7 Tips for the Christian Father

by David Peach on May 17, 2012 · Print Print · Email Email

Fathers, it is important that we consider ourselves role models for our children. This is not something we can take lightly. It always bothers me when a public figure says that they are not a role model and should not be looked up to for how to live. However, by virtue of being a public figure they are a model. People will look up to them for leadership. They may or may not be a good one, but people are going to follow their lead. The same is true with fathers for our children. They will always look to us as an example of how to live.  Saying “do as I say and not as I do” will not change the fact that you have young eyes watching your every move.

Here are seven tips for Christian fathers that I hope will be a help and blessing to you.

Love Your Wife

Loving the mother of your children is important to being a good dad. Children derive security and stability from knowing that their parents are unified and love one another. Your children should see you doing special things for your wife. This is a good example for them on how they should treat their future spouse. It also gives them a chance to see a good relationship. With TV, music and movies today your children are being taught that there are many horrible relationships in the world. Your family does not need to be one of those.

Tips For Being A Good Father

Your children will copy what they see you doing, not just what you think you are doing.

Be a Role Model

As I mentioned in the introduction, realize that you are a role model. You should conscientiously and gladly perform that task. Your children will copy what they see you doing, not just what you think you are doing. Smile. Use good manners. Show respect to others—at all times. Your children live with you and see you every day. That also means they see you when you mess up. Admit your mistakes and use them as a teaching opportunity.

Respect Your Children

Ephesians 6:1 is a favorite verse of parents. It says that children should obey their parents. As fathers we like that. The next verse says that they should honor and respect their parents. This chapter is getting better and better by the verse. Verse 4 then talks to fathers. It says to not provoke them to wrath. This means that you should not badger them. In other words, you should respect your children the same way they are supposed to respect you.

Give them rules to obey and expect them to comply. When this is done, without yelling and screaming, then your kids know their limits and can easily live within the confines of those rules. You may be thinking that children hate rules and won’t obey. Turn that around and think how frustrated and provoked you are when you are not sure what is expected of you at work. Each day the boss changes his rules or expectations. It becomes a mine field just to step in the office. Wouldn’t it be much better to have written policies that everyone knew and that were enforced? Think how much less frustration there would be for you and your children if they knew what was expected of them. This puts a structure in place so that you can respect one another. But that respect is destroyed when you are not consistent with the rules you have agreed upon.

Talk With Your Children

Depending on the age of your children it may or may not be easy to talk with them. At certain ages they want to share everything with you. During those times you need to be a good listener. This will help them know you care about them and the things going on in their lives. When the time comes that they are less likely to share with you, they will remember that you took the time to listen when their conversations were petty and immature.

As your children get older try to find interest in the things they are interested in. This will give you common ground for conversation. There will be rough years when you feel like they are not talking to you as much as you would like, but make sure they have your attention when they do talk. It will open up more opportunities in the future.

Take Your Children to Church

One of the best ways to find common ground with your children is to share your faith with them. They should grow up knowing that you love the Lord. There are an endless number of conversation topics if you both have a love for God’s Word. Don’t expect the church to do all the work in instilling this love. Going to church together is a great step in building that love for God and giving you common beliefs.

Realize Each Child is Different

Understand that each child you have is different. Don’t try to treat them all the same. If one child is strong-willed then take the time to mold them into someone who will stand strong for the right things. Help them to see they need to be more gracious with others who don’t see the world the same as they do. You may find your next child is compliant and wants to please everyone. Help develop their sensitivity to the needs of others in a good way. However, they also need to learn to stand up for themselves and what is right.

You cannot expect the teaching you give to one child will work or be effective for all your other children. Treat each child as an individual and you can raise godly children who honor the Lord.

Let Your Children be Children

Be patient with your young ones. They don’t have the physical or mental maturity that you do. Allow them to be kids and make mistakes. That does not mean you should never push them to do their best, but also realize their best may be far less that what your best can be. One of the ways that parents can frustrate their children and provoke them to wrath is to set unrealistic expectations for them.

What are Your Tips?

There are many things that could be said for being a good Christian dad. These are what came to mind for me. What comes to your mind? Share them in the comments below. I look forward to reading them and learning how I too can become a better father for my two children.

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Mariyn Montgomery May 17, 2012 at 9:24 am

Is it wrong for Christians to accept organ transplants or blood transfusions?or to donate organs?

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admin May 17, 2012 at 1:00 pm

Marilyn,

Thanks for this question. We will write a future article on WCWTK on this topic to fully answer this.

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Jack May 17, 2012 at 5:31 pm

Thank you Mariyn for your question. I am a regular blood donor and I have a donor notice on my drivers license and have told my family ahead of time about my wishes. There is real power in the blood and in the organs and so if you can save someone’s life then I would do it. God tells us of the powerful sanctity of human life and anything we can do to preserve it I feel, we should do it. I got a letter, ironically just today, that told me that my blood donation helped a child who is going thru cancer treatment and donated blood is NOT just for emergencies. In fact, one of the greatest needs for blood donations is for children battling cancer. What better use, eh? Thanks and please come back again soon my friend.

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eric May 17, 2012 at 10:12 am

Praying together is very important, weather its night time prayers, or saying a blessing at dinner, or reminding them that they can go to God at anytime!!!!

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Michael May 17, 2012 at 2:18 pm

Thanx for the tips.

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Ernie May 19, 2012 at 7:43 am

Thank you for sharing your wisdom on …., how to be a role model like Christ for fathers .

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Adam May 24, 2012 at 8:59 am

We like to do a family Bible study. It’s an opportunity for me to see how my children are exploring the Word, and how they apply it to their lives.

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Dinusha August 29, 2013 at 9:52 am

This is a good topic and I would be glad to read related articales

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Dinusha August 29, 2013 at 9:58 am

Pls write more regarding this topic as there are lot of fathers and fathers to be who has experiance when they are very young a badly behaving fathers(Ex; irresponcibale, wife beaters, drunkerds), i see them feel lost when they have children how to show the love for them becuse of bad example of their own fathers, pls advise regerding the matter , Thanks

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Michael September 14, 2013 at 10:04 pm

Great article! I love the focus on the father rather than the child. I think many dads are so focused on the child (what the child is doing or not doing, or whether the child is performing to their standards, etc), that they forget that’s what’s most important is their own actions / inaction. Fatherhood should be a purposeful activity, and I’m afraid most fathers (the ones I see) spend more time in a reactive mode than a proactive one.

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