream that i m getting marry to a different guy in e dream, since den he has been fighting with guys in his dreams all b’cus of me. And just yesterday I also dreamed that I’m being wedded to him n all of e sudden on his left hand side there is another guy hold a ring in his hand too.
And just morning I called my guy n he said, he’s sick. Pls help me in what to do. Thanks luuking 4wrd to u.


lorin January 7, 2014 at 10:19 pm

I think dreams mean a lot. Praying about the dream for clarity can help. But what are you feeling when you are dreaming or thinking about the dream. Maybe his dream is a sign of how much he loves you and doesn’t want another man to marry you before he does. Your dream makes me wonder if you are interested in getting to know other men, if you are thinking about an ex?, if you are confused. What did you feel when you saw the other man holding the ring? Were you curious? Are there qualities in this other person that you want? It could be a warning from God. But only you and your guy can pray and figure this out.


Mary January 11, 2014 at 9:15 am

Check this website out. It’s based on hearing from God, (also 2-way journaling), and dialoging with the LORD. This site has a section on dreams too and states that 1/3 of the Bible comes out of visions/dreams, etc. The name of the website is (Communion With God Ministries). I pray it reveals God’s voice to you.


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munir masih June 1, 2013 at 11:40 am

vary nic thanks


Nicole June 1, 2013 at 7:02 pm

I have a question my husband is a ordained minister and I would like for you to explain to me is it right for a man of God to give his personal cell number to and twenty something year old female and did have a conversation with them tell them that he was going to leave me is that right and I should be upset because is a man of God and I just need some answers Tear Eyes


gus September 14, 2013 at 8:34 am

Hi Nicole. I am not perfectly versed in scripture. In fact you may likely be far better versed than I. I believe it started with Adam and eve. Yes its a sin, but it’s a sin for anyone. We are all human and worldly people, and have an inherant compulsion to sin. Again , I don’t know exactly where the it is wrote, so plesse don’t quote my words , but it does say in scripture that those who don’t know Gods word are given more mercy. And those that commit the sin knowingly, have done it literally and will have to carry that burden greatly. Like I said, I may not the best person to help you but I will pray for your healing and strength through this hard chapter in your life. God Bless you my friend.


Mary January 11, 2014 at 9:25 am

My Dear Nicole, I encourage you as you walk through your pain. It is so important that you need to hear the very voice of the LORD yourself in this. Jesus wants to talk with you and comfort you, lead and guide you. Jesus said, “My sheep hear My voice.” You may hear many voices and opinions, but Jesus, alone, is the way, the truth and the Light. The voice of the Great Shepherd will anchor itself into your very soul. He will meet you in your secret place. “Watch and see” what the LORD will say to you (Hab.). Also, a good site to visit is (Communion With God Ministries). I pray the LORD reveals His way to you as He said He would..


Isaiah Khayeri Alukhome June 6, 2013 at 12:23 am

Am encouraged so dearly. Greatness is in knowledge of the Word everlasting, as i am blessed many seek these true meanings even now. Thank you inspirator!


James S June 6, 2013 at 9:52 pm

I will try to make this short, 14 years ago I married my high school sweetheart. The love of my life. Almost from the beginning I was unable to get an erection. As you may know this was very frustrating. Nothing worked and I tried all the ED drugs. My father died about 5 years ago and that seemed to take me off coarse. I began to be bicourious and pulled back from any intamicy with my wife. I was stupid and did not require a condom. Now I’m HIV positive. When I found out I was in the hospital very sick.
My doctors came in and told me that my wife was getting an order to not allow me to go home. BTW the wife is HIV negative. I have had to move to Louiana near family. I am considerably better.
Here is the question. The wife filed for divorce 3 days before I was released from hospital. And ow will no answer my call or text messages.. I have prayed and gotten much closer to the Lord which I needed to do but she does not believe me and told me she could not help me anymore. Thus no communication. Do you have any advice for me?


AFUA July 3, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Hello, i have met a man who wants to marry me but does not believe in having a wedding ceremony. He is only interested in our traditional ceremony or what we term as engagement please i need your advice


angela July 9, 2013 at 12:45 pm

Hi i am about to get married in a month and my fiance basiaclly to sum it up told me the reason he is marrying me has nothing to do with how much he loves me but how much he loves god .


angela July 9, 2013 at 12:48 pm

I loves that he loves god but i just feel so unloved from him what should i do


reg July 16, 2013 at 3:40 am

The bible says husbands should love their wives as themselves, how can he love God and not you, how can you love a God you cannot see and yet not love a person who is right next to you, there is something wrong here


lorin January 7, 2014 at 9:50 pm

The comment about how he is marrying you not because of you, but because of God sounds bad, but may be coming from a good place. When my husband and I got married we said that our commitment was not to eachother.. but to God. This is an important concept, as is what I think what your husband may have been trying to say.. because if you hurt him his natural reaction may be that you are not worthy of his love… But when we love someone based on God’s perfect love for us… then we never have a reason not to love and honor our spouse. I think this means even if you were to turn into a mean crazy woman, he would still love you because of his commitment and love for God. It is actually a beautiful thing for a man to know how to do. But ultimately, should make you feel more secure in his commitment.. bc its not based on you. You dont ever have to earn his love, he will never leave you because he loves God. John 13:34 Jesus gives a new commandment: just as I (Jesus) have loved you, you shall love one another. It is through our relationship with God that we are capable of giving love to each other.


reg July 16, 2013 at 3:30 am


I need help, my husband has two kids with two different women, the problem is he mother of his first child, she is such a pain in the neck and he allows it. recently she calls me and asks me to call her back when I was not busy, I do so as she said she wants to talk, I simply told her I can’t talk to her unless my mother in law and husband were present. now my husband also has a problem, he says I am stupid because I told her I can’t speak to her alone. He says I am wrong but it’s the way it has to be, its our culture. how do I deal with this situation, my husband, I am not too worried about his ex but I also need help on how to compose myself.

It’s as if all I do is useless and worthless.


Madah John July 18, 2013 at 3:47 am

Iam a Nigerian. Our setup is almost 50%christian and 50% Muslem. How women is a man aloud to mary?
Please help.


Gracious July 25, 2013 at 8:36 am

Madah Jon, in 1 Corinthians 7v2, the Bible clearly tells us of one husband to one wife. And that’s GOD’S set up of marriage. More than that is adultery.
So, allow God to control you,and not culture or any influence from anywhere.


Gracious July 25, 2013 at 10:51 am

Madah Jon, in 1 Corinthians 7v2, the Bible clearly tells us of one husband to one wife. And that’s GOD’S set up of marriage. More than that is adultery.
So, allow God to control you,and not culture or any influence from anywhere.
It confuses when you don’t know who you are in the Lord Jesus. Hold onto Jesus and learn from Him. John 5v39. Islam is a religion, hence they have their own beliefs that are contrary to the WILL of GOD. Fear GOD.


lorin January 7, 2014 at 10:02 pm

Madah, Are you Christian or Muslim? I spoke to a man once about the Koran. He said that the part that says a man can marry up to 7 wives states that “if you can treat them equally”…the guy said that no man can treat more than one woman completely equal.. that God is really saying “if you think you are me”. My husband is Nigerian. I know many families with multiple wives rather well. Most of them the wives and the children despise each other, and there are generations of hate. The few I know are really happy the women have told me that they have to look at their husband as a brother, not as a husband. I studied the effects of polygamy in counseling school, and found many studies which have given strong empirical support that polygamous wives have lower self esteem, higher rates of depression, among many other negative mental states. I have trouble seeing how this is loving your wife(s) and not complete selfishness. Jesus is truth.. the devil tells half truths, replicating some of the truth and creating doubt. But the truth will lead to greater happiness and blessing for you and your seed.


Gracious July 25, 2013 at 8:00 am

Nice article Pamela. Its so inspiring to hear from a woman writing about such a challenging topic. Its so hard for most women to know their role in marriage. They think they can do and behave however they feel.
But this article shows that Our God is the God of Order. He doesn’t just do things anyhow.
Why can’t we put social position at work aside and be obedient to God?
That’s what is so difficult for most women. They think because they are managing directors of a certain big company or organisation, and because their husband is just a mere mechanic somewhere, then they take that into the marriage. Looking down at their husbands.
Here in South Africa, I have noted several families where husbands aren’t decision makers. They are helpers. Isn’t that pathetic? Is that what God wants in marriage? Men living like slaves to their wives? Mother in-laws controlling the affairs of the daughters marriage?
This only shows how ignorant people are about the difference between Christianity and tradition.
We need more of these topics please.


Gracious July 25, 2013 at 8:19 am

Nicole, I don’t know if you got a feed back from Pamela. But your issue is very critical.
Your spouse, despite being an ordained minister, but if that is what he is doing, I doubt if he really know the meaning of marriage.
If you can carefully read the scriptures above, it clearly shows that marriage is between a husband and a wife, not a husband and wives.
For that matter, I would first advise you to take the issue to the elders in you Church, trustworthy ones for that matter. But that must be after you two have discussed the issue, and it fallen off your hands in that your husband didn’t take your advice or concern seriously and continued with his promiscuity.
Don’t rush to make final decisions, because you will end up in adultery.
Remember, the Bible in R Corinthians tells us that God will never allow a temptation beyond our faith. I know you can handle that. Be strong Nicole. You are more than a conqueror.
Pray for your husband and your marriage.


tom chastain July 25, 2013 at 9:57 am

new billy graham book “the reason for my hope salvation” comes out in oct


L.P.Roderick July 27, 2013 at 3:04 am

Hello can u please help me here.. I love a girl.. But she doesn’t belong to Christianity.. But both of us love truly.. Is it wrong to marry her?


L.P.Roderick July 27, 2013 at 3:07 am

Hello can u please help me here.. I love a girl.. But she doesn’t belong to Christianity.. But both of us love truly.. Is it wrong to marry her? She’s ready to convert but only cause of me.. I don’t want that .I Want Her To Convert Only If She Believe In Christianity.. What Shall I Do


Sasha August 2, 2013 at 2:21 am

HELLO, I really did a bad thing before the eyes of my Lord and to my Husband. He was busy lately, not giving me attention and I felt abandoned concluded things by cheating on him_sleeping with another man. Now things are back to normal again, everytime I look at him taking a deep thoughts end up crying for what I did. When I read the word of God I feel empty and take myself as hyppocrite. I want to tell him the truth but I’m affraid he will never trust me again or want me anymore. I want my normal marriage back, trust and that moment we used to share together. But all with the “TRUTH” first. I pray every night for forgiveness but I can’t forgive myself. Please help how am I going to overcome this.


Gracious August 10, 2013 at 8:32 am

My Sister,its a bit tricky the way it is, because your husband never told you that he doesn’t want you, but that he was busy, and you concluded everything and went that far.
My little advice is that you have to first forgive yourself. Remember, God doesn’t keep evil records for anyone after repentance. That itself is an evidence that you are living in what doesn’t exist anymore. Your sins are gone if you repented to God.
Its a good idea to tell your husband about what happened, but the outcome counts my dear. If he pushes you away, you will go for something that doesn’t exist in the eyes of God. The most painful thing will be that you will be regarded as an adulterous woman. Allow God to work things out.

The issue is; wait patiently till the Holy Spirit comes everything for you. What is pushing you now isn’t the Holy Spirit, that is the devil. You have to know that the moment you will break the news, satan will kindle the fire of anger in your husband. I see that as the devils trap.
If you have repented, cool down, calm down until the right time. 2 Corinthians 5v17. John 1v9. Those sins are gone. If you forget and don’t tell him because you have forgotten, let it go. But you have to remain truthful to your spouse if you want God to work out things in your marriage. Romans 12. Read the whole chapter. Look at verse 9.


Gracious August 10, 2013 at 8:54 am

My friend, there are a lot of verses in the Bible that are against same sex marriage. The simplest I can give you now is 1 Corinthians 6v9-10. Leviticus 18v22. Just to mention a few.


Gracious August 10, 2013 at 9:02 am

My dear you are doing right if you want her to convert before marrying. Stick to that till you see her converted.
She may be trying to trap you. Preach the gospel and let her give her life to Christ Jesus. If she doesn’t, then don’t. 2 Corinthians 6v14-18.


Moneka August 13, 2013 at 12:17 pm

My husband and I have been married for 6 years and since the beginning we have had financial issues. He is very talented and creative. He can think of ideas that would start excellent companies. Thing is he has not stayed consistent on any of them and does not want to work outside the home. I believe in him and truly support him, its just that I want to be financially secure. We have 3 kids and it stresses me out when bills are due and the money is not available. Im a stay at home mom because he wants me to be with the kids while they are young. He feels I dont respect him or allow him to be the man in the relationship. I just have a really big problem with him not fully providing for us as I think he should. I dont want to be disrespectful, however I dont want to keep going in circles with these financial difficulties. What do I do?


john tawa August 15, 2013 at 6:39 pm

how would i know if my girl friend is a vergin if i am so because i want a free clean relationship for marriage. please advice.


Tracy August 18, 2013 at 12:48 am

hi, am very grateful for the advices related to marriage, there is this thing dat has been disturbin me, accordin to some cultures pple frm the same village or place shld not marry bt wen i read judges 1v12 i see othniel marryin achsah his uncles daughter, now should we follow cultures or the bible to marry the love of our lives? thank u


Sherry Charles September 7, 2013 at 11:49 am

Have been recently Baptized and joined my church and have and now a Sunday school teacher. Feeling truly blessed! So I am a widow and have been asked out by a man of color and was wondering if anyone can help me find scripture on this please. I have been reading all I can find but am still confused and not sure what is right or wrong in God’s eyes in this case? Would appreciate any help thanks.


Jack Wellman September 7, 2013 at 9:05 pm

Hello Mrs. Charles. I am overjoyed to hear your news about dating and your recent baptism and now being a Sunday school teacher. That is so awesome. Christianity is about grace and not about race, therefore the Bible nor does God prohibit dating or marrying men or women of different color. Paul said that there is neither Jew nor Greek, male nor female, slave nor free and the Bible only tells us that we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers in dating or marrying. It is silent on whatever a person’s skin color and that matters not. It is the heart that God looks at and not the outside. For more on this, please do read our article that is biblically based called “What Does the Bible Say about Interracial Dating and Marriage” at the link below. I believe it will make have peace of mind. Thank you for visiting us.


Kelcie July 11, 2014 at 5:28 pm

I love this reply!


Jack Wellman July 11, 2014 at 6:11 pm

Thank you Kelcie for your encouragement. Yes, 1 Cor 7 is very, very important and should be included. Thank you for adding to this so much. I thank God for godly believers who are striving with us to save marriages.


NK November 13, 2013 at 6:15 am

i am 34 and not married, i also have sisters who are older than me yet none is married. what scriptural verses can we read to help us find solution to this problem.

thank you


JGT November 30, 2013 at 2:54 am

Good day Ms. Pamela Williams. I am 29 years old, single and waiting for God’s time. A time for me to have a partner in life. A partner who loves God – a Christian one. A man who has Christ in his life. I would like to ask to please include me in your personal prayer and personal devotion.

Thank you.


Mary December 21, 2013 at 10:51 am

I was raped and the man who did it is now is obliged to marry me, as the Bible instructs. How can I make such a marriage work?


Jack Wellman December 21, 2013 at 10:56 am

Mary, please tell me where you are finding the Bible verse that says he is obliged to marry you. Did you report this to the police? I would not marry a man who raped you because he is not Christian who rapes another (read 1 John chapter 3). Did you report him to the police? Are you quoting an old Mosaic Law from the Old Testament? If so, that we written for the nation of Israel and not Christians. Please don’t marry a rapist for he is neither a Christian who rapes another and he would make a terrible husband. What makes you think he wouldn’t rape again..and someone who isn’t his wife? Don’t do this.


lorin January 7, 2014 at 10:12 pm

Maybe may feel obliged to marry you. But you are not obliged to marry him. He is either manipulating you or trying to make ammends for the evil thing that he did, so it doesnt seem so evil. Be very careful. Turn to God, read the Bible, pray, and have the tools of the Word in your tongue-the truth will set you free.


John K June 23, 2014 at 6:37 pm

There is so much I would like to say on this. How ever to dispute the teachings of another in an open forum is wrong. As a student of both Rabbinic, and Christian teachings, I can assure you, to marry this man would be wrong. Feel free to email me if you wish to discuss this in depth. I am willing to walk you through all the Bible has to tell us, and how it applies to your lives. Yes I am ordained, and work only where and when I feel lead by God.
Rainrider at valornet dot come.


Christina February 6, 2014 at 11:04 pm

Hello all,

I have been reading through all the post and pray that God’s heavenly glory pours over every one in need of his love and mercy through their times of struggles. It is not always easy to understand what, when, where, or even why we do, have things done to us, or will do things……But, one thing we can always make certain is. If we ask God in pray for his help; we shall receive it. Maybe not when we want it, but in God’s time. Blessings sent to all.


Christine R. Guzay February 25, 2014 at 8:03 am

So simply written,so beautiful :) Great JOB! I love you Sister.


Mark May 4, 2014 at 8:41 am

I need some advice, I married a woman that has had a lady living with her for 13 years. My wife made all kind of promises to this lady before we got married. Now that we are married the lady is still living in the garage apartment, not paying rent and not working a regular job. We was advised to have her move out wene we got married. My wife feels that God put the lady in her life and until he removes her she should stay. It is causing problems between me and my wife. I know the Bible says that the man is the head of the house, but my wife has already said that if I push the issue that she will take me over her, but that she will not respect me for making the lady move. The lady is 50 and needs to have her own life.


John K June 23, 2014 at 6:15 pm

One must always keep in mind, that once a promises is made, it should be keep. Look at them as a covenant, though our life may change, it does not. It is for this reason that I talk to any one that may ask me to officiate their wedding. I always ask them to be open, share any prior obligations, and search their hearts to see if they can work them all in. You see, when you become one with another person, (be you man or women) you take on all responsibility, and agree to help with any all obligations they have. As with almost any covenant made in today’s world, they are not blood covenants. Some may have time limits, others may not. How ever they can also be renegotiated. I do ask that you trade lightly here, it is no small mater to loss the respect of ones wife. It would be fare better to find peace with ion ones heart to accept the obligation’s of the one they wed, than to loss them over small things. Yes one can loss their loved one, yet still remain married. It is a sad thing to behold, and will most always end badly.


Kelcie July 11, 2014 at 5:25 pm

you missed one.
1 Corinthians 7:1-16 “Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?”


Abigail July 22, 2014 at 9:21 am

Hi,im a 28 year old Christian girl.I have been dating this gentleman in the ministry for 8years.we now want to marry and my parents are not in agreement because he is from another tribe and I am a lawyer and he is a pastor.I need advice


John K July 23, 2014 at 7:40 am

I take it your parents are Orthodox. That being said, I wish first to say that I understand where they are coming from. However the Torah does not in anyway prohibit this. Numbers 27:1-11 comes to mind. It may not fit as well as I am thinking, however as is my custom I say what I feel HaShem has placed upon my heart.
In this we find that the question of an inheritance for women. Now in many cases, she is joined to the tribe she marries into. How ever it is my understanding of this, that should the father have on sons it is to passed on to his daughter. Should she marry out side of her tribe, then the inheritance will go to her first born son. The same as if my brother dies with out an heir, it would be up to me to give give an heir, and the inheritance would go to him. It is meant to keep a live the name of the family of the one has passed away. In so doing it fulfills HaShem’s Word that it is to be an inheritance to you through out all your generations. The family name stays a live, and the land stay’s in the hands of that family.
I do hope this helps and that I am not way off base with this.
Blessings to you.


Ben August 21, 2014 at 6:07 pm

Hello I had a quick question about the opening paragraph on this page. There is a passage, “Marriage by God’s design is the union of one man and one woman (Genesis 2:18)”. I agree with this view but when I check my New Internation Version of the bible Genesis 2:18 says, “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”” I have crossed referenced this with other versions (King James, etc.) and Genesis 2:18 never says marriage is the union of one man and one woman. Could you please direct me to the passage in the bible that does actually say that? Also could you edit the opening paragraph? It is misleading.


John K November 24, 2014 at 11:32 pm

Though the Bible never tells us that marriage is to be between a man and women in so many words. It does let us know that homosexuality is wrong. This would make it clear to us His intent when it comes to marriage.

Lev 20:13 If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.


robert February 21, 2015 at 4:31 am

God made them male and female made he them. Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve.


Jannot Telisnor October 25, 2014 at 1:29 pm

Hello my Name is J.T. I’m 25 years New about 6 foot tall, use to model, have an athletic body, A chef, I am A God Fearing Man. I am single with no children.Almost every where I go I see women Look at me and want to be with me But Im not sure if their My Rib So My QUESTION Is How do I know who is my wife?


Jack Wellman October 25, 2014 at 2:17 pm

Great question Jannot. This is something that we wrote about and I pray this article gives you guidance in helping to know who is right for you. Also, I would talk to your pastor about this too for some guidance. Here is an article called “True Love: How Do You Know When You Find It?” at this link:


JUSTIN November 24, 2014 at 10:15 am



Jack Wellman November 24, 2014 at 11:09 am

Justin, I would say that trying to force someone against her will is not going to go well. She has a right to refuse but I fear that this woman may not be saved for we are told that we should submit to one another in love and the wife is to respect her husband and this is not being done. Have you spoken with your own pastor about this? If the house is in an uproar, tell them that she is an adult and as such, no one can force someone to do something against their own will. I would pray this woman repents. Its not your fault that she won’t come. You are not responsible for that. Would she go to counseling with you?


JUSTIN November 24, 2014 at 11:27 am



JUSTIN November 24, 2014 at 11:45 am



Jack Wellman November 24, 2014 at 1:08 pm

Justin, I think you are more godly than most. I admire your stand in doing this…I think you’re right friend. Great call. Wished I had thought of that. thank you brother.


Pamela Rose Williams November 24, 2014 at 7:36 pm

Hello Justin, Very wise decision! Pastor Jack gave you great advice here, I would only add a little reminder of what the Bible says about choosing our spouse or our parent. When God designed marriage he have this edict: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)

So then, when you cleave to your wife that means she is your new family and father and mother no longer come before her. Though we should never stop honoring our parents, we do need to remember the order in relationships. That being said, I whole-heartedly agree with Pastor Jack that your wife should respect you. Respecting you includes setting aside her desires and honoring your desire to visit with your extended family on holiday. This should be true whether or not your wife knows the Lord. I pray that her heart is softened and that you may live in harmony together.


Anonymous January 30, 2015 at 8:44 am

You guys skipped over THE most important verse about marriage!

1Corinthians 7:8
To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.

There was a reason Paul said this and we are living it today. Marriage was once a great institution created by God FOR God….it is no longer that. It’s a prison for men created by women, for women. We now have these “Jesus Feminists” (yes its a real movement and a real book, look it up) that have made and are making marriage the antithesis of Proverbs 31. I do not recommend marriage to ANY young man these days until our society rids itself of female favoritism, especially in the family court systems. MARRIAGE A IS CORRUPT PERVERSION OF WHAT IT’S SUPPOSED TO BE, PERIOD. MEN, DO NOT MARRY UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE.


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