When God is Silent: Why Does God Not Seem To Be Answering My Prayer?

by Robert Driskell on September 1, 2012 · Print Print · Email Email

If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!”  (Matthew 7:11).  This verse tells us that God is ready to answer our prayers and supply our needs.  So why are all our prayers not answered?  Why does it seem that God sometimes does not hear us?  What is going on when it seems like our prayers are not getting any higher than the ceiling?

Right Motives (James 4:3)

You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions” (James 4:3).  It is so important for the Christian to evaluate his or her life from time to time.  Are our motives pure?  Are we doing what we are doing for God’s glory, or our own?  James tells us here that we must ask with the right motives.  Sometimes we can ask for the right things, but for the wrong reasons.  This could be the reason our prayers are not being answered.

When God Is Silent

“And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him” (I John 5:14-15).

Not praying in the will of God (I John 5:14-15)

“And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.  And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him (I John 5:14-15).  It is so important to keep our relationship with God active and alive at all times.  When we do so, we are more resistant to the temptations we face every day, and our prayer life will be focused on the things that God wants them focused on.  Not only will we pray according to His will, we will structure our entire lives around Him.

Sin In Our Lives

“Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence before God; and whatever we ask we receive from him, because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him” (I John 3:21-22).  It is amazing that so many professing Christians live their lives as if God was no more than a genie in a bottle to them.  They willfully spend their time fulfilling their sinful desires and then pray to God when they want something from Him.  This is a recipe for disaster.  The Bible says that, “God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap” (Galatians 6:7).  It is only a matter of time before the person living this way comes under the judgment of God.

Even the Psalmist knew that God does not answer the prayers of one who is willfully sinning against Him.  “If I had cherished iniquity in my heart, the Lord would not have listened” (Psalm 66:18).  Many times our prayers are not answered because we have unconfessed sin in our lives or we are still currently involved in some sin.  Sin must be confessed and repented of before we can expect our prayers to be heard.

Our Timing May Be Wrong

God may indeed answer our requests in the exact manner we have submitted them to Him, but the answers may not come according to our schedule.  God may even use delayed prayer to teach us patience.  Nothing teaches patience like waiting.

Our Prayers May Have Been Answered In A Way We Were Not Expecting and/or We Did Not Recognize

God sees the big picture; we only see a small portion of that picture.  We could actually be praying for something that would be harmful for us to get.  It should be seen as encouraging when God does not answer our prayers exactly as we want, in the time frame we expect.  This shows us that He is still in control and sovereignly overrides our expectations with His perfect will.

Praying In Jesus’ Name

“Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son (John 14:13-14, also John 15:16, 16:23-24; Matthew 7:7).  Too many people think that this means simply tacking the phrase, “In Jesus’ name” onto the end of their prayers.  This is a shallow way of interpreting this verse and is an affront to the holiness of God.  How can we think that simply by adding “In Jesus name” to the end of our prayer forces God into giving us what we want?

Apologist Dave Hunt writes, “For a prayer to be truly “in the name of Jesus,” it must be as He would express it if He were praying.  It must be for the furtherance of His interests and to His glory.  His name must be stamped on the character and engraved on the heart and life of the one praying “in His name.”  (Hunt, p. 191, emphasis his)

Therefore, not only must one be praying in the will of Jesus [God], but one must also be living according to God’s will.  An unholy life will not produce a holy prayer life.  Nor will it produce effective prayers.

Right Relationships Between Husband And Wife Contribute To Fruitful Prayer

For those who are married, even the relationship between a husband and wife affect the effectiveness of one’s prayer life.  In the Epistle of First Peter, the apostle Peter instructs wives to be subject to their husbands (vv. 3:1-6), and husbands to likewise honor their wives (v. 7).  The last phrase of verse seven says, “…so that your prayers may not be hindered”.  This is a testament to how precious the union between husband and wife is to God.  It is also very practical, since it is very difficult to keep your mind on the things of God when your married life is unsettled.

The Example of the Apostle Paul

Even the biblical saints were not immune from the occasional unanswered prayer.  The apostle Paul writes, in II Corinthians 12, that he had some sort of problem that was given him to keep him from becoming conceited.  Apparently, this ‘thorn in the flesh’ was something that Paul greatly wished to be rid of.  He writes, Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me.  But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”  Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.  For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities.  For when I am weak, then I am strong” (II Corinthians 12:8-10).  Paul’s attitude is the attitude we should strive to exhibit.  An attitude that says that, even if it seems that God is not answering our prayers, we can be content knowing that He will not let us down.

Whether our prayers are answered to our satisfaction or not, we can always rest in the fact that God is in control.

Christians must keep in mind this promise from God, “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28).  We must trust God to know what is best for us and the situations for which we pray.  We can take comfort in knowing that He loves us enough to have sent His Son to die on a cross for our sins.

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All Scripture is from the English Standard Version of the Holy Bible

“Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.”

Hunt, Dave.  In Defense of the Faith.  The Berean Call, 2009.



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Derek Hill September 1, 2012 at 10:00 am

This article was a true blessing to me today, Robert. Thank you for it. The section on “right relationships between husband and wife” has really opened my eyes on prayer. Considering how chaotic life has been for me going through a divorce that I did not want, I can understand how much more I need to be in prayer with my Father. Thank you again for another great and well written article brother. God bless!

In His Name Always,
Derek

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Robert Driskell September 1, 2012 at 3:45 pm

Thank you Derek,
I am always so blessed to know that God has used me to build up another believer. I never focused on the relationship between husband and wife as affecting prayer either. I will certainly be more aware of it now. God bless you Derek.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Jack Wellman September 1, 2012 at 5:03 pm

I am also greatful for this my friend. I agree that God is mightily using you and building up relationships is vital in this age when the Enemy is so intent on destroying them. I thank God you and your ministry. You are so needed here brother.

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Josh September 2, 2012 at 2:47 pm

Great article Robert. I really liked what you wrote about Jesus name and the quote by Dave Hunt. This was convicting for me to really challenge the way I approach prayer in my life.

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Robert Driskell September 2, 2012 at 6:04 pm

Thank you Josh,
It was eye-opening to me when I realized that the verses that seem to be saying that we can have anything we ask for all hinge on whether or not our relationship with Jesus is right or not. We have no right to expect God will answer prayer when we are in rebellion towards Him or simply aren’t close enough to Him to know His will. I am praying differently these days also.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Mr A Cotton September 2, 2012 at 6:08 pm

I might has well walk into hell right now.
I talk to God every day,and it`s a habit i have been doing it since i was at school,and i am still doing it.
I am not repenting,that`s why God is not answering me. I think he will never answer me,because i am still doing it. I was on the sight this afternoon when i read this, it really has knocked me down. I am weak,and i can`t help myself. I ask God for help to stop doing this, but know answer comes because i am still sinning. I am just playing lip service to God,and i am a hypocrite. This has been torture,but i have to face up to the truth if i carry on like this i may has well walk into hell now. I am not evan trying,and you can`t lie to God.

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Robert Driskell September 2, 2012 at 6:32 pm

Mr. A Cotton,
I’d like to share some hope with you: “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it” (I Corinthians 10:13 ESV).
This is a promise from God for the ability to stop sinning. If we will trust Him, He will give us strength. We may not conquer the sin immediately, but by persistently resisting the temptation to sin, and trusting in this promise from God, He will make us victorious.
One other bit of hope comes from the fact that, if we repent (which you say you are not doing), He will forgive you (I John 1:9).
Never give up of God, He is faithful, powerful, loving, and ever present with us. I hope this helps.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Mr A Cotton September 3, 2012 at 11:33 am

Thanks for your concern about my situation. I am mentally housebound,and i only go out when i need to(Shops)and i have just been asked by my support worker if i would like someone from the Befriending Service,and he is coming out next Thursday to see me. I know living by your self,having a mental health problem,have no friends,and no social life does not help. I keep talking to God,and last night was like the agony in the garden(not like Jesus) I pulled myself to peaces,calling myself. I really searched my soul to see if i was a good man or an evil man. I concentrated on the evil man,but i could not come up with anything i was doing was evil. I don`t know how many people have said you are your own worst enemy. I really don`t get much pleasure out of this sinning,in fact it makes me worse. I have spit in God`s face to be frank. I was a Roman Catholic,and i used to see a priest about this problem,and he said you are not doing anything wrong it`s a habit. He told me i had great faith,but i could not understand this,but it`s just like what you have told me,and you are right. It`s very hard to accept Gods forgiveness,when you have just spit in his face. This is my downfall. I am not a quitter has Jesus said it`s not an easy path to follow to get to heaven. Thy will be done on earth has Jesus said,if this is my cross so be it. I can feel,and see that you are a good man,and i know where you are going Heaven. I just wished i was half has good has you Robert. Thanks for your words of Hope. I have just picked up the bible,and read what you said. It makes sense,but again it`s very hard to accept from my point of view that God can do this,but has you have said i will never give up God He is everything. Thanks Robert.

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Robert Driskell September 3, 2012 at 2:53 pm

Hi Mr. Cotton,
God loves you. No matter what frailties or imperfections you have (we all have them), Jesus died for you too. You say that I am a good man, but the only good in me is what is given to me by God because of my relationship with Jesus. I too fail, miserably and often, but I know He is waiting with open arms for me to turn back to Him in repentance and faith. Trust in Him. I will be praying for you, sir.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Mr A Cotton September 4, 2012 at 8:45 am

Thank first for your words of Hope. I am a very sensitive man. You say the only good in me is given by God,because your relationship with Jesus. This is very true,thats why i said you are a good man. I can sense that you say you fail miserably and often,but i say that you don`t (I can`t judge you) it`s the words that you say. This only comes from God,therefore God is in you,and you are helping me a sinner that i am. Thanks very much Robert

Mr A Cotton May 22, 2013 at 1:23 pm

It`s a long time ago when i made a comment has above.
You were so right Robert about what you said,because I picked up my cross,and started again.
I have prayed to God,and he has answered my prayer exactly what I asked for. This is not the first time,and I find it a bit scary,or should I say very profound.
I found it was the the lack of trust in God,and that he would never forgive me. How wrong was I, God can do anything,and I know that he has forgiven me because I feel at peace now. God must have heard your prayer`s for me Robert. I have accepted God`s forgiveness with no doubts now,and I have fallen down a few times,but through God I know he has forgiven me. Only last night I was begging God,The Holy Spirit,and Jesus,not to commit this sin,and this is where it was profound. I evan planned it,but through there help I did not do it,because I know you can`t do it by your self now. Thanks Robert for God has used you to help me.

Dereck September 2, 2012 at 9:36 pm

Hello Robert

Great article!! I thought it had great information that we could use in our walk with God.

As far as the part where the information was given about ending our prayers by saying “in Jesus’ name”, I always end my prayers that way, but, not with the intent of just getting something from God. I was told that I should end my prayers that way so that God would hear my prayer.

If that is not what we should do, how should we end our prayers? I want to make sure that God hears my prayers.

Also, I have MS, I do not work because of it, I am on a disability from my job, I no longer drive and I had to sell my car. This ailment is beginning to feel like a thorn in my side. I am trying my hardest not to get down about it, but, it is so hard. I believe that God will heal me in time, but, I can’t help thinking that it will not go away because, like Paul, this may be that thorn. What should I do?

Peace and Love

Dereck

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Robert Driskell September 3, 2012 at 2:50 pm

Hi Dereck,
There is nothing wrong with ending your prayers with the phrase “In Jesus’ Name”. I do it also. However, the important thing is that we are truly living our lives ‘in Jesus’ name’, as He wants us to live.

Remember what the apostle Paul said about that thorn in his side in the passage you were talking about, “Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me” (II Corinthians 12:8-9 ESV). There is a lot of hope and comfort in those words, let them sink in. Read them and reread them as you pray for God to impress their truth onto your heart. God bless you, Dereck. I will be praying for you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Blessy September 4, 2012 at 2:17 am

Thank you Derek,

This was a wonderful article, a real eye opener. Specifically on ” in the name of Jesus” and relationship with your spouse. Just that I have been going through a difficult transition, we recently moved to a new city and my life seems very unsettled. Have been praying for a really good friend but never found one.I started wondering why God never answered my prayer but now I understand. Thank you so much for this article.Do keep me in your prayers.
Thanks,
Blessy.

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Robert Driskell September 4, 2012 at 5:02 pm

Hi Blessy,
Just remember: as long as you are living for Him, He has you in His hand, guiding and protecting you. You can trust Him with everything. God bless you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Williams alele September 5, 2012 at 1:10 am

Thanks for this word of advise, God bless u sir

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cynthia kunutu September 10, 2012 at 12:48 pm

Im really inspired reading about the silence if God,as from now ive learnt not to be selfish asking but ask for things that wont make me proud. Yes God answer faithful prayer @ His own time im shld be patient & do His will. my mirriage is in shumble so much the idea of divorce is knocking very hard,with non believing husband ive been praying for him to be saved but it become worse. knowing God detest divorce i fear to but keep praying though @ timrs i loose hope hi will ever change but i read a relationship article it revived me. pls im asking ur advise & prayers. God bless you abundantly.

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Robert Driskell September 10, 2012 at 5:06 pm

Hi Cynthia,
I know that God is good and you can trust Him. God is working on your husband’s heart, although we all have to make a choice. The best advice I can give you is to find a church to attend, if you don’t already, enlist some people to pray faithfully for your situation, and see where God leads. It would be foolish of me to give more detailed advice since I am not close enough to the situation. But a local pastor could surely help you. God bless you. I will be praying for you situation.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Greg Platt November 11, 2012 at 12:55 pm

I still don’t understand why GOD chooses not to answer our prayers…..the above are stock reasons. The communication between God and ourselves is terrible. Most times it is one way – from me to Him…Also – I don’t know whether it’s God talking to me or not….I have been a christian for 30 years and am still having communications problems with God. Worrying.. anyone relate to this…?

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Greg Platt November 11, 2012 at 12:57 pm

Learn not on your own understanding…’… but I have a brain… why not use it…?

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Alex December 30, 2012 at 6:28 pm

Gregg,
Yes, very much so. I wish I had answers that weren’t the usual canned garbage that we hear from the inexperienced pulpit of “I read this in a book once”, but I don’t. I wrote something below that probably connects with where you’re going. I wonder though, if the silence is supposed to lead us to somewhere that He wants us to go. As if, Him answering us isn’t enough, but uses it to bring us to the next level, if you will, of relationship or understanding. Just an idea, cause I’m seeking and I’m not finding. I’m asking and the only thing I’m receiving is “I don’t have time for you”. Same boat here man.

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Robert December 31, 2012 at 12:47 pm

There is nothing wrong with using your brain; Isaiah says to “come and reason”. The Bible never says, “Don’t use your brain”. However, it does instruct us that we should not put our own ideas above what God’s Word reveals. Nor should we demand that God explain everything we want an answer for. If we use our brain to study His Word, pray to Him in thanksgiving, and live as He tells us to live, He will reveal everything to us that we need to know. Then, we trust Him for everything else. Now, these are not my ideas, they are biblical concepts. Therefore, it boils down to whether or not you trust God. Too many times, Christians think that God owes them something; things, answers, etc.; however, He does not. I certainly do not mean to be too harsh here, but most of the Christian’s problems with matters of faith result from our not trusting God enough. We trust Him as long as He behaves the way we want or expect Him to behave. But when He doesn’t line up with our plans or expectations we grumble and complain and question His power and goodness. The problem is with us, not Him. God bless you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Mr A Cotton November 11, 2012 at 2:48 pm

I was a Roman Catholic,and in all that time God never answered my prayer`s. I heard Catholic people saying my prayer`s have been answered by praying to a certain Saint, Then i remember Jesus saying seek and you shall find,knock and the door will be open. I turned away from the Catholic Church in what they teach. You say you are 30yrs,and you are still having communication problems with God. Yes it was the same for me. I am 63yrs old,and something very profound happened to me when i came to this site when i was 62yrs old. I wasn`t on the computer i was sitting on the couch,it was like somebody tossing a lance into my heart. The words what i was coming out with, wasn`t me,it was the Holy Spirit he opened my eyes,and i could see.Look at it this way the man next to Jesus on the cross rebuked the other man,that we deserved it,where this man(Jesus) hasn`t done anything, This is the key point the man turned to Jesus and said remember me,and Jesus replied. From this day you shall be with me in paradise. This man done wrong,and he probably wan`t Christian minded at all,and was dying when he asked Jesus to remember him. Jesus knew in his heart that he was a sinner,but the man asked Jesus to forgive him,and Jesus did forgive him. Now you can see the point,that man had to wait till he was put on cross to die. Prayer to the Holy Spirit this is the being that you want. I don`t intend for this to be hurtful in any way. You seem to be demanding that God should answer you. I can understand because i was the same,if not worse. I was jealous of these people,and i could not understand how God answered their prayer`s God is listening to you if you cry out from your heart,God will answer you Greg

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Robert Driskell November 11, 2012 at 5:13 pm

Hi Greg,
Thanks for reading and commenting. The reason the answers in the article seem ‘stock’ is because they are true. The same way cliches become cliches because they are true. There is no ‘new and improved’ way of communicating with God. The key to communication with God is to understand our relationship to Him. He has given us His Spirit and His Word to help us know Him.
Just from your comment, it seems like you may be having issues trusting God. You mention ‘worry’, but God promises to take care of us (Matthew 6:25-34). Greg, do you trust God? Have you truly given your life, your will, and your future to Him? That is what He asks.
Your second comment seems to say that you think God wants you to shut off your brain to follow Him. That is simply not true. He wants us to consciously and willfully follow Him. That verse is telling us to trust in God, His promises, and His power to see us through anything (not to mention His power to maintain a universe, but that’s another story).
Gregg, there have been times in my life when I’ve felt that my prayers haven’t reached the ceiling, and certainly not gotten to God. However, in those times I realized that it was not God’s fault, but there was some sin or disobedience in my life which prevented my prayers from being effective. James 5:16 tells us, “The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much” (NASB). If our prayers are not being heard, we should ask God to search our hearts for anything out of His will, so that we might make it right and have the kind of relationship with Him that He promises. God bless you, Greg.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Robert December 31, 2012 at 12:46 pm

Greg,
The reason these answers are stock is because they ARE the answers. They are true and they pertain directly to the issue. If you asked me, “Why do rocks fall to the ground when you drop them?” and I answered, “Because of gravity.” It would be unreasonable for you to say, “That’s just a stock answer.” It is the same way with the answers given for unanswered prayer. The answers are biblical; God gave them to us so that our relationship with Him would be what it is meant to be. It is our choice to obey or disobey, to believe or disbelieve. See below for more conversation on this topic. God bless you, Greg.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Jack Wellman December 31, 2012 at 1:01 pm

Greg let me say unequivocally that God answers EVERY prayer. Sometimes it is “wait” sometimes it is “no” sometimes it is “not yet” and other times it is “yes.” God the Father even said “No” to Jesus’ request in the Garden just before Calvary when Jesus asked if it were possible to “remove this cup” but Jesus wisely said, “but not My will, but Your’s be done.” So God does hear and answer EVERY prayer but He even said no to Jesus. God doesn’t answer us when we are regarding sin or not repenting of certain sins too, but that may not be in your case. God ALWAYS answers in a way that is our ultimate good and for our eternal best.

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Rabecca Mwambi November 28, 2012 at 5:02 am

Thank you for this article, it has helped me to understand why some of my prayers may not have been answered up to now.

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Robert November 28, 2012 at 6:56 am

Hi Rabecca,
Thank you for reading and commenting. It blesses my heart to know that God has somehow used me to encourage you. God loves us and we can trust Him with every aspect of our lives. Our best course of action is to put everything in His hands. God bless you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Lakesha December 13, 2012 at 7:01 pm

Hello,

I am having a hard time right now. I have been unemployed almost 2 yrs and frantically searching for a job/career. Every corner I turn, a door shuts. Even with a glimmer of hope with the next door, that also slams in my face. I have been rejected so many times, I feel I’m just unworthy. I love God, I pray, I give, I tithe, I care (sometimes too much) about others, etc and it steadily seems like I’m watching peers rise up while I’m stuck. I am married with 3 kids. My husband is military. I’m prior military and has felt like I made the biggest mistake of my life getting out to get a degree that has done absolutely nothing for me. I dont know how much more rejection I can take. I try to hide my depression from my family but I am dying on the inside. I’m praying for God to tell me what I’m doing wrong or at least speak to me. I’m tired of praying, asking, doubting, etc….I am Broken!

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Robert December 13, 2012 at 8:14 pm

Lakesha,
Jesus specializes in mending broken people. He created us, it is He (not our job, career, or other people’s opinions) who gives us our worth; therefore, He knows what we need better than we do.
It is very difficult to give advice to someone in a comment section of an article, but I would like to tell you that I will surely be praying for you and I would like to ask a couple of questions, if I might. Do you attend a church? If you do, have you spoken to your pastor about what you are going through? Many times, a pastor can help you, or put you in contact with some loving soul who can.
I would like to suggest a couple of things also. First, go back through the article above and see if anything applies directly to your situation: is there any sin in your life that you haven’t repented of (if there is, you need to deal with it between you and God…don’t post it here unless you want everyone to see). Maybe what you are asking for is not God’s will for you or maybe it’s just not His time yet.
Secondly, I want to suggest that you spend time reading, and studying, your Bible (God uses it to speak to us more than any other way).
Most of all, Lakesha, trust God with you life. He knows what He is doing, He knows you, and He knows what you need. He is also powerful enough to take care of anything that comes against you. I will be praying for you and your situation. God bless you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Dereck December 14, 2012 at 1:49 am

Hi Lakesha,

Robert pretty much gave the game plan that you need to follow.

I cannot say that I know how you feel, but, we do have something in common.

I feel that common thing is that, we need to wait on God.

You see, I have MS, and I am on a medical disability from my job.

Now, I am currently only 49 years old, I have trouble walking, I no longer drive, something I have done since I was 16 years old. I first owned a car when I was 19 years old.

I recently had to sell my car. I cannot live alone, I live with my parents.

So, I am not working, I do not drive and I cannot live alone, I am not married and I have no children.

Now, I have told you all of this to say that, we have to trust and wait on the Lord.

I guarantee you God knows EVERYTHING you are going through and when the time comes, He is going to bless your socks off.

Now, even though I am going through a rough time right now, I believe He is going to allow me to walk again.

It is hard waiting, it is hard so hard, but, the best thing we can do is prepare ourselves for the great things that God has in store for us.

One thing I did to make myself a little better and a little more marketable was, I graduated from college while on this disability.

Now, I know you believe this college education has not benefitted you. But, when the time comes, you will see that it came in so handy and benefitted you. Mark my words.

I believe that when God heals me, and I am able to go back to work, it is going to benefit me.

Take stock in what you do have, thank God for it everyday.

Do not lose heart and do not give up on God. Know that I am praying for you.

Peace and Love

Dereck

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Lakesha December 14, 2012 at 12:32 pm

Dereck, thank you for sharing a little about yourself. You are right, I need to thank God for what I do have. I hear people saying all the time, you are so lucky because many moms would kill to stay at home or have a supportive husband. I feel like since I have been working since I left home for the military, that I should be further along than I am. Thank you and Robert for putting things back in perspective. I definetly need a check every now and again. I pray and agree with you that you will be able to walk, drive, run, work better than you did before. God bless you and thank you for opening my eyes. Lakesha

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Dereck December 14, 2012 at 9:03 pm

Hey Lakesha,

I am counting on that!!

Peace and Love

Dereck

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Alex December 30, 2012 at 6:01 pm

This was everything but a help. It’s the same list of caveats to “ask and you shall receive*”.
*with the exception of anything that may help, bless, relieve your worries, relieve your stress, propel you, reinforce your beliefs, etc. for any other questions just understand that if your prayers help you in any way, then you’re being selfish and your motives aren’t right and the default answer is always ‘no’.

I just want to be clear on the caveats to prayer:
– they’re out of God’s will, which lacks an actual definition or parameters, and used as the ‘catch all’ when we don’t have an answer as to why someone’s prayer for help wasn’t answered. Does God’s will have large margins in which to operate, or is it like walking a tight rope of spider silk in which there are no variations and you can’t ask outside of those margins?

– you have the wrong motives, because someone wanting their bills payed, or being able to eat are all wrong motives. Or anyone who is sick of consistent poverty, is willing to work to achieve more, has the opportunity and asks for blessing, is somehow the wrong motives, get the heck out of here. I wasn’t aware we prayed to a miserly God who promoted poverty. You see, the ‘wrong motives’ are things like “God, bless me with money, so I can party non stop, and have hot chicks around me, and more stuff that I could ever desire…”. THOSE are the wrong motives. If all of the “right motives” were to only glorify God, then there’s little for us to pray for, in actuality.

– It’s in the wrong time, then when is the right time? He may have eternity, but my life on this Earth is very limited. And I understand that life is more than materialism, I get that in a big way, but I fail to see how life is supposed to be lived in an environment of poverty, or barely making it, while rich pastors tell you to give them more because God said so. Or how living in constant want only proves that I’m shallow. When is the right time, that I may rest, or “that my joy may be fulfilled”? I’ve never asked for a lot, and I’m happy with what I have, but that doesn’t mean it ends here.

– God’s ‘no’ is really a ‘not yet’. Really? What’s the scriptural reference for that?

– You can’t ask too much from God. Seriously? Of the little I’ve asked, I’ve received even less, so let’s try that answer again. Apparently I can ask too much. I’m just happy to know that I can heat my house for another 2 weeks in the land of rising snow. I’ve been praying for answers to this problem and what have I received in the last 2 1/2 years? Rising fuel costs. I guess I’m asking too much.

– Maybe God’s waiting on you to move first. Really? Which direction should I go without Him telling me, lest I fall victim to the next set of excuses, “you didn’t wait on the Lord before moving”.

– Are you tithing? Bringing groceries to an OT Temple while we’re under the Law has nothing to do with this.

Valid answers are welcome, the usual cliches and caveats aren’t. Thanks.

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Robert December 31, 2012 at 12:42 pm

Well, first of all Alex, I can’t help but notice the anger inherent in most of your comments. I mean you describe the biblical answers given as “canned garbage” and then launch into an attack on me. If this is truly how you view the Bible, why do expect anything from God but judgment? Are you angry with God?

You did hit on something though, about God’s silence teaching us patience. Why do you so adamantly criticize my article when I said virtually the same thing as you? I’m just trying to understand your point of view a bit better. I only want to try to help you get closer to God.

There are clear biblical answers for each of the objections you raise. In fact, they are so clear that I cannot help wondering if you even attempted to look for them. I have been a Christian for many years (this nullifies your, “read it out of a book somewhere” jab at me), so I am more than willing to attempt to provide answers to those truly seeking them; however, I have no patience for the undercover atheist who merely pretends to believe in order to throw around accusations and misdirection on Christian websites.

To be brutally honest here, do you really want answers or do you just want to rage?

(By the way, I never mentioned tithing in my article, did you really read it?)

God bless you.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Morden Grey February 3, 2013 at 5:22 pm

Huh. Some of these sound like people are blaming God for their problems rather than Him not answering their prayers. Something I learned with prayer–How often and how quick you go to God=how often and quick His response times will be.

Also, when people talk about God not answering their prayers…
How is it, do they believe God answers them? By giving them what they want? Answering in a booming voice? How do they think the answers are given?

Right here–
“It is so important to keep our relationship with God active and alive at all times.”
Makes sense.
Think of it as going to a friend you talk to maybe once a year for a huge loan. Why on earth would he give it to you? Sure the guy cares about you…he may have seen you other times when you needed something, but other than that he doesn’t ever hear from you.

Just my thoughts. People hate it when I write and forums and whatnot for a reason. Speaking my mind is all. I have no hard feelings against anyone.

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Robert February 4, 2013 at 11:35 am

You make some very good points in your comment, Morden. Before we blame God for unanswered prayer, we should make sure that we are in the right condition to receive the answers that He wants to give. Thank you for your insights, Morden.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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alex February 4, 2013 at 10:30 pm

So let me get this straight. Your perspective is that God doesn’t answer the once a year, get me out of this, prayer, and you assume that that is what’s going on? It sounds as if you need to endure what the rest of us are enduring, years of unanswered prayers, massive loss, years of crushing defeats, no gain whatsoever, on top of a total lack of guidance, direction, or even a reason as to why this is being allowed to happen. I will pray that you lose what a lot of us has lost, that you will lose what you hold dear, that you lose everything you’ve worked for, without reason as to why. I hope God is silent,and I hope you go mad trying to figure out why. Because it sounds like you need it to happen just so you’ll know what the rest of the flock is going through. I will pray that you endure this, and find no answers in the process. Make sure you blame yourself the way you tell others that it’s their fault. When you are absolutely steamed at your circumstances that only appear to get worse, make sure you tell yourself that this is all God’s will, and smile your way through it. A lot of you, with your canned answers and one liners, sound more like Job’s “friends” explaining to him why God is punishing him. It’s the same dialogue if you haven’t noticed. ‘It’s your fault”, “God doesn’t answer the once a year -give me a loan- prayer”, “you ask with the wrong motives (even though God told David “if this wasn’t enough I would have given you more”, so that argument holds little water), it’s God’s will (really?). Without any grip as to what people go through, you feel compelled to dispense advice as if you actually know what you’re talking about. Instead of “I’ll go to the Lord on YOUR behalf and see what He says”, or “I will pray for you while you are down”, heck, maybe even “I don’t know why this is happening, nor will I pretend to know, but I will pray for you”, what do we hear? “It’s your fault”, “God’s punishing you”, “follow these steps and God will answer your prayers in X amount of days or your money back”. After scouring the Net, this is a common problem, and the answers are always the same. In the times to come, hurting people will come to the Body for help and answers, I shudder to think what they are going to find.

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Robert February 5, 2013 at 7:57 am

Hi Alex,
The answers I present in the article are based directly from Scripture, so if you’ve got an issue with the reasons given, then you’ve got an issue with Scripture. You’ve written in other comments on this article about your dissatisfaction with the “usual canned garbage that we hear from the inexperienced pulpit of “I read this in a book once”, so I understand your point of view…your angry. Are you angry at God? It’s hard to tell who or what you’re angry with. Much of your comment consists of complaining that your life isn’t going the way you want it or you didn’t get what you wanted, etc. This is followed by your view that God owes you something that you aren’t getting. So, let’s take your comments one by one and see what happens.

First of all, I don’t understand your point here. You wrote: “So let me get this straight. Your perspective is that God doesn’t answer the once a year, get me out of this, prayer, and you assume that that is what’s going on?” Would you please clarify this question? The article was clear in the biblical reasons why prayers aren’t answered, or are not answered like we expect. Several comments testified to the fact that God does indeed answer prayers (as I too, can testify to that). Those whose prayers are answered aren’t better Christians or more loved by God, they are Christians who trust God and love Him with all their hearts. They submit their will to His and seek to know and obey Him.

Your diatribe against me (or whoever it is against) reveals more of your heart than it does any failure of God to answer your prayers. After wishing curses on me (or whoever), you wrote: “Make sure you blame yourself the way you tell others that it’s their fault”. Now Alex, you have to make a decision here: is God’s Word true or not? Whose fault is it? Are you saying God’s promises in His Word are not true? If you are, then you once again have an issue, not with my article, but with God Himself. It is not God who is letting you down, Alex. So, where does the fault lie? (By the way, it is pure folly for you to imagine you know what I’ve been through in my life. I didn’t “read a book once” and learn these truths, I learned them by living them…and trusting God through them).

In your diatribe against the reasons I give in my article, you wrote, “you ask with the wrong motives (even though God told David “if this wasn’t enough I would have given you more”, so that argument holds little water)”. You are mistaken, James 4:3 (contained in my article…did you read the article?) tells us that our motives are critically important to our prayer life.

Alex, my goal is not to win an argument, it is to help people know God and have a relationship with Him (I pray for everyone I interact with on this site). This article addresses the question of “Why” prayers are not answered. Do you think it’s really fair to attack me for not praying for you, considering I didn’t even know you existed before you commented on this article? I’m praying for you now.

Did you ever think that the reason you run across so many articles on the web with similar (Biblical) viewpoints as mine is because they speak the truth? With so many evidences pointing the same way, shouldn’t you entertain the possibility that these points are true?

Alex, if you reject the biblical counsel presented in this article, I don’t know what else I can say to you. I will be praying that God softens your heart, makes the truth clear to you, and that you see how much He really loves you. (After all, He sent His Son to die on a cross for you, Alex). Until we give our lives to God, and trust that He loves us and will do what’s best for us, we will never know the peace that comes with a right relationship with Him.

God bless you Alex. I will be praying for you.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Alex February 6, 2013 at 6:24 pm

First off, I was responding to someone else, not you.
Second, ” Alex, my goal is not to win an argument”, I think that’s a lie. People who want to win an argument typically argue the same way. In my experience you fit that mold. What happens is simply this: anyone who contests what you say is automatically wrong. To justify your stance that you are right, insist that everything you’ve said is scriptural and that makes you the victor regardless of someone elses personal experiences. Another tactic is to attack the person directly with accussations that they are an angry person, that they think God owes them something, and that their prayers are all superficial “God make me rich” prayers and that’s why He doesn’t answer them. When all else fails, go to extremes to paint a false picture. This is specifically employed to characterize the target as something they’re not, so that on lookers will see this person through a demonized lense. This could be refered to as poisoning the well. The result is that now they are portrayed as a selfish, shallow person who hates Scripture and the reason why their prayers aren’t answered is all THEIR fault. And after all that’s done, the main content of the discussion was never really touched upon and now doesn’t have to be. I see people who do that all the time, it’s nothing new. Why would someone do that? To win an argument.

Now, “asking with the wrong motives” is an undefined statement. David was told he could have more if he just asked, aside from all of the other splendor, riches, and luxuries that he didn’t work for. We however are told that wanting our bills paid and a little extra saved up to weather the next storm is now defined as the “wrong motives”. I find it sickening, actually, that people pull James 4:3 out of their hat as if everyone wants to be a rich movie star and therefore they have no right to be upset when they don’t get their prayers answered. That’s not the case, so please, quit telling people that they’re selfish and greedy because they want their car to start so they can get to work on time, or they ask for the money they need so they can heat their house this month. If I were praying for wealth so I can blow it on extravagence, then yeah, I wouldn’t expect that prayer to be answered.

The reason why you and others print the same thing isn’t because it works. If it did, we’d all be doing it and there’d be few complaints. It’s because everyone has been saying the same exact thing for years. You hear it in the sermons, you see it on the net, you can reference it to death, and when everyone says the same thing, no one knows anything else. That, is why. I can tell the difference between people who have lived what they say and those who only regurgitate what they’ve been hearing. Those who have been through some fiery ordeals in life, have a different take on this, and you can tell by how they write and what they say. Typically they’re more understanding, they’re quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger. They’ve been through it and understand the confusion. Isn’t this why we go through trials, to help others along the process when they go through it? Unfortunately, they’re hard to find, and lately I’ve seen that a lot of us are going through the same things. God doesn’t answer, prayers fizzle at the ceiling, things only get worse and there’s no sign of it getting better. And it’s not a few days or a month, it’s years. By our experience we can offer assistance based on having lived it. Isn’t that what the Word teaches? But that’s not what we’re getting is it? And when people don’t get prayers answered, don’t assume that they didn’t follow the prescribed course that you listed. It’s when that has all fallen flat, that people seek to find out what’s going on.
No, I don’t blame you for not praying for me, I never even implied that. Again, you’re turning the argument around to paint me in a bad light. However, I do find it sad that it took me bringing it up before it ever took place. We can reach for prayer in Jesus’ name, or we can reach for blame assignment. What happened first?
No, I wasn’t wishing curses on you. I said I’ll be praying that you have the opportunity to practice what you so boldly preach. It’s a real blessing watching your life turn to ashes in your hands, watching your close friends become your quiet enemies when you’re not around, to have everything turn sideways on you. And then follow the prescribed course, watch it fail, ask God for guidance but there is nigh a word. To have your prayers fizzle in front of your eyes as if you never said them, to have the heat constantly turned up on you, for no reason. All of them, things you have no control over and cannot fix, for several years. I believe Jesus called this “sifting you as wheat”, which shows the origin of those trials. Saying it and living it are two different things, and it is faith shaking once you’ve endured it.
Again, my critique is on the experience level of those writing this commonly available material. Anyone can write about it, who can actually endure it? Greg Laurie almost left the ministry after his son died, can’t say I’d blame him if he did. That’s a hard thing to endure. But experience is the issue. Like when a Catholic priest gives out marital advice, how can he be taken seriously? He has no first hand experience in a marriage, outside of what he’s seen or read about, he knows nothing of it.
“I’m praying for you now.” I know, I felt it this morning, thanks, it’s appreciated.

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Robert February 6, 2013 at 7:17 pm

Alex,
I do not know where to take this from here. You twice called me a liar, so why should I think anything else I say will matter? As I said earlier, you have no idea what I have lived through, you simply assume I have a problemless existence and am pontificating from on high. I am not going to compare hardships, but I will simply say you are mistaken. It was when I set aside what I expected God to be like or what I expected Him to do and entered into a relationship with Him on His terms, did my life change for the better.

Secondly, everything I’ve said is biblical. You indicate that is not enough for you. Then what are you looking for? It seems to me that your viewpoint is that the Bible (and the God who gave it to us) is simply not enough. You’ve heard it all before, etc. etc. I’ve given clear teaching from Scripture on why prayers don’t get answered. I’m sure I have not covered every reason, but all the ones I included have biblical support. If that is not good enough in your opinion, then I don’t know what else to say. Where do think better answers will come from?

I will continue to pray for you, as I have been. However, only God can see you through this. Do you have a church family?

Yours in Christ,
Robert

Jack Wellman February 6, 2013 at 7:44 pm

Alex, I am somewhat astonished by your response to Robert sir but I finally felt I had to intervene. Not to defend Robert but more to set the record straight. You said that Robert “insist(s) that everything you’ve said is scriptural and that makes you the victor regardless of someone elses personal experiences” but I re-read the article and his comments and I see that he is only leaning on the Word of God and that is a solid foundation.

I have known Robert for some time now and I can vouch for his being a very loving, patient, kind man of God whose natural desire and intent is not to demean or just win an argument for the sake of winning. He would rather win a soul and lose an argument than win an argument but lose a soul. I know him. His heart is bent toward rescuing the perishing and he is so determined to cling to the veracity of the word that he is willing to offend if that be the case. Jesus said that “offense must come” when we speak the truth for I believe the truth sets you free or it makes you really mad. Scripture has a way of doing that (2 Tim 3:16). Robert is not a liar and your insinuation of him being one is nothing short of character assassination. Now I’ve probably got you mad at me now, but I am willing to talk that risk. I heard an old wise pastor once say something that I use in unapologetic preaching that pastors must “comfort the afflicted and afflict the comfortable.” I say all this in love, believe me. May God richly bless you my friend.

Alex February 6, 2013 at 10:00 pm

John 15:7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given to you.

Mat 7:7 Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.

Psa 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.

What is there to mistake? I really don’t see any strings attached or caveats added. So when you say that you set aside any expectations of Him, or what you expected of Him, life got better. The above verses mean nothing then, because that’s what I’m going off of. My expectations come from what He has said and I take Him at His Word. You know, this wouldn’t be so bad, but I’m not alone. There are so many people in the Body that are hurting, and they don’t want to say anything because they’re afraid that the church will look down on them and gossip behind their back. And pastors, they don’t want to spend anymore than 30 seconds listening to someone before throwing out a quick prayer and moving on. I’m just one of the few who says something about it. But we have come up with the same question; why is it that trials and curses come at us on the fastest race horse but blessings are on the slowest three legged pony they could find? It’s frustrating, and then we get looked at like we’re not allowed to be frustrated, and how dare we? As if we want this, like we asked for it, or we’re some secret sinners because we’re being put through the ringer for no reason. Ya know, Jesus has a heart for those who are poor in spirit, I wish the church held that same position. Church shouldn’t be a museum for the saints, it should be a hospital for the hurting, and boy have we strayed.
A sermon from way back when touched on this topic. And preach gave us 7 reasons as to God’s silence.
1. We don’t recognize his voice when he’s speaking, 2. Our sin has plugged our ears (you covered that), 3. We can’t hear his voice over our life, 4. We’re not tuned into his frequency, 5. His silence reminds us that he’s not an idol, 6. His silence reminds us of his reality, 7. It’s his way of getting our attention.

Then there’s the “the teacher is always silent during the test”. Out of all of this combined I’m not sure which one applies. You asked where do I expect to find any answers. I don’t know, but the search continues. Looking back I can see why some screwed up things had to happen to force me in a certain direction, as unacceptable as it is, there appears to be no other option. But it still sucks no matter how you slice it, and when I’m told to pray expectantly and nothing happens, I think I have a right to be upset. When I’m thrown to the enemy and His Spirit has vaporized out of existence for the time being, I’m forced to question “what was that all about?”
Going through scripture, this isn’t a new thing either. The prophets asked the same questions and never received an answer. Maybe that’s the answer. There isn’t one.

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Robert February 7, 2013 at 7:37 am

Alex,
The verses you’ve presented should be a great comfort to believers. However, they are only some of what the Bible says about prayer. There are other passages in the Bible that deal with prayer, and we must take them all into account when forming a complete picture.

“And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him” (I John 5:14-15 ESV). This adds a condition to having our prayers answered; the condition is that what we are asking is God’s will. Therefore, our prayers won’t be answered (or they won’t be answered in the way we want) if we aren’t asking for things that are His will. This means that, if our requests are what God wants for us, or our timing does not coincide with His timing, or our motives for asking are wrong, the result will be unanswered (or postponed) prayer.

“…and whatever we ask we receive from him, because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him” (I John 3:22 ESV). We cannot expect to have our prayers answered if we are not obeying God. God never gave us a blank prayer check that says we can have anything we want anytime we want it. That would result in a bunch of spoiled materialistic Christians. However, He did promise that He would be with us, He would provide what we need, and He would give us peace (Philippians 4:6-7). Nevertheless, all of this is dependent on our response to His love and lordship.

Matthew 6:25-34 not only promises that God will take care of us, but that we are going to have hardships in this life. In John 16:33, Jesus tells His followers that they will have tribulations in this world, but He also promises His comfort, strength, and presence to see them through them. We were never promised and easy life simply because we are believers.

However, we are told that God is in control of our lives, nothing happens except what God causes or allows, “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28 ESV).

Alex, I truly hope this helps. God loves us and wants us to love Him. As Creator, He has all the answers and has revealed enough in the Bible for us to know Him and know how to live. I’m still praying, not that I win an argument, but that God will comfort your soul.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Ty April 13, 2013 at 11:33 pm

I have read the article and the comments, especially the last few between Alex, Robert and Jack Wellman. I can completely relate to where Alex is coming from.

No, life has not worked out the way I planned it and I didn’t expect it to. What I expected and counted on was a “contentment” from a relationship with God in the last 20 years. However, these years have resulted in anger, despair, wariness, and just generally fed up with trying to be a follower of Christ. My question is, what to do when nothing else seems to work? Just keep on pushing on?

– Ty

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Robert April 14, 2013 at 9:09 pm

Hi Ty,
I’m sure many people struggle with the issue of contentment, feeling God’s presence (or not), etc. I have wrestled with from time to time myself. However, for me, when I completely surrendered my life, my will, my desires, and everything else, to God, I was never plagued with those doubts again.
You asked what one should do when nothing else seems to work. My answer is that God promises His presence, His comfort, His strength, and so much more if we live for Him in obedient faith. Now, this is either true or God is lying. I believe it’s true. What do you believe, Ty? If it is true, and our life is miserable, it is not God who has failed. Rather, there is some area of our life that is out of sync with His will for us. We should humbly attempt to find out what that is. Pray, study His word, consult other believers, etc. I will be more than happy to continue to correspond with you on this matter. I will be praying for you, Ty. Remember, God loves you and wants the best for you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Ty April 15, 2013 at 11:21 am

Robert,

Had you asked me that question five or ten years ago, I would have believed that is true. Now, however, I am not so sure. I believe that God is more concerned with character than anything else, and that is usually built through trials and hardships in life. His presence, strength, comfort, etc only go so far when you are constantly beaten down in life.

I have prayed to the point of aching knees, studied the Scripture until I was seeing double, and talked with others who have either gloss over the topic or are just as confused as I am. That has left me with unanswered prayers, confusion of His will, and doubting His love can go beyond “God to mere mortal”. I do believe that God will do whatever He wants to do to bring Himself glory, regardless of where I am in life.

– Ty

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Robert April 15, 2013 at 12:00 pm

Hi Ty,
You believed once, may I ask what led you to doubt God’s goodness and involvement in your life?
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Ty April 15, 2013 at 3:58 pm

It wasn’t one major thing or event, a culmination of losses and “curve balls” in life (especially in the last eight years) that were met with silence when I took them to God.

– Ty

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Robert April 15, 2013 at 5:01 pm

Hello again Ty,
I’m sorry to hear that. However, the Bible says that God is not unmoved by our sufferings and hardships and He will comfort us in the hard times (Philippians 4:5-7). When did you become a Christian? Many times, people will try to live the Christian life without understanding fully what that means. They then find that they are unable to live, what they consider to be, good enough lives. This leads to frustration and, if not dealt with, an eventual loss of faith. I really would like to help you with this, Ty. I stand by the Bible, and the fact that it teaches God’s love for us (His Son died on a cross for you sins and mine), His unmatched power and ability, and the fact that He wants us to have a relationship with Him. The Bible says that God does not change (Numbers 32:38; Malachi 3:6). It is never He who needs to meet our expectations, but rather we are to be changed by Him.
God bless you, Ty. I’m praying for you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Ty April 15, 2013 at 8:46 pm

Hello Robert,

I gave my life to Christ about ten years ago, although I had been seeking God long before then.

I am beyond frustrated and definitely lost my faith in any type of significant relationship with God. God is just God and the desire to worship Him is not there anymore and seems hypocritical to me.

– Ty

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Robert April 15, 2013 at 9:07 pm

Ty,
I don’t mean to pry, and I don’t want you to reveal anything here that you wouldn’t want others to see, but can you tell me what was the event, or moment, or thought, or whatever that made you lose your faith? If you can’t or don’t want to that’s fine.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Ty April 15, 2013 at 10:00 pm

Robert,
It would take many paragraphs to explain but it started with faith & hope in God’s love & and ended in the death of a very good friend (who lead me to Christ). That started the questions and the doubts.

– Ty

Mr A Cotton April 15, 2013 at 4:56 pm

Yes Ty I agree with you what you said at the end of your post.
You are wrong about regardless of where I am in life. God wants you to be there. I have said the same that I am just a piece of muck,and I am not worth bothering with.
I was brought up a staunch RC,and looking back both the Priests`and teacher`s ruled by fear. I am 64 yrs old now,and I evan got Alopecia through this when I was only 12 yrs old. My mother went down to school about this,and they never bothered me again. Here is a sort of a list of my woe`s.
I had four brother`s they all got good jobs,they all owned there house,all there marriages worked out,they all drive,they have all had good health.I DID NOT! They did not attend church I did?
When I was 18 yrs old I had a nervous breakdown. It was terrible they gave me Valium which now I am addicted too for life. I had a further 3 nervous breakdowns(I was still going to church and asking God to help) I think I had breakdowns,and I did not know it. I got married divorced after 10 yrs the doctor,and nurses told me she was emotionally blackmailing me. Which I replied what`s that,they explained to me what this was. I left work when I was 29 yrs old through ill heath.
Every year I was going into hospital with what they said was gastroenteritis they turned me upside down,and still they could not find a thing wrong with me(still going to church asking God`s help) Even when I went on my holidays I took bad half way down,and my mates dropped me off at the hospital. The surgeon came and said we will have to operate on you,and I replied NO! and I said what will happen if you don`t He said you will die,and I replied well I will just die then. I got through it,and they were amazed.
When I got back home they carried more tests out on me still nothing.
It was when I was 34 yrs old I did not have a say in the matter it was an emergency I new nothing. Some patients told me you were down for 4 hrs
The consultant came to me and said we have found out what the problem was,and he showed me it was like super glue. He said this has been growing and wrapping round your bowels all these yrs Adhesions! You can see why they could not pick it up because it`s clear. (still going to church asking Gods help) I will start to wind up a bit.
In January 2013 I had to go into hospital to get a tumour removed from the side of my neck.
I found this sight about 2 yrs ago (God)and I was told to seek and to knock,and I did,but like you said God sometimes just dosn`t want to know when we ask Him.
When you said I prayed to the point of aching knees this reminds me of St Bernadette the nun in the film said I have scrubbed floors said decades of the rosary why has God chose Her she hasn`t done nothing,and when the nun saw her leg,and what the doctor said I can`t believe she has evan stood up. The nun had her prayer answered St Bernadette did not once complain about anything,and then that nun had her prayer answered. I would sort of agree with you to an extent,but only God knows us. If we all took no notice of God He would have nobody to see Him in His Glory.I am still a bit of a doubting Thomas,and I suppose that`s why Jesus chose him for us don`t give up Ty. May God let you see.

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Robert April 15, 2013 at 9:03 pm

Mr. Cotton,
Thank you for sharing your story with Ty. I appreciate your willingness to share what must be a sensitive subject with others in order to help them. God bless you, brother.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Robert April 16, 2013 at 7:09 am

Ty,
It seems like your expectations of God were not met. For some, hardships cause them to doubt and walk away; for others, hardships cause them to cling closer to God. I am praying that your struggles with your faith will eventually lead you to a stronger faith. If I can be of any help, let me know.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Greg May 7, 2013 at 2:51 am

I’ve prayed for over 9 years for my ex wife to get saved and come back. I’m in God’s will. Praying for salvation is God’s will. A restored marriage is always God’s will. 1 Cor 7:10-11. Why hasn’t God answered? Also, I understand free will. But if thats whats holding it up, how does anyone ever get saved if free will is such a huge problem for God? I got saved, I was a sinner on my way to hell. So whats the deal?

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Robert May 7, 2013 at 10:38 am

Hi Greg,
I understand the heartache you are experiencing as someone I love dearly is also rejecting God’s love in favor of a life of self-rule and false autonomy. This person is, as I’m assuming your ex-wife is also, choosing to rebel against God’s will and, instead, follow their own plans and purposes (or their own lusts and desires).

Free will can be hard to accept when we so desperately wish to see our loved ones give up their self-rule and follow Jesus. However, free will is the way God set things up, so that’s what we have. I know that it would be nice if we could just force our loved ones to accept Jesus, but it doesn’t work that way. Love can’t be forced or it ceases to be love.

All I can do is to pray for you and your situation and encourage you to remain steadfast in your faith…whether your ex-wife gets saved or not. Continue to pray for her, but do not neglect God’s will for your life as you pray for her. God bless you, brother. God is the God of comfort and peace, trust Him to see you through.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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roni May 22, 2013 at 7:34 am

please pray fro me that god will cancel my debt its to much for me im oon disability and im barely making ends meet.

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Robert May 22, 2013 at 9:06 am

roni,
I will be praying for you, Roni. I will also pray for God’s comfort, gudance, peace, and joy in your life. Financial problems can seem overwhelming at times, but God is bigger than any problem we have. He will meet your needs if you will trust Him and live for Him. God bless you, Roni.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Paul May 26, 2013 at 11:00 am

Hello all,
I have read this article and ALL the comments about 3 times and I must admit I can see “both sides if the coin” so to speak. Like Alex and Ty I also am very disillusioned or more so scared I never had any doubts that God loves me or that Jesus was our savior and that He was and is truly the son of God. I have been saved over 30 years and honestly I wonder if God is just done with me. The more I turned to Christianity the worst things seemed to get. I lead my then unsaved wife to Christ we became very active members of our church, prayed together for our marriage and or 3 baby daughters and what did it get me? She left me broke and homeless for one of the youth pastors at church, then took my 3 daughters and moved 1,500 miles away. I didn’t see or hear from them for 6 years, all the while praying to see them or hear from them of course the answer to this prayer was NO. Then I found a wonderful woman who truly loved me we were married just 5 years and she became sick and she died. I then asked God to help me find a job in Florida to be with my daughters and He did so I could be near them and have a relationship with them. Moving here has been a disaster. I lost my job, I am in so much debt I’ll never live long enough to be able to get out of debt or have a decent life, my car has been repossessed, I need very serious dental work I am in pain to where it’s difficult to eat anything, I’m losing weight, I am alnost paralyzed with fear grief and worry, and everyday a new financial crisis is upon me. All these things have been happening over the course of 20 years and the answer to EVERY prayer is A Big Fat NO. So I can relate to and understand what Alex and Ty are going through. God knows were just mortal beings with faults…He made us so why is it He doesn’t understand or approve of our anger, frustration, and desperation? How many years of NO before even the “best” Christian starts to lose faith or doubt God cares?

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Jack Wellman May 26, 2013 at 6:20 pm

Hello Paul. I know this is not my article but let me say this sir. The Father told Jesus three times “No” to have “This cup pass from me” of Calvary. Three times God said “NO!” to Paul who was suffering with His thorn in the flesh. Job lost all of his family, all of crops, all his livestock, his home, his wealth, his …everything! Yet God never did tell Job why he did this.

Paul wrote “Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was pelted with stones, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a day in the open sea.” Further in 2 Cor 11 “I have worked much harder, been in prison more frequently, been flogged more severely, and been exposed to death again and again. 24Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. 25Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was pelted with stones, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a day in the open sea, 26I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers. 27I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked.” yet God removed none of these terrible sufferings and next to Jesus and perhaps more than Job, Paul suffered so much. God does understand our anger our frustration our desperation for sure. Who endured more than Christ (Isaiah 52, 53)? NO one. The Bible never promises happiness in this life but eternal joy in the next. No is still an answer and we must trust God that He knows best for how much more does the Potter know that the clay vessel? Make sense sir? I pray it does.

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Debbie May 27, 2013 at 3:22 am

I’ve been praying for a job and have had zero income for 9 months, although my struggle has gone on for over 3 years. Instead of favor it seems like my efforts to find a job have been thwarted. My life is ruined more than if that is what had I set out to do. My character is not better if I can’t pay my bills or pay back those who have tried help me. I am getting deeper and deeper in to problems because of lack of finances. I’m not getting more Christlike. I have a hard time praying because it’s kind of like pissing in the wind, things keep getting worse. When I read His word and promises they seem pretty empty at this point. I have a hard time not being bitter towards God, if you can’t tell. This isn’t a loving father it’s abusive and twisted. He is either a deviant or apathetic. If He had mercy He would just kill me.

I am not prepared to be homeless, destitute and live a life of misery. What price do I have to pay for Him to be glorified in my situation? He brought me to a place of total dependence on Him and just left me.

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Robert May 27, 2013 at 3:55 pm

Debbie,
I truly am sorry to hear of struggles. All I’m sure of is that God promises us certain things when we surrender our lives to Him. When our priorities are His priorities and our wants and desires are the same as His wants and desires for us. It is easy to get discouraged when it seems like God is taking too long or not listening at all, but the Bible promises He hears us, if we are living our lives for Him.
Do you have a church family, Debbie? It is so important, especially during times of struggle, to have people around you who care for you. I will certainly be praying for you. The first thing I do when things go awry in my life is to do a selfexamination to see if I’m am rebelling against Him in any area of my life. I know that I can’t expect God to bless my life while I am disobedient to His leading.
God bless you, Debbie.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Debbie October 7, 2013 at 9:26 pm

Robert thank the compassion you are showing and prayers. I do have fellowship with others and the ministry has helped me more than I could ask for. The truth is people will only go so far to help you and I don’t blame them. I also have a couple of miserable comforters like Job did. I’ve heard countless Christian platitudes that so easily roll off the tongue and don’t come from the heart and seem to trivialize what I’m going through. Most people want to give you a pat on your head and send you on your way. I’ve prayed a thousand prayers and cried out every way possible. I’ve had many others praying for me. No one really understands why it keeps getting worse for me. I am in the fight of my life. My faith is being shaken to the very core. If I had one little break through I’d probably run up and down the street shouting for joy screaming at the top of my lungs PRAISE GOD.

I have examined my heart, I’m not perfect but I don’t have a secret sin, unforgiveness etc. I’ve continued to seek God even in my frustration. Yet, things continue to spiral out of control in my life. Since 2010, I have gone through all my savings and retirement. I struggle just to keep the internet and phone on because that is my only way of finding work. My power could be shut off at anytime. Now my water has been shut off. If that’s not enough they said there was a 3 gallon a minute leak and won’t turn it back on even if I do pay until the leak is fixed. My hot water heater has been broke since January and I haven’t had a hot shower since. My kitchen sink has been plugged for 11 months and is a bio hazard. I can’t afford my car plates and due to unpaid tickets my license is suspended. I didn’t have a lot of debt but I’m being hounded by creditors. A process server came to my door yesterday. I am about to lose my home if my circumstances don’t change very soon. I have no where to go but the street and I can not do homeless, that’s when my hope runs completely out. I’m not irresponsible I just run out of options so here I am. I have 2 cats I love dearly, all I want for is a way to keep my home and keep my cats. To keep dreams alive.

Even if I were to get a job I don’t see digging out of this for the rest of my life. I’m not asking for handouts, I’d rather work. More than anything I want to pay back those that have helped me. I’ll be 56 next month, I’ve applied for hundreds of jobs. I’m somewhat limited in what I can do but I’m willing to take part time, less money anything to get the basics taken care of. It might be hard to believe, I find it hard to believe I can’t find a job too. I have worked all my life. Now I’m so far gone, even if I landed an interview I don’t even have running water much less a shower and every time I drive my old car I risk losing it. Every time I have to use the bathroom I want to cry. I go to bed hoping I don’t wake up and wake up wishing I didn’t.

It does me no good to hear how others have it worse, how does that help me. Look what Paul endured, I’m not Paul. Fear not when everything is crashing around me. Be thankful when there is little to be thankful for. God is faithful just hold on, when everyday gets worse. Sometimes the scriptures are like words on a page and have little meaning and His promises seem empty. Other times I am brought to tears by His word and promises. Trusting God is difficult when you’ve been expectant and continually discouraged. I’ve done everything I know to do. So where do I go from here? What are can I possibly be missing?

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Robert October 8, 2013 at 7:32 am

Debbie,
I can only imagine what you are going through. I can hear the pain in your words. Although I intend to continue praying for you, I am limited in what I am able to do. I am sure you’ve reached out to government agencies for help, and don’t be shy about allowing the church to help you, I’m sure they would love the opportunity.

The Bible tells us that God will provide what you need, as long as you are trusting Him. My only advice at this point, Debbie, is to continue to trust Him. He has the answers, and the power to carry out those answers. I’ve seen many times that it looks the worst just before it gets better. Debbie, I keep coming back to the fact that we simply have to trust God. You mentioned Job; he lost everything (it’s not just a story, this man suffered horribly, and he had no apparent sin either), but he continued to trust God. He knew that God had not abandoned him and would eventually rescue him. It certainly wasn’t easy for Job, but there really was no other alternative. His wife encouraged him to curse God and die. But he didn’t and God was faithful.

Debbie, I don’t have all the answers, but God does. Paul also said this, “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal” (II Corinthians 4:16-18 ESV). When our earthly human life seems unbearable, we must focus on the true life we have in Christ Jesus, knowing that we were created for much more than this terrestrial existence. We will one day be with God, perfect and pain free, for eternity.

I will continue praying for you, Debbie. Trust God, obey Him, love Him with all your heart…He will not leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Debbie January 24, 2014 at 2:00 pm

Robert,
Thank you for taking the time to give me such a sincere answer and for the prayers. I am thankful for so many things, still have a roof over my head, got some help and now my water is back on. I even have hot water, my health and more. I never would have though I would be so thankful for something as basic as water. I’ve endured more than I ever thought I could.

I wished I knew that in the future, I’d be in a safe place, maybe even a better place than I started, I’d be able to look back and count it all joy and say God was glorified in my situation. But now I am fearful of a future of misery and lack until my dying day. I am very afraid of what the future holds for me. The course I’m on seems pretty hopeless, I feel helpless. This nightmare “season” seems to never end. I’m trying to do what I can but it seems to no avail. It is as if all my options to pull out of this are thwarted by God Himself…But why? It’s all inexplicable to me. I’m afraid God is just going to let me be destroyed. I just try to get through one more day because if I look at the big picture of my life it is terrifies me. I’m at the point now where I don’t know I can handle a job, I need time to heal from all of this. But if I could get a job I would take it. I have so much heaviness at this point, it’s hard to cope with anything. I know God doesn’t give us a spirit of fear but how can I not be fearful? How can I not be ashamed? Death seems better than life. I need a God in the land of the living to.

Yes, I am fearful of the future but today is a good day, tomorrow will likely be a good day to.

Thanks again, you are a good man of God. I appreciate your thoughtful caring, prayers and the time you take.

David March 5, 2014 at 5:29 pm

Hello Debbie, I have just read this article and posts. And your sharing has really touched my spirit. Please believe me you are not alone, I can identify with what you say. Also please believe me you are in my prayers.
Blessings, David Central Europe

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Debbie March 7, 2014 at 5:22 pm

David,
Thank you for the kind words and prayers. I appreciate it. God’s Best to you as well.

David March 9, 2014 at 3:18 pm

Hello Debbie. thank you for your reply, you are still in my prayers. May I suggest you read a good article by Jack Wellman? It is entitled “Does the Bible promise happiness“ dated April 28 2013. I`m sure it will bless you.
Blessings, David Central Europe
p.s. He may have brought you you to a place of total dependence on Him, but He will never just leave you. Remember Jesus saying “I will never leave or forsake you“. Hang on to that pronise

Robert May 27, 2013 at 3:46 pm

Paul,
I’m certainly sorry to hear of your struggles with this issue. Jack’s comment contained a lot of sound wisdom. But I would like to address a couple of things you said in your comment. First, God did not cause your wife to leave you. That was caused by sinful decisions on her part and the man she left with. So, this has nothing to do with answered, or unanswered prayer, but with the choices that we all make every day.
Paul, I am convinced that the Bible is true and what it says about God is true. I know that most of Jesus’ disciples were killed for their faith. But I also know that, because they trusted God with everything, He strengthened them to be able to persevere. I don’t know you well enough to give you any more advice than this: trust God with your life, He knows you inside and out, He knows your situation and your spiritual condition. Maybe He is preparing you for something, you know that Israelites wandered the desert for forty years as God purged and prepared them. I’ll be praying for you and your situation. If you don’t have a home church, it would probably help to find one. A community of believers who understand your struggles and can help you with them. Don’t give up hope Paul, God is a God of hope.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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David May 28, 2013 at 3:06 am

Robert I have struggled with sickness since I was 8 years old, I am now 19 and I ask myself many times how God sent me into this world knowing my future of suffering? Many times I do receive hope from the word of God, but I also receive fear when I read and hear that God did not remove the thorn from Paul’s flesh or how people suffer from sickness their entire lives. I want to believe deeply that God wants me not to suffer but I cannot see a future of happiness in my life.

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Robert May 28, 2013 at 7:15 pm

Hi David,
There have been many Christians down through history who have been persecuted, suffered hardships, and killed even though they were obedient loving believers. Often we forget that this is not our final destination, our home is in glory. Our time here is but a blip compared to our time in heaven. Even the apostle Paul you mentioned in your comment said, “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18 ESV). I’ll be praying for you, that God will fill your heart with peace and joy as you live for Him. Remember, with God all things are possible. God bless you, brother.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Suzanna June 9, 2013 at 8:41 am

Dear Robert, I appreciate this article. Bible clearly shows that God answers prayers. If the answer is to be a ‘NO’ why ask after all. Is that our God of faithfulness and integrity?, God who is faithful in His promises? I get angry in myself when people tell me to expect a NO from God for my prayers. I feel that if you do not ask for anything at all your relationship with God will not be strained. You can have peace in knowing that ‘you have not because you ask not’. If you get the blessings freely thank God and be at peace.
I happened to be a Christian who teaches the word in a private group which is very insignificant in an insignificant part of the world. A few people in my place come to me to pray along. I give priority for such things than my own activities, not because of extra righteousness of mine but because I am not working now (but I used to get requests when I was working too). I do not have spectacular powers like some others to claim that ‘whatever I ask I receive’, yet people somehow come to me to pray, I do not know their reasons of coming to me. May be they think I am approachable or they know that I am in the business of praying most of the time or because my requests in itself are not answered. Some of my requests I am praying for years are known to them too. I mean requests that most of the Christians understand as ‘blessings’ from God where others may look at you and say, ‘surely these are people whom the Lord has blessed.’ Mine is a family of Christians. We pray together, fast together but as any other family of earthlings we may not be perfect. There are many a things to be thankful for, food, shelter, protection, peace and love in family, some healings some not in full, etc., praise God. I am trying to figure out the reason why my prayer are not answered yet. Many families do not even have my type of requests because they receive them without even asking. It is even worse when I see ‘good’ people of other religion receive such things when they pray to their gods. The requests I referred above are not for mere material things too, I mean money, fame or Mercedes Benzes.
What a challenge in my faith life !!. I am sorry to say that many attempts by Godly people to elaborate on ‘ask in Jesus name and receive’ never satisfy me. I understand the God the Bible presents to me is a God who gives much more than what we ask for. I know God is in no way obliged to answer me because He is Sovereign. Whatever He does is right, so shall I keep on knocking or give up and wait for whatever that comes on the way?

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Robert June 10, 2013 at 9:02 am

Hi Suzanna,
Thank you for your comment. I would like to address some of the statements you made to see if I can clear up any misconceptions you might have gleaned from my article.

You asked, “If the answer is to be a ‘NO’ why ask after all.” I would say that part of the answer to that question is because oftentimes we ask for things that are out of God’s will for our lives (James 4:3). God is omniscient, He knows everything. He says that anything we ask “in His name” (John 14:14) and “according to His will” (I John 5:14) He hears and will do it. But any prayer that does not meet these basic requirements, He will not answer with anything except a “No”.

You mentioned that you, “…get angry in myself when people tell me to expect a NO from God for my prayers.” There is no reason to ‘expect’ a NO. But we must leave that decision to God.

Your ministry of prayer is commendable. Thanking God for all we have, whether it is little or much, is a good attitude to have toward God. After all, every good thing comes from Him (James 1:17). I do not know why prayers are not answered in the way we expect them to be, but I am confident that God knows best. I can have peace about that.

You say, “It is even worse when I see ‘good’ people of other religion receive such things when they pray to their gods.” And the Bible says that they have their reward right here on earth (Matthew 6:2, 5, 16). They pray to a false god about things that are temporary and fleeting. They have earthly possessions that will be less than worthless in the big picture. Our focus should be on worshipping our Lord and Savior and trusting that He knows what’s best for us.

All I can say is what the Bible says; it never promises us a life free from difficulty. It promises us peace and joy in the Lord as we go through our struggles. The Bible never promises us that we will have everything we ask for; it promises us that God will supply all our needs.

If you continue to pray, and continue to trust God, your relationship with Him will surely grow. Your prayers will either be answered as you expect, or you will know why they aren’t, or you will be at peace not knowing why they aren’t. Don’t stop praying though. It is communication with God. If you stop communicating with Him, then you will be moving in the wrong direction altogether.

I pray that these words are words of encouragement, that is what they are meant to be, I do not pretend to know everything, I just try to understand what God is saying in His Word and help others to trust Him. God bless you, Suzanna.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Suzanna June 10, 2013 at 11:34 am

Thank you, Robert for your time and reply. It surely is encouraging to me. I thank God for you. Surely you help others understand God better. You are doing a great job and may God reward you richly.
Yes, my God is my provider and every need of mine is met in Him. My prayers will surely be answered- whether I get what I ask for or much more than what I ask for or even not getting what I ask for I believe, it still is not a “NO” from my Father. He hears me and He answers me. After all who can boast about their prayers? Until He gives us the breath, health and peace, who can even pray? I thank God for everything. I want to know Him more and more so that our relationship will grow deeper and deeper.

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Katie July 7, 2013 at 4:41 pm

Wow, I can really relate to some of these people who are frustrated in their prayer lives with God. Please pray for me, too. If God doesn’t intervene, I die.

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Robert July 7, 2013 at 6:33 pm

Katie,
God is all loving, all knowing, and all powerful. Place your trust in Him, live for Him, and He will see you through anything that comes against you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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TheVeryTruth July 19, 2013 at 7:26 am

all that i will hope for is for God to bless a good man like me that is very much hoping to meet a good woman to share my life with.

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Robert July 20, 2013 at 11:32 pm

I will also be praying for you in this matter. Trust God, he knows all and loves you very much. God bless you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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TheVeryTruth August 15, 2013 at 8:34 pm

it is very much true that many of us men and women hate so much to be alone and want someone to share our life with, which i am sure you will agree. loneliness is very bad for many of us, especially when the holidays come around which makes it even much worse. the men and women that were very blessed by God to have met one another and have a family should really go to church to pray and thank God for having a life that many of us would have certainly wanted as well. i was married at one time before my wife of 15 years cheated on me, and i was a very caring and loving husband that was very much committed to her before this happened. now going out all over again is no fun at all since the women today have certainly changed for the worse, and meeting a good one for many of us very serious men is very difficult now.

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Robert August 16, 2013 at 8:37 am

Loneliness can be very difficult to handle. As Christians we must remember that we are never truly alone; the Holy Spirit indwells us to comfort, guide, and strengthen us in whatever situation we may find ourselves. Don’t let loneliness cause you to rush into a relationship or make bad choices in the one you choose to show your affections to. Remember, we are Christ’s first. We should be in prayer about who we become emotionally involved with.

You mentioned that women today have changed for the worse. Maybe it is you who has changed for the better. As we mature in our relationship with Jesus, our outlook will change to align more with His. This even applies to those we form relationships with; we will look for those who are more like Christ. Take your time, trust and rely on God to guide you.

Cultivate your relationship with Jesus and everything else will fall into place. Matthew 6:33 tells us to seek the kingdom of God first, and He will supply all our needs. God bless you, brother.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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philip nonso. July 26, 2013 at 1:50 am

To the response to what the bible said in (james 4:3) You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.” in my life experience, i witness this demon th tormenting my life all the time. many times i ve prayed and visited many deliverance program for God to cast away this curse from me, but God seemed to be silent. i want know does it mean that God does not hear my prayer, or does it mean that i am the most sinner on earth? even though whenever i pray i feel the anointing of the holy spirit to wider extend, but yet this irritum demon keep sucking my blood in the night and bringing failure to my working life, despite the scores of talent in me, am still begging for food at my age while i have no any other savior beside christ..

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Robert July 26, 2013 at 10:00 am

Hi Philip,
Thanks for reading and commenting. I sense the frustration in your tone. Let me see if I can help you find some answers. Many times, the problems in our lives are not caused by demons tormenting us, but by the choices we make. You are certainly not the worst sinner on earth, although I too have felt that way before I came to understand that I am a saved, forgiven, child of God who does not need to fear anything as long as I am loving God with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and body. I would advise you to focus more on Jesus, God, Bible reading (and study), and prayer than on demons or deliverance ministries. The Holy Spirit of God is supremely powerful and anyone who is filled with the Holy Spirit will not be overcome by any demonic influence. Trust God and follow Him with you whole existence, including your thought life. The Bible tells us, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things”(Philippians 4:8 ESV). If we keep our focus on God, we will not be tempted, confused, or distracted by the things of the world or the things of Satan or his demons. I hope this helps. I’ll be praying for you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Kori Majhor September 3, 2013 at 9:13 pm

God-
I have prayed for several things, but one thing I wanted most of all. I have cried each night for 9 months, still nothing. What do I have to do to get results. I have to be honest….I am angry!!! Its so easy for GOD to grant prayers, yet he doesn’t. The devil is always on his job, yet it seems GOD is slacking……HELP ME LORD!!! HEAR MY PRAYER AND GRANT IT!!!

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Robert September 4, 2013 at 7:20 am

Kori, I understand the frustration of not having your prayers answered like you think they should be answered, but the Bible promises us that God knows your needs, He loves you more enough to send His Son to die a horrible death for you, and He is powerful enough to do anything He wants. You said you are angry (I’m assuming you are angry at God). And you compare the Devil’s activity to what you perceive to be God’s inactivity. Kori, I don’t know what you are asking of God, but do you trust Him enough to believe He knows what’s best for you? Or do you simply want Him to give you what you want? It sounds like a simple question, but our attitude toward God can make the difference between answered prayer and unanswered prayer. Too many times, we think we know what we need when we don’t know at all. It makes so much more sense to allow the Creator, Sustainor of the universe (who knows all and is all-powerful) to decide what we need and what to give us. God is not Santa Claus…He is our Creator and Savior. Our responsibility is not to demand things from Him, even if those things are things we feel are good and important, but to worship Him.

Kori, please read this article. It may help you a bit:
http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/can-we-change-gods-mind-with-prayer-a-bible-study/

God bless you, Kori. I pray these words have helped and do not increase your anger. My intentions are merely to help you grow closer to God.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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The Very Truth October 7, 2013 at 12:20 pm

thank you so very much for your support.

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Robert October 7, 2013 at 2:09 pm

You are in my prayers.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Mike January 23, 2014 at 4:26 am

Why doesn’t god heal amputees?

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Robert January 23, 2014 at 4:40 pm

Hi Mike,
Thanks for reading and commenting. First, I must say that I don’t know why God doesn’t choose to heal amputees. The Bible says that His ways are above our ways (Isaiah 55:8) and that we should not lean on our own understanding, but trust Him and He will take care of us (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Let’s think about this a bit more. Surely we know that the God who created the universe has the ability to heal amputees. Therefore, it is not a question of whether or not He has the power. So, it must be something else.

We could well ask why God does not eliminate all sickness, heartache, injuries, and even death. The Bible tells us that God created a perfect world; a world without sickness, death, injury, etc. He gave mankind the choice to love, worship, and obey Him or to rebel against Him. Guess what, Adam and Eve rebelled. When they did, the corrupting influence of sin began its work on man and nature, thus we have evil, death, heartache, and every other loathsome thing that results from sin.

We cannot legitimately blame God for our problems. However, we need to keep all this in perspective. No matter what befalls us here on earth, God offers His salvation to us. Quite possibly, these human physical ailments help to lead us to Him; they make us realize that we are human; we have limitations that we cannot overcome. One of these limitations is our sinfulness. We cannot overcome our sinfulness on our own. Nevertheless, Jesus Christ died on a cross to pay for our sins and to make a way for our sins to be forgiven.

Mike, I don’t know your situation, but I pray that you will not let any temporary earthly condition keep you from trusting Jesus as your Savior and Lord. It would truly be a tragedy if you missed eternal life (think about that, eternal life is a perfect, never-ending existence in the presence of God) simply because you don’t understand everything about why God does, or does not do, what God does or does not do.

God bless you Mike. I will keep you in my prayers.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Jack Wellman January 24, 2014 at 8:20 am

Robert, if you are trying to find Mike’s last comment, it was removed and his access to this site was blocked because his comments were so blasphemous and full of error about our sovereign and holy God that we simply could not permit him to comment anymore. I am sorry that there are those who are so filthy in disparaging our God who is so good to us, so if you came to this article to respond to his last comment, it has been removed. Thanks.

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Dereck Miller January 24, 2014 at 10:05 am

Hi Jack,

When I read that piece of trash at first I wanted to be angry, but, then my heart waned to go out to him and pray for him.

Hopefully, he will see the need to develop a prayer life, then later he will see how foolish his comments about the one true God were.

Peace and Love

Dereck

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Jack Wellman January 24, 2014 at 10:11 am

Amen Derek. I agree. I know Robert is a true man of God and that he is solid theologically so his answer was spot on. As I told Robert, sometimes they are sneaks…they post a very nice or sincerely seeking an answer post only to get into the system by having their comments approved. I removed the comment from that the site because it was so inflammatory that it was inappropriate to post and yes, you are right. I feel sorry for these people who are just so blind but only by God’s grace do we ourselves see. Robert did a sterling job in answering him but the truth sets you free or it makes you really mad.

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Jack Wellman January 24, 2014 at 10:13 am

Meant to say “Dereck” with a “c.” My apologies.

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Robert January 25, 2014 at 9:25 am

Debbie,
I was so encouraged by the way your comment began. It truly seems that God is working in your life to provide for your needs. However, by the end of your comment, you seem to have convinced yourself that things are not as good as they seem, or that they will not continue to be good.

The things you mention in your first paragraph are clear indications that God is answering prayer and involved in your life. Your anxiety about the future is understandable, but unnecessary. God promises His children that He will take care of us; He will provide for our needs (not necessarily our wants), and He will give us peace in our hearts if we will trust Him. God does not tell us that He will reveal the future to us, only that He will be with us through whatever that future brings. We are to live day by day trusting in His loving kindness and care. God promises us that He will never forsake us (Deuteronomy 31:6; Hebrews 13:5). He also says that, if we trust Him, we will have emotional and mental peace no matter what our situation (Philippians 4:6-8).

Continue to trust Him, Debbie, and He will provide all your needs. I will continue to pray for you, but it is your relationship to Him that determines His activity in your life. God bless you and keep you.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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A.T. February 9, 2014 at 7:55 am

I feel like I have already done all of that, numerous times in fact. I have been going through so much in the last 20 years, and im not exaggerating when I say this, but my life gets continuously worse, its gotten so bad that now I have zero friends and zero family, everyone has abandoned me. I have nothing else left, and for all those years all I ever asked God for was to have peace. Now what?

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Robert February 10, 2014 at 12:35 pm

A.T.,
I hear your frustration and believe you are sincerely searching for an answer. Do you attend church anywhere? If so, I would urge you to talk to your pastor. If you do not attend church, I would urge you to find a Bible-believing church and start attending. You are not the only person to have these feelings other Christians are the best people to help you answer your questions.

What reasons do your friends and family give you for abandoning you?

The Bible, and the indwelling Holy Spirit, assures me that God loves us and wants to have a relationship with us (John 3:16). However, He has set the conditions by which we can have that relationship and we must meet these conditions. If we refuse to obey God, and we decide that we think our way is better, then we are, in effect, refusing to meet God’s conditions and are cutting ourselves off from His influence on our lives.

You wrote in your comment, “I feel like I have already done all of that, numerous times in fact”. How to you KNOW you are doing what God requires of you? The only way is to compare the way you live your life to what the Bible says is the way God wants you to live your life. God gave us the Bible in order that we might know the truth, spiritual truth, relational truth, personal truth, and the truth of His love for us; a love that is so real that He gave His Son, Jesus Christ, to die on a cross for you and me. You and I are not at liberty to ignore God’s will, simply do whatever we want to do, and ask God to bless us and give us peace. Jesus said, “If you love me, you will obey my commandments” (John 14:15, 23).

Nevertheless, even if we are faithful followers of God, we are not exempt from the heartache, trials, tragedy, and temptation that comes with living in this world (John 16:29-33). But the Bible also tells us that God will be with us through it all.

A.T., I pray that you will not let your situation dull your faith in God. We must remember that all creation suffers from the effects of sin; therefore, even as Christians, we will feel those effects from time to time. Our response should be to continue to trust in God, knowing that He knows everything about us and our situation, He loves us, and He will see us through…if we continue to trust Him.

I hope this helps some, A.T., I pray you have (or will have) a church home filled with loving believers who will help you work through these questions. May God bless you.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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A.T. February 10, 2014 at 4:00 pm

I do have a church home, and I actually did talk to the pastor, before I found this website. He prayed for me and that was it. I also have done what God has told me. Recently I got a bad feeling, but by the time I got the feeling it was to late to do anything. I still don’t know what to do and I am very tired physically and emotionally. Also I honestly don’t why my family has left me, except this one thing, but It is not something I can say on the internet. All I know is that I have never done anything to harm or hurt them and I never would.

Thank you

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Robert February 11, 2014 at 4:46 pm

A.T.,
I am glad to hear you have a church home and that you talked with your pastor. However, even he is limited in what he can do for you. God is not limited, He is bigger than any problem you could ever have. Now this doesn’t mean that all your problems will simply vanish if you follow God. What it means is that He will give you the wisdom and strength to get through your problems, if YOU are faithful in you walk with Him.

A.T. you need to find a Christian whom you can trust, share with them what you are dealing with, pray together, and ask them to help you find answers. I know (from the Bible, personal experience, other’s experience, etc.) that God loves us. But He will not honor our disobedience or rebellion, we must surrender to Him and His will.

My advice to you would be to go back to your Pastor, repeatedly if necessary, let him know what you are going through and ask for his help. Continue to pray and believe God is able and willing to help you. I’ll be praying for you also.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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A.T. February 11, 2014 at 9:52 pm

Thank you. No mater what, I will walk through this journey with Christ.

Mtee February 12, 2014 at 7:56 am

Dear Robert,

Thank you for this article as it is very uplifting. I am at a time of despair in my life and I desperately need the hand of God to act now. I am unemployed, I do not have money nor car. Nothing is working in my life. I have been sending job applications like a mad woman but with no success. I have to take care of myself and my family. Everyday I pray, everyday I cry to God. I have no one to turn to but God. I base my prayers on his promises, I have put my life in order with God, I have confessed my sins and I am making an effort to live according to God’s word. I have faith God, and everyday I ask God to increase and strengthen my faith. when i’m in the presence of God I have hope but after that I wait, wait, wait and wait for something to happen, I find myself in despair again and again. it seems as if my prayers are not being answered. I feel like i’m going to lose my mind soon. I am so desperate and I keep waiting from God but it is very hard.

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Robert February 12, 2014 at 1:47 pm

Dear Mtee,
I am reminded of the biblical accounts of the Apostles. Jesus had promised that God would provide everything His followers needed; the Apostles faithfully spread the Gospel as they were instructed, nevertheless most of them lived a life of poverty and died in the most painful of manners. Are we to conclude that God was not with them or that His promises failed? I think not. If you were to ask any of them if they would do it again, or if they feel cheated in any way, they would say that serving the Lord was worth everything they suffered…and more.

Let me encourage you, Mtee, to cling to God with all your being; love Him with all your heart, soul, mind, body, and strength. Know that nothing surprises Him; He is never caught off guard. He loves you enough to send His Son, Jesus, to die on a cross to pay for your sins (and mine), and He promises to take care of us. If God is allowing you to go through hard times, He has a good reason…trust Him. Although we don’t always understand His reasons, we should take comfort in our relationship with Him.

I will be praying for you and your situation. I encourage you to find, and attend, a church if you don’t already. There is great comfort in the company of other believers.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Robert February 12, 2014 at 1:46 pm

[This is to A.T.]
I am so glad to hear that, A.T.
When you walk with Jesus you have nothing to fear. Our Savior is greater than any problems that exist in the universe, He loves us, and promises to provide for us (Matthew 6:25-34). The only condition He puts on those promises is that we live for Him…we love Him with all our heart, soul, mind, body, and strength. I will continue to pray for you. Trust God and know that He is with you.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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David March 5, 2014 at 5:58 pm

Robert, this was truly a good article, and as it is still open since Sept 1 2012 proves it so. The Q and A`s were challenging, open and honest.
I believe that many of those seeking found comfort in your words. Even those who were angry.
May God richly bless you.
Glory to Him Who died for our sins, Jesus our Lord and Saviour, to Him Who sent Jesus, our loving Father, and to Him who comforts us, the Holy Spirit all honour and praise and thanks.
David Central Europe

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Robert March 6, 2014 at 4:41 pm

Thank you David for reading and commenting.

I also appreciate the way you’ve reached out to other readers to comfort and console them. You are being the body of Christ.

This is a difficult subject to tackle (just read Job). I do pray that God has/can/will use this article to minister to others. Often, it is so difficult to have a strong faith when we think God doesn’t care or can’t hear us. We must remember the character of our God; He is holy, just, loving, and powerful. He has a plan, whether we see it or not, and He invites us to be a part of it. When our will aligns with His will, we can be sure that He has us in His loving hands.

And I am grateful for your encouraging words.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Mtee March 18, 2014 at 6:55 am

Dear Robert,

Thank you for the prayer and words of encouragement. In this hardship, I was blessed spiritually: I learnt how to have a prayer life, how to ask for God’s perfect will, how to fully trust and rely on God, how to serve God and exercise my faith. It was not easy; this trial was the worse period of my life so far and I was on the brink of depression. At times I felt like giving up but felt like God has said no to me but something inside pushed me to pray even harder and plea for His grace. This morning I was offered a job by a good company and I testify that it was only the hand of God because I was at the deep end (had no more options left). God’s time was not my timing and His time is perfect because this is truly a miracle. What seemed impossible is now possible today. I am so grateful to God and I had to share this testimony so it can help others. God is greater than my trials, He is faithful to those who seek him.

Regards,
Mtee

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Robert March 18, 2014 at 11:37 am

Mtee,
I am so happy to hear how God is working in your life, just as He promised He would. He loves us so much. I also want to thank you for posting what He is doing in you life. Your story is such an encouragement to other who might be struggling in the same way. Continue to trust Him, He will never fail you. God bless you, Mtee.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Tam April 10, 2014 at 10:51 pm

Mr. Robert,

I stumbled upon this site looking for some uplifting info to calm my building discouragement. As I was reading some of the comments, I can appreciate your patience for people and your love for God. My issue may be common but is so painful to me. My heart aches because I feel so forgotten and passed over by God. I’m a Christian and know that God is real but after years of praying for the same thing and struggling in the same area I’m convinced that He can do anything except do this for me. My circle of friends is getting or have gotten what I’ve been praying and desiring for the last 9 years. A husband. Some of my friends had no interest in marriage and is now married or divorced less than 3 years ago and already engaged. one friend met her husband within 2 weeks of divorcing the other. Another met a man and engaged 6 mths later. And yet I’m struggling to meet a decent man that wants more than just sex. Every man I meet is just curious to know what it’s like to sleep with me. I feel cursed by beauty because no one takes me seriously. it’s all physical and I want more than that. I’m 40 and don’t see where God cares about how lonely I am and besides what I’m praying for is in His will, marriage is in the bible and I want it but everyone around me is getting it and didn’t even desire it. But at this point I’ll just settle for a nice boyfriend. I met a man that’s everything I want in a man and more except he does not want to be with one woman. So we are just friends and the more I get to know him the more I love him and would love a relationship. I know that I would make a good wife for him. I can’t win for losing. I need prayer for God to remove the desire for a husband. The desire has gotten too heavy.

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Robert April 11, 2014 at 12:57 pm

Hi Tam,
Thanks for reading and commenting. I can sense your frustration, confusion, and heartache.

I just happen to be reading through the biblical book of Job right now and one of the major lessons it contains is that, through all the heartache, loss, and misery Job endured, he never knew why he was experiencing it. He lost his family, his livestock, his source of income, and even his health…yet he never knew why.

He could have gotten bitter and blamed God; but he didn’t. Instead, he trusted God even though he didn’t know why he was experiencing the trouble and tragedy he was going through. Job continued to trust God and God did not fail him. Tam, God will not fail you either.

Job knew that sin in his life could result in the bad things that were happening to him; so he searched his heart to see if there was any hint of rebellion against God or hidden sin that he had not repented of. Tam, you and I need to do the same thing. We cannot expect God to bless us while we continue to willfully sin. I am not saying you are hiding sin in your life; only that you need to make sure that every area of your life is fully surrendered to God and His will. It may not be God’s will that you find a husband right now…or ever, for that matter. Are you okay with this, if it indeed is God’s will? You are correct that marriage is in the Bible (God invented it, Matthew 19:4); however, in the New Testament it also says that not all are meant for marriage (I Corinthians 7). Are you confident that God wants you to be married?

It is admirable that you seek a decent man; I am assuming you also mean a Godly Christian man. The Bible tells us to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever (II Corinthians 6:14). As far as marriage is concerned, this means that a Christian should not search for a non-Christian to marry. This man you speak of, that you would ‘love a relationship with’, apparently is not a Christian. You say that he doesn’t want to be with one woman. That kind of thinking is not the thinking of a Christian man. I can only say that a man with that mindset will only cause you more heartache.

As far as you being “cursed by beauty”, God made you to look the way you do. The problem is that our culture is too obsessed with physical appearance. Too many people judge a person purely by the way they look, never taking the time to look any deeper than skin. This is a shame.

Tam, my advice to you is to pray, study the Bible, listen for God’s guidance, do not be conformed to the way the world thinks (Romans 12:1-2), but think biblically. Trust God; He promises us that, if we are faithful in our walk with Him, He will guide our every step and give us the things that He wants us to have. Are you committed to serving Him, Tam?

[Tam, one word of caution, don’t post anything in your reply that you do not want others to see. This is a public website that anyone can visit. Just an FYI]

I sincerely hope this helps. Trust God; He is bigger than any of our problems.

God bless you.

Yours in Christ,
Robert

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David April 13, 2014 at 12:49 am

Tam, I agree with Robert, “seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and these things will be added unto you“.
It isn`t easy to simply “wait“. Some people have been waiting all there lives for a good, decent Christian spouse, and are still single. Please note I say “single“, but not alone, Cos Jesus promised never to leave or forsake us when we trust in Him.
Remember the difference between King Saul and King David in the OT? Saul, on the outside was the best possible choice, but his heart was not with God. And because his heart was not right with God, he died a miserable death. David on the other hand, was right with God even though he sinned, he humbled himself. Please read Psalm 51 to see how King David reacted.
Blessings, David Central Europe

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Tam April 13, 2014 at 12:40 pm

Wow! Mr.Robert, that really hit home and make sense and OPENED my eyes. I love the story about Job. I feel like I’m in a state of confusion and a fog due to my weary spirit. I’m tired of waiting and wanting, so my thinking have become a bit irrational lately. I need to direct my focus back on God and off of how long I’ve been waiting. It would be painful if God’s will is for me to never marry. Because the desire is so great I wouldn’t be able to live with it unless he removes the desire then it would no longer bother me. Thank you

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Tam April 13, 2014 at 12:54 pm

Mr David you are absolutely correct I do need to seek first the kingdom of God. I’ve gotten off track which explains my restlessness. Like Peter I’ve taken my eyes off of God and lost faith. Thank you

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Angel May 18, 2014 at 10:57 am

While I appreciate this thoughtful article, I am losing my faith. God is allowing my family to go homeless. He’s allowed my devastating disease to fester for 27 years. He heals others yet refuses me. We work so hard but everything has been lost. In 30 days my home is gone along with everything in it. I have no where to go. He promised he will take care of the sparrows yet denies me the basic roof over my head. I don’t eat so my child can. I’ve been watching this literally kill my husband. All I have left is my child and husband. At this point I’m waiting for God to take them as well. I’ve been a devoutly faithful servant of Christ since I was a child. I can no longer comprehend why a loving God hates me. I see the blessings in others lives, I’m happy for them but wonder Lord why do you not care for me? Why? Why do I get a life of suffering why are you silent? I have no secret sin, I have nothing left. I resigned my post as a Sunday school teacher because how can I teach to children now when my faith is faltering. I know God answers prayers but I also know he never answers mine. I feel beyond forgotten about by him. I’m left wondering why does he not love me does he enjoy my heartache? He puts the sparrows before me.

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David May 18, 2014 at 11:26 pm

Angel, I do not know what to say or how to give comfort to you and your family.
To quote examples from the Bible would be futile.
I have just now prayed for your circumstances and asked God, Father Son and Holy Spirit to bless you. Dont give up, They know what to do, They know your needs, They answer prayer.
Remember Joseph? Job? King David?
What doesnt kill us makes us stronger.
Who has the mind of God? Who knows why He allows things to happen? Who knows His ways?
I will keep praying for you sister in Christ.
David Central Europe

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KoriMajhor May 19, 2014 at 1:04 am

Dear Angel-

No one can tell you how to feel; although I really hope GOD makes you out to be a liar(figure of speech; hoping GOD will answer your prayers). Someone once told me that: GOD WILL give you more than you can handle. However, as with JOB he will spare your life. GOD has a very unique way of showing his incredible love; some might say its morbid. Nevertheless, this is the only way GOD can prove himself to you……He want you to recognize your situation, but most of all who will pull you from that situation. You are merely walking through your season and we will LOVE to know how you made over? One day you will wear your CROWN AND ROBE here on earth and the after life. Until your season has come to a bitter end; we will continue to pray for you!!!! GOD BLESS

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Jack Wellman May 19, 2014 at 10:12 am

Angel, I know this seems hard but when Jesus sent the disciples out in the boat, He sent them into a storm but they had to keep their eyes on Jesus. I know that no one ever suffered like Jesus did and He was completely innocent and Job lost everything and he was not to blame. We don’t know what suffering happens in this life but God sometimes allows storms and He doesn’t keep us from them, nor does He take us around them but He goes thru them with us. Have you spoken with your pastor about this? I would speak to him today and seek counsel from him. He is there for you as that is a pastor’s job. Please read this about Job to see why I say that. I will pray for y ou and know that there are others doing the same. http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/job-bible-story-summary-with-lesson/

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celestine July 30, 2014 at 7:38 am

That was so great, thanks for the good work God is using you to reveal himself to other people. May He bless you that your cup may overflow. I have learnt that spiritual life needs focus on God and other things will follow, and the greatest heroes in the eyes of God are not those who are enriched with material possession but those who trust in the Lord and does His will. I just urge you to pray for me because I have been having this mentality that God answers other people’s prayers and not mine, and also pray for my family members to grow strong in their spiritual life.
Thanks so much. God bless you.

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Robert July 30, 2014 at 9:22 am

Celestine,
I thank God that anything I do is a help to others. God is my source of strength and wisdom, so anything good in me is really Him.
You have learned a very important lesson that, sadly, too many people never learn. That is, when our focus is on God, everything else will be the way God wants it. We can trust Him to take care of us. However, when we treat God as an add-on to our own plans and desires, things won’t be as they were intended to be. Continue to trust Him and live for Him, Celestine, He will never let you down. Just remember that it is HIS will that is most important, not OURS.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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Jack Wellman July 30, 2014 at 2:38 pm

Robert, please forgive me brother. I only realized now (too late) that this was your article and you are more than qualified to answer it. For some reason (Sr. moment?) I thought this was mine and so I apologize for responding and now, only later, recognize that this is your article. Thank you for your patience with me brother.

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Tom September 2, 2014 at 4:24 pm

Why is God so very mean to us?, especially when many of us don’t have a love life today.

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Jack Wellman September 2, 2014 at 6:49 pm

Consider this…God must be first, and not a lover. The only time in all of human history that God was not fair or “mean” as you say was when He placed all of the wrath, the torture, the humiliation, the agony on Someone who was completely innocent and that we when Jesus Christ died for us. Was that fair to Jesus? No. It was unfair but God is never cruel, mean, or any other word you can use to us. We can have eternal life. If you seek love over the Lord, then are you really seeking first the Kingdom and His rightouesness (Matt 6:33) or are you seeking to please yourself when even Jesus never sought to do His own will and please Himself but died in our place when we deserved the wrath of God.

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Tom October 31, 2014 at 12:09 am

Just Remember, Cancer kills you quicker. And Loneliness is a very slow and painful death.

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Robert October 31, 2014 at 6:59 am

Hi Tom,
Let me encourage you with the fact that, if you are a Christian, the Bible promises God’s peace in our lives, no matter what we face. One is never alone when the Holy Spirit resides in his or her soul. Also, the church body (other Christians) is a great group of people to be with; and being with people goes a long way to curing loneliness. You are correct about cancer, it is a nasty disease (the result of sin in our world); however, God will see us through even the worst cancer if we trust Him. Everyone faces death (unless Jesus comes back before we die), the more important issue is, “Where will we spend eternity?” If our faith is in Jesus Christ, we will spend eternity with Him…we will spend eternity in His love…no more pain, no more suffering, no more sin. That sounds pretty great to me!! God bless you Tom.
Yours in Christ,
Robert

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